Self-Represented in Family Court
We discuss how to use strategy in Family Court to get the results you want. A family law professional with twenty years of experience in the field will share with you what really matters in Family Court.
Whether you are going through divorce or custody, if you are representing yourself you need to know the tactics that will end the torment you have been enduring up until this point.
We will share tips, tricks, techniques, and everything else that your lawyer will never divulge. If you have been getting disappointment from lawyers, the judge, or the overall process, tune in to get help on plotting your next move.
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Episodes
63 episodes
Going Pro Se in Family Court? What You Need to Know Before Hiring a Lawyer | Episode 19
Most people think hybrid legal representation is the “best of both worlds” and guarantees better results in their divorce or custody case. You represent yourself, but still use a lawyer for guidance, strategy, filings, or specific c...
Pro Se vs Lawyer in Family Court: Which Is Better for Your Case? | Season 3 Episode 18
One of the biggest decisions you’ll make in your case?Do you represent yourself…or hire a lawyer?It’s not as simple as most think. Because switching between pro se and lawyer can completely change:✔️ How your case ...
Divorce AI Tools: What NOT to Use in Family Court (Costly Mistakes) | Season 3 Episode 17
AI tools are everywhere right now, especially in Family Court. ✔️Helping you organize your case.✔️Prepare your documents.✔️Even “build” your legal argument.And for someone going through Family Court…that can fee...
Gray Areas in Family Court: What to Do When There’s No Clear Answer | S3 Episode 16
Family Court would be easier if every situation had a clear answer.An identifiable rule to follow.A direction on which motion to file.A fair judge to decide.But that’s not how it works, not in Family Court. ...
Five Alimony Scenarios and Strategies: What Courts Actually Look For | Season 3 Episode 15
More people are asking for alimony right now than ever before.And it makes sense, based on:Economic uncertainty.Job instability.Rising costs.Financial dependence after divorce.But here’s what you probably don't rea...
The 5 Types of Clients Lawyers Work With (Which One Are You?) | Season 3 Episode 14
Season 3 Episode 14Most people think hiring a lawyer means they can step back and let the professional handle everything… I meant to say EVERYTHING. But that’s not how strong cases are built.In this episode of Self-Repr...
Choosing Peace in Family Court: When Settling Your Case is the RIGHT Move | Season 3 Episode 13
Settling your case can feel like the fastest path to having the peace you once enjoyed.Less stress.Less conflict.Less time in court.And sometimes… settling is absolutely the right move.But settling just to en...
Financial Abuse Gets WORSE During Divorce: Here's What Works in Court | Season 3 Episode 12
In this episode of Self-Represented in Family Court, Tracey Bee goes deep on one of the most misunderstood and frustrating dynamics in divorce: Financial abuse. And the same patterns from the marriage begin to play out inside the divor...
The House Mistake Family Courts See Every Day | Season 3 Episode 11
Can You Keep the House? | Family Court StrategyIn this episode of Self-Represented in Family Court, Tracey Bee addresses one of the most emotionally motivated (and often misunderstood) questions in divorce and custody cases:...
Can Bad Timing RUIN Your Family Court Case? | Season 3 Episode 10
In this episode of Self-Represented in Family Court, Tracey Bee dives into one of the most overlooked elements of family court strategy: timing.Most litigants focus on what to file, what evidence to present, or what arguments to make.
Family Court NIGHTMARES! How Judges LABEL Litigants | Season 3 Episode 8
In this episode of “Self-Represented in Family Court,” Tracey Bee breaks down a reality most litigants don’t realize until it’s too late:Family Court is overloaded, overworked and overwhelmed…no matter where the court is. Judges just don...
Season 3. Episode 9 You Might be Ready, But You're NOT Prepared
You are not prepared for Family Court. You might be ready, but you are NOT prepared, at least most of you aren’t. You might have gathered all the proof you can, gotten familiar with the laws, might have even hired the best lawyer for the job...
Your Case is Losing Traction & You Have No Idea Why | Season 3 Episode 7
In this episode of “Self-Represented in Family Court”, Tracey Bee breaks down a common (and frustrating) reality: your case can lose traction even when you have “strong evidence.”Why? Because in Family Court, outcomes often hinge less on...
Season Break
This time of year I usually take a break to decompress. So right now I am working on clearing my mind while at the same time gearing up for 2026.I am still working though so if you need to schedule a strategy session, need he...
Season 3. Ep 6. The Perils of Over-Documenting Evidence
Most people think the more evidence you bring to court, the better. But in family court? That approach can destroy your credibility.In this episode, Tracey explains why judges ignore evidence, how opposing counsel gets it thrown...
Season 3. Ep 5. Reframing: It IS What You Said AND HOW You Said It
Ever walked out of a courtroom thinking, “What just happened in there?” You told the truth. You stayed calm. You presented your evidence — and somehow, the judge still didn’t get it.If that sounds like you, this episode is y...
Season 3. Ep 4. Analyzing Court Rulings to Move Your Case Forward
Tracey Bee breaks down how to turn court rulings, whether wins, losses, or partial decisions, into strategic data points you can actually use to finally move your case forward.She explains how to read between the lines of your j...
Season 3. Ep 3. How to Get — and Keep — a Restraining Order That Actually Protects You
Tracey Bee breaks down civil vs. criminal restraining orders as it relates to Family Court issues. She also goes into things like why requests get denied, and how to build a stronger application if you’re self‑represented...
Season 3 - Episode 2: Strategy Destroyed: How the Blind Spots in Family Court Ruins Your Case
Most litigants lose in Family Court for reasons they never even see coming. In this episode, I’m breaking down the hidden blind spots that can quietly sabotage your case—even when you think it’s airtight. Whether you’re representing yourself, s...
Season 3 Kickoff: Empowerment, Strategy & Beating the Rigged Family Court System
Welcome back to Self-Represented in Family Court! In this Season 3 opener, Tracey Bee (your host, former family law attorney, mediator, and strategist) sets the stage for the most empowering season yet. After a summer of building...
Season 2 - Episode 18: Using Mediation Strategically in Family Court
In this insightful episode your host, Tracey Bee, founder of The Divorce Solutionist, former family law attorney, and your go-to pro se strategist — pulls back the curtain on one of the most misunderstood tools in the family court system: me...
Season 2 - Episode 17: Workarounds for When You Can't Afford to Work with Divorce Professionals
The family court battlefield can feel overwhelming, but in this episode, Tracey Bee is arming you with a secret weapon: workarounds. Designed for pro se litigants and anyone looking to take charge of their case, we’re unpacking clever, strategi...
Season 2 - Episode 16: AI In Family Law
In this compelling episode of Self-Represented in Family Court, host Tracey Bee —the only pro se family court strategist — dives into a transformative topic: Artificial Intelligence and its potential in the hands of self-represented li...
Season 2 - Episode 15: You've Just Been Served? Key Things to Look for to Check the Legal Document Validity
If you've just been served, don’t panic—know what to look for. In this episode, Tracey B breaks down the essential elements to examine when you receive a legal document, motion, or petition in a family court case. Whether y...
Season 2 - Episode 14: The Self Employed, Business Owner or 1099 Pro
Are you a business owner, freelancer, or 1099 contractor navigating divorce without a lawyer? In this episode of Self-Represented in Family Court, Tracey B. dives into the unique challenges—and real opportunities—for self-employed individ...