Friendship IRL: Real Talk About Friendship, Community, and What It Actually Takes
Tired of hearing “just put yourself out there” when it comes to friendship or community? Same.
Friendship IRL is the podcast that skips the fluff and gets real about what it takes to build meaningful adult friendships and lasting support systems. Whether you're struggling to make new friends, maintain old ones, or just want people in your life who really show up, you're in the right place.
Each week, host Alex Alexander brings you honest conversations and tangible strategies to help you connect—for real. You’ll hear stories from everyday people (plus the occasional expert), learn what’s working in modern friendships—and what definitely isn’t—and walk away with ideas, scripts, and action steps you can actually use.
Think of it like a coffee date with your wisest, most encouraging friend—the one who tells the truth and hands you the playbook.
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Friendship IRL: Real Talk About Friendship, Community, and What It Actually Takes
You Say You Want a Village … But do you?
Your village is out there, waiting for you. It might even be knocking on your door, and you haven’t realized.
People often think they need to make enormous shifts to find community; they need to move to a tiny village on the other side of the world or into a compound in the woods. But that’s not true. Here’s what you actually need: subtle shifts and a willingness to be uncomfortable.
So many people talk about how they want a village, and yet, I see them rejecting the small changes they need to make to let their villages in. They won’t accept help – a ride to the airport, a babysitter, a pre-cooked meal – because they don’t want to put a person out or let go of control.
I can offer to pick up your groceries or watch your children over and over again. I am choosing that; I want to be in community with you. But at the end of the day, you have to want that, too. We need to co-create this relationship and support system together.
In this episode you’ll hear about:
- Community, which is cited as the answer for societal issues like childcare/elder care shortages, mental health issues, etc. – but rarely is there advice on how to find it
- The idea of “hiring” a village – a message families often hear – for grocery pick-ups, babysitting, Uber rides, etc.
- Rejecting help when you need it because you feel like you can’t accept unpaid help or are unwilling to let go of control
- The level of internal required to step off the hamster wheel and be willing to feel discomfort in either asking for help or offering it
Resources & Links
Listen to Episode 8 with my friend Adrienne about building a friendship community for her family.
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