Friendship IRL: Real Talk About Friendship, Community, and What It Actually Takes
Tired of hearing “just put yourself out there” when it comes to friendship or community? Same.
Friendship IRL is the podcast that skips the fluff and gets real about what it takes to build meaningful adult friendships and lasting support systems. Whether you're struggling to make new friends, maintain old ones, or just want people in your life who really show up, you're in the right place.
Each week, host Alex Alexander brings you honest conversations and tangible strategies to help you connect—for real. You’ll hear stories from everyday people (plus the occasional expert), learn what’s working in modern friendships—and what definitely isn’t—and walk away with ideas, scripts, and action steps you can actually use.
Think of it like a coffee date with your wisest, most encouraging friend—the one who tells the truth and hands you the playbook.
🎧 New episodes drop every Thursday. 💬 Want to share your friendship win or struggle? Leave Alex a voice message at AlexAlex.chat.
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Friendship IRL: Real Talk About Friendship, Community, and What It Actually Takes
Friendship Time Capsule: What I Wish I Could Tell My Younger Self
One of you asked me an amazing question the other day:
If you could tell your younger self one thing about friendship, what would you tell her?
I spend so much time thinking about community and connection – probably much more than the average person – and I have learned a lot since my youth. Some realizations I’m having at 35 are realizations a lot of people might not have until they’re middle aged.
No matter your age, there are likely things you wish you could go back and tell younger you. We are always growing and changing as friends. We are always learning.
In today's episode, I’ll cover what I've learned about choosing friends, being a friend, and friendship transitions – plus some final advice I would give younger me.
Now that I’ve shared my thoughts, tell me: what would you tell your younger self? Send me a message on Instagram!
In this episode you’ll hear about:
- What I did a good job with in my younger friendships, including building community, choosing friends well, and not letting status quo drive friendships
- The constant need I had to be worthy of friendships and how this affected my behavior and relationships
- The inevitable heartbreak in friendships (especially one-sided friendships) and the importance of feeling that heartbreak and moving past it
- The value of working on communication skills to improve friendships and learning from every interaction
- How what a “good friend” is changes through every life transition, from middle school to college and beyond
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