Friendship IRL: Real Talk About Friendship, Community, and What It Actually Takes
Tired of hearing “just put yourself out there” when it comes to friendship or community? Same.
Friendship IRL is the podcast that skips the fluff and gets real about what it takes to build meaningful adult friendships and lasting support systems. Whether you're struggling to make new friends, maintain old ones, or just want people in your life who really show up, you're in the right place.
Each week, host Alex Alexander brings you honest conversations and tangible strategies to help you connect—for real. You’ll hear stories from everyday people (plus the occasional expert), learn what’s working in modern friendships—and what definitely isn’t—and walk away with ideas, scripts, and action steps you can actually use.
Think of it like a coffee date with your wisest, most encouraging friend—the one who tells the truth and hands you the playbook.
🎧 New episodes drop every Thursday. 💬 Want to share your friendship win or struggle? Leave Alex a voice message at AlexAlex.chat.
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Friendship IRL: Real Talk About Friendship, Community, and What It Actually Takes
Do You Enjoy Your Friendships?
Are you enjoying your friendships? Are you able to be present with your people and soak up your time together?
So often, people focus on what’s missing in their friendships. They have this idea of what “peak” friendship might look like, which gets in the way of being grateful for what is there.
I’m here to remind you that there is a stark contrast between HAVING connections and ENJOYING them. And this isn’t just regarding our closest friends: how grateful are you for the acquaintance at the coffee shop? For your child’s teacher, your hair stylist, or the people you work with?
Today I talk about what might be getting in the way of your enjoyment, and I offer tips on how to be more present and happy while with friends.
In this episode you’ll hear about:
- Mental chatter and the fear of being “too much” or “not worthy,” and how this limits enjoyment in our friendships
- Friendship baggage, anxiety about the future, and working on receiving connection, even just small gestures from community members
- The present distractions that get in the way of enjoying friendships (mostly, it’s the phones)
- The idea of “storing up connection for later” and multitasking during friend time – and why this doesn’t always work
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