Friendship IRL: Real Talk About Friendship, Community, and What It Actually Takes
Tired of hearing “just put yourself out there” when it comes to friendship or community? Same.
Friendship IRL is the podcast that skips the fluff and gets real about what it takes to build meaningful adult friendships and lasting support systems. Whether you're struggling to make new friends, maintain old ones, or just want people in your life who really show up, you're in the right place.
Each week, host Alex Alexander brings you honest conversations and tangible strategies to help you connect—for real. You’ll hear stories from everyday people (plus the occasional expert), learn what’s working in modern friendships—and what definitely isn’t—and walk away with ideas, scripts, and action steps you can actually use.
Think of it like a coffee date with your wisest, most encouraging friend—the one who tells the truth and hands you the playbook.
🎧 New episodes drop every Thursday. 💬 Want to share your friendship win or struggle? Leave Alex a voice message at AlexAlex.chat.
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Friendship IRL: Real Talk About Friendship, Community, and What It Actually Takes
How to Not Feel Neglected in Conversations with Friends (and Why Sometimes TMI is a Good Thing)
It happens to all of us: you leave an interaction and realize the conversation was all about the other person. They didn’t ask a thing about you.
Today’s episode is about feeling ignored in conversations with friends. In these situations, it’s easy to play the blame game, but the truth is, we are all responsible for our half of the connection.
What do you say when a friend asks how you’re doing? Do you say “good” or “fine?” Or do you give an honest answer? How hard do we expect friends to work to extract information from us?
Here’s my challenge to you: in your next hangout, don’t deflect a question. Throw something out there you’ve never shared before. These details enrich relationships. Remember, your friends want to know you. Trust this, and take up a little space.
In this episode you’ll hear about:
- Why sharing the silly details matter: they help open up conversations and allow your friends to know you better
- The importance of BOTH parties in the relationship contributing to a conversation; don’t deflect questions or give generic answers!
- Common concerns about not wanting to dominate the conversation (or share TOO much information)
- How I navigate not feeling left out when I’m in a conversation with people who share common interests with each other (but not with me)
Resources & Links
Listen to Episode 12 about emotional intimacy roots.
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