Friendship IRL: Real Talk About Friendship, Community, and What It Actually Takes
Tired of hearing “just put yourself out there” when it comes to friendship or community? Same.
Friendship IRL is the podcast that skips the fluff and gets real about what it takes to build meaningful adult friendships and lasting support systems. Whether you're struggling to make new friends, maintain old ones, or just want people in your life who really show up, you're in the right place.
Each week, host Alex Alexander brings you honest conversations and tangible strategies to help you connect—for real. You’ll hear stories from everyday people (plus the occasional expert), learn what’s working in modern friendships—and what definitely isn’t—and walk away with ideas, scripts, and action steps you can actually use.
Think of it like a coffee date with your wisest, most encouraging friend—the one who tells the truth and hands you the playbook.
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Friendship IRL: Real Talk About Friendship, Community, and What It Actually Takes
How to Ask Someone to Hang Out (Without Making It Weird)
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While brainstorming episode ideas, I sometimes search Google Analytics to see what people are asking. Here’s what I found this week: How do I ask someone to hang out without making it weird?
Turns out, millions of people are feeling anxious about asking someone to join them for coffee! (What do I say? What if they think I’m weird? What if they say no?)
Today, we end that cycle. I’ll talk you through how to ask someone to hang out: what to say, how to handle rejection, why it feels hard.
Embrace that awkward first encounter! That’s the kind of thing you laugh about later on, years into a friendship.
In this episode you’ll hear about:
- Why asking someone to hang out feels so much harder as an adult than when you’re a kid or teenager
- The value in being specific when asking someone to hang out and suggesting an activity or time
- The importance of not taking rejections personally! Rejection is of the offer, not of the person; others might not be prioritizing connection right now as highly as you are
- How to make it easier to ask somebody to hang out by choosing an activity they’re already partaking in
Resources & Links
Listen to Episode 145 about reframing rejection with Tanisha Moody,
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