Friendship IRL: Real Talk About Friendship, Community, and What It Actually Takes
Tired of hearing “just put yourself out there” when it comes to friendship or community? Same.
Friendship IRL is the podcast that skips the fluff and gets real about what it takes to build meaningful adult friendships and lasting support systems. Whether you're struggling to make new friends, maintain old ones, or just want people in your life who really show up, you're in the right place.
Each week, host Alex Alexander brings you honest conversations and tangible strategies to help you connect—for real. You’ll hear stories from everyday people (plus the occasional expert), learn what’s working in modern friendships—and what definitely isn’t—and walk away with ideas, scripts, and action steps you can actually use.
Think of it like a coffee date with your wisest, most encouraging friend—the one who tells the truth and hands you the playbook.
🎧 New episodes drop every Thursday. 💬 Want to share your friendship win or struggle? Leave Alex a voice message at AlexAlex.chat.
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Friendship IRL: Real Talk About Friendship, Community, and What It Actually Takes
Jealous of a Friend? Here's What That Feeling Is Actually Telling You
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Ever feel both happy and also … a little jealous when a friend shares good news?
I experienced this dichotomy the other night, when my friend shared a success. I found myself performing enthusiasm while dealing with conflicted emotions; I wanted that kind of success, too. Did this make me a bad friend for feeling something other than pure joy for her?
In this episode I talk about jealousy in friendship: how it happens, for all things big and small; the different ways it might manifest; and how acknowledging it can shift your friendship culture in a deep way.
I think the goal is not to have no feelings. It’s to let the feelings tell you something useful – and then bring that information back to your friendship.
In this episode you’ll hear about:
- Envy vs. jealousy in friendships, and processing each through self reflection and honest conversations
- How to avoid the distance and awkwardness that jealousy or envy can provoke in friendships
- The internal struggle of performing enthusiasm while dealing with conflicting emotions
- Why envying somebody famous feels so different from envying a friend
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