The Modern Leadership Coaching Podcast
Modern Leadership Coaching is where Marc and Teresa Hildebrand, a 20-year LAPD Sergeant and a former UCLA Health executive, help driven people get out of their own way and reach their next level.
Real conversations about what actually holds people back, how to get your own thinking working for you instead of against you, and how to show up as who you know you can be in your business, your family, and your life.
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What Changed When We Stopped Giving Our Kids the Answer
The moment someone you love says “I’m struggling,” do you feel the urge to jump in with the perfect solution? We do too and it’s exactly why this conversation matters. Marc and Teresa unpack how “fixing mode” can accidentally shut people down, ...
When Inspiring People Stopped Being Enough
Motivation feels like the answer until you watch it wear off. We have both lived that moment: you care, you bring energy, you share the plan, and the person still does not change. So we slow it down and tell the real story behind our shift from...
Get Energy Vs Serve Energy: The Thing People Feel Before You Speak
If you’ve ever felt like you’re taking action but nothing is moving, this might be the missing piece: the energy underneath what you’re doing. We talk about two “rooms” you can walk into at any moment, get energy and serve energy and why the sa...
The One Word That Changes How You Lead Yourself
One tiny word can quietly cap your results, and most of us never notice it happening. When we say “I can do this or that,” we’re often not making a smart decision, we’re accepting a false trade-off that blocks better answers. We dig into how “o...
What If This Is the Thing That Changes Everything
The most dangerous mindset traps are not the loud, dark thoughts. They are the ones that sound like wisdom. Marc and Teresa unpack how a “reasonable” definition of success can quietly poison your energy, distort your decisions, and make you hol...
Leading Yourself When you Really Want to Grow
If you keep chasing the perfect plan but still feel stuck, the issue might not be your strategy at all. We pull together the biggest lessons from our recent run of conversations and get brutally clear on what we see again and again in coaching:...
Leading Yourself Through the Hard Seasons
Hard seasons don’t just hurt, they rewrite your story if you let them. When life throws a diagnosis, a job loss, family stress, or any curveball that feels out of your control, it’s easy to decide it “ruined everything” and shut down the parts ...
Leading Yourself to Stronger Relationships
The fastest way to feel distant from your partner is to quietly accept the story that distance is “normal.” We go straight at that belief and the subtle habits it creates: keeping an internal scoreboard, waiting for the other person to change f...
Leading Yourself Through Money and Business
You can have the perfect offer, the perfect niche, and a perfectly fine strategy and still stay stuck at the same income level. The real issue is rarely tactics. It’s the thought you carry into the moment where you have to ask, invite, pitch, a...
Leading Yourself to Lasting Health
You can know exactly what to do for your health and still feel stuck when life gets loud. We open this bonus series by getting brutally honest about why goals like weight loss, more energy, healthier eating, and better longevity plans break dow...
How to Change a Habit That Every Program and Book Has Missed
Your phone rings during family time and suddenly the room changes. The conversation stops, your attention splits, and you can feel the distance grow in real time. We start with a client story that lands like a punch to the chest: his kid goes q...
How to Show Up as Your Best Self When the Pressure Is On
There’s a calm, grounded version of you that you trust and then there’s the version that shows up when pressure hits and you don’t even feel like you chose it. We’re Marc and Teresa, and we’re digging into why that happens, how your brain grabs...
How to Break the Pattern You've Been Trying to Fix for Years
You can be the kind of person who runs toward the work and still feel trapped in the same loop. That tension is what we unpack here: why smart, driven leaders and coaches can read the books, hire the mentors, try the strategies, and still hit t...
How to Stop the Spiral Before It Takes Over
You can feel it starting: a comment lands wrong, your chest tightens, your mind races, and even while you’re watching it happen you still can’t stop the explosion. Marc unpacks why that experience isn’t a character flaw and isn’t a lack of self...
Bonus Episode - The Missing Piece — How to Coach Yourself Through the Moments That Keep Stopping You
You can be disciplined, self-aware, and deeply committed to growth and still feel like you are living the same week on repeat. That is exactly why we recorded this bonus conversation: to go inside our Growth Model and hand you a practical piece...
The Coaching Skill Nobody Knew to Teach Me
Someone comes to you stuck and you can feel the pressure to say the perfect thing. You reach for advice, a pep talk, or a quick solution, and somehow it still doesn’t help. We name what’s really happening: you’re not failing because you don’t c...
From Stuck to Wealthy and Well Known
You can be disciplined, coachable, and genuinely hungry to grow and still feel like nothing is changing. That’s the kind of stuck we’re tackling here: the version that hides under effort, learning, and nonstop action, then quietly turns every n...
What If You Aren't Burned Out...You're Just Carrying Too Much Alone?
Everyone calls it burnout, but we’ve learned a hard truth the long way: sometimes the thing draining you isn’t the work. It’s the isolation. When you’re the person everyone leans on, it can feel “normal” to carry the pressure alone, keep your d...
Why People Ignore Great Advice And How Leaders Create Action
You can give someone a genuinely great answer and still watch nothing change. That gap between “I understand” and “I did it” is where leadership and coaching either level up or break down. I’m Mark, and I’m digging into why advice so often fail...
The Conversation You Keep Avoiding
You know the conversation. The one you’ve played in your head a dozen times, where you finally say what needs to be said and everything might change. That’s the real reason so many leaders, parents, and partners avoid difficult conversations. I...
Why The Best Leaders Stop Waiting to Feel Ready
Confidence feels like the missing ingredient when you want to lead with authority, coach clients well, or make clear decisions under pressure. But what if the reason you feel stuck is that you’re chasing a feeling instead of building proof? We ...
Coaching Standards: Are You Coaching Or Quietly Influencing The Outcome?
Everyone wants to be influential. Almost no one stops to ask what their influence is teaching the people around them. Mark and Teresa unpack a coaching truth that can change how you lead: the questions you ask can be just as directive as the ad...
Stop Winging Sessions - The Standard Your Clients Can Feel
Your client can feel it the moment a session turns into a friendly chat. Marc and Teresa unpack the uncomfortable truth a lot of coaches avoid: improvising might sound intuitive, but it rarely produces consistent client transformation. We talk ...
What Undercharging Is Really Costing You
Undercharging can look like generosity, but it often becomes a slow leak that drains your confidence, your business, and even your client results. We get real about the internal stories that push well-intentioned coaches to discount their coach...
What Keeps Your Clients (and YOU) Stuck
Feeling stuck can look like “I don’t know what to do,” but it usually sounds more like “I know what to do, and I still can’t move.” Mark and Teresa get honest about what keeps coaches, leaders, and entrepreneurs trapped in place and why the pro...