The REALationship Method
The REALationship Method is a comedic podcast about dating, relationships, and advice, blending tips with plenty of tangents. With stories and experiences shared by the cast and guests, it offers cautionary tales to help you avoid making the same mistakes. So sit back, relax, and maybe learn a thing or ten!
The REALationship Method
Pimping out friends, Pretty vs Hot/Sexy, Supportive Exes & Coming Out w/ Rancelyn
When TikTok star Rancelyn Lucero steps into the studio, what unfolds is far more than just another interview. Her natural charisma and refreshing honesty transform a simple conversation into a profound exploration of authenticity, relationships, and personal growth.
The episode takes an unexpected turn when Rancelyn makes a significant personal revelation - sharing for the first time publicly that she's seeing someone, and that someone is a woman. This vulnerable moment highlights the podcast's unique ability to create a safe space where guests feel comfortable sharing their truest selves.
Rancelyn's journey from Big Island to Oahu in search of better opportunities offers listeners insight into the realities of pursuing dreams in Hawaii. Now working as a server and floor lead at Big City Diner in Kailua, she shares hilarious and sometimes cringe-worthy stories about customer interactions and unwanted advances. Her experiences resonate with anyone who's worked in customer service, especially women who face objectification while simply trying to do their jobs.
What makes this episode particularly compelling is Rancelyn's nuanced take on female relationships and jealousy. She speaks candidly about facing judgment from women who know her through social media but not personally - a phenomenon many influencers experience but rarely discuss so openly. Her perspective on maintaining friendships with exes challenges conventional wisdom, offering a mature framework for post-relationship dynamics that prioritizes genuine care over lingering attachment.
Between discussions about dating pet peeves (don't call her "sexy" or "hot" - "pretty" is the compliment that wins her heart) and her upcoming participation in the Miss Bikini Hawaii pageant representing Hilo, Ranslyn proves she's much more than her social media presence suggests. Her authenticity shines through every answer, making this conversation feel less like an interview and more like eavesdropping on friends catching up.
Whether you're navigating the complexities of modern dating, curious about life behind a popular social media account, or simply enjoy genuine conversations about life's ups and downs, this episode delivers valuable insights wrapped in laughter and heartfelt moments. Listen now to discover why Rancelyn's perspective on relationships and self-discovery might be exactly what you need to hear.
• Moving from the Big Island to Oahu for better job opportunities and finding success as a server and floor lead
• Dealing with uncomfortable pickup lines and unwanted attention in the service industry
• Experiencing jealousy from women who only know her through social media
• Coming out about her current relationship with a woman for the first time
• The importance of setting boundaries and maintaining respectful friendships with exes
• Why being called "pretty" is more meaningful than "hot" or "sexy"
• The different approaches men and women take when supporting friends after breakups
• Preparing to represent Miss Hilo in the upcoming Miss Bikini Hawaii pageant
Find Rancelyn on Instagram: @rancelynlucero and TikTok: @ufwraraw. Support her in the Miss Bikini Hawaii pageant happening April 17th at the Ala Moana Hotel!
here we go. Five, four, three, two, one. Welcome back to another episode of the relationship method podcast. I am chris and today I have a lovely guest. Uh, she is um, a local of the Hawaiian Islands. She is famous on TikTok and lightweight famous on the ground, and she was late today. Gosh darn it. But it's okay. It's all good, but you got it here in one piece and safely. So thank you, auntie, for driving her and, other than that, ronslyn hey Girl, welcome to the podcast, thank you. Thank you, yeah, I do appreciate you coming on.
Speaker 1:I appreciate you for inviting me oh and I acknowledge you appreciating me, inviting you.
Speaker 2:You got me on that one.
Speaker 1:I know I learned on that one Girl. How was your day today?
Speaker 2:My day actually went pretty good.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:I mean I'm healing right now because I went to the hospital last night.
Speaker 1:Oh shit For little medical issues. Really.
Speaker 2:But I'm doing okay taking my medicines and today's my day off, so I'm just trying to enjoy it.
Speaker 1:Oh snap, Was it some type of like you finna die soon type of stuff, or like insulin stuff, or no, it's more of like they don't know what's wrong with me.
Speaker 2:Oh okay, oh, just like every other hospital, right yeah?
Speaker 1:Speaking of the hospital visits, my dad had a scare a couple days ago. I just found out that he has diabetes. So I mean, man, don't awe him. Don't awe him, man. Hey, skip that guy, man, I'll bust his ass. No, but uh no, I just found out that he has, um, he has, diabetes and now he has to be like on some type of strict diet now. And you know, filipinos they hate white, they hate brown rice.
Speaker 1:So he's like on that and I'm just like, oh dude, I'm sorry you can't smoke as much, you can't drink as much and you know a lot of filipino foods. Like they have a lot of salt oh and all that salt is like all that business. Yeah, so gosh, damn well, I'm glad that you're, uh, you're, feeling better and you are um healthy and you are here alive and well, right, um, uh. So uh, ron slinn, um, can I ask you, how did I get the yes in you?
Speaker 2:coming on um, coming on the pod, if you don't mind me asking I love this question oh, you do all right, apparently I've been following this podcast for almost a whole year man, hell yeah, hell yeah, thank you and then just watching like how you do your podcast and like what you talk about with other people and like just making it like a whole vibe. I've never seen a podcast that was never like sold out. Everyone's just always smiling and it's like always good. So I was just like, if I had the chance to be on this podcast, I am taking it as soon as I can.
Speaker 1:Oh man, the fact that I'm here, girls, stop, don't, don't even, no, don't even. I do appreciate you uh like listening, listening to uh to this podcast, um, for that amount of time. I do appreciate you uh. Were you listening when I had jay and laurie, like my old co-hosts as well? I think so hey, shout out to them, man, I miss y'all. Hope y'all come back soon, um. But oh, thank you. I do appreciate you so much, um. Last uh, this past weekend was hawaii fest yes, you went I saw um. How was that?
Speaker 2:oh my god, okay. So, coming from big island, our concerts are not as big like I course everybody goes to it, but it's not as big compared to Oahu. Oahu's concerts are bumping, are so crazy different. Of course there's a lot more people, but I just think the energy that Oahu gives for concerts is like 10 times better.
Speaker 1:Oh really.
Speaker 2:And it's just like nobody like hitting or bumping you or whatnot, like everyone knows you have your own space in it and then you're just vibing and skanking with everybody and like it's just a whole vibe oh, I like you use the word skanking.
Speaker 1:That's um. I haven't heard that in like in so long. It's a um, it's like a bay area kind of term. You know I'm saying, but I like that, I like your verbiage, I like your verbiage. Was there any fights, did you?
Speaker 2:No, oh wow, really. I mean, I didn't get there in the beginning of Hawaii Fest, but the whole time I was there there was no fights or anything.
Speaker 1:That's good. That's good. And what made you move from the island to over here?
Speaker 2:It was for job opportunities. Woo, girl Coming from Hilo, uh-huh, there is jobs out there but they take like years or like time to apply. Like respond back to you when you apply to a job.
Speaker 1:Yes.
Speaker 2:So it's like I was tired of waiting and then so I was like you know, maybe try out out Oahu. So here I came and then applied for a job, and the job that I am working right now came back to me the next day. I the next day that I applied is the job.
Speaker 1:if you don't mind me asking is the job? Um, is it a nursing job? No, oh, the stereotype is real right. It of nerdy to a Filipino, right. It wasn't my dream, huh, no, yeah, what's the gig?
Speaker 2:So I work for Big City Diner Kailua as a server. I just became a server and now working as a floor lead and then, with all that transaction I think about, I only worked there for six months, so I bumped up from buster to server to floor lead.
Speaker 1:Really let me ask you, this being a um, a floor lead server um, do guys, do guys like holler at you? Do they like?
Speaker 2:slip in the the little quirky remarks and try to get your number and all this my goodness, there is beyond stories, beyond stories with that topic being said, but yes, so mainly it's the bar area that kind of hits on me a lot oh, and I can see, that I can see, and I don't get me wrong. I love the regulars that do come in. We appreciate you guys for the good vibes, but it's mainly the regulars that say those slurs oh really yeah, and there's like one slur that I don't like like.
Speaker 2:Of course I know my, I got some and whatnot, but I don't ever like put myself out there to flaunt it yes so. But like when I do go to work, they're like oh, can I get two big jugs off of you and stuff like that. I'm just like, well, if you're going to give me $200, sure I'll give you a 25 ounce of beer.
Speaker 1:Oh goodness, next time they say that, just be like hey, how about you get that 1980s line and just leave it in the 80s Just?
Speaker 2:clock it.
Speaker 1:Yeah, just leave it back there. All right, Come with something more original. No, Was there any lines that they say that stuck to you? That was like oh, that was a good one, Like good job for coming up with that one.
Speaker 2:No, not really. All of them pretty much, sounds the same.
Speaker 1:Oh does it.
Speaker 2:It sounds the same and oh does it it sounds the same, but in different ways, how they come and approach me about it oh, give me, give me a couple like it's like okay, wait, let me think so. Like saying about my jugs, like they're like could I get my? Could I get two jugs off of you? And then someone would go be like could I get? You have really nice melons. Do you sell melons? It's literally the same thing but in different like sentences, and I was like uh, sir, I will 86 you so quick, boo out.
Speaker 2:Goodbye, maki.
Speaker 1:Die out of here, oh my gosh. Um, so you being, like you know, really pretty and everything do um, do you get a lot of hate from other females, especially like workers? Are your workers cool with you? I love my yes. Okay, good, that's good.
Speaker 2:My work, friendships and coworkers. We are all a family, which I love, but out of that, yes, I do get a lot of hate, especially from girls that know me off of social media.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:Or know me through people and I don't know them.
Speaker 1:Really.
Speaker 2:Yes. So those unknown girls, they really hate me. Or especially girls with boyfriends. They don't like me either, because me as a person, I'm very friendly, I love to talk and I just like to be out there. If I know you have a girlfriend, I'll respect that and whatever that's yours.
Speaker 1:Boundaries.
Speaker 2:Yes, yes, have a girlfriend, I'll respect that and whatever. Yeah, that's yours boundaries. Yes, yes, but there's some way, somehow, some. Why what? Who bottles?
Speaker 1:they still don't like me oh, I mean, you know we live in a world full of, you know, jealousy and stuff. We just need to stop the hate. You know, just like congratuling, like hey, you know what congratulations like for what, just don't worry about it, congratulations yeah, just be happy, right, exactly, love exactly.
Speaker 1:And then, yeah, like with women that are, let's say, um, that like just don't like you, because the way you look, that's a and I've gone through this too it's like an insecurity thing for them. You know, like, let's just keep it real, it is insecurity. You're afraid that your man might, you know, double tap the like, or even like holler in the dms, you feel me. So I just think it's primarily it's that, but it could be. And then, like a small percentage, a small smudge, could be like man, you did my friend wrong, I hate you because of that. So that's like, that's the smudge right there, but everything else it's, it's the whole jealousy factor and I mean we could do better as humans, you know, I mean.
Speaker 2:Literally yeah, especially here on the islands.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:Like we're literally on An island Hawaii, hawaii.
Speaker 1:We are here yeah.
Speaker 2:Share the aloha Not with your legs, but with your heart, you know.
Speaker 1:Oh shit, you were speaking moke-ish right now. And that's pretty cool. That's cool as well. It's funny because I've been on this island for like several odd years now and I still like don't get. I get the lingo, but I can't speak it, you know.
Speaker 2:Oh, the pigeon lingo. Yeah, I like I understand it now.
Speaker 1:But I mean, I don't think you'll catch me saying the kind. I'll say it just to fuck around, but you won't hear me saying the kind. Or I do it to mess around too, like you add the S at the end of a word, like when you and I were messaging I said no ways, no pops. Yeah, I do that just to mess around, but I think the pidgin language is like it's super cool.
Speaker 2:Oh, I love it.
Speaker 1:It's like Hawaii slang, you know, I love it a lot. Let me ask you this Are you taken, are you single, are you mingling? Are you on the apps? What's?
Speaker 2:going on with you right now.
Speaker 1:Hey, everybody especially for all those that's listening on tiktok. I have someone, yay, congratulations someone, okay, but she's in a situation, she's in an entanglement, it's the whole pause, you know. But what?
Speaker 2:it's not official but it is not what you guys think it is. It is not a male, it is a female oh hey, is it um?
Speaker 1:is that like do people not know that?
Speaker 2:or is it just?
Speaker 1:oh wow, you're just coming out right now. Yeah, oh my god, it's a first. It's a first, it's a first, and it's your first podcast too, right? It is my first hell yeah, hey, I do appreciate you like coming out with this, uh, with this type of news. Um, were you like super, like scared sketch, like in like delivering it?
Speaker 2:no, no, really comfortable, as before we started, you did ask if I was comfortable or didn't want to talk about anything yeah I am open about everything, because there's no point of hiding. I'm just gonna come out with it on my own lives.
Speaker 1:So I might as well just be like bow bow, let me ask you this um you being, um like your, your sexual orientation, everything. Can guys or can women still get mad at you for you know you have a girlfriend now. Can women still be jealous of you because of the guys you know?
Speaker 2:liking or really yes, how is?
Speaker 1:that If you're taken already you know like the peeing is like not an option anymore. Why do women still have this tendency to hate?
Speaker 2:Honestly, I wish I knew, but I think it's just the way that, or how I'm viewed on on social media.
Speaker 2:I think social media is the main thing really they probably just see me on social media first and then they just judge me off of that and then, until before they get to know me, I did have incidents where, um, there are females that didn't like me because of my social media until I like we met in person and then they're like oh wow, you're actually really nice and cool. And I was like, well, duh, I mean yeah, we don't know each other, so why would I hate you in the first place?
Speaker 1:right, exactly. Um, I like how you interpreted that, because when, when I get these guests on, I have a totally different outlook on them when they come on.
Speaker 1:But then when we start chopping it up, it's like oh man, motherfucker, you're just a regular person like me. You know we're just chopping, you know shooting the shit and like with these, let's say these. Like with these, let's say these. I don't want to call them like A-listers or B-listers, but with these other people with like a high social media following that I get them on the pod. I would always think of them like they'd be stuck up when I'm. You know when we're talking.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it's just, it's the total opposite. You know like they're just regular people too, just wanting I guess their story and their opinions out.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:I mean, I love that. I love how people just like, oh man, he or she is this, but then once you get to know them, you're like man, this motherfucker is a dork like me.
Speaker 2:Yes, exactly, he's a nerd. Exactly. I literally told those girls I was like I'm just like you. We may look different, but we the same, yeah, the same. We're just here to chill, we're here to vibe, we're talking stories, like that's it.
Speaker 1:I'm not trying to do anything, just vibes, vibes, how, um, how long have you been um talking or uh like being in this relation with uh, with your partner?
Speaker 2:we are just, we just started so you just started being official first time. We're not there yet, but I will put respect on her name and say that I am like I am taken, but like we're still getting to that point oh, so this is my first, first time so if a, if another person spits at you, it's like, oh, I'm sorry, I'm I taken, I'm reserved right now. Yes, that type of situation.
Speaker 1:Yes, Okay, okay. Let me ask you this, Ronslyn why do you think it's so hard for men and women to say yo, I'm taken, when there's flocks and flocks of guys and women know, trying to get at that? Why do you think it's so hard?
Speaker 2:honestly okay, we're gonna go back to my old days, how I was oh, how were you about this? Don't nobody come at me. Okay, back in the day. Back in the day back in the day.
Speaker 1:Go ahead, girl um.
Speaker 2:See, like I think it's only hard because it depends of like how do I say this? See for me, for instance for example guys yeah, example. Yeah, if I was like taken, and then I do go out and a lot of them approach me, I would pick out who got the best game compared to who my partner is.
Speaker 1:Uh-huh.
Speaker 2:And then. So that's why I think, that's why some people don't say they're taken when they are, especially when they go out.
Speaker 1:Mm-hmm.
Speaker 2:Just so they can see what the poo is looking like. They're like okay, so saying like this one boy comes up to me and like he's pooling game left and right and giving me all the moves swish, swash, walla, dash.
Speaker 1:What are you?
Speaker 2:a rapper no, I just make words, so like, yeah, I would see like if he can do better in like two minutes than what I had with this person for five years, then yeah, I'm not gonna say I'm taking so. But not me, guys, not me, I am not like that, I'm just saying like I seen it with my own eyes and it was back in the day like way back when I was a teenager. Okay, okay, I'm pushing 30 back teenage hey, hey, asian, don't raisin.
Speaker 1:You know what I'm saying we good, we are good. You know what I'm saying. We're good, we are good. You don't crack here. You know what I'm saying, we're good. Wow, really, that's interesting. My wife went clubbing the other, I'm gonna say several days ago right With our home girl. She went to this spot in Iaia, right next to Pearl City Mall Would you call it Pearl Ridge Mall, whatever it's called and she was telling me about that and how like guys were like trying, they were trying but didn't, and there was a. They just, you know, kept on trying and trying and trying, and they would spit at her friend too, and her friend is in a relationship trying, trying, trying. I'm like, oh my gosh, these motherfuckers just don't quit, like they don't know they don't know what no is.
Speaker 2:Yeah right, not a lot of them do know what no is. Oh my gosh, I just go home and masturbate. I'm like all right, I'm good, oh, I'm straight now.
Speaker 1:But I mean it's crazy how they just um like. They're like vultures, you know no yeah, tell me about it.
Speaker 2:Literally they don't stop and even if you say the word no, yeah, and say it over and over, they will still try and try and try. And it gets to the point where it's just like you have to pull out like your big guns and call up all your boys and be like you need to pull up here and give someone lickings right now. But it's super bad, especially like don't get me wrong, boys do get hit on and when you guys say no, some girls do not respect that. But as for a girl point of view, we get. I think like we get a lot worse, especially like since they, even if we tell them no, they blame us, of like, so you're, but you're outside, look what you're wearing, look like, look what you're doing, and it's just like okay, but we're doing it with our girls, we're having fun, we're doing yeah.
Speaker 2:Like we're not out here like feeding our tatas and our jujas for you guys, yeah.
Speaker 1:I like that because I know women and they spend a lot of time like just getting pretty, getting ready. They love that process. Y'all love that process. We do I've came to respect it and understand it and I know a lot of women that when they get ready, once they're out 10 minutes later they just want to come home. But once they're out it's like what you said they just want to just hang with the girls, have a good time, probably get hit on once or twice, but respectfully, you know what I'm saying yeah.
Speaker 1:But yeah girl. That is crazy. But the fact of you know, y'all just wanting to get ready, looking pretty, because you guys, you know I don't know every woman's schedule, but it's typically nine to five You're wearing the same thing every day no makeup, no lash. Okay, lashes yeah, but I mean sometimes a little bit of makeup, but you're not. You know, showing the goods and sometimes, I know, for women's self-esteem, showing the goods, give your, you know, they give them like a self-booster it does you know what?
Speaker 1:I am that one, you know. So, yes, I respect it and I totally understand it.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Let me ask you this oh, did I cut you off? I'm sorry, I cut you off.
Speaker 2:No, you're fine.
Speaker 1:Okay, Women hitting on other women when the macker gets the no, Is it? Are they as mad or not as mad? But is it are they like as men too, where they just can't take a no either?
Speaker 2:So I will be honest, I'm not too sure on that part. Okay, as for me, though, like if I do hit on my girls and whatnot, it kind of depends of who your girl is and what the vibe or like the how the energy of the room is. Yeah, like I can hit on girls and it goes really good, um, but if they don't like it, then I can already read by their energy and their face, and that's where I'll back off. But I have never experienced or really been into that like full-on, like going with a girl girl like this is like my very first time, like doing stuff, stuff and being with a female.
Speaker 1:Like holding hands.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it's like holding hands in kindergarten and stuff.
Speaker 1:Like this, but not like this. Hey, don't play. I think I said it in one of the episodes. I think I was in sixth. No wait, I was in eighth or ninth grade and the way I held a girl's hand was like this. And a girl had to teach me. It was like, oh no, you hold a girl's hand like this. I was like, oh my God, I feel so fucking stupid, so the whole time, and I didn't even kiss the girl yet. Right, we're just holding hands. In school, it's always like this. She was like a make-out artist right.
Speaker 1:So yeah, we're yeah. She taught me how to hold hands and stuff.
Speaker 2:Ay, you're cute.
Speaker 1:No, not even man. I was like, oh God, everyone was all experienced. I was like, oh, here's me. I'm like, oh God, those are girls.
Speaker 2:But I think those's really cute, oh, really yeah, because it's like, ooh okay. Like if we know that you're mature and like you know yourself and whatnot, then that's fine. But and like not knowing what's doing a relationship. We think it's cute because we can be like, oh my god, like we can literally like show you, guys, like, how to be loved correctly and all this and that, and show you how things are supposed to be done. So it's like a gift every day for those who don't know how to love hey, well, well spoken.
Speaker 1:hey to the motherfucking bear, hey for y'all, for the teens, the teens that listen and watch this shit. I hope you guys are like taking notes, because these are good snapplecaps, yeah. Yes slay girl slay. Okay, I already asked you what you did on the outside world. You ready for these questions?
Speaker 2:I am ready Shoot them.
Speaker 1:Okay cool to ask how I work. You ready for these questions? I am ready, shoot them, okay cool um. First one from um listeners is uh, are you a likable person with um, with your, I guess, girlfriend slash boyfriend's parents?
Speaker 2:um well, usually in all of my relationships I have been, I've always been, best friends with the mom, mom first, especially if I'm dating a guy yes then the mom is always first, because that is her baby son.
Speaker 2:That's like her son and everything okay and then so usually I am, I come close with the dad first because the dad is like an uncle and it's like cherry and everything yeah but when it comes to the mom, like I really try to invest myself in things that she likes or what she likes to do, and like I really try to invest myself in things that she likes or what she likes to do, and like I'm trying to date her as well, like if I'm gonna date you, I'm marrying your family too okay family is big thing for me, so it's like that's good if I like you, I'm gonna like your family too no matter if they don't like me or not, I'm still gonna have love for them really so I feel like I am a likable person because till this day, my ex's moms, all of them still text me hey, ex's moms, and all that still texting, oh girl or like invite me to parties, shut your ass for real, I'm very likable I swear pinky promise really yeah.
Speaker 1:And, and let me ask you this have you ever been in a situation where they didn't like you?
Speaker 2:I did. I have been.
Speaker 1:I'm going to change this battery real quick.
Speaker 2:Talk about it who to look at, but Raja you're going to look at. So I have been into a situation where I was dating this one guy and the mom did not like me at all. See, at first I thought she just didn't like me because she didn't know me of who I was and whatnot. And I respected that big time and I was like, okay, you know, I'll just give her time, like to get to know me and, like you know, learn about me and whatever's, vice versa. But even after getting to know me and whatnot, she still did not like me. And then so I talked to that dude that I was dating.
Speaker 2:At the time I was a kid, like what's up with your mom and whatnot, like I don't want to continue this if your family can't like get along with me to find out. Since he was the, he is the golden child, he was the angel baby, he was all that. So it was like, uh, what do you call those people? Mama's boy, mama's boy, brother man was a mama's boy, mama's boy anyways. So unfortunately, that's the reason why she didn't like me. It was just a mama's boy. And I told him I was like, well, do you realize? Your mom can marry you or give you hoochie or, um, give you a child. And he's like, yeah, I know. And I was like, okay, so like, what's going on? What's? What are y'all doing? Because I'm just sitting here trying to do my best, trying to love, and you're just shutting me down because you're still on your mama's nipple, but anyways, yeah, I mean, the only thing um the way I did fix it was that I did an ultimatum. I had to make him choose between me and his mom. How?
Speaker 2:did that go oh, they're not good. He, of course it did not go good at all. He chose his mom, but still wanted me around.
Speaker 2:Huh, sir, hold up back up wow, okay but anyways, so yeah, um, he chose his mom and then so I left him and then I went out with another dude right after, posted it up and then he texted and calls me. He's like so is that really how you're going to do me? And I was like, well, I'm just doing this dude the way you're doing your mom. It's the same thing. Oh, wow, so you know, fair game, fair game.
Speaker 1:Fair game.
Speaker 2:But anyways, I'm not like that anymore, I promise, because I know my girl is watching.
Speaker 1:I'm a good girl. Well, you know what? Thank you for maturing.
Speaker 2:Thank you.
Speaker 1:Have you ever been in a situation where the mom or the dad was attractive? Have you? Yeah, Were you like?
Speaker 2:damn.
Speaker 1:When you first met the parents, were you like oh my gosh.
Speaker 2:So this is going to be like a whole nother relationship I had uh-huh there was one that I really thought that I always think all the moms are cute, okay, I always think all the moms are so pretty and whatnot, but when it comes to the dads, it's not really the dad that I think looks good, it's more of like the uncles, the dad's brothers, yeah.
Speaker 1:Or like the friends yeah. Like family, uncles and whatnot?
Speaker 2:I usually just think it's the uncles, the dad's brothers, yeah, or like the friends, yeah, like family, uncles and whatnot. I usually just think it's the uncles that look really good and then so, like you know, I do my little, you know just a glare and whatnot, because I am with that person. I do my little glares at his uncles and whatever's, and then, but you know, to find out after the breakup, his uncles all followed me and I was like well, fair game once again um, okay, you don't have to say any names, but did you, uh, did you give them any?
Speaker 2:play the uncles no, I, I don't know how old are.
Speaker 1:Would they be, though? Wouldn't they be like 10, 15, 20 years older than you, or? Oh yeah? Yeah, but they, they just look scrumptious, scrum diddly yum shiz yeah, back at the time, back back back in the day back in the day, like not now, hey, girlfriend, don't worry about it, just back in the day, back in the day, back in the day this is her first time hearing all of this.
Speaker 2:Oh, oh, my god, as of right now, she does know that I'm a little princess, but this is her first time hearing all this.
Speaker 1:Oh, she ain't no princess girl, she ain't no princess no, but she's still a good person though. Thank you, she got morals.
Speaker 2:Yes.
Speaker 1:Yes, but the uncles. So they hollered at you Like what did they say? If you don't mind me asking, asking like um, what were their lines?
Speaker 2:one dm I do remember was that, um, there was an uncle that asked if, how, how was I doing? It was like more of like a happy birthday type of dm okay from an ex. So this is like from an like you know for wait. So like there's this, like, for example, like if an ex misses you but you guys are not blocked on each other and they just text you happy birthday to get you back or to have a conversation. Okay, that's what I mean, oh so it wasn't it was like an.
Speaker 2:It was like a snaky way to come in my dms okay since I knew who the uncle was, I didn't think it was weird. He, I didn't think it was weird, so he just texted like how are you doing? I heard you and stuff and stuff broke up. Just wanted to check on you. And then so the texting will go further and further and then, like maybe a couple minutes, give it like five minutes. This uncle will be like, okay, well, you know, I'm always here if you want to drink or if you want to come over to my house and just talk, and I'm just like I know what this means oh, I know what this means.
Speaker 1:You're not oblivious to that I know what this means let me ask you this uh miss, uh, roncelin, okay, um, uh, what if she? What if they were just um, like just legitimately just saying hey, happy birthday, if you ever want to hang, you know.
Speaker 2:Holler at me like it's no horny fashion or nothing, it's just being, you know, just being a friendly person see, I wish it was like that, but every offer I did take up on that, it does turn the other way oh, really, yes, it's like oh, I'm trying to get in your pants, yeah like at first it kind of gives off like okay, we're just here, we're hanging out.
Speaker 2:And then it gets to the point where they start making their slow moves and stuff. And it's so easy to read someone when they're trying to get you, it's super easy. And then so like once I catch like that little flag of you trying to like get with me and I'm just like, oh my God, here we go again.
Speaker 1:Wow, so have you blocked or are you a ghoster or are you a blocker?
Speaker 2:I am both oh well, well, well well, like, for example, like I will block you on, like maybe two things, but keep you on on one platform just so you can watch me and whatnot, but then I will not text you if you try to slide out in my dms or in my tiktok or snapchat really but the main thing I do block is their phone numbers oh, okay, but like out of the three social media apps like, I, keep at least one open and you're blocked on the others oh, you're so famous.
Speaker 1:Oh, whoa. Let me ask you this like, what did you um thought of when, like, say, I DM'd you the very first time to come on or to see if you're like interested and available?
Speaker 2:okay, guys listen to this answer.
Speaker 2:Oh my god yeah let's, so let's listen yeah so so, as you guys know, I've been following this podcast for a while. Oh, thank you. So when to find out I had a dm from from this place, from him, I jumped in the air like a little girl trying lollipop for the freaking first time you're so. I was geeking so hard. I was like I took a screenshot before I texted you back. I took a screenshot and sent it to my bestie and I was like girl, girl, look look at this.
Speaker 2:Look at this and then I was just like oh my god. Oh my god, like I was nervous. It was like my first time trying to like text someone I like, like. It was just like, and I think he's very famous to me, he's super famous to me, so it's just like okay, let me prep myself and be like. At least don't make me look stupid when I'm texting you and hopefully I sign good.
Speaker 1:You're stuffing drafts and everything.
Speaker 2:Yeah, like I literally had to draft it in my head before I texted you so I could be like okay, I don't want him to think I'm such a putagui or anything, so I just have to be like okay, I have to calm myself down and be like okay, breathe in and out.
Speaker 2:Really I was afraid that you'd probably think of me as a creep because, man, I just shoot my shot everywhere you know, like to get you know guests and stuff so I'm very happy that you uh, you didn't take it in that type of way oh yeah, after watching all your podcasts, I never felt that type of way or energy coming from you. And one thing is, I'm really good at reading people and their energies, especially if it's not in person or whatnot text messages or even just like on live or whatever. Like I've never felt. I didn't feel like I'm gonna be uncomfortable with you or like scared or anything like I just felt like it's just gonna be straight vibes and that's what it is. I freaking love that, the vibe that you have. Oh, give me some period.
Speaker 1:I do appreciate Next question and thank you for the compliment I do thank you so much.
Speaker 2:Thank you, but before we start, that is it okay if I tap on my little phone real quick.
Speaker 1:Yeah, does it say low battery? Yeah, oh, my gosh, let me guess you were no. Go ahead, you can tap on it. Were you on your phone the whole time when your mama was driving? I was what, mm-mm, Okay, you're so goofy and she's coming back. She's coming back. See, we have all these unexpected things that happen. My battery ran out for some reason. I charged it like the night before and it died. It's just the awesomeness, you know. It's just taking up all that energy. You feel me?
Speaker 2:We're just draining everything.
Speaker 1:Oh hell, yeah, it's too lit Too.
Speaker 2:Stop, we out here and we pop it we out here, we out here, bop, bop, bop.
Speaker 1:Oh God, okay, what's the? Do you? Oh God, okay, what's the? Do you? Can you give me a list of things that men shouldn't say to women?
Speaker 2:Okay, yeah.
Speaker 1:Whoa, she was quick at this one. Open your pepe aos. What's that?
Speaker 2:Pepe ao means ears in Hawaiian.
Speaker 1:Okay.
Speaker 2:And hao mau when I'm about to say this.
Speaker 1:Atta girl.
Speaker 2:So to all the brothers, to all the uncles, to all the locals, To all the bradas, to all the uncles, to all the locals. Okay, One thing for me I don't like when a guy talks to me is calling me hot, sexy or gorgeous or beautiful. My favorite word is pretty Pretty. Is such a pretty word to call another female.
Speaker 1:But if you're going to call me beautiful, at least use like what's that that? Word use a couple adverbs and some nouns with it. Use ui what the fuck is it ui?
Speaker 2:ui is the Hawaiian word for beautiful. Oh okay, cool, cool cool. I'm learning, I'm learning, I'm learning okay but like I just don't like when a guy comes or calls me baby girl like or uses the tacoma pickup line what's the tacoma pickup line? Like oh, baby girl, let's hop in my back seat of my tacoma yeah, you don't, you never heard that line. Bless your heart, y'all bless his heart no, I haven't, that's a thing that is a. Thing jump in the back of my yoda yeah, like, oh yeah, oh, it's lifted, yoda, yoda.
Speaker 1:Oh, yoda, lifted Yoda.
Speaker 2:Gotcha, gotcha, gotcha, gotcha. Okay, or I just don't like any of the names that they call me like baby girl, sweetheart, honey, and I'm just like I am none of that.
Speaker 1:All the pet names you don't like being called.
Speaker 2:Yes, especially if we're not together. Yes, especially if we're not together. Okay, if we're together, that's a whole different story. But if we're not and you're trying to come up to me, just be like, just say hi, that's all. See, for me, just say hi. Especially, I just don't like the word sexy or hot. I think it's the most disgusting word ever.
Speaker 1:Is it really?
Speaker 2:To me it is, I think, because there's the word pretty, word like pretty, like I feel like that's more soft and every girl deserves like a little soft, like soft and like kind compliment towards them okay and like when you call another girl, pretty, like all girls smile is that real? Yes, yes, thank you for the tip of course yeah so you hate the word hot I hate the word hot and sexy that's a hot, sexy pepperoni pizza.
Speaker 1:Does that make you I'll look?
Speaker 2:at you like huh, I was like, uh, okay, I'm gonna just pretend that I never heard, that we're still friends, okay cool, but you remember it though right like this motherfucker called me a pizza
Speaker 1:oh, hey, no, I'm not gonna do it. I'm not gonna do it, my wife would kill me. I'm like, hey, girl, you want hot and sexy pepperoni pizza? And she's like, what the fuck? Literally, I'm like, yeah, man, hot and fresh, delivered 45 minutes, girl, I'm sorry, I'm sorry, okay, next question. So okay, we'll stay on this one no beautiful, no pet names. Is there anything else that a man shouldn't say to a woman? Hmm, or something that would be like, oh man, like that might degrade you in any way.
Speaker 2:Pick up lines. Oh, pick up lines, do not use pick up lines. Oh, pick up lines, do not use pickup lines. Like for me I don't like pickup lines, but if they're like dad joke pickup lines, those are my favorite. Like at least that will get me laughing because like dad jokes are pretty slow and like cool, so it's like wow, that that joke was actually pretty funny.
Speaker 1:Have you heard all the pickup lines? Have you heard like majority of them already in your lifetime? Yeah, really.
Speaker 2:But I do not remember. Like if I were to see it, I would be like, okay, yeah, I remember this pickup line, it's just not on the top of my head.
Speaker 1:Ronson question. Here comes one. Y'all hide me. Here comes one. Ronson, do you know how much a polar bear weighs?
Speaker 2:No.
Speaker 1:Enough to break the ice. Hey, my name's Chris. Hey, that's so good, that's a scientific one right there.
Speaker 2:See, like stuff, like like that, you get a girl laughing like this, like it's, you got it, you got it wrapped my guys use it. Use it guys but I don't know how nice girls are, so it's like I'm pretty not delulu um ditzy so it's like stuff like that gets me cracking up. My favorite one is guess what and then you say what and then they go chicken butt. That's my favorite joke that is my go-to. That's my favorite dad joke does that, does that tell?
Speaker 1:does that tell the person? Does that tell you about the person that, oh, this guy's kind of humorous. He has a um, I forgot the words, it's on top of my tongue, but he has a man he's just funny.
Speaker 2:Yeah, so like if he could come up with something, what you said and like keep coming up with stuff like that, then yeah, like I'm just like okay, so I know you can joke and joke around. So it's like I'm just like okay, I can vibe with that. Okay, because I know I'm not going to be sense of humor.
Speaker 1:That's what I was looking for. It tells you that he has a sense of humor. Yeah, my gosh, I'd be. I'd be messing up. I'd be messed up here. Um, okay, let's see here. Okay, this is a good one. Um, this was asked does a relationship continue after a lengthy breakup, or can a relationship continue?
Speaker 2:oh yeah, oh, that is a good question, but honestly, to me, I think it just depends the connection you had with that person. Okay, like, for example, me um, I've been, I had, I was in love with this one dude really, like, really deep in love, and then we broke up and I still wanted something to still be there, at least because we can be friends, because he's friends with, like, my siblings other halves as well.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:So it's like I want all of us to be around. See, I wanted that, but then he didn't want to. So it was just like, oh OK, but then this other ex of mine we did break up up, but we're still friends and it's like cordial, like it's super cool, like we should have been best friends instead so it kind of depends who the connection, who the person is and the connection is between you guys so it could be like an a and b or an a and a oh, okay, what's the a and a?
Speaker 2:and is same letter, so it's like a same vibe.
Speaker 1:A and b is two different guys got it, got it got it, got it, got it, got it. Um, what? What you're saying is, uh, it's totally valid because, uh, I am still like real good friend. I'm not, I could say, real good friends, but I am still cordial and friends with, like my exes. They all have families now and everything, and I think it's just when you get older, like you know how to set that boundary.
Speaker 1:And yeah, oh hey, it's your happy birthday. Happy birthday to your kid, happy birthday to your husband, happy birthday to your girlfriend, whatever the case may be.
Speaker 1:But yeah, I think it's a mature thing when it comes to being like being friends after the breakup and even with like this is a whole uh, like a bit biased thing. But, um, you know how you got to be friends and then you go into a relationship and then that become and then you can still be friends. I've been in a relationship where I jumped right in it and then years down the road it's like not contact, but then you know you mature throughout those years and you become friends again.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:So I've been in those situations and what you said earlier super valid.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and it's just like for me. I think it's okay to be friends with your ex, but in a friend type of way. Oh, definitely ex, but in a friend type of way, oh, definitely yeah, if you're still trying to be friends with your ex and, like you know, there is still that type of feeling that you are, that you still have love for them in that type of way, then that is like a big no-no, so there's like a difference yeah like for me and this one ex.
Speaker 2:We're still friends and like it's friends to the point where I come to the family parties and I see everyone I'm, I get to see all the cakeys in the family grow up and like they them still calling me auntie and I'm just a friend. And you know everyone in the family is cordial with how the relationship is between me and my ex and, like you know, same for my family side. My family still considers this one ex to be part of my family and everything and that they still text him and call him and invite him to things. And you know I'm okay with that because we know our, what our connection is and our boundaries are and I till this day he knows who he is. I'm trying to pimp him out to females. I won't say his name because, because he probably would lick my Behind but Literally lick your behind.
Speaker 2:No, that's not what I meant Y'all, that's not what I meant. Pigeon ways Scrap.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, but I'm still. I'm trying to pimp him out Every single pimp him out every single day, but he does not want to.
Speaker 2:And I was like, well, I'm finding your girlfriend because to me, like I'm close with everyone in the family and I know till this day that I will still get invited if you do have a girlfriend. So, like I want the girlfriend that gets to be with you will treat you right because we didn't happen greatly, so it's like the next love you find I want that to be perfect for you because, like I want you to grow and have a family and have like a home together and do big things. Yeah, like couldn't be us, but I know someone out there can be that for you. So it's like, if I know who the girl is and her attentions are and I'm like, oh okay, so like I can tell like his mom, I could be like mom. This girl is like really good for him. Like I know her, she's really sweet, like I I think I would trust her if I were to have a kid, I would trust her with my kid alone.
Speaker 1:So it's like stuff like that oh, wow, you're a great like supportive ex-girlfriend, of course, basically that's. I mean that's good, that's. It's rare to to find and see women like that. I mean you see it a lot in in guys, but with guys there's always that um, we yeah, we have intentions, you know you have to finish that sentence.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I don't want to.
Speaker 1:Yeah, not not all guys have the intention, but majority of the guys they do have like that back intention. And the back intention is and I'm gonna spill one little secret is that we hook a female up with one of our guy friends. If that doesn't work out, us guys she gets ran by a train.
Speaker 1:No, no, not ran by a train, but us guys, we would like. The person that hooked them up is like what happened? Oh, I'm here, so we're like the reason. That's a little tidbit, but have I done that before? I don't remember if I've done that before he had to think I had to think about that one. Oh wait, I don't know, I don't remember. If I have man hey, holler at me, DM me. If I have done that to you, I apologize. Now I'm a twerp. If I have done that to you, I apologize.
Speaker 2:Now I'm a twerp I'm so dead, yeah, man, but yeah, that's that's. That's our little thing. That's our little thing. That's interesting because see, for a girl, like for me and my girls, when I pimp out one of my girls with like a boy or set them up and whatnot and they don't work well together, that boy is like dumped, he's out.
Speaker 2:So every time we see him it's like on site really yeah, so it's not really like oh, it's okay, like I'm right here, but it's more of like okay, I set you guys up because I knew you guys are going to be good, and why the hell did you break my girl's heart? Oh, even though she probably it's probably fault, why did you make her do whatever she had to do?
Speaker 1:Even though it's the girl's fault, you still backed up your girl. Yeah, because at the end of the day, that's my girl, and if I'm crying or stuck on the side of the road.
Speaker 2:My girl is there.
Speaker 1:Oh, but the guy could pick you up though.
Speaker 2:Both y'all right that's very true, but it's like, why would I need a guy if I got a girl that knows how to do guy stuff?
Speaker 1:oh shit, why do I need a girl if I got porn? You know what I'm saying oh my god, I'll play, or I'm not, I'm not playing, I'm not, I'm not playing. Oh my god. Oh okay, ronald. Uh, time's up. We had a good time. That was. That was. That was fun. Um, for your first podcast. We just popped her cherry on this one. Um, uh, how'd you like your first podcast?
Speaker 2:guys, I wish I could marry this podcast. This has been so good and so fun. Coming into this I I was nervous, but then, like you know, as our wonderful host here, producer and oh, my god, oh and oh god stop. Oh, thank you space super comfortable and fun, like that is.
Speaker 2:One big thing for females is making it safe and comfortable, and you did that oh, before like all of this happened, like on the dm and when, like, you met me outside, like it was all of that. So it was really fun and I'm so excited I got to be on this thank you for coming on and um you and I was just chopping it up.
Speaker 1:Did it feel like an hour or some?
Speaker 2:change. No, I swear to god, I thought it was only 10 minutes. Yeah, right it flows right and the fact that you can have that connection with people tells a lot about who you are. Thank, you. You're a wholesome person with a golden heart.
Speaker 1:Oh, thank you. So thank you. Thank you so much. I do appreciate the kind words. Do you have any shout outs or anything? Or where can these people find you at if they're not following you or know who you are?
Speaker 2:Okay, everyone. Well, if you want to find me, my instagram is ranslan lucero. Tiktok is ufwraraw, snapchat is kai mailani. If you don't know how to spell that, that's okay, just search up filipino princess, that is me. I would like to shout out to my girl if she's watching or not. I love you. Oh wait, let me redo that. Let me redo that. I will talk to you when I am done. I love you. And last shout out goes to miss bikini hawaii, to the pageant that I am starting.
Speaker 2:My first pageant. I'm representing Miss Hilo, so if you guys do want tickets, let me know.
Speaker 1:When is this happening?
Speaker 2:April 17th at Ala Moana Hotel.
Speaker 1:Hey, april 17th. Hopefully this episode is out before then. But if you post it, I'll tag me in and I'll repost it. I'll get you one. I'll get you one, I'll get you one. But hey, man, what's it called? Miss bikini, miss bikini, hawaii, miss bikini, hawaii. Hey, how much my girl? Do you need a vote or anything, or how does that this?
Speaker 2:is my first time, hey hey, good freaking luck.
Speaker 1:Thank you for real like good luck. You've been a lovely guest and it was super awesome to chop it up with you. Oh my God, oh my God.
Speaker 2:A fattest shout-out to him. He made my day today oh gosh, you're very welcome, thank you.
Speaker 1:With that being said, shout-out to KO Studios for the lovely home. Raffy Bite, thank you, and man, forever thankful for your beats, man, and with that I'm Chris.
Speaker 2:And I'm Ranslyn and we out this bitch?
Speaker 1:Oh, and my bad, my bad. You say Rara, my daughter, I call her Rara too. Stop.
Speaker 2:That's why my name was from kids.
Speaker 1:Really.
Speaker 2:Yeah, they called me Rara. Rara girls out here living life.
Speaker 1:Living life. Hell yeah, and we out this bitch Hell yeah, and we out this bitch peace.
