The REALationship Method
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The REALationship Method
How Grief Led to Comedy and Filipino Family Dynamics with Mia
When content creator Mia first received an invitation to appear on the Relationship Method podcast, she thought it might be a scam. Having heard stories of other creators losing their social media accounts to hackers posing as podcast hosts, she approached with caution. That wariness quickly dissolved into laughter and genuine connection as she and host Chris discovered their shared Filipino heritage and similar life experiences.
From the humidity of Washington state to the dry heat of Arizona, Mia's geographical journey mirrors her personal evolution. She reveals how her content creation began as a form of grief therapy after losing her mother four years ago. "I was her little entertainer," Mia shares with touching vulnerability, explaining how making others laugh helped her process her loss while honoring her mother's encouragement to pursue comedy and performance.
The conversation weaves through cultural touchstones that will resonate with Filipino-Americans and anyone navigating multiple cultural identities. Chris and Mia trade stories about superstitions they still observe—from not sweeping after a death to apologizing to ant mounds that might house "duende" (mythical dwarves). Their shared laughter over these beliefs highlights how cultural practices travel across oceans and generations, remaining powerful even when their practitioners recognize their amusing nature.
Mental health emerges as a surprisingly central theme, with both host and guest opening up about therapy, family dynamics, and healing from parental relationships. Mia's candid discussion of her narcissistic father and Chris's revelation about abandonment issues create a safe space for listeners facing similar challenges. Their mutual discovery—that meaningful conversations with their fathers only happened when the men had been drinking—illustrates how many find pathways to connection despite communication barriers.
Discover how cultural identity shapes our relationships, beliefs, and creative expression. Follow Mia's content across YouTube, Instagram, and TikTok under "ventures with Mia" to experience her unique blend of humor and cultural commentary that's resonating with audiences worldwide.
• Finding humor in moving from Arizona to Washington for her husband's health
• Navigating online negativity and recognizing when to step back from social media
• Maintaining Filipino superstitions in America, from spiritual beliefs to cultural practices
• Connecting over shared childhood experiences of wearing thick glasses and facing bullies
• Exploring family dynamics, "daddy issues," and the therapeutic value of open communication
• Discussing favorite Filipino dishes and culinary traditions
• Balancing content creation with family life and children's reactions
All right, five, four, three, two, one. Welcome back to another episode of the Relationship Method podcast. I'm Chris and today I have a very lovely guest. She's coming from the Pacific Northwest Oregon, I'm assuming Washington.
Speaker 2:Oh, Washington.
Speaker 1:Sorry sorry. Ooh, bo-bo, sorryhington. Uh, very cold out there. I'm coming from washington. That's like my last duty station. Man, I got mia. She's a content creator. I got mia on the pod. Oh, no, no, thank you. Thank you, uh, mia. Okay, so you and I were talking earlier. Just to make sure you see your percentage screen. On the top or the bottom it says uploading. Do you see that on your side anywhere?
Speaker 2:Oh yeah.
Speaker 1:So that's uploading the video as we speak, Galing ah, galing, galing. Galing. So, mia, before we start the podcast, how did I get the yes from you to come on this random podcast?
Speaker 2:Well, you're actually the first one who invited me to be.
Speaker 1:Oh my gosh, mamamero, I popped the cherry.
Speaker 2:And you're Filipino, so so you know.
Speaker 1:oh, my gosh support each other right, I know right, I know so because I'm filipino and um, that's it. Huh, because I'm fil Filipino. You just came on.
Speaker 3:I mean.
Speaker 2:I mean, I'm for everybody really For everybody.
Speaker 1:Okay. So how did, when I DM'd you, when I messaged you, right, how did you take it the first time?
Speaker 2:I thought it was a scam.
Speaker 1:No way really.
Speaker 2:Seriously, because when I get collaboration email or just any messages, some of them are scam. I know this other creator who actually got scammed from invitation for a podcast before to where he lost his um instagram account like no way yeah the scammer hacked them for doing that because he thought you know invitation, but it wasn't so, so I thought it was a scam. When you reached out to me, i'm'm like oh my God, is this real?
Speaker 1:I didn't know they do that in the I guess social media world.
Speaker 2:I didn't know, oh yeah.
Speaker 1:So many of them. Wow, wow. And she said to everyone that means true, yeah, true, true.
Speaker 3:So she said true true.
Speaker 1:True, true, yes, yes and you're in washington, you say right, yeah, what made you like, what made you move to washington?
Speaker 2:I'm actually originally from arizona um arizona okay yeah, then my husband have a sinus problem ah, oh yeah if you've been in our zona, like the dry heat and, yeah, like the dust in the air, that's like wait, I can say a bad word in this podcast yes, you can. Yeah, yeah, yeah, okay yeah, if it fucked up the the sinus right here and he already had like three surgeries, I believe. So no way we tried a different option, moved out of there so we kind of went here where it it rains more in.
Speaker 1:Oh, okay, so. So my cousin he, um, okay. So story is, you know, in the ph, the Philippines, you know the little dwarf, duende Mountains, right, Duende yeah.
Speaker 1:He was playing next to the mountains and then the little you know, the little mountains he started getting stuff on his body, right. So every time he's in the sun it flares up. Like in the heat it flares up, but when he's in the cold he doesn't get as itchy. You know, I think it's some type of psoriasis or whatever. I believe in that. I believe in the anting-anting and the you know.
Speaker 2:You do I believe, it so.
Speaker 1:I think he was. You know he was bewitched by a duende right. So he lives in Minnesota right now and his skin is like perfectly fine, it's like he has the scabs, but it's not as itchy you know and yeah, and a couple years back he went back to the philippines, to, you know, see, a?
Speaker 1:um, a witch, so-called right. What do filipinos call him? Um? Uh, a healer. What are they called? Um? I don't know the word, but he went to healer to get, you know, the scabs off of him. So he's doing much better now. So with your husband having, I guess, allergies, right, allergies yeah. Allergies, that's what it's called. So I get what the cold. It helps his sinuses and everything.
Speaker 2:Not the cold, more of like the humidity.
Speaker 1:The humidity okay.
Speaker 2:Because it's more humid here than in arizona yeah, yeah yeah okay, originally from arizona, you live in washington.
Speaker 1:How was the move? So were you? Were you and the family just like, oh okay, so let's, let's decide to move to washington, or was this already pre-planned to move to Washington than Arizona?
Speaker 2:it was actually before Washington we, we moved to Indiana oh my god, why Indiana like what's?
Speaker 1:I don't know, bro, because what's over, what's over in Indiana that makes me go, oh yeah. Let's make it Indiana.
Speaker 2:Trust me, I said the same thing. We used to live there back in 2008. Yes, when we, you know, start dating and all that shit. Yeah, all that shit.
Speaker 1:All that shit, huh. Anyway, we were just kids, we're just here, we're just here, anyways.
Speaker 2:So we lived there and we moved to Arizona after that. Yeah, so that's why now well, three years ago, we did move there first before coming here in Washington. It's because the houses there are very affordable.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, that's three years ago, huh why arizona and not like like, say, texas?
Speaker 2:because texas is very affordable as well uh, we actually visited there and we didn't like texas oh wow really yeah, it's, have you been there?
Speaker 1:um, I flew. I flew to texas. I stayed there for an overnight, so like I went around there, but only near the airport area here only near park dallas dallas.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, we've been there dallas. Um, not Houston, no, in the middle, not El Paso.
Speaker 1:My geography is off mine. I really don't know Mexico, you mean Mexico.
Speaker 2:It's broken on the side.
Speaker 1:Super low, right yeah.
Speaker 2:What is down there? What is that? It's so noisy, it's not Santa Fe.
Speaker 1:It's a you know, I don't know, I don't know.
Speaker 2:Anyways, but no, we didn't like it Because it's messy. Oh really, it's not organized.
Speaker 1:So it's too chaotic.
Speaker 2:Yeah, chaotic, too chaotic for you Okay.
Speaker 1:So you came up to Washington and you lived there Ever since. Ever since? What part of Washington?
Speaker 2:Can I ask that, or is that too much? Vancouver so Like the border Of Portland and the bottom, the lowest point Of Washington.
Speaker 1:Oh Okay, I used to. I was stationed at JBLM near Tacoma. I was stationed there. Yeah, like DuPont Lacey area, I was there.
Speaker 2:We were gonna move there. Oh really Not Lacey Olympia, katabi lang yung Cuba Olympia's nice yeah. Yeah, doon.
Speaker 1:What made you stop? Oh, she rolled her eyes, huh.
Speaker 2:It's always my husband, it's always his choice.
Speaker 1:Oh right, it's like nah Babe. No, no, thank you.
Speaker 2:Because he has a friend here In.
Speaker 3:Portland.
Speaker 2:Since we don't have family, might as well be close to friends. Yes, somebody we know, oh, definitely, yeah, you like the uh, no sales tax in portland oh yeah, that's where we shop for most part, yeah just drive down, and there it is.
Speaker 1:Yeah, oh, that's good, man girl, that is good. So, uh, miss Mia, you content create.
Speaker 2:How did you get into? You know the content creating Because of my mom.
Speaker 1:Oh, she was the actor actress.
Speaker 2:No, she. Well. Okay, my mom passed away four years ago. Actually, it'll be four years this april, end of this april. Um, I was, I was her little entertainer, you know.
Speaker 2:Okay, like when she said I'm the one that would like sing and dance and act and act like I'm a newscaster, like, like I'm Mia Wells, I'll be your sadist, kind of like a part of my grieving bugger, yeah, uh kind of like I'm trying to keep myself busy yeah, yeah, yeah understood and um, and I kind of miss that thing where, you know, I can be be myself in front of my mom just to act goofy and weird and silly, yes, and so I found out about tiktok and I was scrolling and I see people like doing all this comedy, lip syncing and all that, and so I was like, oh, I should give it a try and see what I you know what, where am I gonna go with this? You know what I'm saying? Like, yeah, because my mom I remember my mom keep telling why don't you just be a comedian or an actor, like go back to the Philippines and I don't know, go for ABS-CBN or GMA.
Speaker 1:Oh my gosh. The next, nora Onor is over here. Oh my gosh, why.
Speaker 2:Why is Nora, onor oh? Okay, oh my god, why, why did you say that?
Speaker 1:okay, okay, there you go is that a comedian?
Speaker 2:comedian yeah okay, so but yeah, so I started that's how I started.
Speaker 1:Oh wow, so you say you're originally from Arizona, but you're really fluent in Tagalog and you know your native tongue. But you're really fluent in Tagalog and your native tongue. How did you become so fluent? If you're you know, you're born and raised in Arizona.
Speaker 2:No, I'm not born and raised in Arizona.
Speaker 1:Oh, where are you born and raised? Oh, Philippines. Oh, when did you move to Arizona? When I was 12. Oh, 12. Oh, so you still had it.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1:Oh, okay, oh 12 also, you still had it. Yeah, yeah, oh okay oh so how? So you? You did it on tiktok, and then what you? You moved it to ig. Is that how that happened? Or you stayed on tiktok for a little while?
Speaker 2:for a little bit, maybe like a couple months, uh-huh. And then I started seeing, you know, other content creators reposting their videos to like Instagram, then YouTube, so I started doing that, oh okay, yeah, and then so you have kids as well, am I correct? Mm-hmm Two. How do they?
Speaker 1:feel, you know with, you know their mom being, you know, like such a social media, like influencer or making social media content. How do they feel about that?
Speaker 2:Okay, they brought it up.
Speaker 1:You know what I never asked them Okay, why? Why didn't you ask oh, okay, okay, okay.
Speaker 2:But all I can tell you is you know, sometimes they join me in my videos yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3:I see, I don't know if you've seen it. Yeah, yeah, I think it's funny.
Speaker 1:I think it's beautiful that they're with you oh thank you.
Speaker 2:So their friend sees it, because you know, if it goes viral, you know, of course, obviously they'll see it. So they're like oh my God, your mom is famous, like your mom is so cool, like she's a funny lady, Like that. That's all I get. But then I was like so what's your reaction when your friend tells you that? And I'm like yeah, okay, whatever, oh, wow, that's it.
Speaker 1:Wow, whatever, oh, wow, wow. So how does the community like the? You know the, your, your kids, just parents and you know how do they react to. You know your videos as well. How do they act? The friends yeah, yeah they said it's funny, okay, that's good, that's good.
Speaker 2:So there's always positive feedback oh yeah oh, that's funny and especially when they see you know my kids joining in, they will tell them oh, you know, oh, ioki, my daughter's name. Ioki, I didn't know you're funny like that. Like you know, I didn't know you do funny faces. I guess like she acts different at school compared to, like you know, in here.
Speaker 1:Oh, yeah, yeah. So I have a lot of guests that they change their I guess their character when the camera is on and then when the camera is off, they're just regular people, like they're really shy, they know how to turn it on and off, not really.
Speaker 2:Oh, they're really shy. They know how to turn it on and off. Not really, oh no.
Speaker 1:They act normal. Yeah, oh, okay, never mind then.
Speaker 2:Yeah, they act normal.
Speaker 1:Oh, and how about your husband Like? How was he like adapting to? You know your.
Speaker 2:I had to train him. Wow, no, because he's that type of guy. When we first met he was that serious, boring. Sorry, babe, if you see this podcast, but no, seriously, you know he's that type of guy that, hey, wear this little dress. Oh, I don't do that shit. I don't do that fruity shit. Like he's that serious guy back in the day. But you know, after a while he changed. That's good, he really changed.
Speaker 1:He adapted.
Speaker 2:Yes.
Speaker 1:Oh, that's good. Oh yeah, that's really changed. He adapted. Yes, oh, that's, good.
Speaker 2:Oh, yeah, that's really good.
Speaker 1:So was there a lot of, let's say, not hate, but was there a lot of, you know, people saying, oh, that's not funny or why are you doing that? Like, was there a lot of that when you were posting your videos or anything?
Speaker 2:Oh yes.
Speaker 1:So, much.
Speaker 2:So much to where. Like, how do I explain it? There are times that I have to like pull myself and take a break from social media.
Speaker 1:Oh really.
Speaker 2:Oh yeah, because so many of like racism to like name-calling, to just you know, specifically when I do lip syncing I'm using like movie audio yeah like you know, I'm saying like it's not really my work, work, yeah, or my script, but I'm reenacting in it, putting some ump into that audio, yeah. And people would tell me like, oh, get your originality. Like why are you copywriting somebody's work? Uh-huh, shut the fuck up, bro. Like everybody's doing this?
Speaker 1:No, I totally understand. I understand it's like everyone else is doing it. Why are you singling me out?
Speaker 2:Right. Right, I totally understand it's like, internet is a different freaking zoo man.
Speaker 1:It's a fucking app. Yeah, so for people that like say are you know following your footsteps, like you know making these videos like what's a good, like what's a good hint, or like how can, how can you like tell them like don't like the discouraging words, like do you have any tips for them to like keep on going, especially when there's people out there like bashing on their content or bashing on their character?
Speaker 2:Wait, I didn't get that question. Oh so, do you have any? Do you have any like tips? We're like cutting off.
Speaker 1:Oh, I'm sorry, Am oh so do you have any? Tips. We're like cutting off. Oh, I'm sorry, am I better now? I think so. Abc, did that go through?
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Okay, so do you have any encouraging words for people that are doing what you're doing and they're getting these bad comments? Do you have any tips for them?
Speaker 2:Yeah, just keep, keep going, don't stop keep going there. It is at the end of the day, people will hate you, no matter what you do, if it's not content creating. If you're in the public, they will hate you. They will hate you what you wear, how you, you know, dress yourself or how you I mean it happened to celebrities as well. You know, saying people are starting to cancel everybody, but they keep going and then those haters will like die down and, you know, shut the hell up oh, definitely after a while so you just gotta keep it, keep going oh good, or or actually I just started this too, like I'll say, like a year ago.
Speaker 2:um, I only read comments, like maybe the first 20 comments. As soon as I post that video, I I'll engage to only 20 comments, then after that I won't even look at it anymore. Does that make sense? I don't want to bump into negative comments or just whatever that's a good tip. That's how you're going to protect your mental health. Mental health is very important.
Speaker 1:Hmm, that's a good tip, yeah so that's how you're going to protect your mental health? Oh, mental health is very important. And like speak on mental health, speak on mental health. Growing up, right, I only grew up with a dad, so my mental health was, it was just non-existent. It's like oh, I'm hurt. Oh, walk it off. My feelings are hurt. What feelings you don't have?
Speaker 2:feelings how, how toxic is like the old school filipino family I would say every filipino some most, I say most okay, yeah yeah they're very toxic as fuck bro, oh my god.
Speaker 1:so you're telling me, like when my sister brought home like her first black boyfriend, oh my gosh, my dad was like, no, you know, but he came around. Know, he finally came around because he started. I started bringing a lot of my friends around and they were you know different ethnicities. And he was like, oh they are. You know, chris's friends are pretty cool and you know, I'm bringing home, you know black friends Mexican, white, japanese, whatever and they're like, oh, cool. So he finally opened up to my sister's boyfriend. So that's like one toxic trend. He was like no black people, no, I don't like them. No, because of what they're portrayed on TV, right, yeah, that's stupid yeah.
Speaker 2:I mean I can relate to that, because my husband is black and white.
Speaker 1:Uh-huh.
Speaker 2:So I mean my that, because my husband is black and white, uh-huh, so I mean my. The only issue I have is is my, my father uh-huh because he was, he's, he's the same way, but he's.
Speaker 2:It took a while to accept him, yeah, but then there's like a mixed feelings, emotions in there, though I don't know if he was there's a racism in there or he just completely don't like my husband. I don't know what it was. It was so hard to like read him, but I would just say, yeah, maybe it is racism but I'll just say, yeah, maybe it is.
Speaker 1:Yeah, oh. So when I brought, when I brought girls around, my dad, uh, he would always say, oh, I don't like her, I don't like her. One is because he wanted me to marry like a filipina. And I tell you like back in the day, I didn't like any type of filipinas, because I knew what came with it. You know, I was like no way, I am not marrying one, no way. So, uh, he, he didn't like the girls that I, you know that I would introduce him to and everything. And I was like, dang, this guy just doesn't like no one you know.
Speaker 1:So you know, he finally came around to like, say, accepting the people I would bring home because he trusted my, like, my character, you know. But it really did take him a while. Now my grandparents, oh my god, I think they were super racist with everyone except for Filipinos. They were not open to everyone except for Filipinos, they were not open to anything. And I'm talking about, like, the grandparents that lived in the Philippines and then they come to America for a little bit and they're like I don't like America no more.
Speaker 2:so send me back. It's not me, it's not mine.
Speaker 1:Yeah, send me back, I hate it here. So yeah, that's how my grandparents were, so they didn't like nobody which you know I respected. I was like okay, you only know that, you only know the Philippines, I respect it. You know I get it.
Speaker 2:Yeah, see, not everyone, because my grandma was hella cool.
Speaker 3:Oh really.
Speaker 2:Yeah, she loves everybody If you love that person like she. Yeah, she accepted my husband oh really she'll show you the same. It's like, hey, come here, come here, my mom is the same way. Oh really, yeah, that side of the family, my mom's side, are very chill, laid back, respectful, such loving people.
Speaker 1:Uh-huh.
Speaker 2:You know, like your yellow, purple blue, whoever you are, they'll respect you and the hospitality is so A++ with a side of the family.
Speaker 1:There's a balance in everything, huh.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Definitely. Oh, that's what's up, that's what's up, oh, I'm so, man, when was the last time you were in the Philippines, miss Mia? I think, you didn't know, huh.
Speaker 2:No two years, Two years ago.
Speaker 1:Oh really.
Speaker 2:Mm-hmm.
Speaker 1:Two years. What part Whereabouts?
Speaker 2:Uh fuck, see, here we go again. Manila, Manila, Sabay may bundok May bundok, May bundok Provincia ha. Sarisal, sarisal.
Speaker 1:Oh, okay, wow, Um, do you know my dad is from Mindanao? Ah layo, I know right. And he said my mom's from Tarlac.
Speaker 2:Isn't that like province?
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, yeah, that's where we're from, yeah. So, I'm just like, oh okay, and he brought me home a couple years back, he brought me well. I. So I'm just like, oh okay, and he brought me home a couple years back, he brought me well. I haven't been there in a long time but I remember when he brought me to the Philippines I saw where he's from the village and everything. I was like damn humble beginnings. You know, it brings me back down. I'm like dang, they came from this and now they have that.
Speaker 2:I'm like wow, Super crazy. I wonder why you believe in duende. What's that?
Speaker 1:The curses, the witch, oh my gosh.
Speaker 2:For whatever.
Speaker 1:Aswang the white lady. Oh my god.
Speaker 2:Capre, have you seen, capre? Oh my god, yeah.
Speaker 1:And then what's it? What do you call the mountain guy with the long hair that smokes a cigarette or a cigar? I thought that is capre. Yeah, oh my god Capre. I'd be scared man, I'd be scared, I'd be scared, oh my gosh.
Speaker 2:You know what's funny though.
Speaker 1:Every time I go home every time.
Speaker 2:I go home. I can just feel that that negative spirit there Is. It same with you.
Speaker 3:Yeah, yeah. Why is that? Why is?
Speaker 1:it when you know an outsider because I still consider myself an outsider because I don't live there why is it like you? Just, you get some sort of feeling.
Speaker 2:I don't know. I really don't know, but every time I go home I'm always scared In that house that I always stay at.
Speaker 3:Oh, wow.
Speaker 2:Oh my gosh, Like I'm constantly looking back, like, like every time I wash dishes, right? I'm like oh my gosh, I know right. Can you turn that on, please'm like oh my God, I know right.
Speaker 1:Can you turn that off please? Like, oh, my God, I know you, I know you, I know you, I know you, I feel you, I feel you so much. I'm like that at home too. I don't know why it's like that, though you know what and this is because I'm talking to a lot of people, right, they tell me that there's something very spiritual with the Philippines. You know how, philippines, they're highly religious in the Philippines, right? So that's good, right. So, of course, with the good, it comes with the bad. So that's when all those bad spirits and stuff, so it's like it. You know all those bad spirits and stuff, so it's like it's balancing them out. But I think, really, the Philippines is something about the equator as well, like there's some type of phenomenon that makes the Filipinos believe that there's bad things, and it's like, I guess, happening, you know.
Speaker 2:Yeah, maybe that's it, you know. Yeah, maybe that's it, kasi halos lahat yata naniniwala sa mga ganun really the bad. You know the capri, the winded all that, so do you?
Speaker 1:is there any superstitious things that you you know, like you brought from you know that you lived in the Philippines that you bring to the house now?
Speaker 2:no, oh, no, so like I you brought from the.
Speaker 1:You know that you lived in the Philippines that you bring to the house now. No, oh no, so like I don't. So in the Philippines, right, oh, no so, okay, so in the Philippines, right, you're not. When someone dies, you're not supposed to sweep, because if you sweep, the bad spirit.
Speaker 2:Oh, the same yeah.
Speaker 1:Yeah, so I don't do that, I still do that oh really.
Speaker 2:No, I mean, I follow those.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, me too.
Speaker 2:What my grandma always tell me yeah, yeah, you know when, when you're sweating out there you play sports or whatever. When you come home don't shower. Yet they say when you wet your body, you get this, you'll get a cold.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah yeah, that's what it means in English. I don't know, I sometimes can't speak myself, but no, I totally understand that.
Speaker 2:Yeah, or like hey, don't Baka mabasag yung mirror. Pag nabasag niyang mirror, you're gonna have bad luck for the rest of your life, ganon.
Speaker 1:So what she's saying everyone is If you break a mirror, you're gonna have bad luck for the rest of your life. Yeah, ok, yeah.
Speaker 2:Oh, I guess Stuff like that.
Speaker 1:I believe in that Right. Why is that? Why is it that you know the old, you know grandparents stories? They stick to us and we're like we're really cautious in not that happening now.
Speaker 2:I don't know.
Speaker 1:Because, like, when I pass by, like a little mound, right, I know it's an ant mound, I know what's in there, it's ants, right. But when I pass it, I'm like, okay, I'm sorry, I'm passing by, like.
Speaker 3:I say sorry to her because you're right here right.
Speaker 1:Or like when I see, when I'm driving, and I see, like you know, a white lady, right, I'll make sure to like I don't know what's the story with the white lady. Are you supposed to pick it up? What did you hear? You're supposed to pick it up or just keep on going?
Speaker 2:I don't know. All I all I know about the white lady is they're going to keep following you.
Speaker 1:Yeah, you keep on following.
Speaker 2:Isn't the white lady the one that? Oh no, that's? I thought it was like if you're pregnant, they're going to follow you.
Speaker 1:I thought it was when you're pregnant, the, what is it called? The half lady?
Speaker 2:Oh, the one that they touch from the bottom and then they start flying like this yeah, the.
Speaker 1:I forgot what it's called, but they're the ones that.
Speaker 2:So that's they go on the roof.
Speaker 1:Yeah, they go on the roof and their tongue comes down from the roof through the belly to get the unborn. And then they fly away.
Speaker 2:So the white lady? I really don't know the story behind white lady. All I know is you know you see one you're like yeah you're, you gotta hurry up and take off and whatever you can do, but you don't look back.
Speaker 1:That's why I'm the same way too. So much I think I think over there. Man, so much, so much, do you still watch the old Filipino movies?
Speaker 3:Oh yeah.
Speaker 2:Who's your favorite like old, let's say old comedian, or old actor or actress Comedy.
Speaker 1:I'll say old See.
Speaker 2:Dolphy.
Speaker 1:You like Dolphy, yeah, rene.
Speaker 2:Requestas for me.
Speaker 1:I don't know who that is, you donie? Yeah, rene Requestas for me.
Speaker 2:I don't know who that is you don't know Rene Requestas, he was in.
Speaker 1:He was in movies with Joey DeLeon. He was in with Panchito Kimpy DeLeon. Oh, he was with. Yeah, so that era, I love that era of like old school.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you're old school.
Speaker 1:You're old school, I know, I know how. About actresses? Did you have a favorite actress growing up?
Speaker 2:As a comedian actress or no?
Speaker 1:just anyone in general.
Speaker 2:Sino ba Too many. I like Maha Salvador, Maha oh okay.
Speaker 3:I like the.
Speaker 1:Vina Morales.
Speaker 3:That was like my all-time crush.
Speaker 1:I'm like oh, vina hi.
Speaker 2:I want to get her on the podcast one day.
Speaker 1:Really, oh my gosh, yes, girl, why not?
Speaker 2:She's probably old too, but then I'll be like hey, vina I have your old poster huh, they look good, oh right like ivy? Is that the one that makes your? Skin white no, the um, yung face clinic, oh yung nagpapapacial sila like this yeah, not injection like the mga pinapahid sa buka or oh, okay oh, yung mga yeah, you're right makeup.
Speaker 1:LED, whatever, oh the um, they don't put nothing in, but they do like the extra. Like lighting procedures, yes, and they put they don't put Nothing in, but they do like the extra like Lighting procedures?
Speaker 3:Yes, and they put in like the facial, the chemicals and stuff. Yeah.
Speaker 1:I know a lot of Aunties that go to the Philippines. Like out here. They go to the Philippines, go to I don't know if it's Japan. Yeah, yeah, they bring a lot of that stuff back Because they don't Sell it here. Yeah, they bring, bring a lot of that stuff back because they don't sell it here. Yeah, they bring it back in boxes and they sell it. Oh, there's a lot of that going on oh yeah oh yeah, mia, how did you meet your husband was, was it?
Speaker 2:you going after him?
Speaker 1:okay, okay, so yeah long story short you know what's funny, though?
Speaker 2:because I always tell people, when they ask me how did you meet your husband? I'll always say um high school sweetheart. But I just found out we're really not high school sweetheart, because we didn't start talking or dating after I graduated high school. Yes, I'm older than him oh, oh, okay. It's one year, okay, only one year. Okay, cougar, okay, but we went to high school together, obviously.
Speaker 2:And on my last, on my senior year. That's when I start seeing him on the math building hallway. Oh nerd, no, because that was our. He had a. His first subject was math, and I have math with a different teacher, though.
Speaker 1:Okay.
Speaker 2:So every time I go into the door and then I'll see him sitting in front of his uh, math class and I was just. This is every morning. I'll see him and he would just like look like, stared down on me, just up and down oh, fucking creepy ass and math you know like yeah, yeah, who, who does that? Yeah, right, so I'll walk. This is everyday. He would even break his neck like I'll look back like low key and he's still fucking staring. I'm like what the heck?
Speaker 1:wow, you're pretty huh.
Speaker 2:I'm like, why don't you just talk to me or say, hi so after I graduated, which? Is 2006, um, I think I'll say like couple months later we met at safeway is there a?
Speaker 1:safeway there in hawaii oh yeah there's a safeway, yeah yeah.
Speaker 2:So we met in safeway. We kind of like bump into each other. When I was walking out I was with my cousin and he was coming in and we kind of locked in eye to eye like hey, I know this guy. Kind of like that look.
Speaker 1:Yeah, like I know you.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and then I told my cousin. I'm like I know that dude from high school, that's that creepy ass that keep looking at me in the hallway, yeah, and I was like like, do you like him? I was like no, and then here she goes. I said no, and then like she went back and said, hey, my cousin likes you I'm like oh hell, no, so that's where it started. So if my cousin didn't like, approached him uh he wouldn't. I don't think he would ever say hi or ask my number wow, wow safeway huh, yep wow what a what a cute love story.
Speaker 1:Huh, that's cute. No, not really. Nah, that's more of creepy. No, actually. No, it's not creepy, it's more of a thank you, cousin, for the assist. Right, yeah, thank you. So back in high school did you say hi to everyone when you were passing by the hallways, or were you more to yourself?
Speaker 1:Because back in high school school I said hi to everyone fat, small mexican white, I'm like so you're a social butterfly, huh, no, no way, I was just um, because I guess back in high school I knew that one day in the future I'm gonna see him again and I don't want them to be like oh man, there's that asshole that never said hi to me and I pass by him like every day in the same hall, or it's one of those, because I was a child kid and I wanted someone to say hi to me too. So maybe that person was me like oh, I am, I am seen. So this guy saying hi to me is like oh, I am someone you know, I was like real conscious, like that back in high school. So were you that same type of person? Or were you like oh, here we go, go to class.
Speaker 2:Go to class. I always yeah, I always look down. I don't want to be bothered. That's when I just now find out that I'm an introvert.
Speaker 1:Really.
Speaker 2:I'm an introvert too. I introvert, really, I'm an introvert too. I know how to turn it on. Oh my gosh manang, if you just say hi here and there when you see people for to be noticed, that's not introvert, social?
Speaker 1:no, no way. Like, when I'm like in a crowd, I'm like, I'm by myself, like I'm I don't. If I don't know anyone, I'm by myself. Or like, if I see someone, I'm going to be attracted to that someone and I'm going to stay with that person until hey, this is chris, oh. Hey, this is my friend mia. Oh okay, hey, and then I'll chop it up right, but if it's just me and that person, I'm sticking to that person or I'm going home. Oh, okay well, yeah, I was, was an introvert.
Speaker 2:I think it's. I think it's because, at the same time, I was scared too, because I was bullied.
Speaker 1:No way.
Speaker 2:Oh yeah.
Speaker 1:Really so back in high school. You don't look like the way you do now. You look no.
Speaker 3:What long hair.
Speaker 2:I was skinny, I was a cardboard, I was flat everywhere, spongebob, you know my body was like shape of. Spongebob square. I was skinny, Like I was skin and bones back in the day.
Speaker 3:Okay, I have braces.
Speaker 2:My glasses. I have eyeglasses. My glasses was this thick oh, me too. You know, like when it's thick like that, your eyes from outside look.
Speaker 1:Yes, no small. Oh, mine look big. Yeah, mine look big Because I couldn't see far.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I couldn't see far. That was my problem.
Speaker 1:Oh really. Oh, we have something in common. It was mine. We're blind as hell. I know we're blind as hell.
Speaker 2:Yeah, oh okay.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I was bullied Because of my accent I have like hardcore accent back in the day, I still do uh so um no yeah, I was bullied how did you, uh, how did you handle, like the bullies in school, like, what did you do to you know, keep on going.
Speaker 2:Nothing.
Speaker 1:You just let it happen. Oh, you ignored it.
Speaker 2:Yeah, even though I was hurt as hell, like I just kept walking away and just you know, try to forget about it.
Speaker 1:Oh, do you think kids, nowadays it's like the bullying is much more worse than it was before, back in our time I don't want us to sound old, but back in our day was it? Is it harder now than it was before the bullying?
Speaker 2:Or same same.
Speaker 1:Yeah, cause you know how social media is now. You know like everything could get posted back in our time when we get bullied. It was more of like an in school you got to be there, type of thing you know what, if?
Speaker 2:if I a perspective, you know, as a content creator, I would say now I get bullied more now, specifically with freaking adults uh-huh like they're, they're like the worst bully ever right, it's like why uh-huh? Yeah, it's crazy, yeah, it's worse now I think it's.
Speaker 1:Uh, I think it's because, since you have such a high social media following, I think it's just them trying to get a reaction out of you so you could talk to them. Do you ever think that way?
Speaker 2:sometimes like they're seeking attention uh-huh so there's some days that I do give them attention, like when, when they still have the option you can pin. Yeah, you can pin the the comments, I would do that. So, okay, you want attention, go ahead and then my followers will give them attention. Oh, okay, the video will you know?
Speaker 1:so they get bullied uh-huh, but I don't wow you don't follow it, necessarily no that's good, that is so good. Are you? Is Washington your final destination as a family, or do you guys ever have any other talks of like, say, moving to another place, another cold place like Washington?
Speaker 2:cold place. I hate the cold yeah, okay.
Speaker 1:Well, I mean, you're in Washington, so it's kind of muggy over there.
Speaker 2:And for your husband's sake too. Not at the moment, but specifically with the economy right now, I think it will stay put for until you know. I don't know when it gets better, but we were actually wanting to go back to Arizona because we missed that. The sunny days, but once the girls graduate and they move out and do their own thing, me and my husband planning on to move. Whether that's like Philippines or Thailand, I don't know.
Speaker 1:Somewhere in.
Speaker 2:Asia.
Speaker 1:Really, why Asia and not like, say, europe or South America or any of those other places? Why did you say Asia specifically?
Speaker 2:Because I'm Asian.
Speaker 1:Oh, my God. And our food is the best hey there it is, and you know that, yeah, you know not just Filipino food, Japanese food, korean food.
Speaker 2:From you know just everything. Our food is the best.
Speaker 1:It is no, it is Bar none. It is, I don't know Favorite, um like dish mode, like what's your favorite dish? Japanese, japanese, japanese. What makes Japanese food so good to you? What like the best?
Speaker 2:I think it's because I used to live in Japan for five years.
Speaker 3:Wow, okay, that's something new.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Wow, why Japan? Like, how did you end up in Japan?
Speaker 2:My parents used to work. I mean my mom used to work in Japan.
Speaker 1:No way. She did marry a Japanese back in the day, so you're Filipino and Japanese.
Speaker 2:No. No full Filipino. Full Filipino.
Speaker 1:Oh, okay okay.
Speaker 2:Filipino-American.
Speaker 3:Oh, phil-am huh.
Speaker 2:Phil-am.
Speaker 3:Phil-am.
Speaker 2:Phil-am.
Speaker 1:So Japanese, Okay. So what's your favorite Filipino dish then?
Speaker 2:I would say Of course. And all of the fried fish.
Speaker 1:Really.
Speaker 2:I love fish yeah.
Speaker 1:I'm surprised you didn't say sisig, because sisig and kilawin is like my top.
Speaker 2:I know, don't they put like pig's ear in that thing? I'm not maarte. Promise Hindi ako maarte. It's just that I don't like I don't know, because I think I was traumatized when I was a kid. I seen like a hair, oh, that could do it. Yep, that's it.
Speaker 1:That could do it, that could do it. So, dinaguan, do you have a problem with Dinaguan? No, I love Dinaguan too Okay, problem with dinuguan no.
Speaker 2:I love dinuguan too. I like everything. I think the only thing I hated when I was growing up was what's that? The bitter melon.
Speaker 1:Squash.
Speaker 2:Ampalaya you don't like that. I hated it back in the day, but now I love it, because you have to find that person that knows how to cook it so it's not bitter. Wow, that is the secret. There it is. That is the secret.
Speaker 1:Who does more of the cooking in the house? You or the husband? You? Why you? Does your husband not know how to cook? You know more of the traditional dishes. Is that it not know how to cook? You know more of the traditional dishes. Is that it? You know how to cook more.
Speaker 2:Yep, I know more of the traditional From scratch.
Speaker 1:More ethnic dishes, and then he has the American dish Going on.
Speaker 2:No hate to all my American friends.
Speaker 1:I love me my hamburgers and macaroni salad. Yeah, I me my hamburgers and macaroni salad.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I love the hamburgers and the um, what is that? The ribs and yeah, you know he sees he's black, so he's more on the side of season yeah salt and pepper ain't seasoning.
Speaker 1:You better put something else on there.
Speaker 2:Yeah, but I like my side better.
Speaker 1:Oh, of course.
Speaker 2:And I thank my dad for teaching me how to cook, even though he was such a dick.
Speaker 1:I have daddy issues. Daddy issues, oh my gosh. What are the daddy issues? Because I have mommy issues. What are the daddy issues? Because I have mommy issues? What?
Speaker 2:are the daddy issues for you. Okay, so my dad is a straight up narcissist.
Speaker 1:Okay.
Speaker 2:Okay, so whatever all that, the qualities of a narcissist is my issue, hmm a narcissist is my issue. He was more onto verbal abuse.
Speaker 1:Okay, I understand that. So, yeah, oh, wow Crazy my mommy issues is they grew up with one, so I don't know I think I have. Wow Crazy my mommy issues is, uh, they grew up with one, so I don't know. I just I have, I think I have abandonment issues, women abandonment issues, I think I don't know. Just try to make talk, but um no, I do have like women issues. That's what my therapist says, but I'm working on it.
Speaker 1:Women issue yeah, women issues, that's what my therapist says, but I'm working on it. Women issue yeah, so it's like it's hard for me to trust a woman. Ah or like so me and my wife. It's like I'm sharing now, but before. It used to be like oh, this is my things, I'm not sharing it, it's mine. I paid for this. It's my, you know, it's mine. Like my food, I cooked it. You could have some, but it's mine.
Speaker 2:You know, like something like that.
Speaker 1:So that's how you were yeah before. Yeah, but I'm better now. I'm good yeah that's good your therapy does a long way. Huh yeah, we're growing.
Speaker 2:For a long time too.
Speaker 1:We're still growing.
Speaker 2:We're so much up here For a long time too. We're still growing.
Speaker 1:We're so matching up here.
Speaker 2:I know we're still growing.
Speaker 1:Really Right Shit.
Speaker 1:The expenses you put in for therapy, and the crying and the freaking, overthinking and all of that yeah, oh, my God, girl, I was so opposed to therapy and I was like, no, i'm'm a man, I'm not supposed to go. I'm supposed to deal with my feelings like you know the way, I know how. But then the army told me to go to therapy and I'm like, okay, I'll go. And then ever since then I've been going like once a week to therapy and it helped out a lot because I know how to communicate a little bit more. I know how to, let's say, in therapy they teach me how to. I could control my feelings. I can't control what you react or how you know. So, yeah, I like therapy a lot.
Speaker 2:It's like it's someone non-biased you know, yes, and you feel, you feel so great after, like, I was gonna ask you a question um, so is your mom in your life right now? No, well, that's okay, I like it. Go ahead, gointerview.
Speaker 1:Oh, she's not. That's okay, I like it. Go ahead. Go ahead, ask me. Oh, no, she's not.
Speaker 3:Was she ever?
Speaker 1:For a little bit, yeah, but she was like in and out, so she was in for a little bit out and then the final time was when I think when I was in like the ending of elementary school for me elementary. That's when she was like gone.
Speaker 3:Gone why.
Speaker 1:So I was like okay. So my dad was like okay.
Speaker 2:I'll take care of you guys.
Speaker 1:I'm like hey, all right, high five yeah.
Speaker 2:Wait, so was your dad ever there.
Speaker 1:My dad was there all the time.
Speaker 2:Then why would he say okay, I'll take care of you guys?
Speaker 1:No, I mean, you know, like he didn't leave. That's what I meant. Oh, to be like the mom and the dad. Yeah, yeah, oh, okay, I thought, like it was never in the picture. Yeah, isn't it? Yeah, is it not hard, though, like your?
Speaker 2:dad how your dad is like the toxic it's. It was a little off of that. You have a mom issue like yeah, it was hard it is.
Speaker 1:It's very difficult but, like with my dad, like I knew how to, I guess I knew how to talk to him to where. Uh, I guess I knew how to communicate with my dad in my own way. You know, so, like I guess, when he's a little bit of drunk, you know, when he's a little drunk, I know when to have that heart-to-heart talk with him, because he's God, we can still relate yeah, so his levels of his wall is lessened, so I know how to like. Oh yeah, I can talk to him now.
Speaker 2:You're more chill, right?
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, you're drunk, yeah because my dad had like two, three jobs, so I knew his stress levels were high. So if he was like inebriated, a little drunk, his defenses is low, like he could relax for a little bit. That's when I know I can talk to him.
Speaker 2:That's same low Like he could relax for a little bit. That's when I know I could talk to him.
Speaker 1:That's same here. Oh my gosh.
Speaker 2:The only time I can like open up to him about just things are when he's drunk.
Speaker 1:Yeah right, why is that? Why do you think is that?
Speaker 2:Or just having like a session of like drinking and shit yeah, having like a session of like drinking and shit yeah, every time.
Speaker 1:Why does that? Why do you think that lowers down people's like, say, walls when you're kind of buzzed or whatever?
Speaker 2:I don't know, I really don't know.
Speaker 1:Are you the same way too?
Speaker 2:Not that we're talking about this, what that's when I'm able to.
Speaker 1:Yeah, like to say Express my feelings. Yeah, more when you're a little bit, you know, inebriated, no, okay.
Speaker 2:No, I'm more goofy when I get drunk.
Speaker 1:Do you get red If?
Speaker 2:I'm goofy. Now I'm more goofy, oh yeah, oh Red, and I'll be like Asian glow huh. Yeah, but anyways, no, no, that's so cool like we connect to that I know, girl, there's a lot of us around.
Speaker 1:We just gotta find each other. You know, yeah, small world, small world um Miss Mia. That was fun that was real fun. Um, do you have any shout outs or anything, or um, where can these people, these people find you and your funny, hilarious self?
Speaker 2:I am everywhere guys YouTube, instagram, tiktok, ventures with Mia Same username?
Speaker 1:Wow, same username, and do you have any shout outs or anything? Wow, same username, and do you have any shoutouts or anything?
Speaker 3:Uh Um.
Speaker 1:Not really. He's like nah, man, nah, I'm good, alright cool with that being said. Ko Studios. Thank you for the lovely home. Raffy Bite, thank you for the lovely beats man, and that's it, I'm Chris. And I'm mia thank you thank you, and we out this bitch peace.
