The REALationship Method
The REALationship Method is a comedic podcast about dating, relationships, and advice, blending tips with plenty of tangents. With stories and experiences shared by the cast and guests, it offers cautionary tales to help you avoid making the same mistakes. So sit back, relax, and maybe learn a thing or ten!
The REALationship Method
Cultural Context Shaping Relationship Expectations and Never Turning Down an Audition with Stacey
Actress, dancer, and bartender Stacey joins Chris for a captivating conversation about navigating creative careers and personal relationships with authenticity and resilience. Their discussion weaves between professional insights and deeply personal revelations, creating an episode that's both entertaining and profoundly relatable.
Stacey's multifaceted career offers a unique lens on human behavior. Behind the bar, she's developed an uncanny talent for reading people within seconds—"If I can tell you're trouble, I will not open a tab with you"—a skill that translates seamlessly to her work in acting. Her journey from dancing at age 13 to acting professionally reveals the technical challenges most viewers never consider, like mastering "eye lines" when transitioning from dance to film.
The conversation takes a particularly powerful turn when Stacey shares her journey of healing after heartbreak, including an impulsive solo trip to Thailand that became a transformative experience of self-discovery. "I was going to be okay by myself," she realized—a lesson that continues to inform her approach to relationships. This vulnerability opens up a broader discussion about setting boundaries, recognizing red flags, and the challenge of maintaining identity while connecting authentically with others.
Cultural perspectives add depth to their discussion of relationships, with Stacey noting that divorce remains illegal in the Philippines, highlighting how cultural contexts significantly shape relationship expectations. Both agree that modern relationships face unique challenges, including social media pressures and the paradox of endless options leading to commitment hesitation.
Whether you're navigating creative careers, healing from heartbreak, or simply seeking authentic perspectives on modern relationships, this episode offers both entertainment and thoughtful insights from someone who has successfully balanced professional ambition with personal growth. Find Stacey behind the bar at Asia Sticks in Waikiki, where her bartending skills and life wisdom can be experienced firsthand.
• Bartending taught Stacey to read people instantly and protect her energy by closing tabs with difficult customers
• Acting and filming require mastering technical elements like "eye lines" which differ significantly from dance performance
• Started dancing at age 13 after seeing a performance that inspired her confidence and self-expression
• Impulsively booked a solo trip to Thailand after a heartbreak, which became a transformative journey to independence
• Learning to detox from unhealthy relationships requires giving yourself "time and a whole lot of grace"
• In the film industry, reliability and communication are crucial - never turn down auditions if you're represented
• Traveling solo and finding your independence is key to recovering from heartbreak
• The contrast between modern relationships and traditional arrangements (like in the Philippines where divorce is illegal)
• Social media creates unrealistic expectations in relationships - not everything needs to be shared publicly
5, 4, 3, 2, 1. Welcome back to another episode of the relationship method podcast. It's your boy, chris, and today I have a very lovely guest. Her name's stacy. She's an actress, a dancer, um, can I say the? Uh, your job yes she is also, um a giver of drinks during the nightlife, so, um, she's a bartender. God damn it. Uh welcome to the motherfucking pod yay stacy. Thank you for uh rolling through this, motherfucker thank you for having me.
Speaker 1:Girl, before we start going on this shit, how did I get the yes from you to come on?
Speaker 2:Oh, you just asked.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah. Oh so ask and you shall receive type of situation.
Speaker 2:But then you knew one of the other girls I worked with. Yeah, yeah, yeah. We all FBI agents. We have to be like who's this and who do you know and who's your mutual friends? Yeah, yeah yeah, I liked it and I listened to some of the girls talking and I was like, wow, this is so funny.
Speaker 1:I love it. I love it, okay, okay.
Speaker 2:Like. I just like the first two, three seconds of one of the videos. I was like this is cool.
Speaker 1:Hey, thank you so much. Thank you so much for listening.
Speaker 2:I'm like ADD here and if you can't catch my attention in like three seconds I move on.
Speaker 1:You're like this right.
Speaker 2:I was like oh my God, this is actually funny.
Speaker 1:So you say ADD is it? Did you go through a therapist for that Like, are you for sure?
Speaker 2:I'm like self one of those like self-diagnosed Like I just feel like certain things don't catch my attention. Yeah, like it's very, like I have to like it uh huh, it's just hard.
Speaker 1:Are you like that in school? Oh, like, when you went to school, were you like man? This class is fucking boring.
Speaker 2:Yes, math, oh, but I liked all right, but everything else that was like art yeah social studies, english creative things. It was more um something that was uh interesting to me. Yeah. And then I realized that's like how my brain works. It's more creative. Math is always like one solution. I'm not a one solution person.
Speaker 1:Oh, so you're a type of you're the girl. That's like there's a way, but then there's other ways to solve this problem. So I'm going to go those other ways.
Speaker 2:Yeah, like like there's 10 different outcomes, like the multiverse. You know that whatever you do, there's something else is gonna happen, and it's fine and it's okay. And then math always just gave me anxiety, because it's like what, if I anything I did wrong here, if it doesn't come out to that answer, then you better do it again. And it's like I just math was very hard for me.
Speaker 1:Girl facts. I fucking hated math. I hated the polygraphic, those theorems that you have to do. When am I ever gonna use that shit in life? You know what I'm saying?
Speaker 2:No, I just asked my coworker who's really smart with money and counting. I just asked him to like here what is this? That's it. You can do it. You know, my coworkers are very supportive, but I'm like yeah, no, don't even, Don't ask me, Even with tips. It's like 50%. I know 50%.
Speaker 1:Any other percent. I'm like I don't know. Ooh girl, how long have you been bartending for?
Speaker 2:I've been bartending now for five or six years.
Speaker 1:Girl, was it hard when you started off, like remembering drinks and mixing them for you know, for people, because I could only imagine, especially in the nightlife they're like oh, I want this this, this all quick. Was it hard for you, like the first go around?
Speaker 2:No, oh shit.
Speaker 1:So you knew your shit.
Speaker 2:No, it's just because I actually like putting things together. I don't know it's a creative thing for me. But uh, with customers and if they're being difficult, I'm really good at diffusing it. Like you can kind of, if you're a nightlife person, you can kind of read the person already how they're going to be, what type of person they're going to be, what type of person they're going to be, so you kind of diffuse that. So like to even like ease stress for me, especially for busy, I will tell, I'll tell the customer, hey, we're really busy. So just so you know, your drink might be a little bit late, but what can I get for you? I do that to every person. I'm very, I'm a good person, like I can tell, or I can tell if someone's going to be trouble. I'm a good person.
Speaker 2:I can tell or I can tell if someone's going to be trouble, yeah, and if I can tell you're trouble, I will not open a tab with you. Oh really. Because I don't want to go back to you, I just close you out. Oh, that's a freaking good tip. So if you see this podcast and you're mad about that, yeah, because maybe you're mean to me and I'm just going to close you out- oh, to me, and I'm just going to close you out, oh girl. Like when you leave a tab open.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, yeah, you have to keep going back to them right, yeah.
Speaker 2:Like you know, if I have someone that's just really just like about to ruin my night, I'm like, okay, pay it out, bye, and I don't even have to go to you ever again.
Speaker 1:Really has a situation ever came where they didn't pay? Yes, yes, last night. Ooh, let them know. Last night Was it a gentleman or a female?
Speaker 2:It was a female too.
Speaker 1:No way I thought females would be more classier at the bar.
Speaker 2:They were just gone, and then they just Local or was this person from? Local.
Speaker 1:Oh, oh. In your occupation plural you messed with local and, I guess, mainlanders and stuff who are the easiest to like, say, work with or get along with, in your opinion.
Speaker 2:Oh my gosh, the locals.
Speaker 1:Locals. Okay, okay, okay.
Speaker 2:Yeah, they tip more Okay they tip more, all right. Yes, they're the most easygoing.
Speaker 1:How about, in the acting field, locals or like easy to work with or easy to be around, locals or people from the mainland, or can you yeah?
Speaker 2:It depends.
Speaker 1:Okay.
Speaker 2:It depends because in the mainland they have certain expectations that work within the industry that you need to be a certain way, work within the industry that you need to be a certain way, and then locals. It's just hard when they don't. Which industry are we talking about?
Speaker 1:Are we talking about the filming industry? The filming industry, yeah, yes, the filming industry.
Speaker 2:Locals would be a little bit harder if they don't know enough about what is expected of them to the mainland standards in the film industry. Does that make sense? Yes. Yeah, they have a different learning, a different structure and you know it's kind of hard when you're on an island, you're far from everything. What they know, what their expectations are, you may not agree with but you have to. It's what works.
Speaker 1:Okay, let me ask you this We'll stick on filming when you're auditioning, right, and you and I could connect on this one, because I did an audition and I kind of bombed it.
Speaker 2:No, you didn't. No, hell yeah. No, there's no such thing as bombing.
Speaker 1:He will try next time I didn't get the callback. But I mean it was one of those shits and giggles. Hey, why not? Because it was an ad on Instagram. It was like oh, we need a certain character field or whatever. So I sent in, I guess, my resume and a headshot. My resume was freaking blank. I just put host of a podcast and that was it.
Speaker 2:Okay, he's something. At least he knows how to talk, yeah, so.
Speaker 1:I did that and then it was somewhere in Kaneohe.
Speaker 2:Okay. I map-quested that motherfucker and then Damn, I did that for here too, oh yeah.
Speaker 1:So I talked to several people and then I was like, oh, we'll call you back. And then in my head I was like, fuck. So yeah, like what do you do before auditions to lessen, like, say, the anxious anxiety inside you, or does it come natural when you're trying to get these roles?
Speaker 2:I learned that you have to prepare. You have to prep. And when I say say prep, it's not even just the night before, although, like you will get auditioned and stuff last minute. But I've been like, I've been training. I do have a coach, um, that I talk to on zoom, and it's the more you do it. You have to treat your auditions also like educational pieces. You know you have to treat your auditions also like educational pieces. You know you have to change your mindset. It's just change that mindset of okay, I'm going to get it, I'm going to be famous this and this and this. No, why do you love acting? Why do you love film? So I'm going to keep going to these auditions. Treat it like classes. I'm going to go to these classes. Treat it like oh, this is like you're pursuing journalism or something.
Speaker 2:This is my speaking class. You have to approach it like that and when you approach it like that, change your mindset. You're less anxious, you're less anxiety because you're treating it like that's the first thing I have to do. But no, just remember the reason why you're even going. Okay, but definitely prepare, prepar, do, but no, like just remember the reason why you're even going. Okay, not like you know, but like definitely prepare, preparation, you know. And then just um, stay focused and that's what I have to do oh, um, first time being on camera.
Speaker 1:How was that like for you? Because, uh, my first time on camera, I was I can't even do a regular photo shoot without being so like goofy on set. You know how were you when you first got on camera Were you like did you feel awkward? Or like when they started filming you were you like, oh shit, what am I doing wrong? Because in my head I'm doing everything right.
Speaker 2:So I'm a dancer. Yes girl, we both talk about this, we're both dancers. He used to dance. We're very aware with our bodies, we're aware of how we look, so I don't have a problem being on camera. But when it comes to filming, I didn't know. They have things called eye lines. So eye lines are like, so we're looking directly here.
Speaker 1:Yes.
Speaker 2:This is a podcast. It's okay to look directly here, but when you're acting you gotta look like somewhere else, because on screen right, what actor is looking directly?
Speaker 1:at the camera. Yeah, you're not.
Speaker 2:Your eye lines are here and it's like you know whoever you're talking to, right. But it's so hard when you know that equipment is right here but you gotta ignore that. You know eye lines. Eye lines were the hardest for me, yeah. So every time I audition for something, the first thing I think of is my eyelines, because that's my biggest weakness. I'm so used to.
Speaker 1:Looking at the camera.
Speaker 2:Even if I'm dancing, we're not looking off anywhere, unless that's what you have to do, but I'm like looking right at the camera. So, yeah, I don't have a problem being on camera. But it's my eyelines if it's, you know, film work. Oh okay, everything is training, everything is just like.
Speaker 1:Just training, huh.
Speaker 2:Yeah, little things like this, people don't know.
Speaker 1:Oh, okay.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:And then in dancing too, because I've seen your posts and dancing. I love your facials. Your facials are on point.
Speaker 2:You have to.
Speaker 1:BT dub. How'd you get into the whole dancing thing?
Speaker 2:I'm a 90s baby.
Speaker 1:Yes, girl.
Speaker 2:So I grew up with no cameras. Guys, do you remember the camera with the small one right?
Speaker 1:You have the small cameras. You also got the big ones too. Yes, small ones where you just flip open, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2:So everyone realized now that in the 90s we didn't. When you did take a dance class, you had to remember that choreo, you didn't take home a video. Mm-hmm. Like but you know, we're lucky now we have that video, but I I remember drawing the choreography out like my arms were like here or whatever. I had little stick figures but like it just. But you know, remember now we didn't have anything to film us and whatnot you just had to remember retain it.
Speaker 2:But it was good training because you learn retention. And then you learned um to have confidence in yourself that you could retain it, and then it just helps you learn things more faster. But then I got started when I was about 13 years old, 12 or 13. And I remember it was Knicks Pack. They had a performance and they were dancing contemporary to Patti LaBelle's New Attitude. And.
Speaker 2:I just remembered this for the podcast because I felt like you're going to ask that. And they look so confident. These dancers look so confident, they look so beautiful and they were just talented. They could turn, they could flip and I was like I want to do that, but I was so shy. But also I loved all those music videos. I love Britney Spears, I love Christina Aguilera and I was like I want to dance like that. They look so hot. You know, Everyone wants to look good. Oh, yeah, definitely, yeah, yeah. And also because I was so young. Also I tell this to all my friends too. They ask me. They all see other reasons Because I wasn't like the coolest person back in elementary. I was such a dork and I was quiet and no boy would ever like talk to me, but they did when I started dancing. But anyway, yeah, so that's how I got it started, because I saw that performance and then I looked into studios in Kaneohe and, yes, I did start with Dance Force 24-7.
Speaker 2:I did and I Force 24-7. I did and I just remember my first class. I was just really scared, Like I remember, after we did the, they taught us a combo. Yeah, I actually ran off. You know when they were like okay, let's do it as a group.
Speaker 2:Like, yeah, groups of four or five, yeah, and I think I didn't like I messed up on a few things and I just was like, oh my gosh, and then I just ran off. But you know what I mean? I was young, but it was also a learning tool too. Like, as you get older, when you mess up, you have to keep going, and I take these things with me. I still dance, but yeah, that's how I got started. I saw a performance and I wanted the boys to like me Shaking that shit for all the boys and then, like now I don't care anymore, I'm like no, I actually truly love this. Oh, good for you girl, good for you.
Speaker 2:I never stop.
Speaker 1:Girl, I remember the first time I messed up on, like in a group's combo or whatever, and I just stood there because I couldn't get back into it, because I was like damn, I tried, I was like hmm, Sometimes that works. Oh yeah, so next time around I came through, I killed it afterwards. But those groups, like when they say, hey, let's just do groups it's intimidating, because I mean, it's, the focus is on you Now, you're not watching other people.
Speaker 2:I'm guilty of that.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, I'd be watching all the time. I'm like I like being in the back, but now, like after paying for a class, I'm like, fuck this, I'm trying to go to the front.
Speaker 2:He's the same like me. That's how I think, too hiding about like you.
Speaker 1:just okay, back in the day it was like 10 a class. Now you're paying 25. You better push yourself to that girl. Yeah, 25, yeah, so I'll be going up um in these classes now yeah I've noticed a lot of people be coming dressed up you paid for your outfit too, absolutely like I remember like when I was dancing it was just shorts, maybe some vans and a tee, and I'm just he's calling me out too, yeah, yeah no.
Speaker 2:And in high tops and for the girls. It was like we had the whole 2000s, like I don't know, it was like your, it was like a tank.
Speaker 1:Yeah, a tank and like some, like big baggy sweats or a flannel I had a flannel, sometimes a fitted.
Speaker 2:Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, dime piece, yeah, oh my.
Speaker 1:God, yes, so I remember all that. And then, yeah, oh man, you're taking me down memory lane.
Speaker 2:It better be fitted. That's so cool.
Speaker 1:Oh my gosh, yeah, so that's when I was dancing. But now I'm seeing people dancing in teams. I'm like, dude, that's so freaking hard and they're wearing jeans too and I'm like, fuck, I'm sweating in. Like in sweats, you're sweating your ass off. Have you ever done that? Have you ever like came like super fitted or I mean, you know yeah. You have no, no.
Speaker 2:Your question of like have I like Wonderful, great to see, because a lot. So now, like I dance with like adults maybe they just start dancing and I feel like whatever enhances your confidence If you just some girls, I'm just like, where did you get that? She looks good. And you know, I grew up I grew up where, like, we didn't always cheer people on, but now we got better with that, so it makes me happy to see girls. Yes.
Speaker 2:Even guys too, no matter everyone, because it's also your expression, and I just feel like when you do dress up, you know, depending on what you're dancing to, it brings it out more.
Speaker 1:However, there it is. I was waiting for the however.
Speaker 2:No, I do love it when people dress up, but make it make sense yes, when you're dancing like.
Speaker 2:So I, and also I believe this you can wear the most, you can be all decked out, but have it match your performance. I'll see girls there's nothing wrong with it, but like they're all decked out because, yes, you know you want to have the look, but if it doesn't match what you're doing, or maybe like your heel or your shoe gets caught in something hanging then no, it actually does not matter what you wear, what you look like. I've seen girls who don't even dress up. They just show up with a ponytail, but they but they're killing it. Yes, you don't even remember what she's wearing, but she killed it.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:She's like doing a headstand and whatever. Whatever, you're not looking at what she's wearing, you're looking at you know her technique, what she brought to the table. But I do remember like dancing with some girls and maybe they had a baggy shirt that looked cute, whatever, but the heel got caught on it or they have some accessory and it's like and it breaks, or like or like something gets caught.
Speaker 2:But you know like, yeah, when you're a dancer, like you know, you know like if you look at what they uh compete in, you know leotards clean everything, hair back, it's all for a reason yeah you know. So like it's okay to look good, but like just remember you might be on the floor, you might be turning.
Speaker 1:Yes.
Speaker 2:This might like get caught. Get snug and snaggy and shit.
Speaker 1:Oh my gosh and Dance. Have you ever competed, or did you just do a lot of performances?
Speaker 2:I did a lot of performances. I've never competed. When I look back, would I have ever competed? No. When I look back, would I have ever competed?
Speaker 1:No it was a lot of you know why not? Why wouldn't you have?
Speaker 2:Oh man, anxiety, A lot of anxiety, and I was still a little bit shy and I was still kind of figuring out where. I wanted to go and dance. Would I compete now as an adult? Absolutely, but like I was still like getting out of a lot of things, like growing up, um, dance wasn't something that supported in my family, you know this is true, yes, I grew up in a very strict family and, um, I, I, me and my sister did that on our own.
Speaker 2:We were just like we want to do this and we're gonna do it. She didn't stick around to it that much, but, um, she actually was the first one to take classes and then I followed after. Okay, she was actually actually the one to do theater. First. I got into film. Later she actually minored in theater. Really. That's another thing I tell people. I was like if my sister actually did theater work first, she was a theater girl.
Speaker 1:So she knew the ins and outs of theater.
Speaker 2:Yeah, she knew theater, but then theater and film are two different things. But, she was very confident on stage and everything like that.
Speaker 1:I was actually shy. I had to grow up. It's okay you bursted out of that bubble I did. You sure fucking did. Yes, hell yeah, you're an actor. Can you see yourself behind the camera, like, say, directing, producing, writing and?
Speaker 2:all that shit yeah.
Speaker 1:Yes, have you started behind the camera like, say, directing, producing writing and all that shit? Yeah, yes, um, have you started? Have you? Have you ever tried doing that yet?
Speaker 2:uh, so also I keep bringing up dancing. We dancers, choreographers yes they I don't know if anyone, but I know they're the best directors or the best everything. We're always coming out with content. We know how to film, like you've seen those dance videos. They are the best filmers. So I've like done my own, like dance videos with a storyline and things like that, because I'm a dancer, I know angles.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:So I know the camera angles, I know to go low, I know to go up, I know all these things I've done go low, I know to go up, I know all these things, I've done it before. It's stressful and I just I would just say the number one thing is that it's okay to go solo, guys, you can.
Speaker 2:It's okay to not work with everybody, but you must work with people who are at the same level as you, same passion same drive yeah yeah, they're very talented and communicate, communicate and um, yeah, because you know I like a lot of anything that you do, film, whatever, you may not always work well with that person, so you just gotta find someone that you click with.
Speaker 1:you know, it's like a marriage oh shut up, yeah you know, it's no, it is, it is, it is communicate with whoever you want to work with.
Speaker 2:Be like this is first of all. This is how I can be. Yeah, I'm very type A. I'm not saying I'm type A, I'm just saying like, just address everything, put it on the table. Don't be that person where, like, we work with you about maybe like a month or so, then we find out you're crazy, like. Oh Like. I'd oh shit, mm-mm, womp, womp, just let us know like, hey, I did this and this, but I am a really talented writer, I'm a very okay cool.
Speaker 1:Then we know we have this long to work with you before you have to go back to jail, you know yeah to jail you know, yeah, I'm just so kidding about that, but I'm just saying like it can happen, though I've worked with people where it's like oh, you're actually crazy, oh my god, have you ever like turned down, like said no to an uh, to a part that was offered to you or to a director that was like, oh, I think you'd suit this role real good. Have you you ever said no? And if so, like how did you?
Speaker 2:I've doubted myself, but I never turned down a role.
Speaker 1:That's good.
Speaker 2:Because I.
Speaker 1:You never know if that role.
Speaker 2:Also, certain agencies are not really certain, maybe actually all of them In the mainland. If you're signed with them, you can't turn down an audition, no way.
Speaker 1:Yeah, you know that. Yeah, you can't turn down an audition.
Speaker 2:No way. Yeah, you know that. Yeah, you have to. Yes, guys, don't turn on your auditions. If you ever signed? Yes Because it's like so. You can't because they're getting an audition. That already is an honor.
Speaker 2:Like someone saw you and was like hey, I want to see this person, I want to see this person. The more you submit, the more that's also putting yourself out there. They're like oh yeah, we can trust this person. We can keep giving this person auditions because they're going to answer. It shows, like you know, you're good at communicating, You're very reliable, all those things, because you're just going to do it and you're not giving up. You love to challenge yourself. I used to like ignore my auditions when I was younger, but now I'm like no, I take it?
Speaker 1:you take it serious? Yeah, I just take it. Yeah, oh, girl, that was.
Speaker 2:Oh, my god but if it's something where it's a little racy, you can ask questions.
Speaker 1:You're allowed you know as in like showing skin yeah, showing skin like the racist thing or whatever.
Speaker 2:Yeah, we're going to Nora over here, but I love that movie and I love her. But you know what I mean. Yeah, like something like that Playing an exotic dance or things like that. If it's outside your comfort zone, you can ask, you can talk about it, like you can be like, oh, you know, like what this is entail, whatnot that where I feel like as a woman or any person. If it's outside your comfort zone, you can ask about it and then proceed from there shit.
Speaker 1:Good to know. Good to know before we get to these questions. One more thing having an agent, is it easier to like, I guess, find these gigs, opposed to doing it on your own?
Speaker 2:I'm gonna going to say 50-50.
Speaker 1:50-50. Okay, okay, okay.
Speaker 2:I think a lot of the times I've been finding things on my own but my agent has been really good finding commercials and things like that.
Speaker 1:Do you have to tell your agent if you found something on your own? Yes.
Speaker 2:Yeah, read your contracts, guys, read. I know we don't like to read, but you need to read, yeah, because you know what I mean. That's going to get you in trouble if it's just read your contract. Don't just sign guys, Just read it.
Speaker 1:Yeah, don't sign that and talk to them, talk to them.
Speaker 2:Hey, if I find something on my own, na-na-na-na-na, because chances are whatever you found found on your own.
Speaker 1:They probably found it.
Speaker 2:Yes, someone already you know. And then you have to pay your fees and stuff.
Speaker 1:Oh damn.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Hmm, All right, let's get to these questions. Um dude, the first one uh, have you ever detox from someone? Detoxing, as in? Um, you're with a person for a long time, you know he or she is probably good for you, but you just can't be around them no more. So you eased off, you stayed away from that situation. Have you ever done that?
Speaker 2:This is such a beautiful question. It hits home and I started doing it recently. I hope whoever hears this from his podcast just know you can do this too. Hell yeah, give yourself I'm going to start with this Give yourself time and a whole lot of grace, because you can't get over something overnight, and then you need to just surround yourself by people who love you, and that should be enough. So this was just all recently. Oh, wow.
Speaker 2:And it's the opposite of what you said. He said he was good for her, absolutely not. Maybe some parts, maybe the memories. We all love our memories.
Speaker 1:Oh, yeah, definitely yeah.
Speaker 2:But you know, what Do we like?
Speaker 3:let me ask real quick and then I will answer that, no problem.
Speaker 2:No problem, I'm here for it like I feel like now relationships. It's like are you able to like keep it off of instagram, or does that matter so much to you that you show that girl? Let me tell you that I want me, me and my wife.
Speaker 1:We got, um, this is I'm not gonna say months ago, but it was a. It was a while back. We got into this argument. Yeah, she asked me why aren't you posting me anymore? And I'm like what do you mean? I'm not posting you? I post you and the kids.
Speaker 1:And where she says no, why aren't you posting me? And I was like I, I told her. I responded I was like yo, I'm in the moment, I'm in the with you. I don't need to take pictures of what's happening. You could do that because I know she likes to take pictures and she likes to post. But I also told her I was like I don't think everyone needs to know our business. If we're happy, shoot, let's be happy. If we're sad, man, we don't need to let everyone know that we're mad. So it took her a while to understand that, especially when I started podcasting. I I'm not going to lie, like I have like very pretty women on here. And of course she she asked me like oh, why don't you post in? Or are you kind of scared in posting me or whatever, or ashamed, I'm like dude, I'm rocking the ring, I talk about you on the pod.
Speaker 1:So it's like talking about it, yeah it's like you shouldn't, you shouldn't feel any type of any type of way. And um, I also tell her, like everything that's on the pod, I'm, it's strictly professional. Yeah, you know, I'm not trying to. I'm old enough to where I'm like man, I'm okay. You know, like I don't, I don't need to get it from anywhere else anywhere.
Speaker 2:And we're all adults to the point where it's like lawsuits. Do we have the money for this, guys?
Speaker 1:Exactly, I'm trying to think long term we need to let Diddy take care of himself.
Speaker 2:We're not trying. No, you know what I mean. Oh, that's so weird. We're at this point Like, okay, all these people are coming forward. No, we're good. Yeah, we're not going to be in lawsuits, that's great.
Speaker 1:So yeah, yeah, I told her that. And I'm just like yo, not everyone needs to know what's happening with me and you Like, of course I'll post the kids and you Just, you know, here and there, but doing it all the time, every day, I'm just like, nah, I'm good, and also it's my shit too, like, why can't I post what I want to post? Why do you have to, you know, add your two cents in, because I don't do that with her. So I'm hoping that but you're still there yeah you're still there, he comes home.
Speaker 2:He's coming home. Right, I come home every day, because if he be missing for a week or two, then there he comes home, he's coming home, right yeah come home every day, I might be missing for a week or two yeah by all means come down to the studio and bang on that door. I'd be like where is he where? Is he? You know, check the stories then you yeah, so real quick. I want to add on that, because also you have to think about celebrities. How hard is it for these couples?
Speaker 2:oh to tell everybody facts. Hey, we're no longer, you know, and I I do love the way they posted. They're like hey, as everyone knows that we are no longer together, but we're gonna prioritize our kids first and we ask the public for privacy. How hard is that? And you know they face judgment comments. But it's like you, we all don't know angelina jolie, we don't all know brad, but like you know like. Treat them like normal human beings, like how hard is that to?
Speaker 2:not that hard at all this like idea of what a marriage is, what a relationship is, and then all of a sudden they're not together.
Speaker 1:Everyone's like like I thought they were just, I thought they were what they adopted all these kids, what you know.
Speaker 2:So there's that. So, to go back to how did I detox? Yeah.
Speaker 2:Okay, I used to be and you know I came from a strict family. I wasn't. I didn't really have any guidance to any emotional consequences or anything that would happen into entering a relationship or whatnot. It was like I had to navigate it on my own, which was a journey, was the worst thing ever. But I would not be here today without really really good people and friends in my life and also traveling. I met a lot of people in my travels too that like coached me through everything.
Speaker 1:Oh, that's good yeah.
Speaker 2:So detoxing. One of the first ones was traveling solo, because ha.
Speaker 1:Wait, when you say travel solo like going to the supermarket by yourself or are you talking about like going out of state somewhere else by yourself? Solo?
Speaker 2:Okay, I'm so glad we're doing this podcast because I'm going to finally say this, my friends are going to be so proud of me. So, podcast, because I'm going to finally say this, my friends are going to be so proud of me. So, once upon a time, we're just going to. It's going to be quick and short, I'm not going to go, but if you, you guys, can like ask me the real story Once upon a time. Somebody like made me mad. Well, you know, the guy made me mad without even thinking. I was 27 years old and I booked a flight to Thailand. He lied to me. He lied to me. We're not going to get into that. It was Thanksgiving. I found out from his friend and I was like what he's going where?
Speaker 1:And you booked a flight right after that, and then I did everything wrong.
Speaker 2:I did all my flights wrong. So my friend when I was sleeping, bless her heart. Can I say her name? Yeah, yeah, yeah, definitely oh, my god, adrian, I love you shout out to you. Okay, but we're not gonna say her last name. But oh yeah, definitely not yeah, but I was like passed out in her apartment and I was just like you know, when you're that friend you have to go over your friend's house apartment. You're just like, you're like in a wreck and they have to calm you down, break open wine, all that she had to.
Speaker 2:Uh, because she's been there before and she had to fix my itinerary. She had to fix my tickets.
Speaker 2:I woke up with a and I go what, what? You did that for me. You fixed my stuff. I was like, but a while ago you said, don't do it. She was like, well, I think it's funny. And then I like went, yeah, I was yeah, but like I didn't end up like in the right area as him, but anyway, but hell hath no fury, but a woman pissed off Like I went to this country this is my first time traveling by myself. No, I'm sorry. Second, no, first time traveling to a different country by myself, second time traveling by myself, uh-huh, but I look back on all of that because I don't actually travel with people.
Speaker 2:I meet them, I meet my friends in the places, but it taught me that was one of the first things that taught me I was going to be okay by myself and independence and how to control my emotions better not be like booking somewhere I don't even know, but like. So I did a lot of that. I did a lot of traveling alone and I had to teach myself also, I was okay before this person. I can be okay after.
Speaker 1:Oh 100%.
Speaker 2:And, yes, for a little bit I was not going to dance class. I wasn't dancing for five years at one point, and then I I strictly just went into yoga. So yes, I'm a registered yoga teacher guys huh oh, hell yeah yeah, so I use that also as a form of therapy but, also to keep training and movement, just so in case.
Speaker 2:I went back into dance. So I guess, to sum it up, it is so hard to find yourself again, find who you are, so easy to give up everything you love for one person. But what I was taught from all these people that I met on my travels, whether it be dance, whatever, that's not the only kind of love that's out there. And even my own coworker told me she said she told a customer. I hate that society teaches us that in order to be happy or loved, that you have to have a partner. Yeah.
Speaker 2:Because I don't know if you know this I know we have like this run around communication it's actually illegal to divorce in the Philippines.
Speaker 1:Illegal. It's illegal to divorce in the Philippines.
Speaker 2:Yes.
Speaker 1:So if you're, if you get married in the Philippines, you want to get a divorce, you have to go to the Philippines, right?
Speaker 2:No, it's just illegal. When you're in the Philippines, you cannot divorce because it's under the church. These laws.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, you call.
Speaker 2:Filipino women crazy. No, it's just like we can't, they just can't. And they're still fighting it to this day. Uh-huh, can you imagine? It's not working out. It's all this. Yeah, and then you can't leave them no way.
Speaker 2:Because, yeah, so like and these are things she talked to me about I didn't know about that, yeah, so it puts you into perspective if something's not right for you and you have that ability to just go. Yeah, it will take time, but it's probably the best thing for you and just it's okay to love yourself and focus on yourself you're not being selfish. I love myself. I've always have. I just, you know, I was like in love, you know, but then yeah why do you think people think it's selfish of them to love themselves?
Speaker 1:Why do you think certain people think that way? Has that ever crossed your mind?
Speaker 2:Yes, and I figured this out. I do have a question, oh go ahead. Not a question, sorry, I do have an answer for that. So we're all recovering people, pleasers.
Speaker 2:It's those people in our lives. Let's go back and think about that one person who made you feel bad for not doing something. But you wanted to say no because you knew it wasn't going to do any good for you, but it made them happy. But were they ever there when you needed them? It's when those I would say I was like so much of a pleaser because somebody made me feel bad if I didn't do it.
Speaker 2:Like I was a failure Like oh, I'm not a good friend. And then you know, years pass by, we learn boundaries. Yeah.
Speaker 2:You know. So that's why I feel like people feel like they need to you never, ever. It's very rare to have that one person that tells you like hey, I know you're busy, just so you know it, you're good. So I I try to do that to people. I've done that to people and they're like wait, wow, why are you so chill and understanding. I was like I know what it's like to have that one person, one friend, who's like oh, so you just left my whatever, whatever late like, or like early like, you don't care, like I'm like. But now that I'm older and I'm in my 30s, shit makes sense now, like why you left early.
Speaker 2:Maybe I don't care about you I'm the same exact way.
Speaker 1:Oh my gosh, yeah I've. I've been fortunate enough to have to not have those conversations, because when I dip out I'm like, hey y'all, I'm out peace you the irish goodbye, yeah, yeah it's like I'm like I'm out of here, I get my daps, you know I'm out, you know so where's chris?
Speaker 2:yeah? Oh, that motherfucker left oh yeah, let's just check his instagram. Where is he? Oh, he left. He's out. He's at arby's guys down the road, that's what girl.
Speaker 1:Yeah. So like I've done that so many times, to where, the very first time I'm like man, would they think something. But then, after I started doing it, like, say, the sixth time, I'm like man, I don't give a fuck, I honestly don't care what they think, I'm just, I'm gone, I'm gonna go to sleep. You know I'm saying aren't? You a better friend person, brother, cousin, when you do that yeah, like without giving no explanation, just hey, man, this ain't for me, man, I'm out. Why, why I'm out what do you mean?
Speaker 1:I'm like nope, nope, I'm gone.
Speaker 2:I mean it was cool when we were younger and hanging out in the parking lot till like 6 am.
Speaker 1:But you know we're like yeah, when you get older, you got priorities and then, when, once those priorities hit, you're like, man, I can't be, I'm not gonna take this other shot because I know where it's gonna take me. Man, you're a pussy, I don't give a fuck, I'm a pussy that's gonna be home, you know, are you gonna see me in? No jail cell, but uh, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2:So, yeah, be responsible, y'all there you go and just let your friend dip out early yeah, like let them this you know he's alive. He or she's alive. You're fine, you know. Be like. You know. Be that friend. Now my friends are very like. Just text us when you get home, yeah, yeah it's like that too. And then you get all ADD and you're like just scrolling Are you home? I?
Speaker 1:was like oh my yes. Yeah, my bad dog, Are you a good like replier when it comes to texting?
Speaker 2:Absolutely I agree with that.
Speaker 1:Do you prefer texting or the phone calls?
Speaker 2:Phone calls, guys and voice notes. I am everyone knows I am the queen of voice notes.
Speaker 1:You did send me a voice note.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I was driving. Yeah okay, okay. I'm not trying to like get into an accident and die before this show.
Speaker 1:Girl, I feel you, I feel you.
Speaker 2:I was like Chris no, no, no, no, no, no, no, Boom.
Speaker 1:Oh girl, we had. I had this conversation with a couple of my friends because texting you could read a text three, four different ways, right? So I would rather just hear it from them and it's just done, deal, because you could hear the octaves in their voice.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I hate like when some people text me and they have to like, you know, send me. Sorry that sounded kind of rude, but that's not what I was trying to mean and I'm like, oh my God, like no, I get that. But also, you know, sometimes when I text you I'm like I'm not. I try to use a lot of happy emojis, a lot of exclamation points, so you don't think like I'm having an attitude.
Speaker 1:I'm not, but man. You take it as it is, man.
Speaker 2:I've done that recently. I'm so proud of myself. After a friend had a little bit of an attitude with me, I just left it on red.
Speaker 1:Really, Are you a big person on that, leaving people on red?
Speaker 2:if I don't know If you're mean to me ah like what how about?
Speaker 1:how about in your DMs? Do you leave a lot of DMs on read, or do you? I answer them?
Speaker 2:you reply yeah, I answer them. Oh good, hey, good for you yeah, well, like cause when you work in the film industry.
Speaker 1:Oh, yes, yes, I totally forgot about that. That should skip my head.
Speaker 2:So communication's really important and if you choose not to answer and they find out why you didn't answer, you just costed a movie. Ooh girl. Your brain is all working parts. You know what.
Speaker 2:I mean, I asked you a question Is so-and-so available, yes or no? Okay, we're all waiting. Every department's waiting on you. Yeah, it's not that hard to say yes or no, or just leave a little brief explanation Like I'll have friends that are like like they don't, they're just, you know, they're always like sorry, I saw, sorry, I saw your text. We'll explain that I forgot to hit send.
Speaker 2:Did you really forget to hit send, girl? Because you hit post pretty fast when it was you and your boyfriend hanging out it's the side eye for me he said he loved my facial that was like everybody's gonna agree with me on this that's facts. Yeah, oh my god really you forget to hit send but you hit post about the same time on your story.
Speaker 1:Girl, I'd be guilty with like reading it and it's like, all right, I'm going to get back to it, but then I've done that once or twice, but it wasn't like a big deal. Yeah, yeah Like life be life in, or it's just.
Speaker 2:I get so caught up because I have ADHD.
Speaker 1:So it's like together yeah, so it'd be dude. I'd be like on like wavelengths and streams of trying to get shit done and I'd be forgetting and I'm like, oh fuck. And then once I remember, I'm like a day, two, three days later I'm like, damn, my bad dog, like for real yes, I can show up. Yeah, I'd be like dude, I'm, I'm showing up to that party, ooh.
Speaker 1:Mm-mm-mm girl. Next question Okay, meeting someone for the first time. What's a good way for them to? Okay, you guys already met. What's too much information to share that first meeting? Like, could you give them your whole life story? Or you're giving them your what's happening currently, right now. Like what's a good way to have him or her like inside your life, but not fully inside your life? Like what's a good way to do that?
Speaker 2:that is like a 50 50 do you mean like pursuing a relationship or friendship?
Speaker 1:Not even pursuing, just like your first meeting with someone. What's too much information or what's not enough information?
Speaker 2:Oh, my gosh Because I'm a chill person. People are comfortable to tell me what kind of person they are.
Speaker 1:Okay, I'll throw this scenario at you then, miss Stacey. Okay, yeah, all right. Filming party I met. Throw the scenario at you then, miss Stacey. Okay, yeah, all right. Filming party. I met you at a filming party. I guess I'm an extra, yeah.
Speaker 2:Yeah, okay, you're good at this, I'm a motherfucking extra.
Speaker 1:I see you, you're like the kind of the co-stars or whatever. Yes, I'm starting a conversation with you. What's too much info for you like, oh damn, you didn't have to tell me all that shit. Or that's enough for me to be like oh okay, this is him.
Speaker 2:I'm gonna say something like if you share too much to the point where it's like I think I have to report you oh okay, so if it becomes that much okay in that context, but about friendships and relationships I I don't like talking too much about. Oh, my god, I hate this. I even have it at Filipino parties and everything like what do you do?
Speaker 1:and oh like like an occupation, like what do you do? Do, yeah, you know you're in some countries.
Speaker 2:That's actually like inconsiderate to ask.
Speaker 1:Yeah, like, oh, how much you make a year? Yeah, you can't ask that in Europe. Hell, no, yeah you know what I mean.
Speaker 2:When are you going to get married, have kids or things like that? But I think if you're trying to pursue somebody and you, yes, state that ahead of time, okay, you know, at a certain age you don't want your time wasted.
Speaker 1:Facts.
Speaker 2:But, man, you know, you ever watch those like reality shows, like Love and Locked Up and all this. Yes, I do.
Speaker 1:Or like True.
Speaker 2:Crime or all these like couples and stuff. Like I like to watch True Crime, but it's like you know you watch this as a third person. You're you watch this as a third person. You're like, did she? Not? See the red flags.
Speaker 2:Yeah, like I would say that if they some people, if they want to pursue a relationship or friendship, they are overly nice. How about that? I'll say that. Oh, okay, okay okay, it's not maybe the things they say, but what probably is like a like is when they're overly nice, because in my head I'm like are you overly nice every single day? Can you keep this up every single day?
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, but are you?
Speaker 2:Yeah, I'm very nice a lot. So because it just always happens Like someone would be like over nice and like it's like, but then you get to know these people and then it dies down and you're like huh, because you know when we first met.
Speaker 1:You got what you wanted, right, the booty. I'm just playing, I'm playing.
Speaker 2:No, he's right though.
Speaker 1:He's the booty, that hell. Yeah, I could say.
Speaker 2:And then like, maybe you like, maybe you just keep this person going for like a year, and then it's like they figure out like, oh, this person's not even going to, ok, I'm going to leave, ok. So then you weren't actually that happy-go-lucky person we met at the party.
Speaker 1:First impressions mean a lot.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and it's lasting. I usually show up and be like hey, you know, my name is Stacey, I'm a little bit crazy and unhinged, but you can stay, you can leave. Usually they stay, oh really yeah.
Speaker 1:That's your intro.
Speaker 3:Yeah, I love that intro it's like it's straight to the point.
Speaker 1:Yeah, stay early and you gave them the option of leaving or staying. Yeah, and then you say they usually stay yeah they would love to see how the show turns out yeah, and it's fun.
Speaker 2:You know you don't want to find out later who they really I'm like, I don't really want to find out who you are like, you know.
Speaker 1:Oh God, I'll be nice, but yeah so. Oh girl Question Next question.
Speaker 2:Does liking or loving someone hit harder? As you know, us people get older.
Speaker 1:I'm going to have Chris say his thing first.
Speaker 2:Okay, I'll say my thing first, because that was beautiful, oh thank you.
Speaker 1:Thank you so much. It wasn't rehearsed, it was freestyled it was it was from the Hort, you know from the Hort. I think as we get older we do fall for people with connection, that we connect with a little bit harder because we know ourselves more, a little bit more than we did when we were, like in our 20s and in our teens we were like in our 20s and in our teens, so the connection is like stronger and it's um especially if we know what we don't like and we don't want and we see what we want in that other person.
Speaker 1:It's. It's hard to let that go, because it's like damn, I really want that, I can get it, but in all reality, in all sense, I can't have it, you know. So yeah, I think, as we get older, I think it's harder.
Speaker 2:Yes.
Speaker 1:And it takes us a little bit longer than you know to get with someone after that connection, because it's like damn, I was mentally because the whole physical part right, you could move on to the next, you know, to the next, you know you could canoodle with someone afterwards, Right, but with the whole brain it's dude. The brain is a crazy thing.
Speaker 2:And yeah, the whole, yeah, that was me, so I agree with him. The difference between today, oh, today. And like the past, you know relationships and marriages are like they were like actually like a business deal, OK, right, and back in the day, back way in the day you got married for finances and survival.
Speaker 1:Yes.
Speaker 2:You know, and then relationships, who. That was hard to back in the day, like you had, it was class, depending what yeah, depending what culture. Yeah, it's class. So now we're more free, you know, like you can have interracial relationships and we're more accepting of lgbtq and things like that, you know. But now we have the rise of like social media video pictures, having to put up some sort of show or whatever. When it comes to, I guess that's what makes relationships hard yeah also, I don't know, man, people use this as an excuse.
Speaker 2:This is what I always like here and stuff. It's always like that person. Maybe they want to get into a relationship. They know it's good, but they're like no, no, no, but I don't want it because of fear of being rejected, fear of, like, putting in too much into this relationship because they did it before and it didn't work out and I don't. Nobody wants to feel heartbreak, definitely not definitely nobody wants to feel that.
Speaker 2:However, this is life and it's something that god I I will say this, my one heartbreak. I'm never going through that, ever again.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:I'd rather walk this earth, like by myself, with my future dog. Yeah, my future dog. I don't have one now because I'm so busy.
Speaker 1:Manifesting this dog.
Speaker 2:With my future dog like that looks like a wolf. See, I have this all like planned out, then. To be with someone who doesn't really like wants to be into me, yeah, and to be with someone who doesn't really like wants to be into me. Yeah, but we're also stuck in this culture where it's like, hey, I want some of the stuff as a girlfriend, but I don't want to commit to you.
Speaker 1:Oh, oh yes.
Speaker 2:Or like I want to whatever Listen. If that I don't judge anybody who wants to be in that kind of relationship. Just never lose yourself. Okay, this person needs 10 years to think. If they want to be with you, Then you make that choice. I don't deserve this. I'm going to move on. Yeah, oh, yeah but don't ever wait for that person. You know, Like I know I have before, but because I'm so busy and I'm just so into other things that love me back, I'm just very like, all right, you take your time.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, definitely yeah, You're doing, you boo.
Speaker 2:Yes, and that's. It's a true thing. That's what my friends would always tell me They'd be like just focus on you, focus on you. And when you're going through so much pain and turmoil, you don't even understand or know what they mean. When you finally do it and you finally let go of what doesn't serve you and whatnot, then you're like, oh, like, okay, so all those excuses they ever given you, like, yeah, but this and this, but I'm not ready, You're ready, Go Like you're that person, You're ready. So like, that's how I see with the relationships. Yes, I think it's harder, but don't like. I mean like, don't allow just one person, thing, whatever, to make you feel like oh, this is it, I guess.
Speaker 1:Oh hey man, there's a lot of fish in the sea.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I'm saying go to Thailand, guys. Get on that random plane. Lady boy, yo, they didn't want me. That's why I survived Thailand. They actually Shut up.
Speaker 1:They didn't want you. They were like hey.
Speaker 2:They asked me, though they were like ladyboy, and I go no, full woman, they're like mm-mm-mm.
Speaker 1:Shut your ass.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you would not survive, Chris.
Speaker 1:You know what?
Speaker 2:They would take you to the club. They would Chris before me. Oh well, shit man. So you better like watch this stuff. Yeah, they wanted men, I got a trunk.
Speaker 1:you know what I'm saying?
Speaker 2:I got a booty, yeah like they were all into the men and I was like no way, I didn't know Thailand was like that. Yeah.
Speaker 1:Oh God, ladyboys yeah, they're so beautiful though.
Speaker 2:So if a woman goes out there with her friends, they're safe.
Speaker 1:Yeah, no one wants us oh shit, all right, I'm gonna send my wife and her home girls out there.
Speaker 2:Yeah, have a time of your life, you need to be like with you need to be with somebody like you're gonna get snatched man is that a real thing, though?
Speaker 1:like would they really snatch you didn't watch the hangover I did. I did watch that. I didn't know it was yes, man. So there's a little truth to that shit.
Speaker 2:Yes, oh god I knew, because I knew it, because I was like by myself, partying in Phuket, and then, like they asked me, you know, and I was like no, a full woman. They're like oh.
Speaker 1:No, they fucking showed you the show.
Speaker 2:I'm like yeah.
Speaker 1:Uh-uh no.
Speaker 2:And then they would just talk to all the guys. It's fine.
Speaker 1:Is this in the main part of Thailand?
Speaker 2:Phuket is a party area.
Speaker 1:It's a party area, so is.
Speaker 2:Bangkok, I mean obviously.
Speaker 1:By the name of it, by the name.
Speaker 2:But I just arrived there and then went to Phuket.
Speaker 1:Oh, okay. So you haven't explored the rural, not the rural, but the suburbs.
Speaker 2:But Phuket is a party hearty like.
Speaker 1:Is it I?
Speaker 2:don't know if you guys saw the White Lotus season three.
Speaker 1:Yes, yeah, oh yeah, that's Phuket that moonlight party, situation whatever. That's it.
Speaker 2:It's that raging yeah.
Speaker 1:Oh shit, yeah, I like White Lotus. Meanwhile I binge watched that one. I binge.
Speaker 2:White Lotus, white lotus. That shit is hilarious. Tell me that season two was like.
Speaker 1:Is season two, the one where they're in.
Speaker 2:Italy oh.
Speaker 1:I don't know, man, I didn't know that girl played him Spoiler alert. That's why I love season two. She played him hard because I thought she was going to go home with him. Back to.
Speaker 2:LA. Listen, this is no spoiler, but this girl got with grandpa, dad and son.
Speaker 1:Oh my gosh. Yes, she walked away with 50K. She played it, she played that part and I was like dang, so the guy was in on it too then yeah, the worker. The pimp.
Speaker 2:It was a worker.
Speaker 1:He was a worker.
Speaker 2:Like worker, Disguised worker, yeah.
Speaker 1:Oh Crazy disguised worker. Yeah, oh god, white lotus, hbo max, hit me up. Please hook me up. Yes, white lotus was pretty good. The first, the first one, yeah, the first one, got me too the um the first season like this is our faces, right?
Speaker 2:when you're watching at like, you're like just watching in the beginning just to see what it's like and you're just like what?
Speaker 1:And you're like like Right Stifler's mom.
Speaker 3:she's in season one and season two. Oh, she's the best.
Speaker 1:I love her Like, even though she's like out there yeah.
Speaker 2:But it's like she's sweet Could you imagine someone else playing Tanya's role? Absolutely not. It had to be her, yeah. Yeah, Like seeing it now like finishing it. I can't unsee it and they you know, if you watch White Lotus from the beginning all the way to the season 3, it intertwines the story from season 1 oh, yes, you're right.
Speaker 1:What's her name? The black girl. She was in one, not in two, but then went in three and I'm like what the fuck.
Speaker 2:I can't wait for White Lotus is good.
Speaker 1:White Lotus is good. Y'all. I suggest y'all y'all binge, watch that. What I'm gonna say a good two and a half, three days yeah of watching that yeah girl, absolutely, hell yeah. Miss Stacey, that was fun. Yeah, do you have any shout outs or anything? Or where can these people that don't know you, where can they find you at?
Speaker 2:you can find me in a dance studio or at the airport, because I'm always flying somewhere to Thailand or yeah, I bartend too. So come down to Waikiki, asia Sticks Asia.
Speaker 1:Sticks Waikiki, asia Sticks, asia Sticks Waikiki. Hey man, it used to be.
Speaker 2:Yokochou guys.
Speaker 1:Oh, for real.
Speaker 2:Yeah, remember, I don't know if you saw.
Speaker 1:Nah, I don't, I really don't party out there.
Speaker 2:It's Waikiki Shopping Plaza and that basement floor it used to be Yokochou. Then it closed down, got renovated and became Asia Sticks.
Speaker 1:Asia Sticks. Is there a dress code? Now you're in Hawaii, so there's no dress code. No dress codes. Okay. And then is it just a bar. There's music and everything too, oh my gosh.
Speaker 2:So just imagine a night out in Japan, that night market. Look, that's what it looks like down there.
Speaker 1:No way.
Speaker 2:With a bar in the middle.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I'm feeling to find you, me and my wife, and I'm a Hennessy drinker, so I want some top shelf Hennessy.
Speaker 2:You're going to get a lot of like wait, you like whiskey? Yeah, you like whiskey. Tequila oh, we have a lot.
Speaker 1:Well, not tequila but I am wanting to try the one with the bell. We have that. I don't know if the hype's real it is. Is it really? I want to taste that tequila.
Speaker 2:You know what I learned, guys? You um from a customer, you can't just hit it, you have to like hit it from the side really so I call it like a slap. You gotta, yeah, yeah, you gotta do that. So remember, you gotta side slap it. You can't, because we were all like why isn't?
Speaker 1:it. Why isn't it working?
Speaker 2:yeah, okay and then this one cool customer, she goes give that to me, I'll show you. You, she fixes it.
Speaker 1:She's just like and then you heard the bing.
Speaker 2:Yeah, so you guys got a side bitch slap.
Speaker 1:Side bitch, that tequila. Hell, yeah, that was fun. Ko Studios, thank you for the lovely home. Raffy Bite, thank you for the lovely beats man. As for that, I'm Chris.
Speaker 2:I'm Stacey.
Speaker 1:And we out this bitch Peace.
