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The REALationship Method
Comprehension vs. Communication & What it Means to be 'Alpha' with Alexis Renae
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What does it really mean to be the "alpha" in your relationships? Alexis Renae, CEO of Role Models 808, brings her unique perspective as both a professional model and dog trainer to this captivating conversation about boundaries, communication, and authenticity.
Our discussion takes an unexpected turn when we discover the fascinating parallels between training dogs and maintaining healthy human relationships. Alexis shares how establishing clear boundaries and understanding non-verbal cues are crucial in both worlds – revealing that true leadership isn't about dominance but rather mutual respect and comprehension. Her insights challenge conventional relationship advice by focusing on the often-overlooked distinction between simply communicating and truly understanding each other.
We dive deep into cultural differences between Hawaii and mainland America, exploring how community dynamics shape our approach to relationships. Alexis opens up about her accidental entry into modeling after a photographer's cancellation led to an unexpected opportunity, eventually building a business that spans from Hawaii to New York Fashion Week. Along the way, she shares candid stories about navigating uncomfortable situations in the modeling industry and establishing professional boundaries.
The conversation weaves through serious topics while maintaining a lighthearted energy, touching on everything from the challenges of wearing rompers to nightclubs to the complexities of overlapping social circles in small communities. Throughout it all, Alexis offers a refreshing perspective on finding the balance between strength and vulnerability in relationships, proving that being the "alpha" isn't about control but about creating space for authentic connection.
• From accidental model to CEO after filling in for a canceled photo shoot in 2016
• The cultural differences between Hawaii and mainland America in community connections and respect
• Why comprehension matters more than just communication in relationships
• How military communication style impacts personal relationships
• The parallels between dog training and human relationship dynamics
• Setting healthy boundaries as the "alpha" while still showing vulnerability
• Navigating uncomfortable situations with photographers in the modeling industry
• How small communities can create complicated relationship networks when past connections overlap
Meet Alexis Rene
Speaker 1All right 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. My mama, marilyn, Welcome back to another episode of the Relationship Method podcast. It's your boy, chris, and today I have a fabulous guest. I got a 2023 model of the year. I got a CEO in my hands. I also got a director man. I got Alexis Rene on this bitch, yay.
Speaker 2What's up? What's up.
Speaker 1Hey, how's it? What's up girl? How are you today? I'm good. How are you?
Speaker 2Oh, I'm dandy Good, that's a new word, that's dandy Dandy. Yeah, that's a good one.
Speaker 1Oh yeah, put that in your vocab girl? Absolutely, Hell yeah. How was your day today?
Speaker 2It's good. It's good chilling. This is kind of like woke up, got ready for this and this is all I planned. Oh, for real.
Speaker 1I was super excited for this. Well, mamma mia, hell yeah, I mean, you know, it's the relationship method.
Speaker 2It's the relationship hot damn method. Man Hot takes with the pancakes. So before we get going, miss Alexis, how did I?
Speaker 1get the yes from you to come on.
Speaker 2You know this little pod. I mean, like I just said, it's the relationship method, like I mean, who doesn't want to be on? If you're on here, I feel like you made it. Oh, for real. Oh, shut your ass, girl.
Speaker 1Oh, I'm humbled. Right now, girl, I'm super stoked.
Speaker 2No, I just thought I was like, oh, this is going to be fun. And I mean like, who doesn't want to talk about relationships? Who doesn't want to talk about? You know, just talk story and you know, spill the tea.
From Yoga to Modeling CEO
Speaker 1Oh man, hell yeah. And then for our listeners and viewers, are you taking single Situationship Walking your dog? Oh, it's a situationship, situationship, oh girl. On this pod we talk about a lot of situationships because I know a lot of people go through that. Absolutely, oh my gosh, absolutely. Yes, per. And let me ask you how did you get into, like you know what you're doing now like ceo director, like modeling, like how did all this all pan out to you know?
Speaker 2it was accidental actually accidental yeah, it started out here in hawaii. Okay, so my business is role models 808, 808 for Hawaii. Oh, role Models, because everybody and anybody can be a model, whether it's like you know, we all inspire somebody. And basically it was back in like 2016,. I had a photographer friend and he had a model. Cancel on him, don't cancel on your photographers.
Speaker 1No way. Never cancel on your photographers, no way.
Speaker 2Never, because someone's going to slide right in and become a CEO.
Speaker 1Alexis, alexis girl.
Speaker 2But no, he had a cancellation. And then I used to teach yoga. Oh shit, Teach yoga out here, I was DOD. So you know all that fun stuff.
Speaker 1Downward dog baby.
Speaker 2Department of Defense. But basically, basically no, I did, yeah. So I was teaching yoga therapy, I was doing all this other stuff here on island and I was like he told me he would do yoga pictures and I'm like, ooh, I want some professional yoga pictures. Oh yeah, facts basically. Long story short. I ended up going there and everyone wears bikinis here, so I did a bikini photo shoot and I was like damn she cute, she cute.
Speaker 1Oh she cute, or whatever Period, and then long story.
Speaker 2Basically I have done like New York Fashion Week, LA Fashion Week, Miami. So I did all these shows, moved to mainland and now everyone's like asking me questions and my friend was like dude, you have so much knowledge, why don't you coach, why don't you do this? And I was like I don't know, I'm nervous, I'm nervous. But then basically I was like you know what? Why not, let's dabble in it? And then the whole business came up.
Speaker 1Ain't nothing to it, but to do it.
Speaker 2A little dabble dabble A little.
Speaker 1And then you and I were talking before and you're not originally from here, right? No, uh-uh.
Speaker 2I'm not native-born, I'm not Kanaka, nothing like that. No Hawaiian blood, I am actually Hispanic, so Spanish, mexican, portuguese and Brazilian.
Speaker 1Oh shit, hola que tal.
Speaker 2Si.
Speaker 1Oh, si, me llamo Chris.
Speaker 2Which is ironic though, because I probably I don't speak it fluently, yeah, but like I do know more like Pidgin or more Olelo or something Like I know that more than Spanish, but yeah, so.
Speaker 1So you've been here for a very, for a cool minute now, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2So moved out here 2016 and then lived out here for a while and then met my boyfriend at the time and and we moved off island and yeah, oh how do you like it out here compared to the mainland?
Hawaii vs. Mainland Vibes
Speaker 1Because for me, like growing up in the hood, it's like I like being the majority because I was a minority out there, right. So here I feel like, oh man, these motherfuckers cannot really mess with me. Because it's like, if you see, you know I'm not against anything, against my whites or whatever, but someone out of the brown color messes with a brown person. It's like you have 15 other people that will back up that brown person because you know.
Speaker 2Just because, Just because, yeah know, just because, why do you do that? Here in Hawaii? I feel like everybody either knows like your cousin, your mother, your auntie, your uncle or something, so they never want to mess with someone. So I feel like the respect here. I mean, since I came back, I feel like it's a little shifted and spreaded, because I mean we have other visitors and other things that are moving out here. Other things, other things.
Speaker 1Other things Other things. She said that Don't get me canceled, y'all. She's joshing.
Speaker 2I mean, they're all welcome, everybody's welcome here, which I will actually admit that Everyone is pretty much welcome here, it's just if once you like disrespect it's like a zero to a hundred, like 100% aloha, 100% love here. But the moment you do something wrong, you know yeah, then it's zero, uh-huh, but like uh, yeah, I feel like here everyone respects each other, everyone protects each other, everyone helps each other um mainland. I feel like I don't know someone's angry every day and then it's a different nuance someone stubbed a toe, I don't know.
Speaker 2They're just angry all the time and it rubs off onto someone else this is true, it's just. Yeah, I feel like I mean there's people angry here too, but I mean I feel like I miss here every time I'm coming back home and I call this home, because home is where your heart is. Yeah, yeah, I feel like it's a reset for me. Even though I come out here for business, I always feel like it's my reset, it's my refresh.
Speaker 1Yeah.
Speaker 2So yeah, this is yeah, oh, Hawaii's better.
Speaker 1That's beautiful oh yeah. Hawaii. No, I really like Hawaii. It took me and my family a while to adjust because we're so used to the cutthroat things on the mainland. You're all for yourself, right, Just to survive Over here. It's like, for example, our neighborhood when the tsunami. We had the tsunami warning right, Remember that.
Speaker 1Just a warning, Just a warning, Just a warning my block was having a, a barbecue and beer and everyone was like hey, come, come, come. I was like shit, y'all ain't tripping. It's like nah, man. I was like I bet I ain't tripping either. So but back on the mainland you wouldn't see that happening unless you know like you grew up with your neighbors.
Speaker 2But other than that, but even at that everyone's still kind of like to themselves.
Speaker 1Yeah.
Speaker 2Everyone's yeah.
Speaker 1Your family members are out here, right, I have some family friends out here.
Speaker 2I have family in Seattle.
Speaker 1Yeah.
Speaker 2Family in Louisiana. I have family Like they're all spread out, all spread out.
Speaker 1Yeah, one thing Louisiana sucks because it's oh my God, I was there in 2023 for training and they said it's unique, it was super unique. Oh my gosh, it was really humid. Oh yeah yeah, humidity over there. Yeah, there were several times where I was training I felt like I was going to black out. Yeah, it was that hot. It's like sticky humid.
Speaker 2Yeah, it was that hot. It's like sticky humid.
Speaker 1Yeah, it's not like this.
Speaker 2It's not like I was about to say the M word.
Speaker 1It's not wet humidity which, I guess, is what humidity is? What was the M word? Oh, is that like so? Okay, some people get weird about that word.
Speaker 2I don't know why. I think it's weird. You think it's weird I?
Speaker 1don't know why I think it's weird. Like I mean, like you think it's weird. No, I mean, I don't think it's weird, oh okay.
Speaker 2I mean, like if you eat bread or something that's like, really isn't it like you?
Speaker 1don't want dry bread, yeah. Like, if you want moist, yeah, moist bread, yeah. I mean, I guess you wouldn't. I don't like that word either she's like oh, but it's regular across the pond In.
Speaker 2Australia or is it Europe? Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1Europe. It's a regular yeah, it's like a regular word to them. Yeah, but then they bring it here and when I hear people say it it's like oh, Because you don't hear a lot of people say that word. You know, on the island it's used a lot on the mainland, but on the island that's why?
Speaker 2why, if it's a foreign? When I say foreign, like not so commonly used, like broad was a big word for me at first when someone called me hey, you're just a.
Speaker 1You're just a broad, some broad, or something I'd be like. Like I felt like that was. I'm chilling with that John.
Communication vs. Comprehension in Relationships
Speaker 2I don't know, I don't think I'd be like oh, it's Alexis.
Speaker 1No, so I guess, like in the Midwest, a John is like a female.
Speaker 2Oh, okay, yeah, so if you ever, I guess, mingle oh you mean, like if they think you're a guy, no, no, a John. A John is like.
Speaker 1I've never heard this one, it's a, it's a, it's a more. No, no, it's a, it's an east coast Midwest thing. So if I've never heard this, if a, if a, if a brother.
Speaker 2Yeah.
Speaker 1If a midwestern brother Say hey man, you know she's some type shit, john, it's like you, a fine female. Okay, so it's more of a compliment.
Speaker 2Now, I'll take it. I'll take that, it's like, oh man.
Speaker 1But I guess the perception of like, if he says it like negative, like man, fuck that John, then that's bad Right, but then if he says she's a stuck up girl yeah, but if they added you know aary adjective yeah, she a cute, john Justine.
Speaker 2I've never heard that.
Speaker 1Oh girl, you got to step out yeah.
Speaker 2I do, I do, I do.
Speaker 1Let me ask you this because I've been going through some type of. I've been in my feels like this past week I have a family member, right, okay, he's cut off, like a lot of like say, I'm going to say us there's specific people that he cut off.
Speaker 2Okay.
Speaker 1And because of that I'm feeling some type of way, because I was one of those peoples right and I was. You know, I've had this dude's back.
Speaker 2He met a John.
Speaker 1No, he is with.
Speaker 2He's with a John he's with a negative John he's oh, john. No, he is with a negative John. Oh no, I can't say that because that might be your friends.
Speaker 1No, no, no, we ain't. Let me tell you this he blocked me off of everything. So I'm just like damn man. So I have this pre-made text for him, right, I haven't pushed sent yet because it's in my drafts and I sent it to my sister because he cut off my sister too. And I'm just like damn man, Like I feel some type of way.
Speaker 2Not a family.
Speaker 1I'm going to say it's a family member. I can't go into detail because he's going to try.
Speaker 1Yeah, thank you for supporting, Thank you, thank you, thank you. No, but it's just I don't know what to do. I don't know if I should cut him off too, because I haven't cut him off yet. Right On my end. I haven't done it, but everyone else that he cut off, they cutted him, and his, I guess, his girl off too, yeah. So, yeah, I don't know Like my daughter cut him off and I'm like damn damn, she's like the nicest person. But yeah, man, I don't, I don't know like how would you handle this type of situation where a family member cuts you off and you're like dude, why?
Speaker 2but you're I think, sorry, I got serious oh, that's a good one, though, because I think, honestly, you're still gonna always be there, even if you're like, oh, I cut you off the moment something bad happens, you're gonna go back. I think all those people who cut that person off will go back, because I mean if you really love someone or if they're really that close to you. I think I think you cut it, but like not, you know what I mean.
Speaker 2You give the space yeah because you know you're always gonna be there with that person, like it's always in your heart, whoever that is yeah but you just I guess you just let them go through their phase. I always say, if something that I think is bad gonna happen, I'm like oh, I hope I eat my words yeah so I mean, like it sucks that y'all separate and they distant themselves.
Speaker 1But I think like he did the distancing, yeah, yeah I think they'll.
Speaker 2He'll recognize that and come back, or if there's something that falls out with that, they, they're gonna come back, or I. There's something that falls out with that they, they're going to come back or I had, since we're talking about relationships there we go.
Speaker 1Let's do this. We got into it.
Speaker 2I had a relationship that was like that. It was um, I was dating a person and their brother was cool with me. It was the wife. The wife didn't like me. I think she was just kind of jealous or something and everything, and kind of jealous or something and everything, and so basically she was always trying to like one up me or try to be.
Speaker 2And then one time there was a big argument and she goes, the guy, the brothers were fighting trying to protect us Right and everything. And and then the wife kind of stepped in because like I was like oh my gosh, what's happening? And she kind of stepped in and was like Alexis, let's you and I talk, because I know you and I have our insecurities about each other. And I was like I thought you were my sister. I never.
Speaker 2I don't have sisters, I have a brother yeah so I was just kind of like I'm getting like chicken skin.
Speaker 1I was like so wait, she said insecurities yeah and the guys are like yelling. I'm like we're like this way like were you insecure with her too, or not even close, yeah, oh. So when you heard that, how did you feel?
Speaker 2It was almost like a pause.
Speaker 1You're like what I was like, wait what? Yeah, hold on.
Speaker 2Like the record scratch yeah yeah.
Speaker 2I was just kind of like, oh, and that's kind of where I figured out, oh, she's jealous of me. Later down the road, when we had the separate or the families kind of separated, separated, and stopped talking, it was about like a year or so um, which was fun. Like we ended up breaking up because I kept pushing, like you need to talk to your brother, you need to talk to your brother, you're tied up for another um and he didn't want to, he didn't want to, he didn't want to. But the funny thing is I learned later down like what all the back history was. I think the wife actually liked my guy first out of the brothers.
Speaker 1Oh, and she settled for the brother.
Speaker 2Yeah, because my dude was married at the time, not when we were together, uh-huh, but like they were, like high schools, you know, they all grew up with each other, yeah, yeah, yeah. It was here in Hawaii, Hawaii you messy I like to throw dirt. You know, it was here in Hawaii.
Speaker 1Red dirt.
Speaker 2But basically dirt. You know it's kind of white, red dirt. But basically, um, yeah, they went to school together, all of them, and I and the guy I was dating was like, oh yeah, you know, she always used to like me this. Uh, whatever, I ended up getting married, had kid he all that stuff right, and then she went with a brother, so then my dude divorced all that stuff down the road. A few years later I then meet him. I become like a second mom to the kids, which I'm actually really good friends with, the kids and everything, oh that's good, that's good yeah yeah, but basically, yeah, come to find out like she would always text my dude saying like what should I do for him for Valentine's Day?
Speaker 2Would he like something?
Speaker 1For her man.
Speaker 2Yeah, for the brother, yeah, brother, yeah, yeah. And he would tell me like, oh, she would ask me weird things, like sexual things, and I'd be like you, this is weird, but like you know, but long story it was. I think that's what it was. I think she's always wanted my guy, that brother, not her dude, and that's what I ended up finding out. But long story. Basically, I kept saying you need to talk to your brother, you talk to your brother, and I made the biggest mistake ever. I was like I don't want to deal with that, but like I want you to be with your family. But what I did as a mistake was I took myself out of things. So like I'd be like, oh, why don't you go for lunch? I'm gonna go with my friends.
Speaker 2I wouldn't go with them, right, I would give them, his space, but come to find out that's when, like, things were being talked about me, me, me, and then, basically, he started to feel some type of way towards me, and that's what shifted us.
Speaker 1No way, no way.
Speaker 2I mean, I got the family back together, but I got kicked out To your own expense.
Speaker 1You know that's crazy, yeah, if she wanted.
Speaker 2I think now, because this was like years ago, like maybe five years ago, I think. Now the other brother and that girl are divorced.
Speaker 1And is she with your ex-man?
Speaker 2No, uh-uh, he's with somebody else.
Speaker 1Oh, oops. So, Even on, do Not Disturb, it goes through. Oh, it's because it's on, like my personal list Hickaway, hickaway, it's my dad, but Hickaway, hi Dad, I'm with Daddy Leo, oh, so, um. So, when they were talking about you like, how did you find out they were talking about you Like? How did you get the word like, oh man they're talking about Alexis.
Speaker 2Like what do you mean? Like they were talking about. Like how did I find out they were talking?
Speaker 1about me. Yeah, how did they? Yeah, like when they were kicking it with their crew, with their little you know circle, and then you were with your friends. Yeah, how did that word get back to you?
Speaker 2mutuals, and I mean I guess it was a he said, she said thing. But it all ended up kind of the way it rolled out was like it made more sense. Oh, basically, like certain friends that they knew that I knew that we were all friends with still and we would go places. One particular person was like oh you know, like they talk a little bit about you, they always talk bad about you and I go. What does he say? Like oh, he's, you know, nonchalant and I go. He should be like you know.
Speaker 1Protecting you, yes.
Speaker 2But I think also the like giving him maybe benefit of it was like maybe he I think he wanted end everything worked its way out. He moved on. He has his family, he's married again. I moved on, I did my stuff. Yeah, the friends, mutual friends, were telling me. I was almost thinking who do I believe? Just the vibe and the shift.
Speaker 1So I mean, yeah, Are you really good at reading the room I am.
Speaker 2I feel like I am. You're some type of psychic girl oh really like do you ever watch that so raven yeah, are you raven? Yeah, I feel like we're gonna have a really successful oh, oh, my gosh, we are.
Speaker 1Oh yeah, we just got deep in there we did we did. Let's get to these questions, okay, all right, all right. So first one is oh, we talked about this. Some people say that communication isn't key, it's comprehension. Do you agree?
Speaker 2Communication is important, for sure. But, it's going to be like a round-around circle.
Speaker 1if you don't understand the communication, if the person that's receiving isn't understanding what the receiver is saying, whatever the sender. Yeah, exactly the sender.
Speaker 2Yes, I think, like and not like. Well, even language barriers, oh yeah, this is true.
Speaker 1Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2You don't understand cultural, you don't understand the language, or like English as a second language or whatever language you're speaking is a second language.
Speaker 2I feel like if you don't understand it, I mean like, yeah, that's going to be hard, mm-hmm. And the biggest thing is like when people say, well, you don't understand how much I love you, and the other person's like, how do you love me? You're not doing these things. And I think it's like maybe person here does love the person so much and they're giving 100%, and now they're feeling drained because, like, well, he doesn't think I love them and I'm giving, giving, giving, giving. And this person's like you're not giving anything, not because they're mean, but it's just because the communication doesn.
Dog Training and Alpha Behavior
Speaker 2So I think also like just people's past, people, not to say like, enable certain moods but, like I truly think, if you love somebody, you take their bads and their goods and, like I think, oh, definitely yeah, yeah, and I think that's like understanding where it's coming from. Mm-hmm, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah Well so, like.
Speaker 1So I communicate with my wife like daily, right, like we're we're supposed to communicate, but, um, you know, me, with my background, I have to like I dump things down to where it's understood, like I'm trying to teach. So basically, the way I communicate, it's I'm trying I'm talking to like a fifth grader. No, I'm not like trying to downgrade yeah, she does. I'm not trying to downgrade the intelligence, but I try to make it like as simple as.
Speaker 2So there's no confusion. Yeah, yeah, no, that's good.
Speaker 1So, but she takes it sometimes. This is only sometimes. She takes it as a disrespect, because it's like why are you talking to me like I'm a little kid? I'm?
Speaker 2not doing that on purpose. It's just the way I'm trained, like the way my thinking is and because you're military. Yeah, yes, because.
Speaker 1I would want someone, if they give me some instruction, break it down to like the third grade level. So I don't mess up the first time, Absolutely. So I do that, but we get into our little scuffles. Yeah, yeah, yeah, but I mean it doesn't get to where I'm fucking divorced and you were some type.
Speaker 2Right.
Speaker 1Some type of way. But the way we communicate, it's, yeah, the whole understanding thing. She gets it sometimes, but there's other times where I have to like really dumb it down, right, no, that makes sense.
Speaker 2Because I think, yeah, again, that goes back to really, because, like you're going, you're working on that comfort, like, yeah, again that goes back to really because you're working on that, do you understand, kind of thing, but you're not going to be like, do you understand? You're not going to talk like that.
Speaker 1No, definitely not. So I would say my spiel, and then I'd be like all right, all right, I'm going to try and break it down. I'm going to try and break it down Before she says something. I was like, oh, let me try and break it down. And then third grade mode, right, yeah. So I'm going to ask you, alexis, because you are, you know, a coach as well, do you have to break it down that way or the way you present it the very first time? Your students, I guess, are they catching?
Speaker 2it students or relationships relationships or or yeah, relationships or yeah um, I think I, I, yeah, I think I do break it down to a point where it's like no confusion. Again, I've dated military, so I kind of understand that, which is very funny, because before I dated military also with the yoga therapy that I did I had to learn from some of the therapists and understand a military person, not to say I know everyone's mind. Well, I do, I'm Raven, I just called myself Ravenven, that's so raven. Um, but no, like I think, from learning again someone else's behavior and moods, like I feel like I, yeah, I guess I do kind of break it down a little bit, but what I've learned is like people can talk, talk, talk and then you, you lose what the person's saying.
Speaker 1I guess this is true. It happens to me a lot.
Speaker 2Yeah, yeah and so I feel like, from a military perspective, maybe you could say that too is like black and white. What's the point? What are you trying to achieve? What is the outcome? You like, you know, like I forgot how they break it down. And so basically it's like okay, what am I trying to say? I'm hurt. Well, why am I hurt? What did they do? And so I guess like, okay, I'm hurt because you talked to this other person. When I told you not to talk to them, they disrespected me. And then it's like well, what am I trying to achieve?
Speaker 2Then I could be like well, I don't want you to talk to them. Or if they do talk to you, be like hey, you know there's some like. And then you agree like that, right. So I guess it is breaking it down black and white. So with students, same thing. I'm like okay, do you understand? You didn't do this Because and it's easier with photos I'll be like okay, when you're standing like this, you just look like a stick or you look like a blob. There's no space. I'll take their picture so they can see it. And I'm like okay, I see it like example-wise, and I guess in relationships I do that too. I'd be like, hey, you know, would you like it if I talked to so-so-so?
Speaker 1at your work. Who's?
Speaker 2always, you know, disrespecting you. If I knew he was flirting with me, would you be? It's kind of like reciprocated, like put yourself in my shoes. So I guess I do always put with an example. So breaking things down is important.
Speaker 1Yeah.
Speaker 2And then I guess, if, like, I guess, if there is love or actual caring, I guess maybe they'll try to understand your version. Oh definitely yeah, and if not, then you know see other people.
Speaker 1See other people. There it is. I liked how you broke down the military mind I thought you were going to say I broke down.
Speaker 1the whole thing of breaking it down, I mean no, you did that too because you know, as a military person, that's how, like we think and I think a lot of people forget, like meeting someone for the first time, they wouldn't know that I'm in the military, oh yeah, so I would have to say communicate effectively, saying, hey, I need you to really break it down, absolutely. Yeah down, you know. And they're like what?
Speaker 2It's true, though, because, also, like I know, the first military person I dated, my mom, was so concerned. Why and I don't think it was because it was a military, because we have military in our family. Yeah, I think, because you know she wanted to protect me and she was like oh, military people can be very mean and tough, and like it was a Marine, so but like I mean, and I guess like what you see in the movies and all that other stuff, they make them seem like these bad guys that are, like, emotionless and, if anything, I think military people have probably the most emotions we do and it's like, and it's not a bad thing definitely not.
Speaker 2I think with working with military and hearing their stories, and I'm talking like some of not. I think with working with military and hearing their story and I'm talking like some of the people I worked with, like Vietnam vets like elderly military too, who I think were trained not to share a lot of their feelings too back then, hearing them just talk story with me and understanding them, say like oh, my wife never understand, like they would just come to the. It was at the vet center. Shout out, vet center.
Speaker 1Shout out vet center. Shout out vet center. Hope you all listen to this.
Speaker 2It sounds like a cat Meow, meow, meow, meow. Calico get out of here. That was my new soundboard.
Speaker 1Meow, meow, meow, meow, meow, meow meow meow.
Speaker 2Can we schedule a second one this?
Speaker 1is fun. Hell yeah, I'll put her back on.
Speaker 2Do the viewers want to see me?
Speaker 1again, help me, girl. Yes, they ain't going to have no choice. We'll make it a pajama edition. You know what I'm saying? I'll bring my spidey pajamas. Lensies no, hell, no, I don't have a lensie. How am I going to use the bathroom? You? Nah, hell, no, I don't have a onesie. How am I going to use the bathroom? You can wear a onesie. You know how am I? You know I have a butt flap to poop. But then, you know, speaking of onesies, we're going to get off topic. One of my friends wore a man. What is it called? Is it a leotard? No, not a leotard. Yeah, like a romper. Yeah, yeah, yeah. One of my good buddies wore a romper to a club.
Speaker 2right, On purpose.
Speaker 1On purpose, on purpose, just, you know, for fun. On purpose, yeah, and I was like dog, how did you pee? He was like oh, I just got naked. I was like so how do other guys like were you in a stall, or were you yeah, or were you like did you close the door? He's like dog, I was in a stall and he's you know, he's one of my black friends Like it's one of the things yeah, yeah, he's got a urinal on the wall, right, yeah, yeah, yeah, the urinal, or a stall, how do you just go down to the? And then he was just like no, dude, I just had to take it off. Your butt cheek's showing, or how did you do it? He's like all right. So the first time he got naked right, like you know, he took it off. The next time he I don't know how he did it, but the way he explained it is that he pulled it up his leg I was like dog is. I was like your member's that long dog? I was like damn.
Speaker 2Those are jealous. You guys have that ability, we that ability, uh-huh, we don't have those abilities.
Speaker 1You have to get butt booty naked. If you're yeah, Well, not naked, but no, yeah, past your ankle yeah, Kind of If it doesn't have a little baby snap like those snaps that are at the bottom.
Speaker 2What the fuck is a?
Speaker 1baby snap. Oh, is that the one like near the? It's not a little snap, it's like a baby snap.
Speaker 2Oh, yeah, yeah yeah, I mean, but still, those are annoying too, because you still have to like, you have to snap it.
Speaker 1Yeah, and if have you ever had wore a romper and you had a malfunction like a wardrobe malfunction?
Speaker 2Like what, like it like fell apart or like.
Speaker 1Yeah.
Speaker 2Unsnapped and like didn't go back.
Speaker 1Yeah, no, unfortunate. I mean not unfortunate, I mean luckily. I was like unfortunately, huh, um, so have you ever gotten so wasted to where you're just like?
Speaker 2dude, I can't do this. No, thankfully, oh yeah, that's one thing I will say I mean I go out, I I'll have a. I don't drink drink. You know, I don't drink, like if I go social I'll have like a drink or two or whatever. But I've never been like super wasted. I've never woken up in my life and everyone's like, oh, you need to experience.
Speaker 2I was like I'm good, but I've never woken up next to a toilet good yeah and I don't know why people's like you need to experience life and I'm like I don't know, I'm okay yeah, maybe that's why I'm a ceo, I don't know because I didn't wake up next to toilets you make smart decisions. I mean I have fun, uh-huh, I go out, I dance, I have a drink or two, but like I mean, I don't drink to get drunk one, you don't remember your experiences are fun.
Speaker 1Facts two I mean it's dangerous and oh yeah, as a woman, yeah, even as a man driving.
Speaker 2So I had a stepbrother in Brazil. He passed from drunk driving. So that's another big thing. So that's another big thing though, so that's why I'm like when my friends drink or everything I'm always like okay, you guys, make sure you know, take care of each other. Stay the night here, do this whatever. But yeah, like I've never been one to just get super wasted one, because, yeah, also it's dangerous for girls too yeah, yeah, when you're out with your lady friends on the island.
Speaker 1how aggressive are these guys? Or are they little wimps? Because they're like they see, see you, and they're like, oh snap, I'm not going to have a chance, so they don't even bother yeah. Because on the mainland, like I'm not going to lie, we I can't speak for myself because I'm a goofy guy, so I use, like I use my goofiness, but goofy is a key. Oh, it is. Yes, use my goofiness, but Goofy is a key.
Speaker 1Oh, it is. It's a key to the heart. Yes, meow, meow, meow, meow, meow, meow, meow. No, but guys are like they're aggressive with it. Yeah, I don't like that. They're like, hey, ma, da, da, da, this. And the third? Yeah, I don't like. See how it works, you know. So how does it work with, like, the guys coming up to you or do they come?
Speaker 2up to you. I had one guy come up to me.
Speaker 1Congratulations, guy.
Speaker 2Well, he lost.
Speaker 1Well, he lost, but I mean he had the balls.
Speaker 2One I couldn't hear because it was in the club. Facts yeah, yeah, yeah he said something like whispered in my ear and I had a Pua in my hair and I didn't understand what he had said at first. Yeah, pua is a flower. For those who tune in that don't understand, because you know.
Speaker 1Right is single, left is taken or is it? The other side yeah like a wedding ring yeah, ready to mingle.
Speaker 2So basically I had it here, but the guy came up to me and he's all like and now that I kind of played it back in my head, I think that he said like why do you have a Pua in your hair? Do you know what that means?
Speaker 1Or something like that. He was saying something about the flower, right?
Speaker 2Was he a local cat? Yeah, okay, okay. I don't think anybody would say like I like your poo-ah.
Speaker 1Yeah right, poo-ah, but he said poo-ah though he did, so he had to be local. Yeah, yeah, yeah, dog face one plus one they would have been like poo-ah, I like your poo-ah.
Speaker 2But no. So yeah, I think that's what I after a while because he was talking to me. I'm like huh.
Speaker 1And he goes something something, something.
Speaker 2He tapped it so I knew he was talking about the flower. Then that's how I knew. And then I go, I, I go, I don't know why, because I didn't know what he was saying. And then he goes oh okay, so you're a fake. I was like, what like?
Speaker 1and he walked away like a fake hawaiian or oh, and then I was like what a loser rolled with me for a while.
Speaker 2I was like I don't get that. I don't get it. So I asked my one friend I was out with one of my guy friends, one of my best guy friends, and because all my friends bailed on me that day and my guy friend was like you cannot go to this place by yourself, so he came with me, yeah. So basically I told him that I was like that was so weird and he asking like to see if I was truly like single taken. Did I have it on the right spot on my head?
Speaker 2or whatever which I don't even think like real locals know what side either. Sometimes I'm like what if my hair just looks cute, flip this way and I want to wear it on the left side?
Speaker 1yeah right.
Speaker 2Why are you even trying to talk to me at the club? Because liquid courage does something to a man, mislexes liquid courage so I guess the question of guys coming up and talking to me, I guess, yeah, not often, but when they do, sometimes they just say dumb things.
Speaker 1I like to meet people more in zones of networking.
Speaker 2Not often, but when they do, sometimes they just say dumb things. Really, yeah, I like to meet people more in zones of networking or meeting people, maybe because I'm just business, I'm really business-y, I'm boring.
Speaker 1Oh, really yeah.
Speaker 2So let's say you're at like a we were at a club and I was doing emails for business, a Starbucks, my friend came down for that.
Speaker 1Oh, for real, you were doing that. Oh, probably on your phone, yeah.
Speaker 2Yeah, I was doing my emails because like, let me do my emails. I got to do this, da-da-da-da-da, and my friend's like you're always working.
Speaker 1That's good, though, like I mean when you're 50 or 60, eventually you're going to put the phone down and just relax and love life, you know.
Speaker 2I mean.
Speaker 1I love life. Yeah, yeah, I mean, who doesn't love life? Yeah I love life and work, I work like what did they say?
Speaker 2what's the saying do something you love and it will never feel like work.
Speaker 1Yeah, facts that is facts it is facts. So um your, your business, that's your nine to five kind of like it.
Speaker 2Well, it's like my 24 7, but oh, my fault, my fault, my fault, that's your, that's your main source to income, then that's what I meant actually.
Speaker 1Which a lot my fault.
Speaker 2That's your main source of income, then that's what I meant, no actually, which a lot of people don't know, my main source is I'm a dog trainer.
Speaker 1Shut your ass. So you're really keen with, like the furry fur footer, that's another way of my heart, penis and dogs.
Speaker 2No way If you want to meet me? Just I was going to say show me your dog.
Speaker 1Find. You can find Alexis.
Speaker 2I'll be at the Humeas.
Speaker 1Yeah, you got to have a dog and then make sure your dog's name is Goofy. And then, yeah, oh damn See, you're hooking these people up right now. So, okay, you like dogs, you're a dog trainer. So when because you know I have I had a total of three dogs, now I'm down to one oh no, yeah. So one was just old, Passed away. Her name was Haukia. What dog was she.
Speaker 1A Great Pyrenees. I had her like when she was a wee little laddie, little tiny thing, and then on her twos like when she stands up, she's like as tall as me. So it was a mountain dog we had. And then I have another dog. She's half mix, husky and pit. Her name's Black Star, nice dog. She's still living, but she's old, like she's she wants to be active or no. No, she wants to be active.
Speaker 2That dog like husky and the pit.
Speaker 1Yeah, that's a good mix. I took her for walks, but when she was young she used to howl. Because of the husky, the husky, but now she doesn't bark. She whimpers when she sees other dogs, but she doesn't talk anymore, still loving. And then on the island, my wife and I we got this pit bull, but he was getting super aggressive after we got him snipped.
Speaker 2Yeah.
Speaker 1Like, um, not the ears, but you know, down there we took his manhood. Oh sorry, dude, Um, he, uh, we had to give it away, or but he, he found a good home, but he was just getting too aggressive with the little ones. Would you rescue him? Uh, no, we bought him. He was a puppy. We bought him as a baby. We bought him at a store.
Speaker 2Okay.
Speaker 1One of those stores in Puffy Mill. Yeah yeah, yeah. Yeah, we got him there and purebred, beautiful dog. But once we got him snipped for some reason he was like aggressive.
Speaker 2He was mad because he still wanted, yeah, and he was like damn it, bro.
Speaker 1But we got him snipped like when he was young. So I don't know if you've experienced horniness or whatever. You know, like if you got snipped while you were young, like what is it? You know?
Speaker 2I mean.
Speaker 1What do you think it is, since you're a dog trainer? Why was he aggressive even after? Which is?
Speaker 2strange because a lot of people that has like the pit itself has like that. You know bad rep, but pits are one of the most loving dogs I love pits, but they are very territorial so maybe it was a territorial thing. I don't.
Speaker 1Maybe because during when we had the pit, we had the two dogs too still yeah, but the two dogs were female and he was the male was he was the male was he trying to be alpha, do you think?
Speaker 2possibly, maybe, oh, now are you an alpha with your dogs? Oh, definitely, everyone's always like oh, yeah, maybe, oh, now are you an alpha with your dogs.
Speaker 1Oh, definitely, and I know everyone's always like oh yeah, I'm the alpha, but like?
Speaker 2are you an alpha with your dogs? Explain so.
Speaker 1Because I don't let her go on the couch or on the bed.
Speaker 2Okay, okay, so you set boundaries.
Speaker 1Oh yeah.
Speaker 2And they know like never they think of you as the alpha for sure. Yes, they do say too to tell them to wait to eat. Put the bowl down and see if they'll wait and then go eat or something. And then they'll go and eat. It's because I guess in the dog world basically the alpha would eat first, like lions and everything they would eat first. I hit the mic, sorry.
Speaker 1Oh no, it's all good. I got insurance, we, we got insurance. Yes, ko Studios, we have insurance.
Speaker 2Come down. But no, they say that yeah, they say like let your dominance always. So basically you're saying like I'll tell you when to eat, basically, like I'm done eating your food, you can have the rest.
Speaker 1Really, yeah, and they pick it up fast.
Speaker 2They do pick it up fast. Some people do that with dogs, so I do dog sitting too. So some dogs it's kind of funny actually, because they'll be like oh, my dog is like this, my dog barks at other dogs, but when they're with me I can tell that they're going to want to bark at another dog. So when so I, when I'm walking them, I make them sit and I make the other dog walk past them.
Speaker 1Like at a safe distance. Yeah, yeah, okay, okay, okay.
Speaker 2So I'll make them sit and then I'll let the dog walk past them. But the other thing is, when you pet a dog on its head, it's like dominating, like not dominating, but like it's kind of. It makes them uncomfortable, kind of right, because like you're pushing down on them. I never knew that You're supposed to stroke their chest, to give them like if you notice that, they lift up and you'll see that, like if you meet a scared or shy dog, I'm hitting your mic. I'm a dog nerd I get so excited about dogs.
Speaker 1I'm learning because I love dogs as well.
Speaker 2Yeah, if you want to like have conversation with me. Just let's talk dogs oh man hell yeah. But yeah, um, no man, hell yeah, but yeah, no. So if you stroke their chest, Stroke the chest. Yeah, like it lifts, them.
Speaker 1Yeah, I've seen that.
Speaker 2It's like a dominance thing when, like anybody as a human or an animal, like, if you have, like proper posture, you feel more confident, you're not scared and everything so that gains a human's trust. Obviously you don't want to do that, unless the dog lets you touch them.
Speaker 1Yeah, that's crazy. I like to pat my dog on the butt Like I'm like oh, let's go, I love that too.
Speaker 2Yeah, I'm like, let's go. I mean, everybody loves that too. Oh goodness.
Speaker 1Let me ask you so Dominance Alpha, are you the Alpha one in the relationship, or do you submit, or you know when to be alpha?
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Speaker 2I love having a man of the house. I love that. I want to say I'm tradition modern. I love to have my protector, my man, my person. That's going to be that.
Speaker 1Be a man, a man, be a man.
Speaker 2Man be a man, I'm not going to step over him. However, if we're in, I think that's where the communication comprehension comes. Man, I'm not going to step over him. However, like, if we're in, like you know, I think that's where the communication comprehension comes into. Like you know, I think if that person truly respects me as their person, then they would also be like hey, they run things through me too, so but I always want them to be the speaker. You know how people say like oh, why do you let your man order for you? I don't let a guy order for me at a restaurant. But if we were having conversation, I'm like oh, I really want this. And he decides like oh, you know, she's gonna want this. I'm not gonna be like I order for myself.
Speaker 2Like I, I like to be taken care of yeah, yeah especially being a person who's always running a business and taking care of others. It's nice to be vulnerable yeah am I submissive? I think, think.
Speaker 1I don't want to say I know my. It's a time and place, right? Yeah, a time and place to be submissive.
Speaker 2I know my respect and worth, but I also know like, hey, you go you do so I think it's an equal respect.
Speaker 1The reason why I asked you that because it popped in my head is when you tell a dog to sit, wait for their food, right, and then you say go go yeah and then the dog, and that tells the person like, oh, I'm alpha, so my household, right, when it comes to food and everything, I let everyone eat first before I.
Speaker 1You know, like, but my wife is always like, oh, let me give you a plate. I was like, nah, I want everyone to eat first because I mean, if there's, I'm killing the leftovers. You feel me like if you don't get your shit now, oh, it's in my stomach, you know, yeah, yeah, so, yeah. So that's how it is in my household, like, I let everyone eat first.
Speaker 2I think that's also because you're a protector and you want to make sure you're, because you have kids right.
Speaker 1Yeah, you want to make sure that they are healthy and they're fed, and like you're like damn it, I want to eat, but I'm happier knowing my family will have food in their tummies. So you're more of a like a, caregiver. You know what's so messed up with? That train of thought is like when you were 50 000 feet up in the air. They say put your mask on first before before put it. You know, taking care of other people, yeah, and I'm like damn, that's so messed up, but it's true though. No, I thought that too.
Speaker 2And I always used to think that too. I was like, wow, that kid only has like a little tiny lung, though, like there's like one little like you know, but I thought about it and I was like well, if I try to put their masks on, who's going to protect them once the plane? I mean, if you all survive.
Speaker 1Yeah, yeah, facts, yeah, you have to put yours on first, then others yeah. It's backwards. I guess, when you're on the ground, you got to do it that way, and when you're up in the air, you got to do it the other way.
Speaker 2Yeah, I guess so.
Speaker 1When you fly, girl, let me ask you I love flying. Do you fly first class or are you economy like us folks?
Speaker 2I'm so. Last time Southwest changed everything, so Southwest no longer has the free. I'm a smart flyer, so I have my Hawaiian. I have of course not Alaska, because they combine, and then I have Southwest. Those are the best. Shout out you guys. Give me a sponsorship or something.
Speaker 1Hell, yeah, yeah, ma, ma, ma mao, we're going to go fly the man. I know one of you motherfuckers listen to this shit.
Speaker 2No, but like, basically I balance all of them. So also, like you know, because you get the miles and all shop. But basically so, southwest, I flew southwest here but southwest took away their two free bags. But so here's, you guys want to learn some something oh, so here we go for the tea okay.
Speaker 2So when you fly. So if you buy the small package, it's super cheap on southwest right, but you don't get your two free bags which you used to, which was a great deal, but now you don't. But if you go and buy them after, I think it's like what 25, 50 something bucks right. So like you have two bags, a hundred dollars. So now you went from like 300 something to like another 400 and then normally if I'm flying back home to hawaii, I like to get the internet, I like to get like all that stuff, because that's a long ass flight from new york to hawaii yeah so basically, you add all that on and I guess it just depends on your lifestyle, right?
Speaker 2You add all that on. It ends up being the first like the bigger package actually, oh, I never thought of that when you do that, but when you buy it separately it no longer adds your points. So like if you buy this basic package and they say something like because you know you earn miles every time you buy yeah, yeah, yeah yeah, so the basic package I think was like six times per mile points that you'll get on your account.
Speaker 2But if you bought the bigger one at that time you got 14 times miles and then, if you think about it, you get the small package and then you add on all your additives. You don't get those mileage points anymore.
Speaker 1So basically it's like might as well get the first class.
Speaker 2And you get a free drink.
Speaker 1On a first class.
Speaker 2I don't think it was first class, because Southwood doesn't do that, but like it was the, you get a board first and you get all that other stuff and they give you a free drink.
Speaker 1Oh, which, again, I don't drink, but I get that drink because it was stressful getting here. Oh, I bet, I bet a handful of times, you know, yeah, yeah, and I love first, oh my gosh.
Speaker 2My friend flies first this whole time.
Speaker 1Oh really she's, you have all this space, yo, yeah, and I'm just like, and then you don't bump, you know, next to people and then you get to like stretch out. Girl and you can use the bathroom like Towels class. Before, at least one time I did, but I fell asleep.
Speaker 2I know, ain't no motherfucking story in that one lexus went on and she got up the person's like you slept like no shit. Like the person like next to me kind of, or whatever, like kind of next to me was like you slept through the whole thing. You must have been tired. And I was like, yeah, that sucks yeah, oh, girl, that was because. I was standby, so that's why I got up when's your next trip, new York?
Speaker 1when's New York happening?
Speaker 2so basically I leave from here and I go straight into New York. I have a day off, so I live over in DC. So I'm hybrid. I live in DC. I come back here every 4-6 months, oh, my gosh.
Speaker 1Thank you um so I'm hybrid, I live.
Speaker 2DC.
Speaker 1I come back here every four, six months, oh my gosh.
Speaker 2Yeah, I know, I know. Thank you for coming on. Yeah, I'm excited, I'm so excited. No, is this? Your first pod, it's my second.
Speaker 1All right Cool.
Speaker 2First live pod Like our first like in-person pod I've done like virtual.
Speaker 1Oh, in-person one. Yeah, really Popped your first in-person cherry pod. Meow, meow, meow, meow, meow, meow, meow, meow, meow. All right, so you're going to New York.
Speaker 2Okay, okay, my bad, my bad, we're bringing five models out here from Ireland with me, wow. So yeah, that's kind of like rolling into, like we're talking business. See, I like flip, it should be like business, the real business, the real business. But basically, yeah, that's kind of why I am hybrid, because I'm able to bring experience. I had to move off island.
Speaker 2I don't think everyone wants to move off island. But we're bringing some people back with me over there to go stay with me for a little bit. Then we're going up to New York Fashion Week.
Speaker 1Really, hey my NYC listeners man, hey you in Fashion Week. Just say my name. You see, Alexis, you should come.
Speaker 2Let's get Chris out there.
Speaker 1Hey, if I go man, you're going to see a lot of BTS action. You know what I'm saying. You're going to see me eating a lot Pizza. I'm definitely getting fat If I go. I'm getting fat.
Speaker 2That was like me coming here.
Speaker 1Oh really, I'm just all about the food out here, ube.
Speaker 2Yeah, ube, no one thinks I'm weird.
Speaker 1Let me ask you this. This just popped in my head. Okay, your models, yes. Has any of these photographers tried getting at them or tried getting at you?
Speaker 2I am really picky with my photographers.
Speaker 1Okay, okay, okay.
Speaker 2They'll know, because I shoot with like the same three or four guys when I come out here. Oh, cool and like uh, so those are like kind of like not only like my friends, but they've seen, like kind of the stuff I've done and everything, yeah, um, and it's so funny because some people like, oh, I've been trying to shoot with you. I'm like, oh, okay, you know I'll test out other new photographers, but it's more like once you build that relationship yeah, trust yeah, and the ones that I shoot with, they're really good and they're really respectful and they have it, but there are some.
Speaker 2There are some out here that will be a little nasty really, yeah, and it's kind of like tell a story.
Speaker 1Tell a story. Tell, don't say a name. Though don't say a name, but how nasty was this photographer?
Speaker 2well, let's just say there's, there's the, the thing where it's guy with a camera or Lexus. I got a Yoda Lyft, yeah they have a Toyota Camry, they got a Yoda Camry on dubs, on hubcaps, on hubs fucking 91 gas girl sub tweeter in the back.
Speaker 1I'm up dogging y'all man. Hey, don't find me and beat me up, please yes.
Speaker 2All the boys are going to be in the truck bed. Right Jump out.
Speaker 1They'll be like hey dog, why are you talking shit? I was like, no, no, wait, it's funny though, right.
Speaker 2Yes, I want you. I know how you kiss acid. I'm like no, it's funny, right?
Speaker 1He's like, yeah, I'm like all right, cool, I'm a funny guy, I'm a funny guy. No, but what they do, what they try to do, the guys with the cameras.
Speaker 2Okay. So like one time actually it almost made me this was when I first started modeling Okay, and it almost made me want to get out of modeling, do photo meetups and everything right and so there's a lot of photographers and it's so good to meet all these new photographers. It really is yes and there was one photographer I was working with and I don't do nude, but I'll do implied or bikini right like a like.
Speaker 1Is it called a booty? No boudoir boudoir, boudoir shut up lexus. I don'tus, I don't know, I don't know.
Speaker 2We're going to get Chris in a booty. A Get me in a booty.
Speaker 1A man.
Speaker 2That's going to be the cover of this photo.
Speaker 1I know right, Booty A.
Speaker 2Booty A. He'll be like look back at me.
Speaker 1I know right T Girl.
Speaker 2Pearl. No, but basically I was shooting with a totally different photographer.
Speaker 1Okay.
Speaker 2And I had this top and we were like trying to get the cute side boob under boob thing right. Okay, you know it's cute, but it's still like covered.
Speaker 1It's still classy. Yes, jinx, owe me a Slurpee.
Speaker 2So basically it had shifted.
Speaker 1Okay.
Speaker 2So she was exposed.
Speaker 1The areola.
Speaker 2Yes, she was exposed. And then somebody was like, oh, alexis, alexis, we were looking for tape to tape it, yeah, and like when you move your arm, it like exposes, right, or whatever. So we're just trying to figure out. So one guy and you could tell the photos were not me posing one for the person. I was looking this way, the guy was over this way and my face was were like in mid-conversation with somebody, right, but he had taken the photos and I don't know if he still has them. I mean, I don't know, but this was a long time ago, like 2016-ish time, right. And so basically all the models that were at that shoot got one big file of all the photos and those were in it.
Speaker 1Yeah, he just uploaded all of them and I freaked out and I thought, without even doing the touch-ups and everything yeah, no touch-ups no deleting.
Speaker 2He just uploaded his card onto this doc like google file yeah, yeah everybody could go into it. So people saw, like you know, a little bit of whatever. I mean like it was showing, though it was a whole boob. You know, boob, it was a boob.
Speaker 1Lex is boobing it up. Your boob, your boob, your boob.
Speaker 2That sounds Australian. It is right. Such a boob, Such a boob. Don't be a boob.
Speaker 1Your boob mate.
Speaker 2Your boob. You're a boobie. You're a boobie. Stop. Oh my God, okay, so, okay, okay, okay, goodbye. Basically, yeah, and I was thinking like that was when I first met my boyfriend too, and I was like, oh my God, I cheated. It wasn't my fault, but it was obviously. He was just like but everyone was like, oh, it's whatever. And now I now from things like that and I tell my models too. I always tell people like you have the right to go and tell them like I want to look at the photos, especially if you do a boudoir or like implied or bikini or anything. I always tell them, like you have the right to say, like can I go through the photos real quick and then just delete what I don't like and what I don't like. And I've had some photographers like, oh, I don't know what, if I like it, I'm like it doesn't matter what you like.
Speaker 2Oh yeah, that's not fair, like I mean it does matter, but I mean like it's my body.
Speaker 1Yeah.
Speaker 2What if like a guy or that photographer or whatever? What if he was walking around?
Speaker 1and I, like, took a picture of you balls. Okay, we have two. All right, it's plural, not singular. All right, miss lexus jesus they were showing.
Speaker 2Yeah, yeah like anything, because sometimes guys don't like, you know if their stomach looks weird or they don't look as buff or whatever, whatever it may be. But what if I'm like oh, I'm gonna post it, it's my photo, it's just a respecting to the other person, true?
Speaker 1so basically like that's why I tell people now I'm like, I won't shoot with anybody if they don't agree to that is it the same when you're um on the mainland too, like there's a set list of photographers that you mess with, or is it all different because of, I guess, the place, yeah, yeah, because of the industry.
Speaker 2I think with some places like I don't know, because obviously I'm not in every state, but like I do travel a lot, so I have my set when I get somebody. The other thing is they know how I like to shoot and they know when I'm uncomfortable about something or where my limits are.
Speaker 2So, that's why I usually stick with those people. But back in DC I have a lot of like my regulars. Yeah, Just sad because some of them moved. So now I'm just like sometimes I just sit and just like wait till I come home and like I smash out, like photo shoots, that's smart, so that's what I'm doing. And now I'm like smash just working. Smashing photo shoot.
Speaker 1Girl, I respect, you know y'all.
Speaker 2Emphasize that.
Speaker 1Photo shoots smashing the photo shoots? None of none of this, uh, none of this, um, uh, finagling. No, no, I respect y'all modeling because, um, I had a photo shoot here. It's like you know, just like my headshot profile, whatever, but you want to be a model dog? No, no, thank you, I'm too shy.
Speaker 2So was I oh, really I'm accidentally sexy. That's what I say to people. Like it comes, I'm a goofball.
Speaker 1Yeah, me too. I'm a goofball. I don't know if I'm accidentally sexy, but I'm goofy as hell Because, like when I was trying to pose, I'm like what do I fucking do with my hand?
Speaker 2Okay, tell a day and night.
Speaker 1Do I like this?
Speaker 2Have you seen?
Speaker 1Tell a Day and Night, yeah, oh yeah, right. Talladega Night with Will Ferrell, right? Aw, sweet baby Jesus with the long blonde flowy hair. I love the baby Jesus in the little baby Jesus t-shirt. Baby Jesus. Oh, that's a great movie, by the way.
Speaker 2It is. It's my favorite.
Speaker 1Girl, before we dip out, I just started this new segment called Confessions right, but that's what happens with the tangents.
Speaker 2Oh yeah, part two. Yeah, fuck, yeah, hell, yeah I don't know.
Speaker 1No because it's tangents, right? Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, we go through it. So the confessions, right. This is a real business? I know no, Because it's like late at night I like to fucking make myself three corn dogs, type shit. You know it could be embarrassing or it could be. If you want to really like be like soulful, Do you have a confession that you want to Confession? Yeah, a confession.
Speaker 2Maybe to a friend that you don't talk to and say, hey, I'm sorry, but I'm still thinking of you. Oh, that was on the spot.
Speaker 1It is How'd you like that one? And it's not even horny. It's not even a horny question. Very.
Speaker 2PG? There is, but I don't know if I want to say that to them.
Speaker 1Don't say the name, will they know it's them.
Speaker 2If you said specifically oh really, oh shit, I don't know. Well, your friend, I appreciate you.
Speaker 1Oh, that's a good one oh, that could be to anybody. Oh um a, I just ruined it, alfred. Uh, she appreciates you more than you know I appreciate you to a guy it's just someone that was. Uh, we were talking and you're talking as in like getting almost getting together, talking as in like you were friends and something fell out.
Speaker 2Talking as in, like we had like a good conversation and it could have been something, maybe a friendship, or it could have gone somewhere else kind of thing, but like I think other people ruined it by saying certain stuff. One thing is Island is small.
Speaker 1Yeah.
Speaker 2And that's the thing, like I mean before we cut out, but like I think you're bound to know somebody who knows somebody, who knows somebody Right.
Speaker 1Someone told me that before. Yes.
Speaker 2Yeah, and that's like if you're dating somebody years ago or maybe like a little something with somebody, but it wasn't anything and you both moved on.
Speaker 1That shit. That something with somebody, but it wasn't anything and you both moved on that shit.
Speaker 2That doesn't count. Yeah, no, it doesn't. So, of course, if you just so happened, that person was friends with somebody else's friend yeah I didn't even know that other friend was born on the earth at the time. Yeah, I don't think that counts it doesn't, it shouldn't I think that person, um, they found, I think that person found out, and I respect that. There's's an uncomfortableness about it. But if the other person is done and done with someone else and then I met this other person like how I'm picking my people?
Speaker 1in the claw 50 cents please.
Speaker 2Basically, I feel like one.
Speaker 2You should have talked to me about it yeah I don't think they they've never really told me, but I, the moment I found out that they kind of knew about it. Um, yeah, I feel like that's. That's weird. I feel like it's a small island. We're probably and I'm not even on this island, which is even weirder. Yeah, I'm back and forth, so it's like for me to have a past with somebody that didn't even go anywhere and that person's like married, whatever with people, and they just so happen to be friends with you and I didn't even know you existed at the time. And then I meet you and then you don't even like want to talk about it. That's, that's weird you know what?
Speaker 1maybe that person thought that you wouldn't comprehend.
Speaker 2Maybe I'm a very understanding person.
Speaker 1You seem understanding. I am yes.
Speaker 2But then they posted another girl when they were supposed to meet me, so I was like no you're gone.
Speaker 1Red flag, yeah, red flag. Definitely a red flag, yeah.
Speaker 2It was sad because I really liked you. I really liked you Fuck it.
Speaker 1Oh, you loser, you, you're a real loser dude. I mean, we chopped it up for like I guess, like the past 50, some odd minutes, right, and you seem, you seem, she cool as hell y'all I am. You see her. Hey, talk about dogs, you're an easy in, you're an easy in.
Speaker 2Are you a foodie too? Feed me. I was just going to say that, feed me pizza and ube. Let's talk about dogs.
Speaker 1Ube on pizza.
Speaker 2Ooh, no Pineapple on pizza. You know what? I'll try it. I'll try it. A knock in until you tried it right. I love ube anything, so I mean let's try it Cook for her.
Speaker 1I'm going to take a picture. I'm going to take a picture. Oh, word.
Speaker 2Yeah, I'm going to take a picture of ube pizza.
Speaker 1Tag me.
Speaker 2I mean it could be a dessert pizza.
Speaker 1Ooh, yeah, oh, I'm down, I'm eating that. Like leche flan with ube on top, looking like a pizza.
Speaker 2With like condensed milk.
Final Thoughts and Island Confessions
Speaker 1Oh my God Fat boy status Fat kid steez, fat kid steez. It's like our PTSD, I know right. Oh my god, remember that one time we had we had that fucking you know what. Next time you, next time you come on, we're gonna eat that. Okay, I'm being a bib, so I don't In your pajamas, in my pajamas, your pajamas. I have a table here.
Speaker 2Yeah, we're like potluck style, just the two of us.
Speaker 1Yeah, potluck style. Just the two of us will have the ube with the litchi, with the motherfucking condensed milk. Oh my god. I might have to poop afterwards because of the milk. But it's okay, it's one thing that I will sacrifice my butthole. You know what I'm saying. Because they got wipes here, I'll use the wipes.
Speaker 2We might have to take a pause so you can use the.
Speaker 1Oh, definitely I'll be like mmm, hey, pause.
Speaker 2Gotta go.
Speaker 1Gotta go, gotta go. Hey man, lexus is kind of like a dude, but not. Yeah, the whole, yeah I'm a John yeah. Hey, she a cool ass, john. Cool ass, john. Hell, yeah, I'm an Alex Girl. Oh my god, tea and all that. Tea and all that. Hey, that was fun. Do you have any shout outs or anything before we dip out, or where can these people find you, chris?
Speaker 2thank you so much for having me.
Speaker 1Oh, thank you.
Speaker 2Shout out to my mama hey mama.
Speaker 1Hey mama, hola que tal Mi amor Chris, de donde eres. Si she said, yes, I don't know what that was, I just said oh, hello, I'm Chris, where are you at?
Speaker 2Oh, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1Where you at.
Speaker 2She's in Seattle, hey. So yeah, shout out to my mom, to Chris.
Speaker 1Thank you so much, oh, thank you, thank you so much, thank you for everybody tuning in because that's awesome.
Speaker 2Yeah, so much, thank you. Thank you so much, thank you for everybody tuning in because that's awesome.
Speaker 1Yeah, that's it. Yeah, Cool AKO Studios. Thank you for a lovely home. Rafi Byte, thank you for the lovely vibes man, and with that I'm Chris.
Speaker 2I'm Alexis Rene, hell yeah, and we out this bitch Peace, peace.
