The REALationship Method

Hurricane SLAP Shot, No Dating Customer Rule, and Handling BO with Hurricane Tee

Chris Lomboy Season 5 Episode 95

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What happens when a bartender at a military-heavy honky-tonk goes viral for a slap and turns it into a professional path? We sit down with Hurricane Tee to unpack the craft behind the chaos—how a novelty “Hurricane Shot” (waiver, your choice of liquor, splash of water) became a crowd favorite, and how consent, clear communication, and safety protocols keep the fun from tipping into danger. Tee shares the real bar operations most people never see: when to cut someone off, why keys get held until morning, how over-serving can put you in court, and what great bouncers do in the first 30 seconds of a bad vibe.

We also get into the human side of nightlife. Tee talks about boundaries—why she never dates customers, how to decline a date without drama, and why people-pleasing is a red flag that erodes self-respect. The conversation stretches into tricky relationship territory, including what to do if a partner’s porn history shocks you, how to approach curiosity without shame, and why assumptions break trust faster than blunt honesty. Along the way, we laugh through the sensory truths of bar work, from BO and stale breath to the kindness of handing someone a napkin and a mint when words won’t land.

Rooted in Hawai‘i, the episode brings island life into focus—Kailua roots, Big Island night markets, favorites like squid luau and kahlua pig with poi, and a straight talk on cost of living, military culture, and mutual respect. Tee’s five-year vision is sharp: open her own bar, plant deeper roots, collect passport stamps, and build a life that’s both grounded and free. Between slap mechanics, line-dancing regulars, and the small rituals that keep a community safe, this is a fast-moving, funny, and thoughtful ride through modern bar culture and the relationships it holds.

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• how a viral slap led to a pro contract
• what bar safety looks like when it works
• over serving liability and taking keys
• tipping and tabs that don’t get paid
• clean boundaries like not dating customers
• canceling dates with honesty and respect
• people pleasing as a red flag
• first impressions, hygiene, and bar etiquette
• local food favorites and Big Island markets
• cost of living, military presence, and respect
• five-year goals to own a bar and travel

Meet Hurricane Tee At Whiskey Dick’s

SPEAKER_08

4321 Welcome back to another episode of the Relationship Method Podcast. It's your boy Chris. And we back in 2026. At the end, girl. At the end. Jump in the gun. I'm just playing. I'm just playing. Today we got a a very special lovely guest. I have um she's a bartender at Whiskey Dicks.

unknown

Yeah.

SPEAKER_08

She is a featherweight um slapper.

SPEAKER_03

Flyweight.

SPEAKER_08

Flyweight. Featherweight? Is what's the difference? They will both have F's.

SPEAKER_03

I mean, in PowerStack, the weight classes are different. So Oh, really?

SPEAKER_08

Yeah. Okay, well, I have a professional hot damn slapper in our midst. Yay! And her name goes by T. Um, is that short for anything or Tiare. Tiare. Am I saying it right?

SPEAKER_03

Yeah. Cool, cool, cool, cool, cool. I just work at a howli bar, so tiade doesn't really roll right.

SPEAKER_08

Howlibar, so for people that don't know what howli bar is, what what's your what's your definition of a howle? Howli? Howle?

SPEAKER_03

Well nowadays it's just white, right? But I mean my bar is predominantly military, so that's what it is.

SPEAKER_08

Really? Yep.

SPEAKER_06

Have you been to this bar?

SPEAKER_03

Uh-uh.

SPEAKER_06

No. I want to though. They do like line dancing and stuff.

SPEAKER_08

Ooh, okay. Talking about line dancing, um, do you have those couples or those people that just kill it on the dance floor?

SPEAKER_03

Like they know how to like do the spins and like their Yeah, I mean, there's there's a lot of people that can dance really well that come into the bar. We have people that travel from the mainland to dance at the bar.

SPEAKER_08

Word.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah.

SPEAKER_08

Well, hot damn whiskey dicks, put me on, man. Um, y'all do y'all do live stuff. Y'all have like y'all ever had like live podcasts or live comedian shows on stage or whatever, or is it just straight up bar?

SPEAKER_03

Straight up bar.

SPEAKER_08

Oh.

SPEAKER_03

We don't even serve food.

SPEAKER_08

Oh. Okay. How about finger foods? Y'all got finger foods?

SPEAKER_03

If you got popcorn and chips.

SPEAKER_08

Oh, well shit. Shit. No, I'll probably drop it and say what's up to tea. Um, Anu, hello 2026.

unknown

Hello.

SPEAKER_08

Hello. Um, we got some news. Um, Anu is freaking preggers. Congratulations, hot damn. And it's um, we're talking for a little bit. Uh it's a girl.

SPEAKER_05

It is.

SPEAKER_08

Um, name?

SPEAKER_05

No name yet.

SPEAKER_08

No name.

SPEAKER_05

Unsure.

SPEAKER_08

Unsure. Okay. Um, will it be carrying the daddy, uh, the daddy's last name or yours? Or hyphen?

SPEAKER_05

No, just his last name.

SPEAKER_08

Hey, okay. Then let me ask you something. Um, how do you feel with like let's say kids or women, like when they get married, they got that hyphenated, you know, their hyphenated last name with that, or um, with children, uh, they get the mom's name, or should it have the dad's name?

SPEAKER_03

I have both.

SPEAKER_08

Oh, you have both? Yeah. So it's like bomb hyphenated bum?

SPEAKER_03

Yeah.

SPEAKER_08

Oh, hey, okay. Um yeah, how do you feel about that? Like, is it cool? Like, do you think it's traditional or whatnot?

SPEAKER_03

No, I mean, traditional is to have like the dad's last name. But I mean, you know, sometimes the mom doesn't want to be left out, and that's cool too.

SPEAKER_08

Yeah, yeah, yeah. I feel you, I feel you.

SPEAKER_05

Um with my first kids, I wish I had my name for them.

SPEAKER_08

Your your last name, but it has daddies.

unknown

Yeah.

SPEAKER_08

Oh, is it on the birth certificate?

SPEAKER_05

Birth certificate.

SPEAKER_08

Yeah, the your maiden name.

SPEAKER_05

Well, we were married, remember?

SPEAKER_08

Oh yeah. Oh, I've it's been a long while since you were married. Oh, yeah, let's not talk about that shit.

SPEAKER_03

That's when hyphenating it makes sense, you know. Yeah. Oh, yeah.

Military Crowd, Line Dancing, And Bar Culture

SPEAKER_05

This one, it is what it is.

SPEAKER_08

It it is values what it is what it is. Um, Audio, since since I didn't I haven't asked you yet, you have any New Year's resolutions or no. Oh, just to survive. New year's New Year, new me, same me, right?

SPEAKER_03

Yeah.

SPEAKER_08

How about you, T? Did you make any um 2026 uh resolutions?

SPEAKER_03

Honestly, to be outside more. Outside as in like I mean, it seems like that right now, but no, like go back to the beach and go hiking and stuff.

SPEAKER_08

What's um what's been stopping you?

SPEAKER_03

Nightlife, working at the bar. Also during the day.

SPEAKER_08

So I just so you work five days or six days or whatnot?

SPEAKER_03

Yeah.

SPEAKER_08

Really? Oh, you're making that screw, girl. Are you still living at home or are you um helping the rents out with the mortgage and everything?

SPEAKER_03

No, I have my own.

SPEAKER_08

You have your own giant? Yeah, dog, she is on her own. She got her own. Um, apartment, home, you got roommates, dog, cat.

SPEAKER_03

No roommates, just a studio.

SPEAKER_08

Oh, just a studio?

SPEAKER_03

Yeah.

SPEAKER_08

Girl, let me tell you about studios. I love studios. Um, my very first apartment was a studio. I slept on a futon. Couch to bed. What's your situation?

SPEAKER_03

No, I got a bed. My parents fly in.

SPEAKER_08

Oh, it's not a futon?

SPEAKER_03

No.

SPEAKER_08

No. IKEA type shit, or is it?

SPEAKER_03

I don't know. It's one of those that it's like a six-in-one kind of thing. It poes out into a bed, like it flips into a table, like all kinds of stuff.

SPEAKER_08

Those are cool. I've been watching like a lot of Japanese homes and stuff. And you know their spaces are like super compact.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah.

SPEAKER_08

So you got the wall turning into a, and then you got the bed turning into, yeah.

SPEAKER_03

So gotta make the most of the space, you know?

SPEAKER_08

Yeah. Oh my gosh. Um, Anu, let me ask you this. Um, is your home like crowded, or is there like a lot of like knick-knacks and shit? Like, is it um, how do you say it? Is it uh, you know how parents and stuff they keep a lot of stuff and they haven't thrown it out?

SPEAKER_05

No, no, my mom gets rid of it.

SPEAKER_08

Really? Yeah. I have a five-year rule where if I haven't used it in five years, it's tossed. How about you guys?

SPEAKER_03

It makes it five years.

SPEAKER_08

Yeah, well, if it makes it five years, or is it three years? What's your rule with with like like say old clothes?

SPEAKER_05

Ooh, clothes are different. Oh, I have such a hard time getting rid of clothes.

SPEAKER_08

Is it because that you bought it for yourself and you're like, damn, this costed this much? Or is there a sentimental value to I don't know.

SPEAKER_05

I just don't like getting rid of clothes. Yeah, it's hard. I have like shirts from high school.

SPEAKER_08

Really?

SPEAKER_05

That I like I'll look at it.

SPEAKER_08

So I'm not saying you're fat or anything. I'm upstairs.

SPEAKER_05

No, so like in Hawaii, I don't know if the mainland does this, but they make like senior shirts and stuff. Yeah, they do that on the mainland, yeah, yeah. So I have so many of my classmates' senior shirts, and I'm like, I can't get rid of this.

SPEAKER_08

What are you doing with uh so many senior shirts? Are there like specific people or oh, like rallies?

SPEAKER_05

So like we the athletes would make their own shirts for their senior seas season.

SPEAKER_08

Oh. So that's a Hawaii thing.

unknown

I think so.

SPEAKER_08

I thought I thought you I thought you meant like class of 99, 98.

SPEAKER_01

That's stuff that I got rid of. Oh, it's gotta go.

SPEAKER_08

But you kept okay. Well shit, I kept my fucking I kept my class of shirt, but yeah, we didn't we didn't have the you know individual name shirts on the mainland. I don't think that was like a big thing.

SPEAKER_03

No, like everybody does that here.

SPEAKER_08

Yeah, really? You know, I can see that, I can see that.

SPEAKER_05

You know, you know, I I just got rid of my clerb clothes though.

SPEAKER_08

Your what? My clerb clothes. Your club clothes? Yeah. Like the like the scant clothes and shit?

SPEAKER_05

Like the clothes I would wear to the club.

SPEAKER_08

Oh, the club, huh? Are you like done with that?

SPEAKER_05

I think so.

SPEAKER_08

Are you really?

SPEAKER_05

Yeah. Because um, when we found out I was pregnant, um, my boyfriend, he was like, even after you give birth, I think I'm just done drinking and stuff. Really?

SPEAKER_06

I was like, oh, I guess. Oh shit. I guess we're done going out.

SPEAKER_08

T, let me ask you, let me ask you this. Um, do you get like say lightweight wasted behind the behind the bar?

SPEAKER_03

Nah, we're not allowed to drink.

SPEAKER_08

Even if a guy or a girl buys you Yeah. Really? You just fake it, fake the funk? It's like, I wanna buy it.

SPEAKER_03

No, no, we can't can't take it.

SPEAKER_08

Out of girl, that's what's up. Yeah, um, this might be a little sideways, but have you seen like guys pushing up on females and um like try to put stuff in drinks and stuff? Have you have has that ever happened to you? Or has that ever happened to whiskey?

SPEAKER_03

I mean, I I feel like in the past it has, but our bouncers are really good now. Like that shit don't fly. Really? Yeah, they're out. As soon as a girl says a guy made them feel uncomfortable, boom, they're out.

Names, Hyphens, And Family Traditions

SPEAKER_08

Oh, okay, okay. That's good. That's real good. Has that happened in when you were Clerbin? Um, bouncers would take out the guys, you know, like that first hint of yo, this person's making me feel super uncomfortable.

SPEAKER_05

Uh, I usually go with like a big group of friends. So I've never been in a situation where I felt uncomfortable. Yeah. But I don't know. I'm pretty, I don't pay attention to my surroundings too much.

SPEAKER_08

Obviously, Anu. Um, T, let me ask you, uh, how did you get into this bar life?

SPEAKER_03

Uh I'm a Neppo baby.

SPEAKER_08

What does that mean? Oh, nepotism. Yeah. Also, who owns the bar?

SPEAKER_03

So my auntie used to own the bar.

SPEAKER_08

Okay.

SPEAKER_03

And it was right after COVID. I was like freshly 21. And I was like, hey, you know, like if you're hiring, hire me. And then, yeah, it's been four years now. She no longer owns the bar, but I just stayed.

SPEAKER_08

Did you have to go through the proper channels to get like, like, say, license and everything? Because I could understand there's like a big hefty fine if you're not licensed to like serve alcohol and shit.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah. I mean, you have to go through liquor commission, you have to take the test and something like that. Yeah.

SPEAKER_08

You passed?

unknown

Of course.

SPEAKER_08

First time or second time?

SPEAKER_03

First time.

SPEAKER_08

Is it that easy?

SPEAKER_03

Yeah. It's common sense.

SPEAKER_08

Is it really?

SPEAKER_03

Yeah.

SPEAKER_08

Give me a common sense question because common is not so common.

SPEAKER_03

Not so common girl. Um, it's like, what is the legal drinking limit in Hawaii? How do you know if somebody is drunk? No, like how do you know if somebody is drunk?

SPEAKER_08

Oh, um possible choice.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah. Oh, oh, okay, okay, okay.

SPEAKER_08

I think I got a 50-50 chance here. Um, what is the legal limit? Like, um.08. I think it's the same on the mainland too. To drive. Oh, to drive.

SPEAKER_05

So I mean drink to your heart's content. Just don't get behind the wheel. Uber.

SPEAKER_08

Do you take uh keys away from people too?

SPEAKER_03

Oh, yeah, 100%. Oh, that's good. Because I mean, if somebody drives, they get into an accident, then I'm on the ringer. Like, I have to I would have to show up to court because I'm the one that served them.

SPEAKER_08

How does that work? Like, it's kind of it's the it's the person's responsibility, the individual's responsibility. Like, if he or she gets so hammered that she's driving, how is that your fault? Is it because you're like, oh here.

SPEAKER_03

As a as a yeah, as a business and as the bartender, like you're liable.

SPEAKER_08

Really?

SPEAKER_03

Over serving somebody, you know.

SPEAKER_08

Oh, so how do you get how does how do these people get their keys back?

SPEAKER_03

Come back the next day.

SPEAKER_08

Oh, really? Yeah. If the person's taking an Uber, are you giving them their keys or is it a next day type of situation?

SPEAKER_03

Yeah, after taking an Uber, like we've ordered Ubers for people before. Yeah. A bar that cares.

SPEAKER_08

Oh, that's that's super good.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah.

SPEAKER_08

Wow. Look at this. I'm just learning all this shit. Um, before we get to these questions, uh, or keep going. Um, give me a bar tip. Like to keep your bartender happy, you have to tip her.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah.

SPEAKER_08

All the time? Is it at the end of the night thing, or is it like every time you're giving them something?

SPEAKER_03

I mean, everybody that says, oh yeah, I'll tip you at the end of the night, 90% of them forget.

SPEAKER_04

Ew. Okay, okay.

SPEAKER_03

I mean, you get drunk throughout the night, right? You are you gonna remember the seven drinks and four shots you got that you paid for?

SPEAKER_05

No, you know, so I would keep my tab open and then just pay at the end.

SPEAKER_08

Talking about tabs open, has there ever been a person that finagled their way to getting a free drink from an open tab? It's like, oh, I'm with them, but not really with them. And their tab was open. Has that ever happened? I'm pulling this from like a TV show.

SPEAKER_03

Nah, not r no, not really, because my bar is like a regular base bar, it's like a bunch of regulars.

SPEAKER_07

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03

So most of the time I know who they're trying to put their drink under, and I'm like, hey, so and so just put your drink on their tab on your tab. And they're like, yeah, that's fine. I told them to, or whatever. Because they're all friends.

SPEAKER_08

Uh-huh.

SPEAKER_03

So.

SPEAKER_08

Okay. Uh, Miss T, single, uh, taken, complicated, or are you just mingling, or you just don't give a rat's hoo on what you're doing?

SPEAKER_03

I'm single and I don't give a rat's ass about it.

SPEAKER_08

There it is. That's what's up. Okay, next question. Um, these guys and gals that are trying um that come to the bar, uh how are they um like say, do they pursue you? I mean, you're not ugly. You so I mean, I like, are they hitting you up? Are they trying to like hit at that? I'm just saying.

SPEAKER_03

I mean, name a bartender that doesn't get hit on.

SPEAKER_08

Um, a couple guys. I know, I know a couple guys and shit. Sometimes people got an RB.

SPEAKER_03

I'm not a bartender.

SPEAKER_08

Oh, okay. So how do you let them down easily? Like these guys and girls that pursue.

Nightlife Work, Studios, And Minimalism

SPEAKER_03

Oh, the easiest answer is I don't date customers.

SPEAKER_08

Oh. Has anyone ever gone above and beyond and said, you know what? I ain't gonna figure I ain't gonna be a customer no more.

SPEAKER_03

Oh yeah, I've I've had that too before, but it's like, no, but see, you started as my customer, so it doesn't count.

SPEAKER_08

Really? Huh.

SPEAKER_03

That's clear on business.

SPEAKER_08

That's clever shit. Um, and then with these okay, so has anyone ever waited for you to get off your, you know, your shift to talk to you and pursue?

SPEAKER_03

No, we take too long. To close. Oh, really? Yeah.

SPEAKER_08

Oh, so you'd be closing like at four or five? Or like what are the hours? What's whiskey takes hours? I don't know.

SPEAKER_03

Um, really? Everybody's out by 1.45.

SPEAKER_08

Is it is it a Hawaii thing? It's two o'clock, like two is the the standard.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah, then if you want to stay open till four, there's like a cabaret license.

SPEAKER_08

Okay.

SPEAKER_03

All the prices are more expensive.

SPEAKER_08

Mmm. There's this place in um, because my wife and her best friend went to the to this bar slash club. It's in, I think it's I'm right next to like the Pearl City Mall.

SPEAKER_02

Jeez.

SPEAKER_08

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, okay. That's like I picked her up like super late. Why is that club like open so late? Or is it just people just hanging out?

SPEAKER_03

Nah, they have their cabaret license.

SPEAKER_08

Oh, okay.

SPEAKER_03

So they close at four.

SPEAKER_08

Oh.

SPEAKER_03

But the good thing about over there is they serve food late. I think their kitchen closes at like three.

SPEAKER_08

Really?

SPEAKER_03

Two, three o'clock.

SPEAKER_08

Huh.

SPEAKER_03

That's why people go there.

SPEAKER_08

Is your food good? Have you?

SPEAKER_05

I've never been there. I stay in town.

SPEAKER_08

Oh. Sorry.

SPEAKER_05

I stay in my area.

SPEAKER_08

Stay in your area. How about you? Like, have you had their food?

SPEAKER_05

It was pretty good.

SPEAKER_08

Oh, is it really? It's busting, huh? Uh, Shays, I might have to check you guys out, but like at probably like 6 p.m., fuck that shit. I got a fucking career, motherfucker. Um, so uh T, how did you get into this power slapping thing?

SPEAKER_03

Slapping people at the bar.

SPEAKER_08

I mean And that's how it started.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah, I posted one video and then everyone was tagging Dana White, power slap. Next thing you know, they're like in my DMs, like hitting me up.

SPEAKER_08

Uh-huh. So it just it happened just like that. That's that's how fast.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah.

SPEAKER_05

I think I used to watch her on TikTok. Shut your ass! Thomas, swear, because I follow this guy, Cody, uh-huh, who does line dancing, which is how I knew about the line dancing.

SPEAKER_09

Okay.

SPEAKER_05

And I think he like reposted it. And she slapped the shit out of somebody. Have you made someone it was all like military men, so I was like, Have you ever made someone bleed?

SPEAKER_08

Or like knock a tooth out accidentally?

SPEAKER_05

Loose, not out.

SPEAKER_08

Really?

SPEAKER_05

Yeah.

SPEAKER_08

Fuck, man.

SPEAKER_05

Like I said, slap the shit.

SPEAKER_08

Like leaving a well. Dude, if I was that dude's friend, I'm like, hey dog, you got slapped, homie.

SPEAKER_05

No, I'm pretty sure they have somebody standing behind them to catch them. Like when she slaps them. Yes. I swear.

SPEAKER_08

Have you broken someone's neck? Or like no. Okay. Well, I'm just I'm just asking because you're gonna be in jail. No, because the slap, you know, that you get the you get the recoil, you know what I'm saying? You get the whiplash, and then I'm just assuming.

SPEAKER_05

If somebody breaks their neck, aren't they like dead?

SPEAKER_08

I mean, not not injured injured someone, you know. Fuck. Um, at whiskeys, are you slapping uh women too, or is it just all dudes?

SPEAKER_03

Yeah, hands-rated E for everybody. If you sign the waiver, you ask for it, she's eating. I'll run it down, be like, hey, like this is what's gonna happen. You're cool with that. They're like, yeah.

SPEAKER_08

How much is it to get slapped by you and like you have to get I pay no person to slap the fuck out of me? I'm sorry. But um, how much uh yeah, like does it come with a shot? You you know what I'm saying? Like, what comes with this slap?

SPEAKER_03

Yeah, it comes with a shot and nice refreshing water splash in the face. I've seen that, yeah.

SPEAKER_08

I've seen I've seen the shit, yeah.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah, I don't know. I've been charging like 50 bucks now.

SPEAKER_08

50? How much were you starting before?

SPEAKER_03

20.

SPEAKER_08

And whoa, 20 to 50. This is all is this all going to your pocket or is it going to the bar?

SPEAKER_03

To the bar. Um, most of it goes to the bar.

SPEAKER_08

Uh-huh.

SPEAKER_03

Others just so make sure I get my tip in there.

SPEAKER_08

Of course, of course. Um, what made you started to um like say charge for the slab?

SPEAKER_03

Um we offered it as a special for one event that we did. It's called like boots and bikinis that we do every year. And people were asking for it after. So then we just kept it on the menu, like hurricane shots.

SPEAKER_08

How'd you get the name hurricane?

SPEAKER_03

Is it the That's like the the the shot, like what it's called? It's called like a hurricane shot.

SPEAKER_08

Uh-huh.

SPEAKER_03

Um, so then I ended up just taking like hurricane tea.

SPEAKER_08

What's in that motherfucker? What's in that hurricane shot?

SPEAKER_03

It's a shot of your choice, the water and the face, and then I thought it was like some special blend of it's like just a straight shot and then the water and then I mean some people do like the the lime in the eye. I think that one is like called like the tsunami, or I don't know what it's. But nah, that's just too much. That's too degrading.

SPEAKER_05

Like you dang, you just have to like sit there. It's a holly bar. You gotta remember it's a holly bar.

SPEAKER_08

Fucking whites, man. I swear to God.

SPEAKER_01

I don't know.

SPEAKER_08

The white Ain't no brown motherfucker. Well, ain't no me brown.

SPEAKER_05

You don't see no local people going up there, like gimme, gimme.

SPEAKER_08

Do you really?

SPEAKER_05

Mm-hmm. Not me. Yeah, right. It ain't man, we're gonna have to squab wow.

SPEAKER_08

Has a female ever like, oh, you slapped me too hard, or like took it very personal when you slapped them?

SPEAKER_03

No. No?

SPEAKER_08

Oh, that's good then. You know because they knew they know what they do.

SPEAKER_03

No, because they've all seen the videos, right? Or they've seen it in person. They're like, oh yeah, I want, like, I want to try. Like, it to me. And I'm like, okay, like I'm not gonna hit you as hard. Like, no, no, no, go hit me hard. Like, it's fine. Um, then you see the girl and the that one girl that there was this blonde girl just full on, like, uh-uh.

SPEAKER_08

She she's probably military too, huh?

SPEAKER_03

No, she's not. I don't know.

SPEAKER_08

I feel like she was a spouse of a military military, dude.

SPEAKER_03

That's on like a like a goat farm or whatever. So she's like a farmer.

SPEAKER_08

And you white people, man. Mm-mm. Okay, let's get to these motherfuckers and things. Um, do do do do do uh do oh uh you have a good relationship with your parents and everything?

SPEAKER_03

Oh yeah.

SPEAKER_08

Yeah? Are they on the island or what's your ethnicity?

SPEAKER_03

Hawaiian, Chinese, Japanese. Oh, Kanichiwa motherfucker.

SPEAKER_08

Kanichiwa.

SPEAKER_03

Is that the only one you know?

SPEAKER_08

Yes, definitely, yeah. I read subtitles.

SPEAKER_03

Ohio Gaza Mus. Yeah.

SPEAKER_08

That's hello in Japanese. Am I right?

SPEAKER_05

Shai Mustai.

SPEAKER_08

Sh I must stay too, you know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_05

I must stay my ass at home when they go into the uh restaurants.

SPEAKER_08

I don't know. Is that what they say? What does that say like welcome? I don't know. Oh are you are you fluent in Chinese or Japanese?

SPEAKER_03

No.

SPEAKER_08

Oh no? Okay, man, motherfucker, I was just a g okay. Mom bet. Uh local, you've been here your whole life?

SPEAKER_03

Yeah.

SPEAKER_08

Yeah? Cool, cook, what high school?

SPEAKER_03

Kailua.

SPEAKER_08

Kailua. Is that um where's that at?

SPEAKER_04

She just said she's from the east side. Man, well, I don't know.

SPEAKER_08

Maybe maybe she relocated, you know what I'm saying? You know, I got motherfuckers that's like that live in Waianae and then went to high school in Eva because they moved and then like 10th grade, they went to freaking Millolani. So, how am I supposed to know? Come on, man. Y'all people move around a lot.

SPEAKER_03

So y'all people rent is expensive in Hawaii, you know? We live on the city. No, it is. No, it is.

Safety At The Bar And Over-Serving

SPEAKER_08

No, no, no lie, no lie. Um, how far have you gone, uh, like say from home to do these um slap tournaments? Is it just only Vegas or have you gone to like Michigan?

SPEAKER_03

Well, I've only done one so far. Because I just signed the contract.

SPEAKER_08

Uh-huh.

SPEAKER_03

Um, but yeah, so I only went to Vegas, but they have done it in Saudi Arabia, Abu Dhabi, New Orleans, like That's what's up. Yeah, I'm gonna get some stamps on my passport, hopefully.

SPEAKER_08

Oh yeah, that's what's up. Um has have you ever slapped someone and they took it as like a freaky thing? Like, ooh. Question like, did they like became like horny after that?

SPEAKER_03

Or I mean I think there was like one guy, he like stood there for a little bit. He's like, I think you unlocked something in me.

SPEAKER_08

I was like, I was like, I'm finna marry you.

SPEAKER_03

And I was like, Yeah, you're cut off by whites.

SPEAKER_08

Was it a Hawaii?

SPEAKER_03

No, I think it was like Mexican.

SPEAKER_08

Oh, or alevato. Oh, I wonder if she, if I wonder if he was like, oh, mommy. Mommy? Mommy Cam. Mammy, mommy. Una Una por favor, Una por favor. Una mas. Oh, yeah, there you go. Una mas, una mas por favor. Girl, oh my gosh. Oh my gosh. Um, or is I something about them? Someone in the restaurant orders up. No, I'm not doing that. Oh, okay, here's one. Uh, it's from uh person. What do facial piercings and earrings tell about a person? If you see a guy with like say piercings here, the lip ring and everything, what does that tell you about him? It's you two.

SPEAKER_03

Lip ring here?

SPEAKER_08

Yeah, lip ring right here. Or right here. Or no, or right here. Like the corner of the mouth, the snake eyes, or whatever.

SPEAKER_03

He he's definitely in his like mid to late 30s.

SPEAKER_08

With the piercing?

SPEAKER_03

Yeah, hasn't gotten out of his um partying stage.

SPEAKER_04

Uh-huh.

SPEAKER_03

Because I feel like that's like early 2000s kind of thing. Like guys with the piercings over there. Like, you can't see that anymore. Right?

SPEAKER_08

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03

You gotta be a little emo. Yeah.

SPEAKER_08

Little emo.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah.

SPEAKER_08

I had my piercing hair back in the day. It was back in the day, though.

SPEAKER_03

Skater, you know, like a little punk.

SPEAKER_08

Do you like that stuff? Do you are are y'all into like that little goth? Like, I guess Hawaiian goth, like, yeah. Or no?

SPEAKER_03

What is Hawaiian goth?

SPEAKER_08

Hawaiian goth is like you Hawaiian, but then you're like all emo doubt, you know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_03

Nah.

SPEAKER_08

No? Not your thing. Oh, okay. Here's a caveat off that. When you're out on when you guys are out on a date or like with your friends and they order something, does that tell you about that person?

SPEAKER_05

What they order?

SPEAKER_08

Yeah. So let's say you're at a, and this is for example, you're at a Japanese restaurant and they're looking through the menu and they're like, oh, do you guys have burgers? That type of situation. You know, like what does that tell you?

SPEAKER_03

Or like the chicken tender friends?

SPEAKER_08

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03

They eat like chicken tenders.

SPEAKER_08

Yes.

SPEAKER_03

You go to like a crab oil and they order like the fries? Yeah.

SPEAKER_08

You know? Like, what does that tell you about them?

SPEAKER_05

Maybe they don't eat seafood.

SPEAKER_08

Really?

SPEAKER_05

Just because I'd be ordering the Kahlua pig sliders at uh Where at what at Chili's? No, at the what is the crab fucking you guys put that shit in the bag? Crab oil, yeah. Oh, kick occasionally. Really? They sell that stuff? Yeah. Thank God. You don't eat seafood? Fake wine here.

unknown

What?

SPEAKER_08

Like not even sushi? No, no. I just found something out about Anu.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah, why? I don't eat seafood.

SPEAKER_08

Ooh, girl, you be eating everything?

SPEAKER_03

Pretty much, yeah.

SPEAKER_08

Hey, that's what's up. What's your what's your uh weird food quirk?

SPEAKER_03

I don't think I have a weird food quirk.

SPEAKER_05

Wait till you get pregnant.

SPEAKER_08

Oh really?

SPEAKER_03

Like, I don't know. I mean, I'm I'm allergic to shrimp, but I'll still eat it. Don't matter.

SPEAKER_08

I'll pop a Benny and I'm like She's like, man, this is not by any means necessary. My weird food quirk is um spaghetti, right? But I like to put buttermilk ranch on it.

SPEAKER_06

Ooh, interesting.

unknown

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06

Jack in the box buttermilk.

SPEAKER_08

Or just uh the store bought buttermilk. I think it's because back in high school in an elementary, you know, like they served you uh salad with uh spaghetti. Yeah, all that stuff. So, you know, you hungry and high, you just develop stuff, you know, like you make things up and uh ranch and spaghetti was like a thing. No lot.

SPEAKER_05

Mainland.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah, it's not shut up.

SPEAKER_01

I don't know. Anybody eating spaghetti with my.

SPEAKER_08

Just try a little dab. It makes the spaghetti.

SPEAKER_05

Well, I guess the spaghetti stuff's gotta be right too, but do you eat like Filipino spaghetti, the sweet spaghetti, or is it like I do, I love that.

SPEAKER_08

Do you like that?

SPEAKER_05

I put brown sugar in my spaghetti.

SPEAKER_08

I do that only to mine because my family's like used to the Italian white, you know? Yeah. How about sugar? You like that Filipino brown? Uh brown, not brown, but Filipino sweet spaghetti. No.

SPEAKER_03

Not really.

SPEAKER_08

And she just said I ate anything.

SPEAKER_03

I'll eat it. Oh, you eat it, but her preference doesn't mean I'm gonna go and add my own sugar to the spaghetti, you know?

SPEAKER_08

Oh, yeah. I'm like that with ice cream. Like, I despise ice cream. I'm not gonna like waste my money on it, but if it's there, I'm like, all right, I'll dabble in a little bit.

SPEAKER_03

You don't like ice cream?

SPEAKER_08

Oh no, that's just gross.

unknown

What?

SPEAKER_08

For real. I'm like that with egg salad. Y'all like y'all like egg salad? No.

SPEAKER_03

No.

SPEAKER_08

No? Okay. Well, yeah, ice cream. I'm weird. Maybe I just had way too much ice cream when I was a little kid and I'm just like, I hate it, but I don't know. Something about ice cream. Nah, nah. I'll be drinking coffee and I don't poop until like three, four hours later. Yeah. Does that make me lactose if I poop? No before?

SPEAKER_03

No. It's like normally like within the first half an hour. Yeah.

SPEAKER_08

Yeah, okay. So I'm not, yeah, I'm not lactose.

SPEAKER_03

You're not Asian enough then. No.

SPEAKER_08

I know. I'm right. Shit. Tong chewa. You know what I'm saying? Shit. Maybe I'm. Yeah, right? Uh my gird.

SPEAKER_01

You guys are Spanish.

SPEAKER_08

Yeah, we are, you know?

SPEAKER_01

Una mas, unamas.

SPEAKER_08

Una mas, uno mas, por favor, por favor. Uh Luxy. What's the first thing that catches your eye? Miss T. Is it the shoes? Is it someone's eyeball?

SPEAKER_03

On somebody?

SPEAKER_08

Yeah, on someone. Guy, girl, attractive. Someone that's like, oh, hmm.

SPEAKER_03

If I find them attractive or if I find something weird about them. Like, that's two different things.

Tipping, Tabs, And Regulars’ Etiquette

SPEAKER_08

Let's do both. The attractive first.

SPEAKER_03

Teeth. Smile.

SPEAKER_08

Oh, okay.

SPEAKER_03

That kind of works both ways. You got messed up teeth, man.

SPEAKER_08

No, thank you.

SPEAKER_03

Shut it down.

SPEAKER_08

Shut it down. And then how about the the weird?

SPEAKER_03

Um that kind of goes both ways the teeth again, yeah. Oh. Or if like I'm gonna sound so bad. Do it. They they're like super sweaty or like they're stink. Like that body odor. Oh nasty. Like, no.

SPEAKER_08

I'm real keen on like BO. Like, I could smell that shit like from far. Mm-mm. Um, it's what they eat, right? Yeah, hygiene. Oh, I don't know.

SPEAKER_03

I feel like some of these people they need to shower more, change their soap. I don't know, invest in a scrubber, not don't use that bar. Everybody's into the natural put some deodorant on.

SPEAKER_05

The natural ingredients.

SPEAKER_03

I have a hundred percent. Like Europeans. I've a hundred percent thought about bringing in like the spray deodorant to the bar because they dance, right? So they're like sweaty. I'm like, I and you're sober during all the.

SPEAKER_08

Yeah, you know, oh yeah, that I never I never added those two together. And you're at a bar too, so you're smelling all kinds of fun.

SPEAKER_03

And then if they're drinking too and they got bad breath, like if I can smell your breath over the bar, like the bar is like a nice distance, like a nice bear. If I could smell you over that.

unknown

Oh, that's critical.

SPEAKER_08

Ooh. Um, have you ooh bro? Like give them a Tic Tac or whatever?

SPEAKER_03

Like, have you ever Oh I have 100% like bro, what the But you never Dank. I'm like, dank.

SPEAKER_08

Did you say like it's their BO or is it breath, or you just be like, hey dog, gotta fix that situation.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah, I'm like, like even I'll use like a napkin, I'll be like, here, like, like if they're and they're so drunk they they don't take offense to it y'all. I'm like, nah, that's nasty. You be dripping all over my bar, I gotta wipe that, and here you go.

SPEAKER_08

Y'all got AC in your bar?

SPEAKER_03

We do, but they dance so much, like all night these people are dancing.

SPEAKER_08

I know you be sweating, no, you be getting down, uh no? No, oh declaration. I think my like in my 20s, I was I was a little I was a little sweaty, but then as I got older, I started enjoying now.

SPEAKER_05

You know why? Because my friends they get sections, so we're not in the crowd. Yeah, like when we do venture off into the dance for it's very brief, and we're like, gotta go. Cause in the BO.

SPEAKER_08

I hate that stuff, especially when they're sweaty and you're like rebbing up on you.

SPEAKER_01

Oh no!

SPEAKER_08

You're like, excuse me, and you're like, oh you know what I'm saying? Oh my gosh. Um, I went to a club one time. Out, it was out here too with my wife, and I was trying to get to the DJ stage or whatever, right? And I passed by some drunk people, and I felt that sweat. Oh my gosh, I like I felt super nasty, and it was like that sticky, salty feeling, you know?

SPEAKER_05

It's not your own tooth.

SPEAKER_08

Yeah, it's like, oh gosh. Everyone loves their own funk, but they don't love any other ones.

unknown

Yeah.

SPEAKER_08

Mm-mm. No, thank you. Next question. Um, are old partners off limits to your friends?

SPEAKER_03

Isn't that like a common thing?

SPEAKER_08

I don't know.

SPEAKER_03

I mean, you shouldn't be homie hopping.

SPEAKER_05

I mean I'm gonna order a hurricane shot from T and make her slap your ass if you can date one of my ads.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah, like what?

SPEAKER_08

Huh. It's different on the mainland then.

SPEAKER_03

Who thinks different on the mainland? It's because you guys don't have enough respect for each other. Like that's what it is. No, but I think it's like my friends would never.

SPEAKER_05

I think because we're on an island and it's so small and like it's just that's weird. It's weird.

SPEAKER_08

What what if y'all ended like on like good terms? Like y'all y'all never even more so like okay, so for for example, if uh I was talking to a girl, but we never we never like we never smashed or anything. We didn't even kiss, but we like I took her out on a on a date, and I was like, yo, this this ain't cool for us, yada yada yada. My boy asks, like, hey, are you cool if I well then that's not a partner?

SPEAKER_03

That's not our partner. You went on one date.

SPEAKER_08

Yeah, okay, but if there's like a relation relation, then it's yeah, but let's say it's like a week or a two-week thing. Is there is there like a time limit?

Dating Boundaries And “I Don’t Date Customers”

SPEAKER_05

It's not a partner. That's still like I feel like a partner is somebody that you commit to for however long. Uh-huh. But if it's just talking and it just doesn't work, and it's like whatever. Yeah. And it depends on what the reason was that it didn't work out. At least that's how I see it.

SPEAKER_08

Huh. But valid. It's valid. How about you, T? Same?

SPEAKER_03

Yeah, that makes sense. I mean, why would you who counts a two-week relationship? Y'all are just talking. Okay, middle school lovers. Yeah, like I mean, people do that. What's your favorite color? Like, oh, just because you know my favorite color now, now we're dating. Like, mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_08

So would you prefer, excuse me, would you prefer a hey, you and I are together, or would you be my girl to like establish everything out there? Or the whole assume thing, like, oh, because I know your favorite color, because we went on a few dates, now we're together.

SPEAKER_03

Nah, don't assume. Assumptions don't work out.

SPEAKER_08

Makes an ass, huh? Good, good, good, good. I hope these high schooler kids are um knowing this because they're jumping around. Um, yeah. I mean, I got asked. Like some high school kids, some high school seniors, they're like, Oh, I saw your pod. I'm like, Hey Uncle. I was like, oh shit. Yeah, you know, I accepted that shit, you know what I'm saying? Have you been called an aunt yet?

SPEAKER_05

I get called auntie all the time, and I'm just like still cringe a little, but I can't say anything because I'm a mom.

SPEAKER_08

So how old are these kids that's calling you auntie?

SPEAKER_05

Oh my gosh. I had like kids at like the Chick-fil-A line, they're like, have a good day, Auntie.

SPEAKER_08

And I'm like, do you do you feel some type of way?

SPEAKER_05

Yes, because you're all of like five years younger. Okay, I graduated high school ten years ago, but it feels like five. But still.

SPEAKER_08

How about you, T? Like, are you are you called auntie now?

SPEAKER_03

Oh, all the time. I mean, how does that make you feel? Kind of my whole life I've been called Auntie because my family's so young, the age differences are so weird that like I have nieces and nephews that are like starting to have kids. They're like old enough to be out at the clubs and stuff like that. I'm like, so it doesn't really bother me too much. But if I'm standing in like the store or whatever, like, oh Auntie, did you need any help?

SPEAKER_05

Now you know which one gets me is when like the people who I see are older than me and they're like, oh sis, and I'm like, sis.

SPEAKER_08

Oh, you became sis. Is there is there an age range where the old people could start calling you sis? Or bro. Is it 27?

SPEAKER_04

I guess so.

SPEAKER_08

How about you? Like, has the old people been calling you sis? Has that happened yet?

SPEAKER_03

Uh they kinda do the Tita. That's they'll do Tita to me, especially behind the bar. Like, oh Tita, or or Bebe, whatever. Thank God. Cause I mean, if I had like somebody older than my mom calling me sis, I think I would I'd clock out. I'd cringe. I'd clock out. I'd cringe. I'd be like, huh, I I gotta I gotta go.

SPEAKER_04

I gotta do it. I gotta go do something.

SPEAKER_01

I gotta leave it. Do I got wrinkles? Like, what is going on? Like red light therapy.

SPEAKER_08

Oh man. When the first time that you got called Aunt, did you Auntie? Auntie, yeah. Like, did you feel like a young self, like a part of you just died?

SPEAKER_05

Nah, it's not that serious. I mean, we joke about it, but really like I feel like when kids call you auntie, it's like a sign of respect. So it's whatever. I'm just being dramatic right now.

SPEAKER_08

Oh, how about you T? First time got called auntie. Not from your family members, but like, let's say a random, like a high school kid just Oh yeah, the first time, yeah.

SPEAKER_03

I was like, am I that old? Like, I swear I'm not that old, but huh.

SPEAKER_08

So what would you want these kids calling you then? If they didn't know you. Sub cuz. Oh cuz. Sup cuz. Yeah, honestly. What's the term? Hey, honey girl. Oh, hell no. Oh no. Hey, don't use honey girl. I ain't using that shit. Uh but what yeah, what would they use? What would they use then?

SPEAKER_03

No, I I think now it's it's fine. Yeah. Yeah.

SPEAKER_04

We've come to terms with it.

SPEAKER_08

Come to terms, huh?

SPEAKER_03

26 having high schoolers call me auntie, but whatever.

SPEAKER_08

Here we go. I got one. Um, this is from uh an another um person. I caught my significant other watching same-sex porn. How do I move on from it?

SPEAKER_05

Okay, did the question come from a girl or a guy?

SPEAKER_00

That makes a difference, honestly.

SPEAKER_08

Uh it came from a girl and the guy was watching. Fuck out. The guy was watching gay porn.

SPEAKER_05

Falk out.

SPEAKER_08

Meaning like leave?

SPEAKER_05

I I mean, okay, I think you have to have a conversation with them and like figure out like, is this just curiosity or like it's in the it's in the browser.

SPEAKER_08

So it's just like she opened it, she she opened. I'm assuming, and this is like my little storytelling. She was going on a computer, opened up a browser, he forgot to clear the history, and he saw search gay porn. Men on men. How does she move on from this tea? How would you handle that?

SPEAKER_03

Um your significant other is Well, first of all, you should probably check his phone to see if he has grinder on there, too. I mean.

SPEAKER_05

See, I told you, men are not cheating with females, they're cheating with other men.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah, you know why? Because they're the no, the amount of uh I'm telling you, there are no gay guys, but the amount of gay guys that I have met, or even like transgender women like that have sex they were like fooling around with all these straight guys.

SPEAKER_08

Straight. How is that?

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SPEAKER_05

Like, why uh I think is it curiosity or is I think men are just more ashamed to like explore their sexuality, so they try to keep it more down low and stuff.

SPEAKER_03

I think she should also have a conversation with him on whether or not he's interested in pegging because she could save the marriage that way, or or s save the relationship that way.

SPEAKER_05

Because if he's I'm not doing that, I don't care how much I love you, you gotta go.

SPEAKER_08

Yeah, eight nothing going up this wear area.

SPEAKER_03

If that's what he wants, like I don't know. Could it be me, but at least her own.

SPEAKER_08

What if it was girl girl? Is there a difference between girl girl and guy guy?

SPEAKER_05

I feel like there's more bisexual women than men, so it's more not acceptable, but it's more the norm.

SPEAKER_08

The girl girl.

SPEAKER_05

Yeah.

SPEAKER_08

Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_05

But you don't notice that? I feel like there's more openly bisexual women than bisexual men.

SPEAKER_08

This is true. I've I've noticed that. I've noticed that, yeah.

SPEAKER_05

But I think when it's a man, women freak out a little bit too much, too.

SPEAKER_08

Why do you think that is? Um, if it's a man, that's like bi both into men and women. Or even like pan. Pan is like you're in love with someone's brain.

SPEAKER_05

Didn't we Google this last time?

SPEAKER_08

We sure fucking did. We sure did, and Google fucked up and we used Chat GBT. Remember that? So yeah, why do you think that is?

SPEAKER_03

T I think because when women found out that like a guy is bisexual, most times they think that he's automatically gay. Like, oh, if you took it before, then what if it's not sexual? No, but like that's I think that's like Immediately what they think. You know, it's like, oh like you bent over for somebody else kind of thing.

SPEAKER_08

Is it is it gay if you got the tendencies but you're not?

SPEAKER_04

Like you're just curious? Or yeah, no, no, like you What do you mean gay tendencies? Like okay, so with guys flamboyant?

SPEAKER_08

Yeah. Is that a little fruity or like what if you're like a flamboyant person but you're into the like the girls? Or what if you're for a girl, like what if you're like you like wearing masculine clothing, but you still like guys? Does that like first sight you're already put in the clouds?

SPEAKER_05

No, I mean that's completely different. Your personality and what you your preference in relationship is two completely different things. I know girls who are who dress like very tomboyish, like streetwear, whatever, who like men. Yeah. I don't think you can judge somebody just off of how they like to express themselves.

SPEAKER_08

Why do people do that? Why do why do people like judge off first sight? Off first reps. Ignant.

SPEAKER_05

They judge before they know somebody.

SPEAKER_08

Do people judge you like that, T? Like, um, like first sight. It's like, oh, like, I don't know if you dress like this every day, but if they seen you, if people seen you like the way you dress and everything, like, do they would they think something different of you?

SPEAKER_03

I think I just go through so many different styles that people don't know what to think. Oh, I'll be in like my Aloha print and everything like I'll get dressed up or like I'll wear like my my street wear or whatever. But at work it's different. Like I have to wear like the bar clothes and whatever. So if they see me at work and then they see me outside, it's two different people.

SPEAKER_08

Facts. Because um, I'm wearing the uniform like every day, right? And when people see me like outside clothes, they're like, oh shit, you wear kicks, or yeah, oh snap, motherfucker, you you actually wear like fitted caps, you know, like it's different. So yeah.

SPEAKER_05

Oh I think people just judge people way too much.

SPEAKER_08

Is that a big I know it's a big thing in in Cali because they try to like just try to see your clothes and that's like your status, right? Is it big here? Like, has that ever happened to y'all where oh man, the bigger the chain, you must be rich, or you know, like the more brand clothes you got. Huh. Huh. Or hollow. Or I don't know.

SPEAKER_03

Or 10K, hollow, like I mean, it's something. If their neck is turning green.

SPEAKER_08

Oh yeah.

SPEAKER_03

Or if that thing is a little too orange.

SPEAKER_08

I've never seen that. I've seen the green, but I've never what do you mean by orange?

SPEAKER_03

Like the like if it's too yellow, you can tell it's not real gold. If it's plated, like when it gets older, like it starts turning darker instead of like and then when it's like freshly plated, it's like kind of like greenish yellow. I worked. I worked at a jewelry store too, so I I would see some of these people coming in with their like wigs with your face 15 millimeter, like Milanos and stuff like that, and they're like dipping it.

SPEAKER_08

Oh, is that how they like say uh is that how people would get like sold on on Facebook Marketplace? Like they would do stuff like that.

SPEAKER_03

Nah, and I think nah, I think everyone here wants to meet at a jewelry store. Like, we're testing that.

unknown

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03

Oh, interesting.

SPEAKER_05

Smart person.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah, I mean, if you think you're buying a 15 millimeter rope chain off Facebook Marketplace for a thousand dollars, you just got scammed. Scammed.

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SPEAKER_08

Mmm. Mm-mm. Scammed bitch. Next question. How to cancel a date? Um You got asked, you guys got asked out on a date. How do you cancel on that? Someone was asking, a female. Woman. A woman was asking.

SPEAKER_06

Cancel.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah, like I'm like just a little bit.

SPEAKER_08

Like do you guys make up you guys make up like T, I want to take you out on a date. What do you say?

unknown

T.

SPEAKER_03

Yes, and then change it. And then you'd be like, oh, something, something came up kind of thing.

SPEAKER_08

Like So if you're not interested, you come up with is it usually a lie or is it usually like, oh, I'm not interested?

SPEAKER_05

I think it depends on what the situation is. What made me want to cancel?

unknown

Yeah.

SPEAKER_05

Like if something really came up, then cancel it real easy. If somebody if the person did something that like I don't like, if I feel like it's not somebody who I need to be honest, who I just come up with an excuse and then ghost them.

SPEAKER_08

What if it was your f what if it was a close friend, a friend that's finally shooting their shot? How do you cancel on that?

SPEAKER_05

I value our re our friendship more than like I don't want to risk our friendship, so I think we should just keep it here how it is.

SPEAKER_08

Huh. That's good. That's good. Uh as a guy that would hear that, I'd be like, Man, you let that motherfucker go out. You know, like you went out with fucking Bob. We're he's in our friend group. What's the difference with me? Da-da-da-da-da. What's your rebut?

SPEAKER_05

You're a better friend than Bob. I don't give a fuck about losing Bob as a friend.

SPEAKER_08

Good job, Anu. How about you, T?

SPEAKER_03

Oh, that's exactly how it's. Oh, right? Yeah. She ate.

SPEAKER_08

She ate that motherfucker. That's cool. That's good. I like that. Um, I like that answer. Why do you think people beat around the bush? When it comes to, you know, canceling like that.

SPEAKER_03

I think people are too afraid to hurt others' feelings nowadays. Sometimes it's okay.

SPEAKER_05

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03

Like, be blunt.

SPEAKER_05

I think a lot of people are scared to be honest about how they feel.

SPEAKER_08

Oh, this is true.

SPEAKER_05

Like, I don't know, not me, but other people.

SPEAKER_08

Like they're more people pleasing.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah.

SPEAKER_08

Yeah?

SPEAKER_03

I think that's a big issue.

SPEAKER_08

Is that a red flag with someone? Like, like, say you're starting to get to know someone that you're interested in and you found out he slash she is a people pleaser. Yes. Oh, jinx. Y'all both at y'all get slurping.

SPEAKER_03

It'll make me feel like you have no backbone. Yeah. Like if you are gonna bend over backwards for all these people because you're afraid to hurt their feelings, then you don't have enough self-respect to stand up for yourself. How do you have enough self-respect to stand up for yourself? And then if something were to happen with me, you you won't be able to do the same. Facts. Facts.

SPEAKER_05

I think I just don't like that because when you're a people pleaser, people will like walk all over you and me as a friend. I don't like seeing that. And I'm gonna say something, and then I'm gonna get I don't be the asshole. It's bad. Yeah.

SPEAKER_08

How do you handle a and uh this could go out too too uh T um a friend that's like too much into your business? And that's coming, you know, like right after this question. But yeah, how do you handle if like a friend of yours is like too all up in your shiz?

SPEAKER_05

Uh tell them back the fuck up.

SPEAKER_08

Uh-huh. Basically, right?

SPEAKER_05

No, I like it depends what their intention are.

SPEAKER_08

Uh-huh.

SPEAKER_05

You know, like if somebody's trying to tell me how to live my life, I'm gonna tell them, well, it's my life.

SPEAKER_08

Uh-huh.

SPEAKER_05

So either support it or keep it moving.

SPEAKER_08

But is there a graceful way to do it?

SPEAKER_03

If they're your friend, then you should be able to speak to them like that.

SPEAKER_08

This is true. As a guy.

SPEAKER_05

Yeah, but I mean, like, to my friends, I wouldn't say like that, but you know, that's like the message that comes out. Like, okay, I get what you're saying, but at the end of the day, I'm gonna do what I want to do. And I had to learn that about my other friends too, is like I would give them advice and then they turn around and do the exact opposite. I would be like, but then I had to realize that this is other people's lives, it's not my life. I can give you advice all I want, uh-huh. Or be in your business and like tell you how I feel, but at the end of the day, you're gonna do what you want to do.

SPEAKER_08

So this is true.

SPEAKER_05

Stay in my lane, stay in your lane.

SPEAKER_08

Stay in your lane. T, let me ask you this. Um, all the advices that you've you know asked, have you ever taken it or listened to them? She's like, oh no, I just did me. It's like, fuck that.

SPEAKER_03

I mean, some of it's like, oh yeah, I needed to hear that. But did I want?

SPEAKER_08

Oh, that's funny. So, um, yeah, so did you take it or not? Or did you still was like, you know what? I'm gonna talk to this person anyway.

SPEAKER_03

Oh, I've definitely done that. Did it I feel like you kind of have to learn.

SPEAKER_08

Did it pan out the way you wanted it to?

SPEAKER_03

Oh, absolutely not, right?

SPEAKER_08

It's like absolutely not. Absolutely not.

SPEAKER_03

No, that was horrible.

SPEAKER_08

Never again, never again, she says.

SPEAKER_05

But I feel like even getting advice, the best way to learn is through experience. So I'ma take it under consideration, but I'ma still do my do my shit.

SPEAKER_09

Yeah, that's true. That is true.

SPEAKER_03

I'm a senior in the school of hard knocks.

Hurricane Shot: Price, Waiver, And Rules

SPEAKER_08

Yes, graduated gracefully. Um, what's your favorite go-to Hawaiian local food?

SPEAKER_06

Squidwow.

SPEAKER_08

Squidwow. Is that the um the green stuff? Oh, I like the green stuff.

SPEAKER_06

Not the one wrapped. Not the wow wow.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah, squid loop. With some halpia on the side and on the right. Halpia?

SPEAKER_06

Coconut.

SPEAKER_05

Oh, the white square.

SPEAKER_08

Oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, cool, cool, cool. How about you?

SPEAKER_05

Um, Kahlua Pig and Poi.

SPEAKER_08

Really? Oh, how how about like the ones like they sell on the side of the street? Do you have a favorite spot or do you have a favorite go-to or whatnot?

SPEAKER_05

My neighborhood, we don't really sell stuff on the street. We used to have a um Wanapua truck that drove through, but he hasn't been around.

SPEAKER_08

How about you tea?

SPEAKER_03

Favorite spot on the street. There's this place um in Hilo that has Hawaiian food. They do like the Friday night, Friday night Hilo night market.

SPEAKER_08

Is that the um is that the trucks that they're like in a square and then in the middle there's like some type of awning where people would like play music or whatnot? Is it that near No?

SPEAKER_03

It's like by like Hilo Bayfront area, they have like the farmer's market or whatever, and Friday nights they have like more vendors that come in. They serve like Hawaiian food over there, it's like called Kimo and Melia's. I had them um cater my godson's first birthday recently. Yeah, and everybody was like, oh, the food is so good. But they also have like a food truck too in like Pahoa area, KL. So that's Big Island. I think you're I'm here. Yeah.

SPEAKER_08

Your family on the Big Island?

SPEAKER_03

Yeah, my parents moved up after I graduated high school. Oh yeah, cheaper to get out of.

SPEAKER_08

Is it really cheaper? Yeah. I thought everything in Hawaii is expansive.

SPEAKER_05

Well, Big Island, it's not as uh developed, I would say. Like they don't have tall buildings and I think out there.

SPEAKER_08

I don't remember.

SPEAKER_05

It's all straight rockin' land.

SPEAKER_08

Is it?

SPEAKER_05

Pretty bad.

SPEAKER_08

Shoot. Well, the only times I'm there is like when I'm like training or whatever. So I'll like I've never I haven't had a chance to venture out.

SPEAKER_05

Yeah. I took my kids to uh Kona for uh 4th of July. Uh-huh. That was the first time we actually like went around the island and stuff, because we usually just stay in Waikaloa, stay at the hotels. But we went to like Waimea and Waipeo Valley and all of that, and I was like, oh shit. It's real nice out there. Is it very peaceful out of the hustle and bustle?

SPEAKER_08

Oh. T, do you like the hustle and bustle? Like, like, say if I dropped you in New York, are you able to like survive? Or would you be like, oh fuck this, take me back?

SPEAKER_03

No, I'll be able to survive, but yeah, take me back. I don't want to be like in New York too, aren't they a bunch of assholes? Yeah. And like you can't trust nobody. Let me give you a shot.

SPEAKER_05

Nah, but I think uh local kids should experience the mainland though.

SPEAKER_08

Do you have any plans on like say move venturing out there, like moving for like two years and coming back? Or has that ever that has that ever crossed your mind?

SPEAKER_03

Moving to the mainland?

SPEAKER_08

Yeah, I mean I mean not move, move, but you know, stay out there for like oh, my bad, for a like a good predominant time, like let's say two, three to five years or some shit.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah, I mean, but the thing that I was always afraid of too was it's moving back. Yeah, because you left when it was already expensive. You're gonna move back and it'll be more expensive than you remember it because cost of living goes up like crazy.

SPEAKER_08

Yeah, yeah, uh I yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_03

I feel like that's like a lot of issues that um like all these local families that move to Vegas, they want to buy a house and like kind of save up money and then come back here and buy a house. It's so hard for them.

SPEAKER_08

This is true. Um, to get my career, I used, of course, military, I used the VA loan, didn't put nothing down, but I could see like um in the guard, I have a lot of um, I have friends that are local and they're buying, they're trying to buy homes. And I'm like, damn, you gotta drop that much, like 200k for that. I'm like, fuck, why are you coming up with a screw, you know? So it's like I could totally understand it's super difficult to get a crib out here. Mm-mm. Planning on owning? Owning oh planning on owning something.

SPEAKER_03

I mean, that's a dream, right?

SPEAKER_05

Yeah, that's what everybody like that's the goal for everybody, but the reality of it is you'll probably end up renting your yeah, damn Chinese Japanese people tell them to stop buying, right?

SPEAKER_08

Tell your people to stop. I'm just like, I was like, um T, where do you see yourself? Military man. I know.

SPEAKER_01

I was like the guy that used his VA Lemon. You cheated.

SPEAKER_08

Yeah, I did cheat. I did cheat.

SPEAKER_05

You know it. When you leave, if you leave, hit us up.

SPEAKER_08

I don't I definitely will. You can I'll let you uh landlord. I'll give you an offer. No, the only reason why we purchased out here is because I think I told you, um, on the mainland we're a minority, right? But coming out here, it feels super good to be like a part of the majority.

SPEAKER_05

So, what's your plans after? Are you just gonna stay?

SPEAKER_08

Uh my plans is after the the babies, after they graduate, because they love it out here. After they graduate, um, either sell or rent out my spot, and then me and my wife will go back to the mainland, see them in college, and then live off the grid. So, like, I'm I'm talking about like a camper in the truck, and we're just fucking just traveling.

unknown

Oh shit.

SPEAKER_08

Where's Chris in California? Oh, next day, oh he's the motherfuckers in Idaho. Fuck yeah, van, fucking camper. Like, I wanted to buy a camper out here, but there's nowhere to put yeah, nowhere, yeah. It doesn't make sense, right? Unless you have like a business or some shit. Yeah, but yeah, that was like my super dream.

SPEAKER_05

No, because what are you gonna drive around the island?

Consent, Expectations, And Taking The Hit

SPEAKER_08

Shit, if I get kicked out of my house, I'll be like, hey, I'm living in my camper, you know where I'm at. Like, for real. I'm like, I'm at North Shore. What are you at? Like, are you coming home? Nope, I'm living here for the next three days. I am here.

SPEAKER_05

What the eddy is a go? Okay, my camper.

SPEAKER_08

For real.

SPEAKER_01

Can you imagine how to find parking for that though here?

SPEAKER_03

Oh yeah.

SPEAKER_08

Yeah, that's true. Like, I wouldn't know where to put it.

SPEAKER_05

So I mean up on Hawaii Cat park page. Freaking camper is this?

SPEAKER_08

So? I don't care. Shut up, Anu. Let me let me live and dream my dream, hot damn. But no, that's the plan though. Me and her would we would just travel the USA and just randomly spot up at our kids at schools and be like, hey, what's up, man? Dad and mama.

SPEAKER_05

Oh, so you just took our land temporarily.

SPEAKER_08

Okay. Oh, come on, man. What if they have kids and then like they want to I'll give them back? Oh man, dude.

SPEAKER_03

He was right though. The military is a majority here.

SPEAKER_08

It is. It is. How do y'all feel about that? How do you feel about that? I know your opinion. How do you feel? Oh, you hate it.

SPEAKER_05

I dated a Navy man because I was jokingly like, yeah, we can get our shit back. And then I was like, I can't do it. I cannot do it.

SPEAKER_08

I don't y'all, y'all don't like us. Well, I mean, come on, man. I'm brown, dude. I'm down with the brown, you know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_05

But the whites that stay out here, like, do you I think it's like the entitled ones who are like, Well, we serve our nation.

SPEAKER_08

Well, no, I'm never like that. No.

SPEAKER_05

Yeah, no, but like there are people like that. Really?

SPEAKER_03

Just and they're always the the spouses too. My husband is do you know who my husband is?

SPEAKER_08

Oh, let me tell you a story. I don't know if I told this. I think I did like in the very beginning of the pod. But my wife, uh, we were at the commissary, some bitch fucking bumped my wife and cutted her in line. And she was like, Do you know my husband's a she used a rank? And I was like, Oh my god. And I was like a little a specialist, like I was lower in the ranks, so I was like, oh man, it was like, please don't start anything. But I've experienced that where the spouse used that rank, and I was like, This bitch, she was a white, no racial or nothing, but hot damn, it wouldn't be a black person that would have done that. Should have been like, oh, excuse me, you know what I'm saying? Yeah, but yeah, no excuse me, no nothing. Entitlement is real. That's why I like it that I don't think that would have happened like at a food land or something, because I'm brown, right? So, like, if a white person did that to me, I would have been like, Man, you see you see where you're at. You know what I'm saying? There's like a couple brown people would like back me up and not even know me. You feel me?

SPEAKER_05

I'm so happy I haven't like encountered anybody like that.

SPEAKER_08

Oh, I think you would have flipped. I probably would have been like you would have driver like a dog.

SPEAKER_05

It's real loose. This one is not there at all.

SPEAKER_08

Oh man, but you've heard that before, T.

SPEAKER_03

Like, oh yeah. People try to use that, like, because we charge a cover at the door, and especially during like Veterans Weekend or you know, like the July, all that kind of stuff. They're like, so is there a military discount?

SPEAKER_08

I I've never heard of a military discount at a cover. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_03

You get free entry if you're in the military.

SPEAKER_08

No, I've never heard of that before.

SPEAKER_03

And then my my door guy was like, You're not even in the military, you're a spouse. She's like, We so we sacrifice a lot too. He's like, Ain't no way. Bye.

SPEAKER_08

I hate those spouses, man, so much.

SPEAKER_03

For me, I think it's like the military people that come out here and they just talk about how much they hate it. Oh yeah. And they say we don't like we don't even want you here, bro. Like, and you're talking about how you hate it. This is my home.

SPEAKER_09

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03

And you're being disrespectful. Because now we got a problem.

SPEAKER_09

Yeah.

SPEAKER_05

I will say I have come across more respectful military service people than disrespectful ones. So I don't really have a problem with them. It's just if you act out of pocket. Oh, definitely. Oh, at the clerb? Oof.

SPEAKER_03

When they're drunk.

SPEAKER_05

Yeah. I can't stand that.

SPEAKER_03

Obnoxious drunk, yeah. They are the most obnoxious drunk. Military members are just a bunch of frat boys.

SPEAKER_08

This is true, especially infantry.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah.

SPEAKER_08

Especially the infantry guys. Like I partied with them like at the barracks a couple times and what's infantry? Oh, infantry, um, they're the ones.

SPEAKER_00

They're the dumb ones, in my opinion. They're the dumb ones that just wanted to join the creepy gun.

SPEAKER_08

Yeah, that's them. Sorry. Grunts. The grunts. Whatever. Yeah. But no, they go crazy. Especially the whites, you know.

SPEAKER_05

And then that's why they get beat up at the clubs. I'm telling you.

SPEAKER_08

I've heard. I've seen.

SPEAKER_05

Oh, hungry, hungry wine.

SPEAKER_08

I've heard and I've seen. Oh man. Before we dip, T, um, let me ask you this. Where do you see yourself like in the next couple of years? Um, what's your short-term plan?

SPEAKER_03

Um, or do you have one?

SPEAKER_08

If you don't have one, it's okay.

SPEAKER_03

Short term.

SPEAKER_08

Short term, yeah. Three to five.

Heritage, Language Bits, And Local Roots

SPEAKER_03

Three to five? I want to say like in five years, I want to own my own bar.

SPEAKER_08

Really? Yeah. Um, here or a different island? Oh, here.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah.

SPEAKER_08

You got a name?

SPEAKER_03

No, I don't. That's the hard part. Cool.

SPEAKER_08

Don't say it because you know some of my fucking.

SPEAKER_03

Facts. Yeah. Keep it in here.

SPEAKER_08

Definitely. And how about um like past five?

SPEAKER_03

Past five?

unknown

Well.

SPEAKER_08

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03

Then own a house.

SPEAKER_08

There you go. Um, lend you mine. No play. Go ahead, keep on.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah, I don't know.

SPEAKER_08

I'll say you mine. Well, good price. I'm just joking, I'm just joking, I'm joking, I'm just joking.

SPEAKER_03

Um, yeah, own a bar. Hopefully be married. Shoot. I mean, it's not all that great.

SPEAKER_08

It's okay. You know what? You got you got tax, tax breaks, you know what I'm saying? Um, uh, you don't have to like hustle and bustle with all these other people. You only have to hustle bustle one person. No, man. Okay, well, yeah, you can. Um I'm just kidding. Yeah, okay. Okay, you want to get married, have your own pad, own a bar. That's it.

SPEAKER_03

Then freaking there's travel, honestly. Travel. I love to travel.

SPEAKER_08

What's um what's a what's a tea destination point? Like you really want to go. Like, this is on my bucket list. Before T dies, I'm finna go here.

SPEAKER_02

Freaking Sweden? You know, like.

SPEAKER_08

Oh, Sweden, huh?

SPEAKER_02

Yeah, it looks so pretty.

SPEAKER_08

Uh go to Iceland. Iceland's very green.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah.

SPEAKER_08

I mean, I mean, like, if if you ever go on that side.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah, obviously it would be like just like hopping around.

SPEAKER_08

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03

That'd probably be like be the best way to do it. The flights would be cheaper between each destination, too.

SPEAKER_08

Would you travel alone or would you like have someone?

SPEAKER_03

Oh, right now my travel buddy is my mom. Because my dad doesn't really like sitting on the plane.

SPEAKER_08

Oh, I feel that.

SPEAKER_03

For a long time, you know. Um and my mom just loves to travel. If not, I just uh all the like the mainline trips, I just like make my friends come with me.

SPEAKER_08

Oh, facts. Bet, bet. Girl, that was fun. Um, no. Fuck no. Hey, that shit ain't happening. She ain't touching my face. Hey man, she better catch me first. You know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_04

I'm pretty fast.

SPEAKER_08

Fuck that, man. That's gas money, man. They ain't touching my face, dog. You know what I'm saying? Uh, where can these people uh find you at? And do you have any shout-outs or anything?

SPEAKER_03

Find me in person at Whiskey Dick Saloon. Uh, follow me on Instagram or TikTok at Hurricane T-E-E-H-I. Um, yeah. Shout out to all my coaches at TAC and Gracie Technics, Coach Darren, Coach Jen. Let's get on this March card.

SPEAKER_08

Ooh, um, you need a coach to slap. I'm not trying to be stupid. I'm not trying to like there's a little tip.

SPEAKER_03

There's a all of like the movements, the mechanics that go into it.

SPEAKER_08

So like I was lightweight stocking your shit, right? And then um, you do neck workouts, and that's for the the whiplash, or is that for the yeah, so I can stay like grounded. Like if you've seen the video, like yeah, you're like, oh my god, I'm falling back. I'm sorry.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah.

SPEAKER_08

Oh shit. Wanna confess anything or are you good?

SPEAKER_02

I got nothing to confess.

SPEAKER_08

Really?

unknown

Yeah.

SPEAKER_08

Okay. She killed the dog. I'm just playing. Uh-huh. KO Studios, thank you for the lovely home. Rafi Bite. Always, thank you for the lovely beast, man. Uh, with that being said, I'm Chris.

SPEAKER_03

Anu, her King T.

SPEAKER_08

And we out this bitch. Peace.