Modeling Scams, Hangin' Out with Baddies, and Picking up Poop with Amari

Your dog can embarrass you in a coffee shop, your DMs can expose your boundaries, and your social media can either build your career or drain your peace. We link all of that together with Amari, a Hawaii model and actress who’s also the founder of Baddies of Hawaii, a community built for artists, models, and creators who want support without the drama.

We talk about what “baddie” actually means when you strip away the noise: confidence, goals, and showing up for your people. Amari breaks down real-world safety in the modeling industry, how to vet photographers, what to watch for in casting, and why “pay to work” is a red flag. If you’re trying to get booked for runway shows, commercial shoots, or acting gigs in Hawaii, we also share practical tips like how to film a runway walk video and how to treat Instagram like a professional portfolio.

Then we get personal about relationships and public attention: how marriage impacts DMs, what respectful messages look like, and how a supportive partner can turn outside attention into something that strengthens the relationship instead of threatening it. We also dig into privacy boundaries, code words, avoiding regret posts, and why genuine check-ins matter more than we admit.

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• running errands with dogs and handling public mishaps
• recurring dreams and why certain themes stick
• creating Baddies of Hawaii as a supportive model community
• spotting photographer red flags and protecting comfort levels
• acting and modeling in Hawaii and how pay differs from visibility
• avoiding modeling scams and refusing pay-to-work gigs
• filming a runway walk video and what casting teams look for
• how marriage changes DMs and what respectful messages look like
• keeping friends of the opposite sex without crossing lines
• why genuine check-ins matter for mental health
• using social media like a portfolio and staying in the algorithm
• learning privacy boundaries and avoiding regret posts

Transcript

Welcome And Meet Amari

SPEAKER_01 0:15

Alrighty, four three two one. Welcome back to another episode of the Relationship Method Podcast. I know it's been a minute. It's your boy Chris today. I have a very special guest. She is a model and actress. And she is the founder of Baddies of Hawaii in Hawaii.

unknown 0:36

Yes.

SPEAKER_01 0:36

Motherfuckers, I got everyone in this motherfucker.

SPEAKER_00 0:39

Yay.

SPEAKER_01 0:41

Girl, how are you doing today?

SPEAKER_00 0:42

Hi, what's up? I'm so excited to be here. Ooh. Yes.

SPEAKER_01 0:48

Um, you and I was talking, and um, this is your first pot.

SPEAKER_00 0:51

It's my first pot.

SPEAKER_01 0:52

Popped her podcast cherry, y'all.

SPEAKER_00 0:53

You did. Yes, I did.

SPEAKER_01 0:57

Um girl, how was your week?

Dogs In Public And Accidents

SPEAKER_00 1:00

So it was really good. Um I ran a lot of errands and I can't complain. Weather's been nice.

SPEAKER_01 1:07

Uh-huh.

SPEAKER_00 1:07

That's a good thing.

SPEAKER_01 1:09

Hmm. Um, when you're doing these errands, are you usually alone or are you like with a crowd?

SPEAKER_00 1:16

You know what? It's a little bit of both. Like sometimes it's me and my girls, sometimes it's me and my husband. Um, I have two dogs. So the dogs go with you? Yeah, dogs go with me, but one of them's really bougie and one of them's chill.

SPEAKER_01 1:30

So let me ask you this. Um, first off, thank you for saying that you have a husband, letting people know that she is taken.

SPEAKER_03 1:37

Yes.

SPEAKER_01 1:38

Tired of the horny DMs. Um, is she single? Does she want it? You know, I'm like, uh, yeah, you know what? She's taken, y'all. So stop.

SPEAKER_00 1:46

Wiped up.

SPEAKER_01 1:46

You know, what am I, a fucking owl, the messenger? And um, dogs. Um have your dogs made poop in the um in these places when you're bringing them to?

SPEAKER_00 1:59

Um, and you know, thank goodness when it happened, it was a place that I go a lot.

SPEAKER_01 2:06

So they were they were really cool. Like a target.

SPEAKER_00 2:08

Yeah, yeah. It was um, it was a really cute coffee spot.

SPEAKER_01 2:11

Oh, coffee spot, okay.

SPEAKER_00 2:12

Yeah, um, and it's so embarrassing though.

SPEAKER_01 2:16

Yeah, let me ask, yeah, let me ask you. So when when they go and have these little accidents, right? What goes through your mind? Because as a person looking at that, I'm like, fuck.

SPEAKER_00 2:30

You see the signs first, you see the body language, and that's when you start praying, like, nope, please don't do this right now.

SPEAKER_02 2:36

Uh-huh.

SPEAKER_00 2:36

You know, and then it happens, and then the first thing is who's watching? You know, you do your look around. Yes. This is true, yeah. Yes. Mm-hmm. And then it's automatic. Um, you know. Sorry.

SPEAKER_01 2:50

So you have a you you have a disinfectant bag with you, or I mean, of course you have a doggy bag, but have a disinfectant bag. That's good. You know, that's good. A lot of people don't.

SPEAKER_00 2:59

And it's options in there. It's baby wipes and disinfectant wipes.

SPEAKER_01 3:03

Ooh, she's prepared. Has there ever been a situation where you forgot the bag and all you had was the doggy bag?

SPEAKER_00 3:10

Yes, yes.

SPEAKER_01 3:11

And that's when my husband stepped in and um So he's with you when the dogs are out in the boot with you.

SPEAKER_00 3:19

Yes.

SPEAKER_01 3:19

Okay, but if you're solo, the dogs aren't with you at all.

SPEAKER_00 3:23

I'm one of them. The girl one. She's uh she she'll roll with me, yeah. And um, we're like she I had her longer and we're we're like girl, you know, partners.

SPEAKER_01 3:34

Are you the type of um dog owner that would dress up and pink, you know, do nails on a pink?

SPEAKER_00 3:41

Honestly, I would. I would, but you haven't she they don't like thank god.

SPEAKER_01 3:47

Um, do you carry them in a stroller or a bag or whatnot?

SPEAKER_00 3:51

I am that dog mom.

SPEAKER_01 3:52

Oh man. Okay, so I'm I'm that guy. That's like, what the fuck? You know, like that dog. I was like, oh, you know it's like I get it, you don't have any kids or whatnot, but so you your your love goes, yeah, your love goes towards an uh, you know, um an animal. So I'm like, I you know, I get it, but then in the back of my brain, I'm like, man, what the fuck?

SPEAKER_00 4:13

No, when I used to when I used to see strollers, I would think the same thing. But then I got um a dog that she has a certain amount of steps, uh-huh. And after that, she won't go.

SPEAKER_01 4:24

Oh, really?

SPEAKER_00 4:25

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 4:26

What kind of dogs do you have? Two chihuahuas. Oh, they got the they got the little dog syndrome then, huh?

SPEAKER_00 4:31

They do. She doesn't know how little she really is.

Recurring Dreams And Meaning

SPEAKER_01 4:34

Really? Oh my gosh, Mr. Mari. Um, let me ask you this. Recently, have you had any lingering dreams? As in you woke up and you remembered, you know, your dream that you had that night prior.

SPEAKER_00 4:49

I have those. I yeah, I do. And sometimes it's like mediocre like food.

SPEAKER_01 4:55

Uh-huh.

SPEAKER_00 4:55

But I still want to follow through with that. Like, I need to eat.

SPEAKER_01 4:58

So you wake up and you're hungry.

SPEAKER_00 5:01

Yeah, sometimes. Yeah. And sometimes it's very random. Like, what was that?

SPEAKER_01 5:07

Uh-huh.

SPEAKER_00 5:08

And I would have no idea why. But you know, um, yeah, sometimes it's like a dream like reminding me I need to do this.

SPEAKER_01 5:16

Really?

SPEAKER_00 5:17

Yeah. And it's like, oh yeah, I gotta do that.

SPEAKER_01 5:20

The dream that I still remember, and I had this, I'm gonna say four days ago. I was hustling and bustling, and every move that I was making, it was some sort of like money or some big time decision. And like, and the office that I was in, it wasn't even an office, it was more like of a household setting. So I'm going in and out of rooms, I'm seeing people that I know, but the decisions I'm making, it's more of like money or a life-altering decision for them and not for me.

SPEAKER_02 5:50

Wow.

SPEAKER_01 5:50

So it's like, and when I woke up, I was like, whoa, it seems so real, right? Wow. And I was like, oh my gosh, well, like I was too uh lazy to look it up what it meant. Yeah, but I was just I'm still, I still remember it.

SPEAKER_00 6:03

And um we gotta we gotta look into that, right?

SPEAKER_01 6:06

Because um, like dreams are supposed to, it's either one, you're you're like, you're deep thinking it, or it's uh manifest, whatever, whatever, whatever. I I don't have the proper lingo for it. Or, and this is what I've heard through the grave vine, it's your your other dimensional you, that's what's happening on that earth.

SPEAKER_00 6:29

I'm with that. I I believe that it can be a lot of different things. It can ancestry things, yeah. You know, maybe not someone's not feeling good. It can be a lot of different things, and I don't know how you ever looked into it, but there's there's dream books, uh-huh. And you can look up different, you know what? I've seen that, man.

SPEAKER_01 6:45

I'm I'm old, I'm lazy, you know. I only want to read the shit that I want to read with those dream books. I'm just like, uh, can I just listen to it? Yeah, yeah, yeah. Or can I get like the the little, you know, like the little insert, the cliff notes, you know what I'm saying? Yeah. Can I get that instead of like the whole explanation? Because I'm gonna get bored pretty much.

SPEAKER_00 7:06

I mean, if it's recurring though, you gotta look into that.

SPEAKER_01 7:09

My recurring dream. Do you have recurring dreams?

SPEAKER_00 7:11

I do.

SPEAKER_01 7:12

One of my recurring dreams is sorry for cutting you off, is um I'm always flying, fighting vampires with a sword.

SPEAKER_00 7:20

Really?

SPEAKER_01 7:20

Yes.

SPEAKER_00 7:21

So I have one like deep ocean, swimming, like deep ocean would I would never do.

SPEAKER_02 7:28

Uh-huh.

SPEAKER_00 7:29

But in my dream, it's like familiar, you know, and it's like I'm not scared, and I'm just Are you by are you by yourself? Can you breathe underwater? Yes, and it's and it's no struggling, and it's like, you know, seeing all these beautiful things, but in reality, I would not be girl.

SPEAKER_01 7:44

Maybe in a different dimension, you're like the little mermaid.

SPEAKER_00 7:47

Oh, I love that. I'll be sick, right? But mermaid vibe.

Building Baddies Of Hawaii

SPEAKER_01 7:50

Look at me, you know, look at my fans, you know what I'm saying? Oh, yeah. So down with that. Oh, yeah. And then um, so switching uh things up, um, founder of Baddies of Hawaii.

SPEAKER_03 8:00

Yes, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 8:01

How um, how did that happen? Like, do you just wake up and just like, you know what? I'm finna start this project or this establishment.

SPEAKER_00 8:09

It's actually so fun. You know, a lot of my friends are just artists and models or content creators and um or photographers, and it kind of inspired off of um everyone around me. You know, I said, let's just make this a group. We're always doing photo shoots together, yes, and you know, creating content, and we're bad. We're baddies. Let's just make this a thing.

SPEAKER_01 8:35

Hey, that's what's so speaking of a baddie. Um, this past weekend, one of my good friends, uh, Von, shout out to Vaughn. Um, he invited you know, me and my wife and a couple friends out to um out to a birthday party, right? Or a birthday. And one of his bros was um his name's D. I don't know if you know D. Uh once I start telling this story, I don't know if like you'll notice him. He goes by Chef D. And I don't know him. I I've never watched him before.

SPEAKER_03 9:05

Shout out to Chef D.

SPEAKER_01 9:06

Yeah, Chef D, thank you for the thank you for everything, dog. Um, so we were um, we went to a you know a dinner, which was, you know, which was cool. This is where I first met him, right? And um we went to a place called the Gatsby.

SPEAKER_03 9:22

Ooh.

SPEAKER_01 9:22

And oh my gosh, um he had one of those booths with the AC. I'm spoiled. So the next time I go clubbing or I get invited to host at a place, I want a section with AC. I want a booth. I want that. I'm not, I'm never, I don't want to stand up anymore. I don't want to bump into people anymore. I want yeah, oh my god. Batty, going back to Baddie, he was on a show called Baddies on Zeus Network.

SPEAKER_00 9:49

Oh, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 9:50

So Chef D, shout out to Chef D. Oh, um, he showed me how um, I forgot where he's originally from, but if I remember right, Georgia, he showed me how those motherfuckers party. And I'm like, I'm like, oh my, I learned some new dance steps from him. Oh yeah. Oh, dude, it was it was such a vibe, and it felt so cool being in that section and everyone's looking. And mind you, um, me and my wife were like the only brown ones in the section. So I was like, I like those people were just like, oh, who are these brown cats with these black people? I'm mixed in, I'm mixed in, motherfucker, you know? But yeah, bottles on bottles, and I was like, oh man, this is so freaking cool. So uh yeah, baddies. But okay.

SPEAKER_00 10:36

So we're the model, the model group of it. Um we don't promote or condone the fighting in, or um good. We love the drama-free side of it. Oh thank god, we're too old for that. Yeah, yeah. So we just like to, like you said, AC, you know, look cute, have our wife and her husband with us. Yes. Yes, and um, we just we we we all are models or artists, and so we made a a social club where we can just share information and share casting information and maybe you know, photographer information and kind of just support each other and just have our each other's back and make a community of of what we have, and it's really fun. I love it.

Photographer Red Flags And Safety

SPEAKER_01 11:17

Let me ask you this. This might be some dirt. Um in this uh group of friends that you have, um I'm already assuming that you've gone through uh a lot of photographers. Are there more than this photographers that you told your friends no, he ain't or she ain't it?

SPEAKER_00 11:40

Um, yes.

SPEAKER_01 11:42

And what's the reason why that those photographers became not it?

SPEAKER_00 11:48

Um so it can be all different things. Um as you get to know your friends, you know how they are, you know what they like and what might, you know, take them off or um more of comfortability, um, things that I went through. I I traveled and and did a lot of photo shoots and um sometimes I've been through things that I would not want my friends to go through. So things like that. And um before I put somebody, you know, like on a watch list or do not do list, it's more of you know, make sure you bring somebody or um you know the things you guys talk about during text messages before you meet, look out for that before you guys um actually do that. But yeah, it more of just crossing the line and and respect would make me um tell a model, no, you probably don't want to go there.

SPEAKER_01 12:41

Okay.

SPEAKER_00 12:41

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 12:42

Do you um do you is there guys in this? Um can guys be a baddie of Hawaii too?

SPEAKER_00 12:47

Oh yeah, yeah. Okay, baddie daddies.

SPEAKER_01 12:51

I like that. Hey, I'm fit to say that in my next part. I was like, you know what?

SPEAKER_00 12:58

Yes. Yes, because you know, it's about getting getting your your business taken care of, you know, and doing what you gotta do and um finishing your goals or even trying to um get toward close towards your goals. And and that's what I call a baddie is someone that's confident and getting what they have to do, you know, taken care of and and goals on the board, knocking them off, and helping their friends, and you know, that's what I call a baddie. So anybody can be a baddie. Any preach. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I support it.

SPEAKER_01 13:30

Um you're living in Hawaii.

SPEAKER_00 13:31

I do.

SPEAKER_01 13:33

Actress. Yes. How easy slash hard is it on getting an acting gig out here on the island because it's not like LA where you have so many opportunities. How difficult or how easy it is to get yourself on the screen.

SPEAKER_00 13:49

Well, there is um believe it or not, there's a tight-knit community of aspiring and actors out there. And I think once you um find that and take it in there, it is it's easy. Now, the hard to me the hard part is maybe getting um to pay your your your goal or um your salary. But I feel like um it is very easy to there's a lot of like small um businesses that do content days or you know commercials and stuff like that. And Hawaii is a very supporting community, which I love. So um I feel like it's easy to get out there and get on the screen. And you know, it's a little bit more work to um to get paid and and get get those bills paid with only getting on the screen. You know, so a little hard work, it's okay, you just gotta do it, but it's it's definitely out there to be done. Um just try and you never know.

Modeling Scams And Runway Reality

SPEAKER_01 14:59

Let me ask you this then, with the whole acting thing, um, modeling gigs is modeling um hard like gigs hard to find or like runways, runway shows hard to find out here as well, because um I've had several models on the pod, and I could only imagine outside of the the women and male models that I've talked to, there's gotta be there, there's a lot more. How difficult is it, or how easy as well um to get booked on one of these shows?

SPEAKER_00 15:34

Um it's a lot of scams out there.

SPEAKER_01 15:37

Oh really?

How To Make A Walk Video

SPEAKER_00 15:37

It's a lot of scams in Hawaii out there, yeah, everywhere, you know, not just here. And um it's it's easy to get on a runaway because there's a lot of local up-and-coming brands that yeah, that we would love um, you know, a up-and-coming model or a model that's already doing model work out there to get their brand going. And there's a lot of small and big shows independently that people are doing, you know. So um when you see model casting, do not be afraid to send it in your walk video and don't be afraid to send in your picture. But just try to do your research. Um yeah, because I um I don't pay to work. I I see that going on a lot here. Um if it's work, you get paid for that. So every everything, every runway is not for you. You figure out what is for you, and um it's easy to get out there, you know.

SPEAKER_01 16:40

Okay, you said something video. What what what video you said? You said something video or walk video. You said something video. Um walk video.

SPEAKER_00 16:53

You're walking video. So walking video you're a model and you want to do runway um modeling. Um, a lot of production companies um would ask you to send them a walking video as if you would be on stage on a runaway walking. Oh yeah. So okay, okay. Yeah, and you can do it in in your house, you can do it on a road or in a resort in Waikiki. You have to be in heels. Um Absolutely not. You can do it because so we're you know, we're in Hawaii and there's a lot of bikini companies, and a lot of bikini shows ask models to be heeless. Uh-huh. So you don't have to wear heels, but wearing heels maybe have one heel video and one without.

SPEAKER_01 17:36

Uh yeah. Have you seen male walking videos?

SPEAKER_00 17:39

Absolutely.

SPEAKER_01 17:40

Okay. Um I'm uh I'm intrigued. What do these male walking videos consist of?

SPEAKER_00 17:49

Usually no shirt. Usually um, but not all, you know, but it's you know good for the company to see what they're working with. Working with um a lot of hand movement, you know, hand on your hip.

SPEAKER_01 18:07

You can't do that.

SPEAKER_00 18:08

You can. You can I could model my hands, but but I no, not I mean like that, just maybe like that, or hand in your pocket, uh huh, you know, yeah, but I feel like the the guys always more like you're just walking on the beach and swinging your arms and you know, look at the camera, look away. And you know, having a wife, having a partner, that really helps because she could help you. She could be your your camera woman. Yeah. And and and before you, you know, send, you know, your your video in, hey, you can ask her, how does this look?

SPEAKER_01 18:44

Yeah, oh man, I don't think I could ever do that because one, uh I have uh I'm shy with my feet, so ain't nobody so she seen my toes. Um, two, I like my shirt on. I'm I'm just piggy.

SPEAKER_00 18:58

I understand.

SPEAKER_01 18:59

But um, no, that shout out to y'all male models.

SPEAKER_00 19:01

Yeah, shout out to the male models.

SPEAKER_01 19:03

Shout out to y'all.

SPEAKER_00 19:04

I went to a casting and um this guy blew us out the water. He did his walk for the judges, and then they said, Okay, next time do it a little bit more spicy. And he walked and came back and went down in his splits, and we was like, Oh, he definitely got casted for this job.

SPEAKER_01 19:25

He's a real one.

SPEAKER_00 19:26

Yes, that was that was fun.

SPEAKER_01 19:28

Ooh, great.

SPEAKER_00 19:29

Shout out to Scott.

Married DMs And Respect

SPEAKER_01 19:30

Scott, hey Scott, shout out to you doing the splits. You ready for these questions? Let's do it. All right, cool. Here we go. Here's an ice creak, and you know, be honest.

SPEAKER_00 19:42

I like these.

SPEAKER_01 19:43

Does being married actually slow down your DMs?

SPEAKER_00 19:49

Um, it did, but um I'm not mad at that.

SPEAKER_01 19:53

Oh, really?

SPEAKER_00 19:53

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 19:54

Oh, okay. Yeah, that's good.

SPEAKER_00 19:56

It will weed out a lot of bull crap. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 20:01

This is true.

SPEAKER_00 20:02

This is true.

SPEAKER_01 20:03

To follow up that, uh follow up with that. Do um do guys respect the marriage or do they ignore it? Like I get a lot of respect.

SPEAKER_00 20:10

I get a lot of respect. That's good. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 20:11

Because I I know, and my wife has came across this a couple times, and you know, people that I've talked to that, oh, are you married? Yeah. Oh, where he at? Oh, not here. He's you know, taking care of the kids, whatever. Oh, well, he ain't here. You know, what's up? I've seen I've seen and I've heard that. That does happen.

SPEAKER_00 20:27

It does. And we and I and you know, the guy people who do that, when our spouse gets home, we laugh at you. We say, look, babe, look at this.

SPEAKER_01 20:36

Ah also this this topic, yeah, to the next question. So you tell your spouse about your DMs and you just keep moving on, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 20:43

Yeah, you know, it's it's it's funny like that, like, ha, where you at? But you know, not every single one. But I get a lot of respect and um I'm happy for it. Respect, respect, you know.

SPEAKER_01 20:56

Respect. That's what's up. Could you tell the ones that are being genuine to the ones that just want to smash?

SPEAKER_00 21:03

Definitely, definitely.

SPEAKER_01 21:05

What's uh what's one thing that you could tell, you know, people what to look out for from a genuine DM to a I just wanna I don't know, hit scans type of situation.

SPEAKER_00 21:20

Number one, timing. You know, why at midnight, you know, are you asking what am I doing? That could be a ref like timing, you know.

SPEAKER_01 21:29

Timing, okay.

SPEAKER_00 21:30

Yeah, but um DM me at a respectable time, that should be the first thing. Uh-huh. Um, so many reflects. Some people have the disappearing thing going on on their messages.

SPEAKER_01 21:42

Oh, yeah, I've actually seen that.

SPEAKER_00 21:44

Um look out for just respect. Would you want someone saying that to your significant other? Or would he be okay with someone speaking to his? And nothing other like that because sometimes the people that's been on the low disrespect will have someone else too. Yeah. So just look out for that mutual respect. I think it's a big line. And um and you know, it is possible to have friends. You know, um, that's the other sex that's perfectly cool with you know, your husband or your wife and can text without being weird. So that's not needed. I think some people think it's needed, but it's absolutely not.

SPEAKER_01 22:30

Um, I want to apologize to people that when they get my DMs 132 o'clock in the morning, that's the time I wake up and that's when I poop, right? So when I'm on the bathroom, you know, of course. I'm like, so I'm just like, oh, okay, I'm gonna reply because if I don't reply then and there, I'm gonna forget about it and I'll feel totally bad.

SPEAKER_00 22:51

I want to apologize to my people in the mainland.

SPEAKER_01 22:54

Oh, because the time difference, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 22:56

Oh yes.

SPEAKER_01 22:56

But skip that. Like they should know where you're at. So it's like, oh yeah, man. If she ain't hitting me up, it it's you know, what is it, two, three hours, especially what Florida is like six to eight or something. Yeah, it's like no need to apologize. It's the time difference, maybe you know what I'm saying? Yeah, but yeah, I gotta apologize for the folks that I'd be hitting up around 2, 2:30 in the morning because, you know, like I do my um like I oh gosh, I send my messages out like maybe like the afternoon prior, and then I get so many replies back, and the only time and the no, hell no, it's just people like to reply. It's okay. Um, and um it's uh yeah, at that time that's when I'm like, okay, I got a little bit of time. I'm on the toilet, you know what I'm saying? Um boom, boom, boom, boom, boom, boom, boom.

SPEAKER_00 23:45

But yeah, the But you know, I think your people are getting used to it. They're like, okay, Chris, is it on this time? This is what time he's gonna do.

SPEAKER_01 23:51

Yes. Well, hopefully they're used to it, you know. Like on my stories, they see me walking the dog like a goddamn two o'clock in the morning, so they should know I'm up, you know.

SPEAKER_00 24:00

How's your dog? Does your dog go a lot of places with you?

SPEAKER_01 24:03

Um, she used to, but now like she's getting old. So I just take her to the to the park across the street. Okay. You know, I let her, you know, do her thing, but oh, she's old. She's hitting like I think either 14 or 15. She she's a mama's.

SPEAKER_00 24:17

Does she have a I was gonna say a favorite? She's a mommy or like a big thing.

SPEAKER_01 24:20

Oh no, she's not a mommy. She's um, well, she's a girl, never been uh uh never been a parent. Um, but she's the kid's grandma. Oh yeah, so she's uh she may she I of course she protects him, she's always around him. Um right now all she's doing is when the kid when the babies are in one room, sh she'll just lay there in the same room.

SPEAKER_00 24:45

You know? She is a grandma.

SPEAKER_01 24:46

So she's she's she's that. And um, but luckily for me, she's still, you know, when me and my wife come home or when the kids come home, she still gets up and greets. So I'm like, hey man, you're still kicking, man. Yes. Also, I'm oh man. I've had her since the mainland. Her name's Black Star. She's a half uh husky, half pit.

SPEAKER_00 25:08

Oh wow.

SPEAKER_01 25:09

So yeah, great.

SPEAKER_00 25:10

So did you have her before you got married?

SPEAKER_01 25:13

Um, my wife's gonna kill me. We we did we did have her before we got married. Okay. Yeah. We got her uh together. So yeah, um, we had another dog. Uh she she was a uh a Great Pyrenees, like a big mountain white dog, right? Yes, beautiful dog. Oh yeah. Those are beautiful dogs um so she passed because of age too, you know? Okay, and then we had another dog called um he was a straight pit. Um, his name was Bartholomew, Papasius Bartholomew. Uh but um he was too aggressive. So um we found him a family and he's he's with them. But Black Star's been with us. Okay, it was it was always Black Star in Haukea. Okay, but yeah, Black Black Star, she's she's kicking. So I'm you know, I'm trying to do my best. Like I I've been um giving her like mixing her wet food with her dry food. So it's like I'm I'm kind of lightweight spoiling her right now, you know?

SPEAKER_00 26:14

She deserves.

SPEAKER_01 26:15

Oh, yeah, definitely, yeah. How long have you had your dog?

SPEAKER_00 26:18

I had my dog before I got married, one of my dogs before I got married. And she has she was, I was like, oh my god, is she gonna like be mean to him? You know, how is this gonna work out? But it worked out fine. It's like they are like two two peas in a pot. They're great together, her and my husband. And my our other dog, um we adopted him um uh family member passed away on my dad, on my husband's side. Yeah, so we took him in.

SPEAKER_01 26:46

And um and they they coexisted?

SPEAKER_00 26:48

They uh coexist I was nervous from jump.

SPEAKER_01 26:52

Uh-huh.

SPEAKER_00 26:53

And it was it's it it was amazing because I we both were nervous, like, how is this gonna work out? My girl is bougie and barky, don't don't mess with anybody. Yeah, and here comes this dude, he's 11, chihuahua, and um they work out great, they're great, and I'm so surprised.

SPEAKER_01 27:09

I bet your older Chihuahua was like, I'm too old for this.

SPEAKER_00 27:12

He's 11, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 27:13

He's like, go ahead, man. Like, I'm both snacks, they're names. Uh-huh.

SPEAKER_00 27:18

Mochi and Reese Cup.

SPEAKER_01 27:23

Is it because of the color of their fur, or is it did you really name them?

SPEAKER_00 27:28

Okay, um Reese Cup was so little, like Reese's PCs.

SPEAKER_01 27:33

Okay.

SPEAKER_00 27:34

Yeah. And then Mochi was the one that, you know, we kind of adopted in.

SPEAKER_02 27:38

Uh huh.

SPEAKER_00 27:39

And he doesn't, he's brown. Um, I don't know. We have never asked why his that was his name.

SPEAKER_01 27:45

Oh, okay, okay.

SPEAKER_00 27:46

But he's cute and chunky though, like a cute, sticky mochi.

SPEAKER_01 27:49

Does he uh you say chunky, does it waddle? Or does it really walk? Does it walk?

SPEAKER_00 27:53

Is it one of them, or does it, you know, like you got you got that walk, or does it is it one of them in different situations going up the stairs, he waddle.

SPEAKER_01 28:02

Uh-huh.

SPEAKER_00 28:03

But um, he doesn't waddle too much. Shit.

Posting Boundaries With Your Partner

SPEAKER_01 28:06

Fucking mochi. Um, next question is, um, is uh, oh, here we go. Is there anything your husband asked you to stop posting? Because of, you know, like the um, I guess the IG that you have or a model. Did he ever say, babe, this ain't it? Like, you need to take you need to take that down, or you need to stop posting too much flesh or whatnot?

SPEAKER_00 28:31

Thank goodness, no, he didn't have to.

SPEAKER_01 28:34

Supportive.

SPEAKER_00 28:35

When we got together, um, you know, I am a mom now. Oh, congratulations. He's older, and it was just kind of a thing, you know. Like, now I have an older older son, and I might not want to post these booty shorts. You know, it was kind of a given, you know, for me. He didn't even have to say it now that I'm a mom of a young man. Yeah, you know, but he's so supportive, and that's where I came up with baddie daddy uh-huh because he is so supportive. He's like, You're a baddie, show it off. And he understands that I'm a baddie and people are gonna like baddies, and he and so, so supportive. And I see that, you know, side, and I tell, you know, I love seeing other baddies with husbands that support them a lot, you know, like when I have workshops or events, and I say, you can bring your your man, and and it's so cute to see the the husbands in the back, you know, doing um behind the scenes videos for the models and stuff like that.

SPEAKER_02 29:33

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 29:33

So no, not yet. He hasn't told me to um tone it down yet, but it was it was a kind of given that you know, now I'm a mom of a young man.

SPEAKER_01 29:42

How does your child think of the posts that you're posting?

SPEAKER_00 29:47

He uh is a dude. He's like, I'm I'm into I'm into sports, I don't care. You know, he's just um yeah, he's into college and sports, and he really don't he support and like, but he really don't care.

SPEAKER_01 30:02

Let me ask you this. Let me ask you this now. Sports, he's in college. Yeah. Has his friends ever slid into DM?

SPEAKER_00 30:12

Thank goodness no. Oh my gosh, okay. I'm so happy for that. Okay, okay, okay. I don't even know what I would do.

SPEAKER_01 30:18

What would you do? Let's say today, yeah. Or whenever if this thing posts, right? When these this thing posts and your your son's friends, it got it got into the algorithm and they saw it. Miss Mrs. Amory. What's good?

SPEAKER_00 30:38

Oh man.

SPEAKER_01 30:39

How would you handle that situation?

SPEAKER_00 30:42

It would definitely be a laugh off. Like, oh my gosh, he's serious because this is a joke. And I would definitely have to put him in a in his place, like an auntie. You know, I would have definitely have to give him auntie vibes and hit up my son and say, dude.

SPEAKER_01 31:01

Hey man, you know what Jerome did?

SPEAKER_00 31:02

Yeah, dude.

SPEAKER_01 31:03

Come on, man.

SPEAKER_00 31:04

Yeah, yeah, I would have it like get Jerome.

SPEAKER_01 31:07

Uh-huh.

SPEAKER_00 31:08

But I don't like that. Yeah, it would not be. I would have to hit him with the auntie.

SPEAKER_01 31:12

Uh-huh.

SPEAKER_00 31:12

How's your mom? Tell her hi and get out my DMs.

SPEAKER_01 31:15

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 31:15

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 31:16

Would you feel a little flattered because it's a younger individual, you know, making those comments or trying to get at you?

SPEAKER_00 31:23

A little flattered, yeah. Like, okay, I still got it.

SPEAKER_01 31:26

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 31:26

But I wouldn't give it give it to him. Oh, no. Yeah. That definitely. I would be like, I still got this, okay.

SPEAKER_02 31:32

Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_00 31:33

And um laugh and be like, nephew, get out of DMs.

SPEAKER_01 31:42

Uh, it just reminds me of like TV shows.

SPEAKER_00 31:44

I can't believe now at that age I call um people 19, 20 kids. I'm now at that age where I'm like, oh, he's a kid.

SPEAKER_01 31:53

Oh, my oldest one, she's 21.

SPEAKER_00 31:56

Oh, baby.

SPEAKER_01 31:57

And it's like, oh my God. Like, I'm I'm flying out to Cali in in June, and I'm gonna actually have my first drink with her.

SPEAKER_00 32:06

Oh.

SPEAKER_01 32:06

So I'm like, I'm pretty excited about that. That's like one of my like goals. Oh, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 32:11

Have you like thought about about this at all? Like, what is the drink gonna be?

SPEAKER_01 32:15

Oh, Hennessy, of course. Straight up Hennessy, maybe Hennessy Black. It might be bougie, maybe a VS, you know what I'm saying? Um, one of uh I've I've got introduced to um Hennessy White. You ever had Hennessy White? One of my friends went to Jamaica. Okay, he bought it from there. He he brought like three bottles. Okay, and um it's in his like secret stash. I tasted it, and I'll be honest, it tastes like Hennessy Black.

SPEAKER_00 32:44

Wow, I haven't had it.

Male Friends While Married

SPEAKER_01 32:46

Oh, really? If you if you ever have the chance to go to Jamaica, yeah, um, buy yourself a buy yourself a bottle. Um, Jamaica, I'm gonna. Hey, shout out to Jamaica. Yamon. Let him mercy. You know what I'm saying? Yeah, yeah. Um, let's see here. Okay, keeping male friends from uh wait, oh yeah, keeping male friends while you're married. Is this um a hard task to do? Or what has one ever been like, you know what, I've known Amari, I've known you for years. Timing's been off, but I'm infatuated with you or whatever.

SPEAKER_00 33:19

Um, it's been both. I've had I've had some male friends that kept it ride or die and just always be that good friend. And then I had some that's like, uh yeah, this you're here for one thing. Yeah, and or you know, you kind of realize like maybe you weren't a real friend at, you know, the whole time. And you know, so it's been both, but more of like I kept, you know, the ones that was really cool, and you know, they sometimes text my husband, what's up, man? And it's so funny, like you know, we're all like you know, a circle now. But it's been a little both.

SPEAKER_01 33:49

Yeah, yeah. Um switching it now, uh can males have like girl best friends?

SPEAKER_00 34:00

Absolutely. Yeah, my husband has, uh and I like I text her, I just talked to her this morning to check on her. Hey sister, and absolutely, absolutely. Now it's not like um every single female friend. Yeah, yeah. But but I think it can be that one, you know, my my husband has a couple from elementary school, and they are sisters, you know. So it absolutely can, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 34:28

I've I've had a friend, like uh, I have several girl friends, because they're girls, they're women, yeah. Um, but I've known them for like ages. So that's what like my wife knows them and stuff. And because I'm I do what I do, and because I'm in the military, I meet a lot of new women, right? And eventually they become, you know, they become friends too. So um, I mean, I I I steer away from, you know, a like the whole flirtatious thing. I try to steer away from that bitch. So it's like, I know, I guess I've been coupled up for so long that I know how to like disengage. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 35:11

And you know, like it can be a flirt like so minimum. That is a cute shirt flirt. Yeah.

Compliments, Ego, And Checking In

SPEAKER_01 35:16

Rather, you know, look of that or you know caveating off that, when um a person of the same sex compliments you, does that boost your ego?

SPEAKER_00 35:30

I love it.

SPEAKER_01 35:32

Because uh when I absolutely love it. Yeah, like when gay men compliment me, my ego goes through it. I am not lying. I'm like, shut your ass. Like, no, for real, you're built different. You, you know, you you good. I'm like, motherfucker, stop. You know, like I can't. Can we just say it again? Like, it's it's like it's more than a like a woman's compliment. To me, it's like more than a woman's compliment. Yeah, do you feel like if it's a if it's a lesbian complimenting you, are you like, motherfucker, you know, like I'm okay.

SPEAKER_00 36:04

I do, and even like a gay guy, because like they're so in tune to like that's a good word.

SPEAKER_01 36:12

That's a that's a great way to describe it. In tune, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 36:14

Yeah, so it's a definitely a compliment. I love it, I eat it up, and I make sure I give mine out too, because sometimes I just feel that people need it, you know? And I throw them out there like, hey girl, you look good today, or I love your hair, uh-huh, you know.

SPEAKER_01 36:32

Girl, let me tell you this. And um, I told my wife this, like, uh, I'm gonna say yes two days ago. Um, one of my boys that I I met him through the podcast, right? I I shot my shot, he came on, this and a third, and we've um we've messaged each other here and there, right? But this guy, he's one of those consistent ones where he's like, yo, I've been thinking about you. I hope you're doing good.

SPEAKER_00 36:59

Love that.

SPEAKER_01 37:00

I'm like, fuck. I hit and my family members don't even do that. Yeah, my close friends don't even do that. So I'm just like, fuck. Like when I when I first the first time he did that, it made me feel some type of way. I'm like, damn, this is like a total stranger that I met like a couple years back through you know social media and he's checking up on me. I'm just like, fuck.

SPEAKER_00 37:20

I know I yeah, same thing. Like, hold on, wait, he wants some? Is he about to ask for some money? Oh, you're really genuine, like you know Yeah, it's like how are you?

SPEAKER_01 37:28

You know, I'm like, dude, um thank you.

SPEAKER_00 37:30

And make sure it rubs off on you.

SPEAKER_01 37:32

Uh-huh.

SPEAKER_00 37:32

Because when I get that, I'm like, I gotta be like that more often.

SPEAKER_01 37:35

Yeah. Why do you think, like, say, fat close friends and family members net nowadays, why aren't they reaching out to you and be like, yo, is your mental good? Are you okay?

SPEAKER_00 37:45

No, what I know.

SPEAKER_01 37:46

Especially with you know, the technology we have, we could FaceTime, we could text, email.

SPEAKER_00 37:51

You know, it could be different things. You know, one time I got caught up in a moment um to where I'm like, well, if that person don't text or check on me, I'm not texting or checking up on you.

SPEAKER_01 38:01

My wife is the same way. If they don't get that.

SPEAKER_00 38:05

What if that person is thinking the same thing and now you're not talking to each other?

SPEAKER_01 38:08

Yes.

SPEAKER_00 38:09

So just never know. Some people are just you never know. So that's why maybe be like your friend, and we gotta make sure we reach out and be like, I love you, how are you?

SPEAKER_01 38:17

Just be like a spontaneous.

SPEAKER_00 38:18

Then if they're active funny after that, then you're like, okay.

SPEAKER_01 38:20

Like, I did my part, I reached out, and okay.

SPEAKER_00 38:23

Yeah. Oh, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 38:26

It it it when I first saw it, it made me feel like some type of way. Like, I I don't weep a lot, but it touched me.

SPEAKER_00 38:34

I love that.

SPEAKER_01 38:35

Because I'm like, dude, someone actually for no reason. Yeah, yeah. Just I came across some oh shit. I came across someone's mind, and that person reached out and was like, yo, man, are you okay? Are you good? And I'm like, fuck. And we can't especially with this mental health thing that's happening now, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 38:51

We can't take it personal either. I used to take it personal. This person is not texting me, but just reach out to the ones that's on our mind.

Handling Attention With Confidence

SPEAKER_01 38:58

Hmm. This is so true. Um we're here right now. We here, we're here. Um, do do do do do do. Let me ask you this now. Can men handle a woman with um a lot of attention going her way?

SPEAKER_00 39:12

Ooh, a lot can. Some cannot, but a lot can. And I think with what I've experienced, that I think it's a turn on for some husbands or boyfriends. It's like, look at my baddie getting all that attention, go girl, you know. So um, it's a yes and no, it just depends on the person, yeah. And insecurities and hate being healed and stuff like that. But I see it, and um, it can definitely be, you know, a cheerleader, husband or wife, or you know, spouse. It can happen.

SPEAKER_01 39:45

I love that because in my situation, I've always been a go-head, get it, you know, like to my wife. And I'm always telling her, I was like, yo, you should go out more, you should do, you should do this more. But I mean, she loves the kids so much that she just wants to stay home. And I'm like, I get it.

SPEAKER_00 40:03

Yeah, but sometimes it's good to know. Yeah. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 40:06

I'm like, yo, dude, go out, do it. Yeah, you know, go with your friend.

SPEAKER_00 40:09

Ladies, you hear that, you know.

SPEAKER_01 40:10

It's okay. Yeah, you feel me? Because when we go out and when we're with the boys, we're not gawking at other females. We're usually on the couch.

unknown 40:19

Amen.

SPEAKER_01 40:20

Sometimes we gotta tell, you know, something like that.

SPEAKER_00 40:22

Yeah, right.

SPEAKER_01 40:23

These bills that need to get paid, or we're just playing video games, just talking shit.

SPEAKER_00 40:27

And ladies, baddies, sometimes we gotta tell her, man, go ahead, go play poker, go, we'll be here waiting, you know. So vice versa. Let's be a cheerleader.

SPEAKER_01 40:36

Yeah, it goes both ways.

SPEAKER_00 40:37

It goes both both ways, definitely.

SPEAKER_01 40:39

Yeah, oh yeah. Um, do do do do uh okay. How does your husband handle your um your public life?

SPEAKER_00 40:46

Um, he's good. That's good. Sometimes I'm so public and out there, and then sometimes I'm super private. And I love that when I get in my private mode, he's there to like, come on out, uh-huh. You know, come on out, and you know, so he's he's very good with that, and he's um very um outspoken, and yes, he's a butterfly as well, he's a social butterfly as well, so he um encourages that. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 41:13

Um, do you feel any pressure to represent your marriage online?

SPEAKER_00 41:18

Not at all. I did at first because I was so excited. Like, I got that ring, I got that tattoo, and um, but not anymore. Because I've been studying a lot of like aspiring actors and models and stuff, and and seeing what they're doing on you know, social media. And I now treat my social media kind of a of a portfolio, you know. Um, when I sign up for various jobs or um gigs, you know, most things now they act through your social media. So I use that as a portfolio, so I'm not um posting a lot of me and my boo stuff because I I treat it such as a portfolio, but um um different things I use more. Now I use my Facebook a little bit more for me and my boo, you know, but um, and then I use my Instagram for more of a portfolio style. So if you're ever feeling that way, kind of divide it up and use one for one and the other for the other, but no, no pressure.

SPEAKER_01 42:19

That's um, that's good. Yeah. Um I've been in this situation with my spouse that um she would bring it up to me like, why aren't you posting us anymore? Or like because man, she'd be scrolling, she'd be seeing, you know, like yeah, and I'm just like, yo, if you if you tag me in a post, I'm gonna repost it like without it without question. And on the top left, it has your name. They could always click, you know, people would always click that. And yeah, and I tell her too, like, I'm not even horny like that anymore. Like, I don't like a baddie would would pass by and I'd be like, Oh, okay, cool. She's a baddie. Like, I'm more of connect. I'm at that point in my life where I'm more about connection now, you know? So, like, like even if you know, a fine ass mall or a porn star becomes, I was like, oh yeah, I'm not trying to smash. I'm I'm I'm okay.

SPEAKER_00 43:10

Yeah, we'll be like she talks. We all have our thing because sometimes I have I my husband's more of a Facebook guy, and um, I'm more of an Instagram person. So sometimes I'm on him, like, didn't you see my post? Like it. He's like, Oh, I'm not even on Instagram that much. So I think we all have our little things, and it's good to know what what you know, you know your wife is what her thing is about Instagram, and I I nag my husband, like, you better go like my thing, you know.

SPEAKER_01 43:35

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 43:35

So I think everybody has their thing.

SPEAKER_01 43:37

Is it easy to get on that algorithm? Cause I'm uh, as for me, I just recently learned what the algorithm is. So with you, uh, is it easy for you to like input your stuff into that algorithm of everything that's happening?

SPEAKER_00 43:56

I think yes and no, but it's also easy to get out of it.

SPEAKER_01 44:00

You know, because Explain that one.

SPEAKER_00 44:02

But um, you know, and especially I man I have I'm managing the baddies of Hawaii and mine as well. And sometimes if you're not um every day doing putting yourself in there and you just start relaxing, it's easy to just kinda get out. So um I feel like even if if you're not posting every day, at least comment on everybody, hey you're looking beautiful on your friends post or or even repost, you know, and just your story helps to keep it out there.

SPEAKER_01 44:32

Oh, there's a tidbit. Yeah. That's a good tip. Really good tip.

SPEAKER_00 44:37

Yeah, yeah. Spread the aloha and comment on people's posts will it helps to keep me out there, yeah.

Privacy Boundaries And Code Words

SPEAKER_01 44:44

Fuck yeah. Uh what's one boundary you had to learn the hard way?

SPEAKER_00 44:49

One that's good.

SPEAKER_01 44:51

Thank you.

SPEAKER_00 44:53

Okay. I had to learn the hard way boundary. Probably privacy. Um I had to learn the hard way. With relationship, yeah, probably privacy. Um maybe not acting, hey, can I share my friends this story?

SPEAKER_02 45:25

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 45:26

That can be um weird or um a privacy thing. And then your friends come around and they blob out that story and you're like, ooh, I'm sorry, baby. No, I told her this happened.

SPEAKER_02 45:36

Oh yeah, oh yeah.

SPEAKER_00 45:37

Yeah, privacy can be a uh um I learned a hard way. So I and oh you know what? Me and my husband have code words for stuff too.

SPEAKER_01 45:46

Pineapples.

SPEAKER_00 45:48

Like, you know, if in public and hey, if I'm talking about the wrong thing because I'm a baddie and I can talk too much, yeah, you say this word.

SPEAKER_01 45:57

Uh-huh.

SPEAKER_00 45:57

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 45:58

Oh, is it like a nonchalant hey Amory, you know, sushi roll. Oh, sushi roll at a at a burger joint. Everyone's gonna be like, that's a safe word right there.

SPEAKER_00 46:10

Yeah, so I had to learn to give each um my husband some privacy was the hard way. And and when I say hard way, I think it was like a embarrassment thing. Yeah, not too much.

SPEAKER_01 46:22

Privacy is so hard nowadays, especially with um social media, and then you have friends and family that follow, and they you know they want to know what you're doing, especially if we're on the island, right?

SPEAKER_00 46:32

Yeah, that is true.

SPEAKER_01 46:33

So it's like I I'm at that point where I want to post certain things, but then I want to keep my private life private. So when I'm out, oh when I'm out with the family, everything's all intimate. I'm not on my phone, I'm in, I'm I'm present. You know, my wife, okay, it's I give her a pass, you know, a lot. She likes to like record things from memory.

SPEAKER_00 46:57

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 46:58

And I'm like, okay, she'll tag me. I got it. You know, like I got that. It automatically saves, right?

SPEAKER_00 47:03

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 47:04

So yeah, like the whole privacy thing, I'm I'm I'm with it. I I really don't post like really intimate things. Like, I'll post like a picture or two, but okay. Like I'll post the kids and stuff. But yeah, like the whole privacy thing, it's like I think once you get older or once you understand what is private, what's okay to post, I think you be good in that in that.

SPEAKER_00 47:34

Yeah, once you get it down, oh yeah, yeah, that was a good one to learn.

SPEAKER_01 47:38

And also, um like thinking the like the repercussions afterwards. Like if I post this, oh yeah, what's gonna happen a week, two weeks down the road? Because it could come around and bite you in the ass, you feel me?

SPEAKER_00 47:54

My my rule of thumb with that is um if having a bad day or having um argument or anything bad, just don't even post. This is true. Yeah, this is super hungry. If I'm upset or having a bad day, I'm just gonna scroll. That's it. And that helps with yeah, regrets of posting or stuff like that.

Regretted Posts And Cleaning Up

SPEAKER_01 48:15

Girl, girl, girl. Have you regretted a post that you've put out there? Or everything has has been like scheduled and online and I have.

SPEAKER_00 48:26

Um I have been in the past, I have regretted. I I one time had like um bad experience with a photographer.

SPEAKER_01 48:34

And then you posted something about him or her.

SPEAKER_00 48:36

And um I put like DM me if you want to find out what who not to shoot with, and oh, my DMs blew up. And even pe and even photographers who it wasn't like, you talking about me? I'm like, oh no.

SPEAKER_01 48:51

Okay, so I've done I've I've put I've placed posts or I put posts out there, you know, like saying a piece of my mind, and then I would get a lot of messages saying, was this beat? Or who you talking about? I'm like, dog, if the shoe fits, it's you. I don't man, I honestly don't care, but oh my gosh, like you post like, man, skip her and him, da da da da, big headed, small feet, yada yada. And then you get all these DMs. It's like, oh shit, who you talking about? Are you talking about me? People are thinking of it. I was like, dog, if the shoe fits, if you think you're one of them, then it's you. But then it's one of those, dog, just mind your business, just just enjoy the read, you know?

SPEAKER_00 49:32

Yeah, I think it's more of been a model, we're like so critical of ourselves. And um, I I kind of look back, and that picture is like, I don't think this is as flattering as I thought it was. I'm deleting, and it's sometimes like, why did I post that picture? Um so I do a clean out every couple months because you know really, yeah, you know, you're feeling yourself one day, like this is I like this, and then months later, like archive. What was I thinking?

SPEAKER_01 49:58

I think we all gone through that because there's like old school pictures that I'm like, oh yeah, I gotta archive. Go back Thursday, flashback Friday, way back Wednesday. Yeah, I I have like, oh yeah, that's an art. It was good for that month, but I'm gonna archive this and stuff. Oh man, if you really want to see a person on how he or she is, go straight to the tagged photos because that's the ugliest photo of yourself. You know that, right? That's true. Like in that photo in that time, the person that's you know, that you were tagged in, they look great, but you're like, yeah, you know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_00 50:36

My sister is so guilty of that.

SPEAKER_01 50:37

Oh, really?

SPEAKER_00 50:38

We had to have a talk, it was like a picture intervention.

SPEAKER_02 50:41

Uh-huh.

SPEAKER_00 50:42

It was like, sister, um you text me first the pictures you want to post of me, girl. And she got all the pictures too. Like, she'll post them like, when did she take that?

SPEAKER_01 50:56

Yeah, really. I it's like a love and hate relationship with that, with those people, because it's like, oh man, this is a good time. Like, god damn, this is too much of a good time.

SPEAKER_00 51:07

It's like, sister, just text it to me. You don't even gotta post that.

SPEAKER_01 51:09

Yeah. Oh girl, man, Emory, that was fun.

SPEAKER_00 51:13

That was so fun. We gotta do this again soon.

SPEAKER_01 51:16

An hour went by fast already.

SPEAKER_02 51:18

Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 51:18

Um, as a person that came on the pod for their very first time, uh, how was it? How was your experience?

SPEAKER_00 51:27

It was great. I can't wait to do this again. Um, I'm so comfortable and Chris, you're the best. Fuck yeah.

DMing For Collabs Without Weird Vibes

SPEAKER_01 51:34

And then um, before we dip out, uh, or we say our final things, um, how did this happen? How did you and I connect?

SPEAKER_00 51:42

So I scoped my friend came here, Dean. She's a model, and I was like, oh my gosh, I'm gonna do the same thing. So I got my nerves up, you know, and I was like, I'm ready to do this.

SPEAKER_01 51:52

And so I hit Chris up and I DM'd him, and I was like, Was there any strange for for people that, you know, because this is my first time meeting you, yeah?

SPEAKER_00 52:01

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 52:02

Was there any strange vibes or did I come off like as a horny perv?

SPEAKER_00 52:06

Absolutely not. Absolutely not, and you made me feel so comfortable. And it was very normal, and that's why, you know, I was like, Yes, I'm doing this. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 52:14

Hell yeah. Um, for people out there that's just DMing people or, you know, trying to get that, trying to get that yes from for for a guest or whatnot. Uh not everyone is trying to get in the pants.

SPEAKER_00 52:27

That's true. Yeah, that's true. You know, so just shoot your shot. You never know.

SPEAKER_01 52:30

Definitely, definitely shoot your shot. Numbers game.

SPEAKER_00 52:33

Chris is a real one, and you're a perfect example of how you know we want everyone to respond and everything was great.

SPEAKER_01 52:39

Oh, yeah. There's there's there's a lot of people that haven't. I'm still I'm still lingering in their space somewhere.

SPEAKER_00 52:45

You'll get that.

SPEAKER_01 52:46

I don't give a fucking.

SPEAKER_00 52:49

That's how you gotta be sometimes. Oh my gosh.

SPEAKER_01 52:51

Yeah, it's so bad because it's um, I have friends who's like, oh yeah, I DM'd her, I DM them, I DM, you know, such and such. And um I tell them all the time, I was like, yo, man, I haven't gotten none back because I've been hitting up like big neighbors lately.

SPEAKER_00 53:03

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 53:04

And um luckily, like I've I've gotten through to some, but this is all like email.

SPEAKER_00 53:10

Okay.

Using ChatGPT For Outreach

SPEAKER_01 53:11

You know, it's like super formal. Yeah. I had a chat GPT my letters.

SPEAKER_00 53:14

Oh yeah, I got it.

SPEAKER_01 53:15

Oh my gosh. Yeah. So I'm like so fortunate to have Chat GPT to make mine. Um, my letter sounds super professional.

SPEAKER_00 53:23

It's very fortunate. I I use it for things too, and it helps a lot.

SPEAKER_01 53:27

Um, are you using the free version or did you upgrade to the 1999?

SPEAKER_00 53:31

I upgrade it to 1999 and then down to 1199.

SPEAKER_01 53:36

Okay, I was because I'm doing the free one still, but I'm thinking of upgrading it to the what the 1199 plan.

SPEAKER_00 53:43

Yeah.

unknown 53:44

Yes.

SPEAKER_00 53:44

But you know, the free one's good. You just put a little bit more work to it.

SPEAKER_01 53:47

Yeah, because um, you only have like what, like five topics or five inputs before it says, oh, your limit is up. Yeah, gotta check back in within like four or five hours.

SPEAKER_00 53:58

Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 53:58

Fucking hate that shit.

SPEAKER_00 53:59

But you know, we're fortunate now we're in the times where have we have that in it.

SPEAKER_01 54:03

It's oh my god, chat GPT. Hey, AI, thank you.

SPEAKER_00 54:07

Yeah, and next time I every like now and then I tell it to roast me. And it's so fun.

SPEAKER_01 54:13

Is it really?

SPEAKER_00 54:14

You gotta do it once.

SPEAKER_01 54:15

I'm gonna do it. I'm gonna try it. Will your feelings get hurt? Well, people give feelings get hurt if they say chat GPT roasts me.

SPEAKER_00 54:21

Well, it's just you and GPT chat, so nobody would know.

SPEAKER_01 54:24

Okay. Would a person Oh my god, if Chat GPT roasts the shit out you and you get offended, what does that tell of the person?

SPEAKER_00 54:38

That maybe they should not be even using it.

SPEAKER_01 54:41

Chat GPT.

SPEAKER_00 54:42

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 54:43

Because everyone download Chat GPT. Wrote okay, say roast me and tell me what tell me what you get. Because I'm fitting to do that tonight.

SPEAKER_00 54:56

I did that.

SPEAKER_01 54:56

Really?

SPEAKER_00 54:57

It made me work on myself. Give me one thing, it's it's whole, it's uh you're building an empire, but you're asking me for fire captions.

SPEAKER_01 55:06

You know what? That's so honestly.

SPEAKER_00 55:08

But you're writing!

Where To Find Amari

SPEAKER_01 55:09

Yeah, oh my god. Uh, do you have any shouts or anything or uh where can these people find you at?

SPEAKER_00 55:15

Find me on Instagram at either Amari periodmodels or Addy's Understore of Hawaii. Shout out to the shout outs to Chris. I love being here, and shout out to all the models that um is in our model community, and I love you ladies. Shout out.

SPEAKER_01 55:38

Hell yeah. Um, my shout outs, uh hey, shout out to Vicky and Top Shelf for this cool ass tea. Thank you so much. San Francisco, thank you for the cap. Appreciate y'all. Um, KO Studios, thank you for the lovely home. Raffi Body, thank you for the lovely vibe, man. And with that, I'm Chris. I'm Amari, and we out this bitch. Peace.