The Emil Show - All Things Relational

A Relationship Can Change Overnight; For Better or For Worse

Emil Harker

Emil speaks to Lisa. 

Lisa’s 16 year old step son recently moved in her her and her husband. It has dramatically changed her dynamic with her husband and she is looking for ways to communicate the may improve the situation.

1)      Determine desired outcome

2)      Identify expectations

4 statements of conflict: criticisms, questions, declarations, commands

How to avoid defensiveness in conversation:

1)      Share feelings and reasons

2)      Put yourself in the other’s shoes

3)      Check in

Once there is understanding and connections, you can shift to, “so what should we do about it?”

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