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Pet Peeves - How to Deal with a World that Keeps Getting on Your Last Nerve
Did you ever stop to consider that those everyday annoyances you encounter are silently sabotaging your mental well-being? Join me, Sally, as we take a closer look at how minor irritations—like loud eating and phone zombies—can pile up and significantly impact your emotional health. Together, we'll unravel why we hang on to these grievances and how acknowledging them can pave the way for a more joyful mindset.
You'll come away with effective strategies to manage and reduce these pesky pet peeves by identifying triggers and building a personalized stress relief toolbox. From deep breathing exercises to nature walks, learn practical techniques to maintain your calm. I'll even share a personal anecdote about how humor helped me diffuse road rage, proving that laughter truly is a powerful remedy for minor irritations.
Let's turn these everyday irritations, these little pet peeves we've chosen to entertain, into moments of growth and connection, fostering an environment of inner peace and mutual understanding.
The final quote for this episode comes from Andre Maurois and I hope it gives you pause for thought next time you feel yourself being irked by the small things in life.
“Often we allow ourselves to be upset by small things we should despise and forget. We lose many irreplaceable hours brooding over grievances that, in a year's time, will be forgotten by us and by everybody. No, let us devote our life to worthwhile actions and feelings, to great thoughts, real affections and enduring undertakings.”
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Welcome to Reverse Reset Restore your go-to podcast for transforming your mental, emotional and physical well-being. I'm your host, sally, and today we're tackling the tiny terrors of everyday life, those pesky pet peeves, and how they're really just grievances that end up hurting ourselves. Learn how to relinquish those irritations for a happier, healthier you. Change comes from within. Hands up, if you have a lot of pet peeves in your life, you know those little annoyances that bubble up around you. Well, today's topic is a universal one, because we all have our very own set of pet peeves, ranging in scale and impact on our day-to-day lives. It's quite a normal part of the human condition to get annoyed about things happening around us or be annoyed by other people's behaviors. In fact, it's been scientifically proven that there are certain behaviors that irk the majority of us as regular annoyances. As the proverb says, a little irritation is a great deal when it is too near. In today's episode, I'm going to talk about my own personal pet peeves and share some of the steps I've taken to reduce the impact in my life. We'll discuss some of the most common ones, proof again that we have a lot more in common than we don't have in common, common than we don't have in common. But first I want to talk about the terminology, because pet and peeve put together seems a bit like an oxymoron.
Speaker 1:Pets are things that we usually cherish, we love them, we hopefully look after them, even pamper our pets. The word peeve is defined by the Miriam Brewster Dictionary as a particular grievance or source of annoyance, and comes from a shortening of the word peevish. Pet peeves, then, are things that annoy us but we hold on to and look after anyway. Does this seem legit? Well, knowing the little I know about the behavior and logic of people, I'd say 100%. And just like our beloved pets, we hold on to our peeves with a leash of justifiable grievances. And what's worse is that when we are treating those things that irritate us as pets, we do what any sensible person with a pet does we groom them, feed them, clean up after them, even indulge them with toys and treats, and pour out our love and affection. Our pet peeves, then, are something we welcome into our home, into our life and our family's lives, which doesn't make a whole lot of sense that we are basically okay with living with a bunch of irritants, which is in essence what we are doing by holding on to all of these little or not so little grievances. It kind of hits differently, doesn't it, when you think of it like that.
Speaker 1:Yet many of us share common pet peeves, like people chewing their food with their mouths open or constantly interrupting a sentence, or dumping dirty dishes in the office kitchen for someone else to clean it up, or having the boss who micromanages the very breath out of your lungs, or the partner sorry Martin who's always forgetting to refill the water jug so that there's nice cooled filtered water ready to go. As Fanny Fern once said, there is no such thing as a little thing. Little things are the hinges of the universe, and so pet peeves, while they may seem pretty benign and quite little when we meet them face to face in the moment, it doesn't feel quite so little because we are justified in the feelings of being peeved. I'm going to give you a list of some of my pet peeves, the ones that I could just think off off the top of my head, and these are in no particular order and they're not really just specific to me. In my life they come up time and again as a list of pet peeves for most people, and I'm pretty sure they're probably in your life, at least some of them as well. Eating noises, people standing up in the plane before the doors are even open, sidewalk hoggers, line jumpers, people talking on devices on public transport or listening to music with their speakers spitting talking or on their phones during a movie tapping or clicking, and repetitive noises, constant coughing or clearing throat sounds, cigarette butts. Fair enough if you want to smoke I'm going to reserve my own judgment here on that one, because you do you but please, if you are going to smoke, stop throwing your cigarette butts on the ground. Not only is it disgusting, it is also the number one piece of litter around the world.
Speaker 1:I have a favorite place. I like to go and sit near our river. That is by our house, and so do the smokers, apparently, and they just leave their butts everywhere. Every week. I generally try to go down while I'm there and pick up the butts so they don't roll down or get blown into the river. And it amazes me how many cigarette butts I'm picking up after people all the time, and when I walk around my neighborhood I see it. They're always in the gutter, they're in around the trees, on the pavement. There's just this endless supply of cigarette butts Doggy, doo-doo.
Speaker 1:It's amazing to me how many people will let their dog do their business on the sidewalk or somewhere where it's inconvenient to pretty much everybody, and this is a really big problem in the area I live, which is really annoying because we have multiple dog park areas and lots of spaces where people can take their dogs to do their business and not be in the way of everybody else. People can take their dogs to do their business and not be in the way of everybody else. We even have bags for people to use for free so they can collect their dog shit and put it in the receptacles. You can guarantee, though, that every single day, you'll see several doggy-do deposits, and they're just left there for someone else to deal with. Not mad at the dog, I'm mad at the human attached to that dog.
Speaker 1:People not paying attention to their surroundings. This is probably one of my most challenging of pet peeves. Whenever I leave my house, I seem to find all of my pet peeve nerves are highlighted and on high alert. Take walking, for example. Walking used to be simple, not anymore. I get super annoyed with how many people I have to actively avoid because they are not paying any attention to their surroundings or where they're walking, or who's walking around them, or the cars or the bikes or the whatever. People are walking with their heads in their phones, their ears plugged up with their AirPods, completely oblivious to the world. Please, for the love of my sanity, stop watching your phone when you are walking down the stairs or in a busy street or crossing the road.
Speaker 1:There have been so many times I'm going to be honest with you right now that I have had to literally resist the urge to push into people who are walking with their heads burrowed in their phones and not paying any attention and, as you can probably tell by my voice, this is still a pet peeve that has a particular frustration of mine, and I seriously only hold back from actually smashing into people because I know it's wrong, and in those moments I use my imagination to play out what I want to do to them if I didn't actually care about other people or the outcome. So my imagination will have to do, and it's normal that we all have these things in our lives that push our button. I've been fortunate to let go a lot of these pet peeves that I've had, but I've got to be honest. Like I said, the phone zombie walks is still one I'm working on.
Speaker 1:Personally, I think it's rude of people who walk with their phones being their visual field, because it means I'm always have to be the one that is dodging people. Most days I can let it go, but there are still days when it really just pisses me off. This is a grievance, and it's a grievance I'm holding against strangers. Do they care? Nope, does it ruin part of their day and fill them up with? So when I think of pet peeves, I realize just how much we allow what is happening around us to impact what is within us.
Speaker 1:As Robert Collier said, the things that irritate, disturb and disgust us all count against our chances of success. Understanding this can help us manage these irritations better, Because what Robert's implying here is that if we are constantly focusing on the things that are annoying to us and we pay attention to our pet peeves, then it's really hard to actually focus on anything else in our lives, including the positive opportunities that may come our way. The joy of being outside in the fresh air is quickly dashed, or the simple need to get from point A to point B without navigating the multitude of human obstacles before me is overwhelmed when I entertain my sinister thoughts which aggravate my feelings, and the next minute I am muttering under my breath how much I hate people. And I don't hate people, not at all. I just hate the selfishness. And yeah, I know things change and society shifts, but it seems to me that we're becoming more and more removed from thinking of anyone other than ourselves. Or maybe maybe I am just becoming a grumpy old curmudgeon. If you agree with my pet peeve of an attention to the detriment of others, let me know in the comments, or tell me that I'm being a grumpy old curmudgeon. Either way, there is probably some middle ground between the two.
Speaker 1:For all my doing the work and letting go and growing myself on this spiritual, transformative journey, etc. Some of my pet peeves are sticking around, others I have managed to let go, which is a good thing, because there were a lot of them. I mean like a huge amount, probably pages and pages of peeves, and none of these peeves are particularly helpful. They just tend to disrupt my day, upend my mood and make me a grouch potato that is similar to a couch potato, but now I'm in a mood. I recognize that these little instances of mini grievances, if you want to call them often arise from personal preferences and sensitivities or past negative experiences. They can be triggered by various factors, such as specific behaviors, sounds or habits that irritate or annoy us.
Speaker 1:Understanding can involve recognizing our individual boundaries, our values and our triggers. For example, I'm pretty sure I have a condition called misophonia, which causes people to have strong reactions to specific sounds. People with misophonia can become frustrated or even enraged by repetitive sounds like itting sounds or tapping. I get grossed out by hearing food swirling around in someone's mouth or watching them shovel it in, and I realize that noise is a particular trigger for me. Recently we had them doing work on the level below me and in the room behind me at work, and it was doing my head in. But weirdly enough, had they let us know that that construction was going to happen, I think I would have coped much better with the drilling and the hammering and the loud talking and the music playing and the cacophony of sound.
Speaker 1:It provided me with a good opportunity to put some strategies into place and remind myself that my pet peeve of noise disturbances is something that, a I need to deal with and, b it's not really worth holding on to, because, unless I lose my hearing, I'm going to always be living in a world of sound and noise, so recognizing your own pet peeves can help you manage them when they arise or even potentially get rid of them altogether. By reflecting on whether they are rooted in personal preferences or your past experiences or specific triggers like certain noises, we can better understand why they bother us and then figure out what we can do about them. Remember, our anger and annoyance are more detrimental to us than the things themselves which anger or annoy us, as Marcus Aurelius wisely noted. I'm going to share with you my 12 techniques for dealing with pet peeves. Most of these strategies I have tried and either succeeded or I'm still working on, but there is quite a lot that I've just reduced or eliminated entirely from my life, especially when I use these strategies. So hopefully they could be helpful for you.
Speaker 1:If you are a pet peever extraordinaire. Number one let's start really simply identify your triggers. So the tip is I want you to keep a journal to note down when and why you get irritated. What we're doing here is we're looking for patterns. We're looking for is there some specific sounds or something that someone does that annoys you, or situations that trigger you? This is where the technique part comes in. Okay, you can use your journal to identify your common patterns and your triggers. Understanding the root cause of your pet peeves can help you manage them better and maybe perhaps eliminate them entirely. When I started doing this, I recognized something. You see, for me, my pet peeve about people not watching where they're walking because they've got their eyes glued to the screen actually turns out that's less about the action itself and the feelings it stirred up in me that I have to be constantly mindful of everyone else while they get to be selfish.
Speaker 1:Number two develop a stress relief toolbox. Now, I think a toolbox is something we should all have. Kind of think how Blue's Clues has a handy, dandy notebook. Right, it's the same sort of thing, except we're going to call it a toolbox. Have a set of go-to activities that help you relax or feel less stressed or calms down your central nervous system, like tapping, for example. We talk about the type of things that could be in your toolbox a lot in this podcast, because it's important to think about the things that we can do for ourselves that really bring us back to the present moment and that bring peace and joy and happiness into our lives. So the technique for this particular tip is include activities like deep breathing or listening to music or taking a short walk in nature or engaging in a hobby. Use these techniques when you feel a pet peeve arising. Now, I know this may not be always possible in some situations, but at the very least, use breathing, or use a phrase or a word that can really help you come back to yourself.
Speaker 1:Number three practice patience and tolerance. Oh, I know sounds really tough, right, and it kind of is. Sometimes it can be hard. Patience and tolerance it's not always an easy thing. So the tip here is to remind yourself that everyone has different habits and quirks. Everyone is unique and we've got beautiful, amazing things about each of us, and we've all got shit that we need to work on right. So the technique here is to practice patience and tolerance. When you feel annoyed, take a deep breath and count to 10 before reacting, or try the box breathing technique. This can give you time to calm down and respond more rationally.
Speaker 1:Box breathing is a really simple technique that can help you refocus. Let me show you how I'm going to take you through the steps and we'll do it together. Step one breathe in through your nose for a count of four. Step two hold your breath for a count of four. Step three slowly exhale through your nose for a count of four and then step four to complete the box. Repeat the first three steps until you feel resented. And since there is nothing like at the present to give something like this a go, let's do it together right now and I'll do the counting for you. All you're going to do is focus on your breathing. I'll take care of the rest here. Here we go Breathe in for a count of four.
Speaker 1:One, two, three, four. Hold for four. One, two, three, four. Exhale for four. One, two, three, four and get yourself ready and we'll go again. Inhale One, four. One, two, three, four. Exhale for four. One, two, three, four. Pretty easy, right, take your time. I actually make my fours quite a slow, long four. So you know, one, two, three, four. That's not what we're doing here. It's one, two, three, three, four, or as long as you can do that. For the more that you do this type of breathing technique, what it does is it helps calm your central nervous system down. It helps bring you back into your body, into your moment and space and time here now, and then hopefully, everything sort of resets itself right so that you can go okay, I can move beyond this feeling that I'm in at the moment.
Speaker 1:Number four use humor to diffuse irritation. So approach pet peeves with a sense of humor when it's appropriate. Obviously, with a sense of humor when it's appropriate. Obviously, try to find the humor in the situation because sometimes laughter can diffuse tension and help put minor annoyances into perspective. So there's obviously a lot of different ways that you could apply this technique to your life. So when something annoys you, maybe you could imagine it as part of a comedy sketch. This can help you see it in a lighter, less irritating light.
Speaker 1:My dear friend George noted how annoyed I got when driving in the car because of other drivers. Okay, maybe less annoyed and more enraged is the correct terminology, but I'm not alone in this. Even actor Katie Holmes admitted I have some road rage inside of me. Traffic, especially in LA, is a pet peeve of mine. Hands up if you can relate to the frustration of how many bad or ignorant or selfish drivers there are out there on the roads acting like they own them. Maybe put both hands up and your feet too, if this is high up on your list of annoyances.
Speaker 1:Anyway, george appears one day with a piece of paper in hand and gives it to me. It's for when you're driving, she said, and I looked at it and it was a picture of Thor and the Hulk from a scene in the movie Ragnarok. In this particular scene, where they are pitted in a gladiator-like battle, thor is trying to pacify Hulk with hey, big guy, the sun is getting real low, sun's going down. It's a funny, weird expression, but it worked Both for me and the Hulk. The sun's going down became the saying, george and I would say, between ourselves, to diffuse not only the driving situation but other situations that we were in. Just having that little picture and those words sun's going down taped to the visor in my car helped me find humor in a situation that really used to grind my gears.
Speaker 1:Number five concentrate on the positive aspects of your day. All too often, when our pet peeve is activated the next minute, everything is out the window and all we're focusing on is how annoyed we are or frustrated or bothered. This technique encourages you to get into a habit of listing good things that are happening in that day. This is another really easy technique to implement and with a little bit of practice, you'll find it easily becomes a natural part of your routine. When you stop focusing on the pet peeve and you start focusing your intention on what are good things that have happened to me today, you'll actually create more good things in your life.
Speaker 1:Number six engage in mindful practices. Now we talk a lot about mindful practices here on the Reverse Reset Restore podcast. It'll be one of those conversations that come up time and time and time again, because the reality is, having a mindful practice in place really does assist you in changing your perspective and helping you lead a more calming and fulfilling life, finding ways to have some more peace, being more present in the moment. So that's what mindfulness is really about. So the tip here is to incorporate mindfulness into your daily routine Staying present and focusing on the current moment rather than dwelling on past annoyances or worrying about future triggers. Mindfulness techniques can really help reduce reactivity to pet peeves, and the technique you can employ here is just spending a few minutes every day in meditation or doing mindful breathing or just choosing your favorite mindfulness activity.
Speaker 1:Number seven set clear boundaries. In other words, communicate. Communicate your needs and limits to those around you. Express your concerns calmly and assertively to those that you live with or you work with or whoever might be in your sphere of where these concerns are, because letting other people know about your pet peeves can help prevent unintentional miscommunication and foster better understanding. But you also need to be aware of where your pet peeves might be coming from and what's your responsibility and what perhaps you can expect from others.
Speaker 1:When I was working in medical dispatching, I had a colleague who every single time he moved his mouse, he would tap it on the table Like move it, tap, tap, tap, move it, tap, tap, tap. You probably know the sound or can imagine it. This was a sound that wasn't needed in an already busy environment with emergency ambulance services. Now, realizing that noise is a trigger for me, I eventually was like I can't take this anymore, this constant tapping, and so I had to approach it and I could have been like your tapping's really annoying, but would that have been effective? No, and that's often the trouble that we come into, because that's the approach that we take right. So I approached him with the technique here of using the I statement Hi, I'm not sure if you're aware, but you generally have this little habit of tapping your mouse when you move it and I'm finding the tapping draws my attention away from my caller and it kind of adds a bit to my stress when I'm trying to concentrate on the call. Would it be possible for us to get you a mouse pad so it could reduce the sound of your tapping on the desk so I'm not hearing it so badly? See how that works.
Speaker 1:I explained what the problem was. I said it was my problem and then I also offered a solution as well, without saying to him you're annoying me, your tapping's frustrating me. The solution here was let's put something underneath your mouse so you can still tap, but it's just going to reduce the impact. So I'm not hearing it at the same level. So if someone does something that really annoys you, it's really important to work with them. Also, you have to take responsibility as well. So for me, where I could, I would work as far away from him as possible to minimize the impact. But sometimes when I was dispatching an ambulance I had to sit right next to him because he was dispatching other ambulances and that's where the desk was situated. So it was just being mindful of like. Okay, I have asked him to be aware of this habit. But also, how can I distract myself so that I'm not constantly thinking about what this other person is doing? Because, ultimately, I'm not responsible for what other people do, right? We're only responsible for our reactions to what is happening around us. So, even though I asked him, not letting that sit on my nerves was up to me. So the technique that you're going to employ here is using I statements to express how certain behaviors affect you and what you would prefer instead.
Speaker 1:Number eight practice empathy. So here's your tip Try to understand the perspective of the person causing you irritation. Now, this is where we have to step into someone else's shoes, right, and that's always something that we're encouraged to do, but very few of us tend to do, I think, so much nowadays. So the technique here is ask yourself why the person might be behaving in a way that annoys you. This can help you develop empathy and reduce your irritation. I know this isn't always so easily done for the people in our own lives, let alone the strangers that we encounter that we might feel irritated by. So here's a couple of ways that I've found that have helped me be more understanding and also have allowed me to drop the feelings of being annoyed or angered in the situation. The first technique is just asking yourself is this person, or is this situation or whatever's happening, is it really worth the energy I'm now working from? What you're really asking here is are you really wanting to hold on to the anger that this is creating in your body? If yes, the anger that this is creating in your body. If yes, I guess that's your prerogative. But if the answer is no, then you can choose now to drop the peeve.
Speaker 1:I call this working in the opposite spirit, because sometimes I get really angry about things and I have to choose. Am I going to hold on to that anger? Am I going to hold on to those cortisol levels that are rising up in my body? Is it worth it for me to hold that for the satisfaction or the justification of being angry or annoyed? Probably not right. So for me, the way I do this is go. Does that really concern me? Does it matter? Does it affect my day? Is it going to make a difference to me or to that person or to the situation? If I say, if it's not going to be something that's really worthwhile me getting all you know upset about, then okay, I'm going to choose to just drop this now, because it's not worth the aggravation that it's creating in my body, in my mind and in my feelings.
Speaker 1:The second technique is to make up a story about that person and their situation that helps you feel empathetic for them. Take, for example, a person who is driving erratically on the motorway. It's a common annoyance. Take, for example, a person who is driving erratically on the motorway. It's a common annoyance, but perhaps in this situation they are weaving in and out of lanes because they've just had terrible news about a loved one and they are out of their mind with grief trying to get to the hospital. Or maybe they had a really bad meal and they need to get home to the toilet before their bowels explode. See what happens when we can create a story in our heads that changes the way we view that person. We humanize them, we give them a sense of ourselves when we are empathetic. Give this a try. See what happens to your mood and your thinking when you do this. See how it allows you to see yourself in someone else. And see, as Moshe says, empathy is about finding echoes of another person in yourself. Number nine, yourself, number nine.
Speaker 1:Create a gratitude ritual. So the tip here is to focus on the things you appreciate in your life, and there is a multitude of techniques that you can do to start implementing this into your day. For one technique, you might just decide that every morning, you're going to start your day by writing down three things you are grateful for, or five things, or ten things. Start with one thing. Whatever makes it easy for you to start doing this and focusing on this can help you maintain a positive mindset, and it diminishes the impact of minor annoyances when you start your day feeling grateful for things. That tends to be something that allows your brain to then start looking for more of the good happening in the world. Or if you are in the moment where you're taking your pet peeve for a stroll, change your focus by naming the things you're grateful for.
Speaker 1:In my experience of putting this particular tip into play, let me use walking outside and being annoyed by the sidewalk hoggers. You know the type, the ones that are taking up all of the sidewalk and you have to squeeze around them or stop because they won't move over, or if there's a group of them, they don't go single file, they just think that they can be six or seven people in a pile. Now, when I meet these, instead of my old default pattern of getting annoyed, I'm choosing gratitude. I'm so grateful that I can physically move around that pole and still keep walking with ease. Or it's nice to see people in groups like that enjoying each other's company. Do I do this every time? No, because I am a human and I'm a work in progress. But the thing is, the more often I choose to act out of a place of gratitude, the more often I choose to act out of a place of gratitude, the less these types of situations impact me in the moment or in the hours after.
Speaker 1:Number 10, limit exposure to triggers. So the tip here is to reduce your interaction with sources of irritation where possible. Now you're probably thinking that is impossible. Here's an example of the technique in action. If social media or certain environments trigger your pet peeves, consider limiting your time you spend on these platforms or in these places. I personally don't watch a lot of news. I'll look things up, I'll read articles, but in general I don't watch the news because it often triggers me and I've mentioned this before. But I try to limit reading comment sections on social media because of the keyboard warrior comments and the amount of hidden pet peeves that usually come bounding out, looking for attention when I scratch that itch.
Speaker 1:Number 11, compromise. So the tip here is be willing to compromise and find middle ground when dealing with other people's behaviors that may trigger your pet peeves. Seek solutions that accommodate everyone's needs and preferences. And again, let's remember back to that example I shared with my colleague who was constantly banging his mouse on the desk. Every single time he moved it, which was a lot, and so seeking that solution of going hey, that's a habit for him. He's probably not just going to be able to break the habit. How can I minimize my pee-pee, my reaction to this? Let's put a mouse pad under there so it reduces that sound.
Speaker 1:So the technique here is, when you find yourself being irritated by someone else's behavior and it's going to happen to us all the time pause, consider their perspective, initiate a calm conversation and express your feelings without blame. Use that I statement such as I feel frustrated when, instead of you always suggest a solution that works for both of you and be open to their suggestions. For example, if a co-worker's loud phone calls bother you, you might agree to use headphones. I know for me, when I was working in an office, that was open plan, so a lot of people were in there and I had to have some conversations with students or whatever. I would find myself another place to go and have that call, so that I wasn't going to be distracting to my colleagues that were working around me. And number 12, acceptance. So the tip here is to practice tolerance and acceptance of minor irritations. Not everything will align with your preferences. Right Learning to let go of those small annoyances can contribute to overall peace of mind.
Speaker 1:So the technique that you can utilize here when a pep fever rises, take a moment to breathe deeply and remind yourself that not everything needs to be perfect or to go your way. Use a mantra or a phrase like let it go or this too shall pass, to help shift your focus. Try to visualize the irritation as a small, insignificant pebble that you can easily step over. By understanding the underlying reasons for our pet peeves, understanding the underlying reasons for our pet peeves and then implementing proactive strategies to address them, we can foster so much more healthier relationships within ourselves and within the people around us and cultivate greater peace of mind in our daily lives, which is really what it's all about, isn't it?
Speaker 1:And so many of us hold on to these things, that we're creating chaos in our lives that doesn't need to exist. If we would just let go of the leash of the pet peeves and recognize that not only do they exist, but we actually have the power to allow them to be a big pet peeve and commotion in our lives, or to release that burden from ourselves and find inner peace. As we close out this week's episode, I want to leave you with this thought from French author André Mouar Often we allow ourselves to be upset by small things we should despise and forget. We lose many irreplaceable hours brooding over grievances that in a year's time will be forgotten by us and by everybody. No, let us devote our life to worthwhile actions and feelings, to great thoughts, real affections and enduring undertaking. Thank you,