Your Divine Feminine with Katrina Valente

Fertility and perimenopause conversations usually get technical fast. This one takes a different approach.

Katrina Valente is a feminine embodiment mentor and tantra and relationship coach with nearly three decades of experience helping high achieving women step out of burnout and back into their bodies. This conversation with Dr. Susan Fox explores what happens when women spend years living in pure masculine drive.

The conversation covers her own burnout story, the years spent working instead of building a family, and the five habits that keep her youthful and radiant now. It also gets into why the program runs 12 weeks, and why boundaries might be the most underrated tool a woman has. 

This episode is for you if: 

• you've wonder if you're drive is driving you to burnout 
• you're heading into perimenopause and want to prepare 
• you’re fatigued, have brain fog, or feel like something's off
• you're curious what "divine feminine" means
• you want everyday habits that work 
• you've had a burnout moment and are trying to make sense of it

Learn more about the Valente Method here: https://www.katrinavalente.com/the-valente-method-course

Check out Secrets to Eternal Youth here: https://www.katrinavalente.com/secrets-to-eternal-youth 

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Transcript

SPEAKER_01 1:25

Hello and welcome to today's episode of Health University, where we talk all things fertility, pregnancy and postpartum, and perimenopause, that step just before the last step on the bridge of a woman's reproductive health called menopause. And today we're going to cover that sort of those last few steps of the bridge, the preparing for perimenopause and perimet and menopause, so that we can enjoy our menopausal years with ease, with success, with vitality. And I'm delighted to have join us today Katrina Valente. And Katrina is going to give us her method as to how to begin that process now so that we're not trying to chase for it later. She is a feminine embodiment mentor, a tantra and relationship coach with nearly three decades of experience. Walking her talk at 60 years old, she has learned how to live her best life and is dedicated to helping others avoid the mistakes that she's made along the way. She's going to share with us the Valente method that helps women avoid repeating past mistakes, live their best life at any age, and feel proud of the skin that they're in. So welcome to Katrina and thank you so much for joining us today.

SPEAKER_03 2:40

Thank you so much for having me, Susan. It's a pleasure.

SPEAKER_01 2:43

You know, we in this in a lot of our conversations about fertility, pregnancy, perimenopause, we can get a little medical. So I really appreciate taking a you know an elevated view of what is this and what is this at the soul level, the embodiment level, the emotional level. So I'm really looking forward to this conversation because I think it really helps. I want it, it's not even fill out, but it really helps ground. You know, what are we what are we doing as we as we go through our activities of daily living so that we really feel purposeful? So if you would tell us, please, what is the Valente method?

SPEAKER_03 3:21

So, well, the Valenti method is actually my 12-week online program where I cover everything inside out. So by the end of it, you're totally transformed. You know, we're living in a time where women are very much in their masculine energy. They're successful, they're driven, they're making as much money as men. But the problem with that is we are not men. We were never meant to work as hard as men. And it's really taking a hit on our nervous system, our energy levels, and it's extracted all of our feminine energy to the point where we've forgotten who we are, which is the divine feminine essence. And I can say that wholeheartedly because I was that man. You know, I've always worked for myself, I've traveled the world as a visiting expert. And the only thing that was important to me was my career. And I always said, Oh, yeah, a man will come along, it'll happen, it'll happen. And it never happened. I never got married, I never had children. And I don't want, I want other younger women to understand that your career is not the be-all and end all, and it is not going to bring you the happiness you think it will.

SPEAKER_01 4:44

Well, I like what you're saying, and I I want to sort of flesh that out a little bit in that our you know, our careers are obviously very important to us. We can't, you know, we've the whole paradigm has changed, so we can't just go sort of live in the powder room and you know and and and do you know divine feminine dances. But to your point, to your point, what I'd like to just uh kind of I think uh amplify, because I think what I'm hearing you say is we we we're not designed to work the same way as the male, you know, our are yeah, so which which makes it hard work for us, we're designed to work differently in that sort of larger village model or perspective or points of view.

SPEAKER_03 5:26

Is that is that a way does that absolutely uh don't get me wrong, I'm not saying we shouldn't work, of course we should make our own money, we should be successful. Woman, it's a different day and age now, but we've taken it too far. And what late we have to realize is that as a woman, you can work less and earn more. We have to give ourselves space because the masculine and feminine energy is within each and every one of us as human beings. So the masculine gets us up in the morning, it gets us going, it gets things done. As a man, he's your provider, your protector. And the woman is the all-receiving energy, she's the nurturer, the um the love, the embodiment of the home, and she amplifies a man into his greatness. We both have jobs to do, we are different for a reason, and we just have to remember who we are.

SPEAKER_01 6:31

Yeah, and I like that I hear you say we each embody feminine and masculine aspects. So it's not about a man in a man's body or a woman in a woman's body, it's about ourselves being fully in our whole body, in all of our essences, and you and I would agree wholeheartedly, um, you know, that certainly in my lifetime we were trained as females, as women, to you know, hop into the male paradigm and get the work done as a male has done it over centuries. Um, and and where we sort of lost ourselves was in mimicking men and then dropping to the the way back uh uh uh our our our capacity to nourish, nurture, replenish, be sensual.

SPEAKER_03 7:24

Yes, I mean we've we've lost that to a degree, I believe. I mean, I've worked with hundreds of women over the years, and you know, I've I was I was traveling to all these high-end resorts around the world, treating royalty celebrities, high net worth individuals. And the one thing that was a common across everybody that I met that were married, the woman was there to support the man. Even if she was successful on her own, she was the base of the whole family, and that really stood out to me. And you have to respect that because that is the way it should be.

SPEAKER_01 8:09

Yes. And to the listening and viewing audience, of course, you know, this this occurs in same-sex couples, this occurs as an individual. So we're not talking uh solely about you know a woman in a woman's body and a man in a man's body. We really are talking about the principles of the energy, yeah, feminine energy, yeah, the divine feminine. So, and so so tell us about your you you mentioned your own journey. How did you then come to at first recognize and then overcome some of these these things that were um I'm gonna say aging you, um, if if that is accurate, because it because anything that's hard is going to age us.

SPEAKER_03 8:53

Yeah, I mean, obviously I was on my own, so I had nobody to support me or take care of me. So I was living in fight or flight constantly. This was the norm for me, and I didn't actually understand that until much later on, but I would keep going back to the Maldives. Um I've actually worked in the Maldives 23 times, and it only just occurred to me last year. The reason I kept doing that because it was the only place I could find my feminine energy. Because on a desert island, there was nothing to do, nowhere to go. So I just had to go with the flow. And us as women, we need to be in the flow. We should really be working for our pleasure, we should be tapping into our creativity, and actually, as a side effect of that, I made the most money I've ever made. That's amazing, and it was very interesting in hindsight to look back on it, and then I fully understood why that was happening. Right. But I think there's so many women nowadays that are just, and you know, if you're a mother and a wife, I just I do not know how you get through a day.

SPEAKER_01 10:08

Well, I think that you actually named it um it it in the it when you said creativity, when you were in the Maldives, you could actually tap into your creative life force. And creativity is isn't work, it's play, it's it's expression, it's what we came into a body to to share with the world. And so then, therefore, when air quotes work comes out of it or a product or a project or a service comes out of it, it does it's not burdensome, it's actually quite enlivening and um and really promotes longevity in and of itself.

SPEAKER_03 10:47

Definitely. I mean, I've I was an anti-aging expert for 30 years, you know. So it is, it's all about relaxation, it's about making more space in your diary, stop booking yourself back to back to back. You need to breathe as a woman, you need to do less in a day and just make more time to come back into your balance.

SPEAKER_01 11:12

And what might that look like? I I if if someone were listening right now, while having the calendar scheduled, and in these days, you know, sometimes other people are able to schedule into your calendar. So, what would it how could one right now begin to implement some strategies that would evoke this divine feminine, which evokes this radiance that you're that you're speaking of?

SPEAKER_03 11:39

First of all, you have to become aware. I mean, I've done talks in the past of women in the audience that they're so far in their masculine, they don't even understand what that means. So I think the first point of call is actually awareness and understanding where you're at. And you know, journaling helps. I'm a big advocate of journaling because when the brain sees it written on paper, not typed on a computer, but written in a journal, the brain takes it in differently and then your subconscious accepts it in a different way. So journaling helps, dancing, yoga, you know, anything that's gonna enliven you, like tap into your, as you said, creativity, the fun side of your nature. That's all the divine feminine energy. Um, you have to take care of yourself, you have to be good to yourself, you have to go and have a massage, go and get your hair done, do things that make you feel feminine.

SPEAKER_01 12:51

And then would you be able to again you say some some some people are so deeply into their masculine from decades of having performed and and succeeded that way, would you have any um definition for like what would feminine look like, feel like, if someone were to be sitting in front of you saying, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know. Am I in my feminine? Am I in my masculine?

SPEAKER_03 13:17

I mean, the feminine, the feminine actually looks feminine, a feminine woman looks feminine, a masculine woman looks masculine. I mean, it's very clear.

SPEAKER_01 13:30

And is that so in the way someone folds tension in their face or jaw? Yeah, not so much necessarily how they dress per se.

SPEAKER_03 13:38

Yeah, it I mean, it's it's a whole package, you know, it's really a whole package. Your clothing says a lot about you, it says a lot about your personality, and there is a section in the 12-week course about how color affects you, how clothing, you know, trousers versus a skirt. I mean, there's there's an immediate masculine-feminine differentiation there, right? And so when you dress more feminine, you feel more feminine, and that energy radiates out of you. So it's all about also an internal thing about how you are on an emotional standpoint.

SPEAKER_01 14:20

Okay, all right. So you talked about five things that will keep you feeling youthful and radiant. What are those five things? Oh, there's so many. Did I give you five things? You did not list them. You you shared that you would like to discuss the five things.

SPEAKER_03 14:37

So the five things, okay. So the five limited. If there's more, then please tell us. So the first thing would be exercise. Okay. Exercise oxygenates the body, it circulates the blood flow, it makes you feel good, it activates endorphins in the body. So I've always been a massive advocate of exercise, and I believe that's why it's kept me so youthful and agile today.

SPEAKER_01 15:07

Um, now are there many forms of exercise? Because when I hear you speak of the feminine, I'm imagining that probably being on the elliptical for 30 minutes, just to pound out 30 minutes of exercise, may not be embodying the divine feminine.

SPEAKER_03 15:22

No. I mean, look, I think as a perimenopausal woman, you have to do strength training. There's no way, two ways out of it. You must lift heavy weights. I mean, you could, and and that has to be at least three times a week. I don't suggest that you run as an older woman. It's not good for your joints, it's not good for it's makes your skin saggy on your face. So, you know, brisk walking is all you need. You need to tone it down a bit, you know. Yoga, Pilates, these kinds of things are very strengthening and lengthening for the body and the mind. I mean, yoga's very mental, of course, right?

SPEAKER_01 16:07

Yes, that the whole point of the asana is to have a better relationship with one's mind. Yes, exactly.

SPEAKER_03 16:14

Yeah, the second thing, obviously, being in anti-aging and skincare for 30 years, it would have to be using good products. Okay, let's talk about you're looking at your when you talk to people, you're looking at their face. You want to see a nice glowing skin. It's it's the sign of health, and you need to have your home care routine in place morning and evening, and that makes a tremendous difference to the way someone looks, you know, because your looks do matter.

SPEAKER_01 16:46

Yes. And here in Health University, being being health being the primary word, we also speak to the importance of using products that are as as minimal a toxic load as possible. So this isn't about slapping on a whole lot of makeup from you know, from from the uh the aisle at the at the big box store, because we really want to make sure that you're that what what you're doing is also when you're when you're making yourself feel more beautiful, that you're not using toxins in order to have that facade, if you will.

SPEAKER_03 17:22

Yeah. I mean, there's so much choice nowadays. There's vegan products, there's organic products. I mean, I've always been a bit of a snob with products, and I've always used professional products. You know, vitamin C, vitamin A are very important for anti-aging and for rejuvenation of the skin, hyaluronic acid, but there's always alternatives, and you can definitely find lots of organic products now.

SPEAKER_01 17:48

Well, and certainly vitamin A, vitamin C, and hyaluronic acid are natural products. So that's it's more about you know don't use the products that if you look at the ingredients list, you couldn't pronounce them. Or right? Or or you know, that or they're your parabens, exactly. Yes, yes. Okay, cool. So that's two.

SPEAKER_03 18:14

Two third one has to be diet. I mean, we are what we eat, there was never a truer word spoken. So, you know, you have to find what's right for you, for your body. You have to listen to your body, your body's talking to you constantly. And I resisted the keto diet personally for a long time, and then when I did try it, I found it worked very well for me through perimenopause and intermenopause.

SPEAKER_01 18:45

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SPEAKER_03 18:58

We need to try and reduce the sugar intake, definitely alcohol, because once you lose your oestrogen, it is gone, man. Alcohol is not gonna work with your body. Sugar is also a big one, you know. So just try and eat whole foods, eat as healthy as you can, and just notice what works for you. Yeah, everybody's different.

SPEAKER_01 19:21

Well, I like that you say that because of course, yeah, there isn't one diet per se. So I choose the word nutrition because we have a little bit of a um either either an obliging response or a resistant response sometimes to the word diet, at least here. Um, and what I would say is again, because many of the of the people listening here, you know, they're not yet in perimenopause or menopause, but doing these things now helps you enter your perimenopause and menopause years, which you will, God willing, goddess willing, because that's just the natural course of living, getting to live a little bit longer on this planet. So taking these things into account now will only help you later.

SPEAKER_03 20:03

Definitely. I mean, I always said prevention is better than cure. So the earlier you start to take care of yourself, the more it will serve you as you get older.

SPEAKER_01 20:15

Sure. And to as I think about what you recited the first three so far, to approach exercise, skin care, personal care, nutrition with this um consciousness, attentiveness, nurturing that is living in your divine feminine.

SPEAKER_03 20:37

Definitely.

SPEAKER_01 20:38

Yeah. Okay, so let's hear number four.

SPEAKER_03 20:41

Number four would be supplements. I've always been a big supplement junkie, and I also credit that for my you know, health today. And um yeah, lots of supplements. Find out what you need. Um, you know, the oils are very important for our joints, uh, vitamin A for the skin, vitamin C for your immune system, vitamin B for your nervous system, um, and then NMN and um reservatrol, very good anti-aging supplements, collagen powder, creatine is the big one everybody's talking about. Yes, exactly.

SPEAKER_01 21:24

That's getting a lot of attention these days.

SPEAKER_03 21:26

Yes, getting a lot of attention, and it's good if you exercise to take creatine also.

SPEAKER_01 21:32

Wonderful. And yes, I would say I'm gonna I'm gonna uh sort of uh um second your emotion around working with someone who can help you find the right supplements that you need, because at different times in our lives, when we're trying to accomplish different things at different phases, we may need different supplementation. But to your point, even if we're eating an organic, grass-fed, grass-finished, wild-caught, all of that free-range type of diet and organic, we may not be capturing all of the nutrients that we need. So to be able to supplement appropriately at different phases of our lives is I think really crucial. So please don't just go out to, you know, an influencer who's saying this is what I'm selling, because oftentimes they're selling, they've got it, they've got a financial investment in making their recommendation. Go to someone who doesn't who's working for you, who's who's really looking at your labs, your constitution, your desired um outcome at this time, at any time in your life, and provide the recommendations and the actual supplements accordingly.

SPEAKER_03 22:41

Absolutely. Yes, you should always be blood tested on a regular basis because you know, as women, our hormones fluctuate as well. Stress really affects us. Um, I was under tremendous stress at one point in my life, and my thyroid went underactive, and then it it threw all my hormones out of balance. Absolutely. Everything. So you have to be aware of these things as well.

SPEAKER_01 23:11

Yes, yes. And I again I would say I would say that while the medical profession has their sort of standard labs that they'll run once a year, kind of thing, you know, if you're noticing signs and symptoms, uh it's it's worth Worth doing a deeper dive. You know, you may not, you may need more than your CBC and your chem panel. You may need a complete thyroid panel. You may need a vitamin D panel. You may need to find out if you're B12 deficient or something like that. So, so um you you really want to be your own advocate. I think that we have gotten to a place in our society, in our sort of you know, modern society, where we rely almost too much on the white coat to tell us what labs we need and whether or not we're fine and are we in range? Because sometimes we're just a smidge out, you know, in within range, but you why wait till you get out of range, right?

SPEAKER_03 24:06

Well, I mean, I always um consult a naturopathic doctor who is a friend of mine that I worked with many years ago, and he gives me much more information than any doctor ever did, honestly speaking. Right. But I think we have to be aware that there are other sources, and I think you have to explore that because I was told that my um I had to have my thyroids cut out. The doctor told me we have to take it out, and I said, There's no way I'm a holistic therapist, I am not doing that, and I went straight to my naturopathic doctor and he sorted me out, and it was fine. And then I was told I had to go on statins because I had super high cholesterol, and again, that was fixed. He said, You don't have high cholesterol, you've got a little bit of a fatty liver, and we sorted that out through water fasting and some supplements, so that there is always another way, and I don't think you should take one medical professional's word for it. I think you should explore.

SPEAKER_01 25:10

I agree, I agree. Okay, so we've now gotten to four. What might be a fifth?

SPEAKER_03 25:16

Number five has got to be your mental health. Okay, good. I mean, you have to have good mental health. I think everybody needs a therapist in this day and age, or a coach, or someone they can talk things out to that can guide them. And you know, meditation is very important, being in nature is very important, and and just um as I said, journaling helps you as well because it gets things out of your body, onto paper, and calms a nervous system.

SPEAKER_01 25:49

I was just about to say that. I was about to reference back to your comment about the importance of journaling, because that is where and when and how each of us can discover what do we need next. You know, that the truth does reside within us if we take the time, which is feminine, and space, which is feminine, to allow that truth to express itself. Because when we're when we are too busy surviving, that that divine feminine, you know, just she's not going to scream. You know, that's not her, that is not the divine feminine nature. Uh, she may she may get a little louder with symptoms and disease processes, but you know, why wait for that?

SPEAKER_03 26:31

Yeah, exactly. I mean, you just think of the words softness, gentleness, kindness, self-love, fun, laughter. These are all the feminine.

SPEAKER_01 26:45

And what I'm also hearing in this conversation is the the phrase that we use frequently over here, uh, put your own oxygen mask on before assisting others. Absolutely. Because that is, we have been trained out of that, I think, in the last maybe 50 plus 100 years, something like that. And while, you know, in in the past, when women were not in the workforce, certainly they were working at home and do and doing, you know, whatever whatever they could, and some were still in the workforce, they they needed to, but there was time, you know, in this in this busy internet AI-driven paradigm that we're in. I think that that the onus is on us to demand some time back. Definitely.

SPEAKER_03 27:33

Yeah, that's and the only person that can do that for you is you. But you know, first you have to come into awareness of it because there's so many women, they're just on that treadmill, they're not looking sideways, they're looking straight ahead, and they don't even understand that's what's happening, you know.

SPEAKER_01 27:54

And then one of the natural consequences is the you know, the first thing we do is we we feel so fatigued, we're exhausted, we have brain fog. So if someone were to say to you, gosh, I don't, you know, what something's maybe and oftentimes they'll say, Oh, it must be my hormones. I'm tired all of a sudden, I can't seem to you know, wake up refreshed. What do you say to that person?

SPEAKER_03 28:14

I'll say it's probably you need to look at your workload. Are you doing too much in the day? How much stress do you have at work? How much help do you get at home? You know, there's many questions to bring them into awareness. And honestly, for me, I can talk from experience. For years I lived like this, thinking it was normal. I didn't even think about my feminine energy. I mean, it was just foreign to me, you know.

SPEAKER_01 28:45

Was there a sort of a catalyst point where you said, okay, I've got to be done with that? I mean, oftentimes we have that sort of you know, um uh personal story, our chiron, wounded healer story that that has us shift. Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 29:00

Yeah, it happened twice in my life. I went into burnout. I was a very successful facialist. I've lived in Dubai for 29 years, and I was working, working, working, and um I decided to leave central Dubai and go and work with two plastic surgeons which are a bit far further out of the center. And I just I realized I was completely finished off. I didn't want to do another facial, I didn't want to see another patient, and I was completely exhausted. And I it was a couple of months before I went back into full-time work again, and then the next time was when I was opening a business that didn't come to fruition and I lost everything at 50 years old. And that was another time where I was totally on my knees, and I just thought, okay, time for change.

SPEAKER_01 30:01

Right, right. And so, listeners, viewers, our the purpose of our conversation today is so that you don't have to find yourself on your knees. Hear the whispers before you hear the cries for help. Um, and the only way you're going to hear the whispers is to take that time, which is you know, meditative, uh, you know, evocative through journaling or something like that.

SPEAKER_03 30:24

Listen to your body because when illness comes, it's already too late. And you either will often have an accident because you're not in your body, you're thinking about the past, you're worrying about the future. This is when we have accidents, this is when we're not grounded. Then you have an accident because God is saying, stop and look, things have to change. So before it gets to that, just listen to your body because your body has all the answers.

SPEAKER_01 30:56

Yeah. Make it make it daily practice, make it, make it make it the first thing you do before you even open your eyes. You become conscious, and then you can just spend it, doesn't need to be a lot of time at that point because sometimes, you know, we've got things to do when we first get up in the morning. But if you can just spend a minute or two, five, okay, there you go, to just say, How am I? Who am I today? And how can I fully express the gifts that I came into being? Because I've never heard of a person on there, you know, with their last breath saying, gosh, if only I had taken that one extra meeting, my life would have been complete, right? Oops, absolutely.

SPEAKER_03 31:37

And I always say, go by the rule of if it feels right, it usually is, and if it feels wrong, it usually is. Start tapping into your intuition because that is totally the feminine energy. Absolutely. And the fem and the your intuition will guide you into the next step, whether it's the next day, the next week, the next month. Listen inward.

SPEAKER_01 32:04

And I like that you said if it feels right. So some because sometimes we we're not able to capture it through thinking, but it but like do a little body scan is you know, when you before you put your feet hit the floor. Is there anything that, is there any part of my body that is trying to speak to me that I really want to make sure that I, you know, that I listen to? Because again, it is that it is that moment, that space between and before the busyness or the injury, as you say, that will help us uh have a better day and ultimately a better life. Your program you mentioned is a 12-week program. Is there a reason you choose 12 weeks? It makes me think, of course, in my in my field of fertility, 12 weeks is the arc of time that an egg will go from its potential to its ovulation. So I I just found that curious. I think there's a universal principle with 12 weeks.

SPEAKER_03 32:58

I mean, this is this is full transformation, it doesn't happen in a day or a week or a month. So I've given three months and it's a good length of time for someone to transform and to change their way of thinking, doing, and being. And then I've I'm about to launch the the six-week one. If the 12-week, some people might think it's a little bit overwhelming. So I've given them the Radiance Reset, which is the starter, which will then take them into the 12-week program.

SPEAKER_01 33:30

Excellent. And viewers, listeners, we will have the links to these to these uh programs in the show notes. So be sure to check those out. And you mentioned that you're also doing an in-person retreat. Tell us about that.

SPEAKER_03 33:43

I am so um I've got together with a friend of mine who is a doctor, she specializes in microbiome testing and gut health and uh nervous system, and we are going to do a retreat in Italy. Uh, it's one week, and we're going to do all things to transform you, to reset you. I'm going to do a lot of female embodiment practices. There's going to be yoga. We have the forest behind us and the sea in front of us. Which region?

SPEAKER_01 34:16

Which region in Italy will you be in?

SPEAKER_03 34:18

It's oh gosh, I keep forgetting the name. It's near Puglia.

SPEAKER_01 34:23

Okay, that's that's good enough. Yes, yes, yes, yes. Yeah. And you have room for people to register still?

SPEAKER_03 34:28

I do, we we do. We have room. We're gonna cap it at 10. Okay. So we want it to be very intimate and special, and the attention will be 100% with beautiful home-cooked Italian food.

SPEAKER_01 34:41

Love it, love it. Okay, so the link to register for that, if that is piquing your curiosity or calling to your divine feminine, we'll make sure that that's available for you as well. And I want to be mindful of your time and the viewers and listeners' time. I always try to be respectful of that. You know, we while we could probably talk all day about this, um, I we can always pick it up at another time. But is there anything that I haven't asked about that you want to say, oh, before we go, you know, this is an important um, you know, point that I'd like to make or recommendation that I'd like to make? You know, at 60 years old, I always say you don't have time.

SPEAKER_03 35:23

For these younger women that are listening, you think you've got all the time in the world, you don't. Time goes very, very fast. And whatever it is you want to do, do it today. Don't wait for next year or next month, put it into action because every day is a gift as we get older, and I'm blessed to be so youthful and healthy and fit at this age, but just live in awareness and do whatever it takes to honor your body, to keep it well fed with good nutrition and good thoughts and positive energy and good skin care. You know, anti-aging, I always like to say pro-aging isn't about one thing, it's about an accumulation of a lot of different things.

SPEAKER_01 36:16

It's it's living a holistic life. I mean, the uh I I get a little bit of a cringe factor with the words anti-aging because it's such a privilege to be able to live another day. And to your point, you know, whether wherever you are, whatever age you are, every day is a gift. We don't know how many days we have left. And we did come in here, each of us, and to to fulfill on some promise that our soul has has been gifted and given and owes this world because we all are a part of this world. So even if the the one thing you do today to to move toward your aspiration is a journal entry, that is worthwhile. You do not need to go from you know zero to 100. You do not do not need to be accomplishing your 10-year plan in 10 days, but every day, what is one step? Is it a thought? Is it a call? Is it a is it a journal entry? Is it a blog? Is it a conversation with a friend? Is it is it a conversation with your therapist? Like some something that sort of keeps us on track because this world is so distracting, and it is seemingly now distracting by design. So so it's it's actually quite a courageous divine feminine act to say, I am gonna stay true to my purpose for being on this planet at this time because I've got something to contribute, and I won't allow myself to be distracted day after day after day with the latest headline or the latest fear-based whatever, or the latest busyness that that uh wants to wants to come in, and uh and and we're inviting it. We're we know our we have that that's where we have agency, right? It's like we can either invite it in or we can say, oh no, uh my schedule isn't available that hour. Even if that hour means boundaries, exactly boundaries are very important.

SPEAKER_03 38:15

Exactly. Most of the people I ask, but do you know where your boundaries are? A lot of them cannot answer me. So know where your boundaries are, and then you'll know when someone stepped over that boundary and you can say no. No is a full sentence, and and you know, and it saves your energy from being taken from you.

SPEAKER_01 38:40

And again, once again, the journaling will if you if you're like, well, how do I know my boundaries? They're in there. You do know them, you just haven't been able to um take the time to get clear on them. Yeah, to get to ask about them and and and get clear on them. And sometimes a physical practice that I like to do about boundaries is to literally just extend my the the length of my arms, the length of my legs, the height of my body, and in a full circumference. Like that is my physical boundary. I I I end here, and of course my energy extends beyond there. But if someone is getting in my physical space, I I feel it. And and and I and I need to either step back or say, oh, you know, can let's just take a minute so that I can really kind of recollect myself and reclaim my space. Yes, perfect. Lovely.

SPEAKER_03 39:31

You've got it. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 39:33

Lovely. Well, I can't thank you enough for this conversation. As I say, viewers, listeners, I want to thank you for your time. I know it could be spent anywhere. I hope you'll agree that it was a valuable uh uh investment of your time and your and yourself and your life by being here with us for this for this conversation. All of the information will be in the show notes. And we always close out our Health University episodes with the with the phrase until next time, class dismissed. But and do your homework.