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Welcome back to the Finding Flow State podcast. My name is Steph Ellen. I am your host, a somatic coach for highly sensitive high achievers, for those big feelers with even bigger visions, your go-to stop for all things nervous system, somatics, self-awareness, mindful high performance, being a multi-passionate visionary. This is your spot. If you are new here, then welcome. You've actually picked a great episode to jump in. It's going to be a little bit short and snappy. If you are a regular listener, then also welcome back. Love to have you here. As always, just keep the requests coming in. Find me on Instagram at FindingFlow State and drop your requests in there because the Nervous System Literacy series has been really popular. Thank you so much for your feedback. It's genuinely been so awesome to connect with so many of you, especially through the emails too. Anyway, let's get on to today's. So a little bit of a different um style of episode. We're doing a little list, which I don't really do that many of, but I was having a chat to a uh client actually, and we were talking about how sometimes it's really difficult to tell and to reflect on the progress that you've made, uh, especially when you are someone who is a high achiever, someone who is always looking for the next thing. So you're always like your basically your brain, your inner critic, your awareness is always focused on the next task. And it actually will often actively filter out the achievements that you are making because there's a bit of perfectionism at play, and you're just not letting yourself um actually celebrate how far you've come. To be honest, that's a bonus one. I don't think I've got that in this list. That is a bonus sign that you're healing when you're actually able to celebrate milestones and celebrate your achievements without going straight to the next one. So love that. There's a little bonus one before we even get going because that is a key part of healing as well. And one of the big things about being a deep feeler, a high performer is like, can you hold the duality of both? Can you be simultaneously grateful for what you have while still desiring more impact? And can you let that really coexist without necessarily an attachment to the outcome? Because it is who you become in the process that is really the reward. Like we can even let's go on a tangent before we even started. Like, if you're new here, I do this. But it's like the conversation with AI, which I've been having with so many people. It's like, yes, AI is a tool, but when we over-rely on that tool, it's like the person you become writing a book is that's the value of the book. It's not just the book that you have written, it's who you become in the process, and it's the same for your healing journey as well. Like so many people want to just skip to the good bit, like skip to where it's all working. And you know, it's like head down, bums up, it's like we're focused, we're hustling, we're working, we're grinding, we're grinding, we're grinding. And yet you've missed the whole journey, and it's a bloody cliche, and it's so true, you cannot escape it. Like you just would not want to put a movie on. I've used this analogy before. You would not want to just put a movie on, see the characters, and then jump straight to the end and just be like, oh cool, that was good. That was good, or I knew exactly what was gonna happen every step of the way. No one has ever said that about a movie. That was my favourite movie because it was so predictable and everything worked out exactly the way that it was, and no one learned anything. They just got straight to the bit that they were aiming for at the very beginning. No, that isn't how life works. That is not how a movie works. So buckle up, strap in any kind of analogy, and let's go. We've got the seven, I think I've got a seven. You've already had a bonus one, so seven signs that you're actually healing, even if it doesn't necessarily feel like it, and this is, of course, all from the somatic lens. Because really, healing doesn't always look like calmness, it doesn't always look like even happiness and contentment. Often it's quite subtle, and it certainly doesn't look like instant transformation. So the first point is you actually notice your body's cues. So trauma and chronic stress will often disconnect you from your bodily signals and sensations. Healing really starts with noticing them again and observing them and interacting with them without judgment, without needing to immediately change it. And I'll actually share something interesting as well. I've been working with a client, actually, the same client I was having this conversation with. Um, and she is a really gifted healer, and she is such a beautiful spaceholder, beautiful person. Um, and yet there's a few patterns that still come up in her life. Like she has made such incredible progress, but one of the things that she does struggle with is some health um anxiety, and one of the things that we were working on was around being able to tolerate sensations in the body and being able to tolerate them and not necessarily attach a narrative or a story to them. And this can happen when you are someone who's very self-aware, when you're really self-aware and you are great at the mindset work, even great at shadow work. You're great at looking at, okay, where does this come from? Why am I feeling this? Why, why, why? You jump to the why, and this makes you likely an incredible coach, maybe even an incredible doctor, an incredible vet, an incredible lawyer, incredible professional. Like, makes you really skilled at your job because you're already looking for the why and the explanation, but you aren't spending any time in the what, any time in the sensation. And this is actually how I often start my yoga classes when I teach trauma-informed yoga. We often start with a body scan, and it's around this idea of can you just allow yourself to notice any sensations? Can you notice the urge to explain it? So, like for a tangible example of this would be, you know, you notice a twinge in your knee. And this is someone like I'm obviously a vet, so I have medical knowledge and anatomy knowledge. So I have a tendency to be like, oh, I have a sore knee. And immediately I've also had surgery on my knee in the past, and I go, Oh, that's my medial meniscus because I've got only 50% of my medial meniscus there, so I must have put an abnormal force through that or overextended it in the gym yesterday. Like you can see how I've just already explained my symptom or sensation, should I say, and made it into a symptom of something. Now, apologies if you can hear some shuffling around. I've got both the cats on my knees right now, so let's just do a little adjust and you just get this. It's got a creaky chair too. So anyway, you can deal with the creaks. I'm not editing this one. So, yes. So immediately a sensation becomes a symptom. And the problem with that is again, like a beautiful skill that you've got there. Beautiful skill. Love that for you that you can explain that. Love that for me too. And this is the curse of the highly self-aware or too self-aware practitioner or person, is that there's no time in the what. It's like, can you just be with the sensation with a sense of curiosity and noticing? And the reason this is important is because it is, yes, it is providing you with some information, but noticing those signals is that first step to developing that intersection, that sense of truly belonging in your body. Because so many of us are like have lived in a state of chronic dissociation. Like there is very little signal coming from the body to the mind. And this might manifest as not knowing when you're full. Keep you eat and eat and eat until you feel sick, not knowing when you're hungry, you skip meals and you lose track of time. Not letting yourself go to the bathroom, not being able to tell when you need to go to the toilet. These are all signs that your interspection, your in, sorry, your interosception is actually a bit lacking. You're probably very good at introspection of reflecting, but the interoception, so that internal awareness of your body's sensations is not as online as it could be. So that's the first sign of healing is that you start to notice sensations in your body without a sense of attachment. And that is honestly, like, there's so much beauty in that too. Like you can practice this by just, you know, being in the shower and really like letting yourself marinate in the warm water and just being like, oh my gosh, I can feel this beautiful body wash, this beautiful soap, the smells, the feel of the water going down your skin, how it feels to be nice and clean, whatever it is, giving yourself time and space to really be in your body. So that is number one. Number two is you start to respond rather than react. This is huge. This is ultimate. Like you still have the emotions. This is key. You're not bypassing your experience, but you can hit pause. And instead of going into a reflexive pattern, you can feel the wave without being swept away. Now, we are human, we are not gonna get this right every time, especially when your capacity is reduced. So when your window of tolerance, that space where you feel like you can meet life's challenges, uh, when that is smaller, and there's lots of reasons that it can be smaller. So trauma makes it smaller, but even you know, physical health, day-to-day, like being out of routine, not getting enough sleep, not being well fueled, all of those things will make your window of tolerance smaller. When you have a smaller window of tolerance, there are going to be more times where you become reactive rather than responsive. This is not about being a perfect, I was the thing I always say, it's like, we're not trying to become this, you know, rainbow farting unicorn that never makes a mistake, but you can feel that irritation and take a breath instead of snapping. You might notice your body and breathe into the tension before you respond. And this really starts to break the cycle of these behaviors and it starts to give your nervous system a disconfirming experience of a time where you didn't go into that reflexive pattern. This could look like actually taking a pause and deciding whether you're going to immediately say yes to someone who's asked you to do something, if you are someone who has a reflexive pattern of fawning or people-pleasing. This may look like saying yes if you're someone who has been given an opportunity, and your uh default is to let your inner critic gaslight you into saying that it's not gonna work anyway, so you better say no. You don't want to put yourself out there. It's gonna be different for everyone. So that is number two is that being able to pause and respond instead of being hijacked by your emotions and being reactive. So, number three is your inner critic softens. Now, this is really key for me because the inner critic does not disappear. This is my lived experience. This is my strong opinion on the matter. That we are not trying to kill the inner critic, we are not shaming the inner critic. Remember, I needed this on the t-shirt. Chronic shame is not a good catalyst for lasting change. And self-awareness without self-compassion is just giving your inner critic a megaphone. We don't do that here. So the the inner critic is not, you're not trying to kill it, you're not trying to punish it or beat it down or squash it, but it becomes something that is observable, something that is not running the show. This is the real the basis of parts work, the way that I see it, is you're allowing that voice of criticism to be there, but it's how you notice it, name it, and keep moving anyway, giving space for all of those different realities, all of those different internal realities, and being able to really see it as a form of protection as well. Being able to experience it somatically in the body. More on this later, because this is honestly, I think, key to taming your inner critic. It's actually taking a body-based approach to that negative self-talk. It's not just a mindset thing. It's not just something that you can just cover up with toxic positivity. Like that's that old analogy, that metaphor of, you know, putting, what is it, lipstick on a they say lipstick on a pig, but pigs are freaking cute. It's like icing on a dog turd. Like that is what you're trying to do if you start trying to cover up the affirm like with positive affirmations over your relentless inner critic. It's um another analogy I like to use is like you're just your car's making this like rattling noise, and you're just like turning up the music to like overpower the rattling noise in the engine, but you're actually not dealing with what's going on under the hood. So, yes, that is number three. Did you notice that your inner critic softens and you're able to relate to it with compassion and curiosity, not more criticism? No more shame spirals, no more shame on shame on shame, being hard on yourself, and then being hard on yourself for still being hard on yourself because you're not even good enough at being kind to yourself. That is number three. Now, number four is you tolerate emotional complexity. This one's an interesting one. So many of you listening to this will resonate with being very sensitive. And it can feel like a lot. There is this real, like, you know, being sensitive, as you've heard me say a million times, truly is a gift when it is resourced and regulated, and it really gives you this incredible opportunity to experience so many beautiful things in life, to experience wonder, to experience awe. But you feel things deeply, and you can feel multiple things at once without being overwhelmed by them. Like you can feel gratitude for your growth, you can feel almost gratitude for things that have happened to you while still making space for feeling like disgust, for feelings like aversion, grief, and it really is such a skill to be able to hold it all. You can these things can coexist in your body because nervous system states and emotions are layered, they're not mutually exclusive. Yes, there might be some things that dominate your awareness, but when you start to build that capacity, you can shift your conscious attention onto different states and allow yourself to experience and notice these multiple states at once. And this is about increasing your nervous system's tolerance, and it really gives you an opportunity to experience more of life. And this one, it's it is a hard thing to conceptualize and to talk about cognitively because it's so not cognitive, like it's so felt and somatic, and this is why I do a lot of pendulation in my client work, which is where we will actually go towards a sensation that's maybe quote unquote less pleasant and then go back to something that feels more pleasant. And this is one of the best ways to build your window of tolerance because it's this alternate focus between these safer sensations and these activated ones, and it gives you that opportunity to build your capacity to hold that and doing it all without a sense of overwhelm. And honestly, just it's it gives you this freedom. Like, I know that word's freaking overused so much, but it really does give you this freedom and this self-trust in your own. Like, I actually feel emotional even talking about this. Um yeah, I just like it gives you this freedom to be able to go through things and know that you're gonna be okay. It gives you this trust in the fact that like I even I just like it's so funny. Even this morning I found myself being like I almost teared up at parkrun. I wasn't even at parkrun. I was just I was going for a run, but I wasn't at parkrun. And I just saw all these people like really pushing for the end of their parkrun. And they were like you could tell some of them, you know, were really, really like this is gonna be their personal best, and like just seeing people finish and like you could feel like the sense of achievement and like the discipline, the motivation, like all these emotions that other people were feeling, and I actually just felt really like emotional for these people because I was just like, Oh god, I know what it's like to feel like you're pushing yourself and achieving something and really like exceeding your own expectations and to be proud of yourself. And I was just like, Oh gosh, this is just like humans are so cute, like humans are I know there's obviously and negative things happening in the world, yes, and this is what this work does is it allows you to you know see these horrific things that are happening worldwide, but then also see the beautiful moments. It's like this ability to hold that and still come back to yourself and be able to honor the experience, we're not bypassing anything, but like what greater gift is there than being able to recognize these things that are going on and then also be able to hold the good as well because you are not serving anybody by wallowing and depriving yourself of opportunities to experience good. Like that's that famous quote, you know, like you'll never be poor enough to help the poor, you'll never be sick enough to heal the sick. Like you standing in your own truth, you being your most regulated, resourced, present, generous self, that has a ripple effect to everyone that you meet, then everyone that they meet. That is how, like, getting meta, but that is how we change the world, and this is a huge sign of healing is to be able to hold all of those things at once. Like, grief is such a profound example of this because there's this, like Andrew Garfield, the actor, he shared something beautiful, and I was reminded of it yesterday. He shared something about how grief really is unexpressed love, and that you know, even if you tell someone every day like you never have long enough with someone, and to feel like to feel grief is to like is you know, it's so heartbreaking, but it it's only heartbreaking because you loved so much, and that is the complexity of the human experience. That is that like in anticipatory grief is one of the most complex human emotions because you're like almost like preempting that you're going to lose this person or even animal. Like I'm looking at the cats now and I'm like, oh gosh. Um, and I experienced this a lot as a in my career as a vet, of course, you know, that moment before we put an animal to sleep, and it's that anticipatory grief, it's that decision, the responsibility of that decision, and this you know, and I often say to people, I often say to them, I was like, you know, this is the hardest thing, this is the most selfless decision that you are making, and this like this is the cost of having them in our life, of loving and them so much that we have to make this decision for them, we have to give them this peaceful, dignified exit from this life. And this is the sign of healing is to be able to hold the complexities, to be able to love so deeply and also hold space for the neg like quote unquote negative emotions. Like they're not, it's not good, it's not bad, it's like can we feel it all and just have this trust in the impermanence of them? This is what somatic work does is it it teaches you this embodied wisdom that nothing is permanent. This too shall pass, but we can also be so present with this. Like the more present you are, the sooner it will pass, and that is what is you know, that so many people are living in a loop, a loop, a loop because they are their body is trapped in past memories. This is why the trauma healing somatic work is so essential. I work with so many clients with complex trauma, especially complex sexual trauma, and their bodies are trapped in the moment. And people are like, I don't want to go back to it, I don't want to relive it. It's like you're reliving it all the time. Like if you don't face it, you're reliving it all the time. Your inner critic is playing these stories about why you're not good enough and good things don't happen to you. Your body is stuck in that freeze response where it couldn't get away. When you go back and you start to rewire these patterns and you let your body somatically experience things that it couldn't, and you change the narrative, you change the encoding, the way that it is wired into your system, that is where you get the freedom. And it is only from having the courage to allow yourself to feel these things, to correctly process those memories and break free from those cycles. And so many people are walking around with this sense of mild, or sometimes not mild, but this dissociation. We're distracted, we're dissociated, and we are distant from each other. Healing is about being able to hold it all. And I like that. Is not for everyone. Not everyone has the capacity to do this in this lifetime. Not everyone has the resources, not everyone has the support, not everyone has the inclination. You cannot force anyone to do this. That could have been a podcast episode in itself, couldn't it? I really feel like something just took over me then. So that was number four. That emotional complexity is tolerated. So number six. Number six? No, number five. Gosh. I'll try and speed this one up, hey? Um, so number five is the integration of past experiences. So you can reflect. This is actually, it links quite well with what I just said. This is about reflecting on like painful, painful experiences without being overwhelmed or re-traumatized. And it's really knowing that you can have this growth, these lessons, these resilience, um, and they can coexist with the memories of and the feelings of pain. Like it is not about getting over something or feeling like you should be over something, but it's about being able to, like, I think Joe Despenser calls it, he says, like, uh, memory without emotion is wisdom. So it's this idea that that's where like the self-reflection can come from, where you do have those. Um, so the memory without emotional charge is called wisdom. I think that's what it is. Um, so instead of being triggered or controlled by that event, like this, you know, this obviously links in with the idea of being responsive, not reactive as well, because when we have that sort of flavoring, like an experience has a flavoring of a past event, like that's when we get hijacked by our nervous system and we have that reflexive, reactive response. But when you have fully integrated your trauma, when you have integrated those past experiences and you can hold space for all that complexity of the emotions, like that is the somewhat ironic thing is it's like then it doesn't have a hold of you. So, like when you let yourself feel it, then it doesn't have a hold of you. And this is something that's again quite tricky to conceptualize until you've actually experienced it. And I know a lot of you are actively doing the work. A lot of you um listening will have probably had sessions with me or another um practitioner, somatic practitioner who works with this. And you'll know what I mean when there's this, you know, there is this way to hold those multiple feelings. There's a way to have like empathy for others involved involved in it, but not enmeshing with them. So you can understand other people's perspectives whilst being grounded in your own needs and your own boundaries and Really start to reflect without shame. So to know, you know, to trust that you did like exactly what you needed to do at the time and like everything worked out, or maybe didn't work out, but everything happened the way that it happened. And it's like, can we now integrate that and move forward? And this, you know, that is a huge sign of healing, is when you can integrate those past experiences and you can then reflect on them without being overwhelmed or re-traumatized. Does that mean you're gonna be completely neutral about it? Of course not. Of course not. But well, for some people it is, some people it is. But you know, it doesn't mean that you're never going to feel those feelings again, but it means that you have the capacity to. Because this is all about capacity. It's all about capacity, it's about embodiment, it's about integration. And this is, you know, one of the really big signs of healing. So number six is about boundaries. So boundaries, like let's be honest, boundaries are flogged to death. Everyone talks about boundaries now. And boundaries, so the sign that you're healing, boundaries feel natural, but not restrictive. So there's this embodied knowing of your own limits and your own capacity, and you're able to assert those limits without ego. Sometimes, and this could be actually I'm gonna probably do a podcast on this, like sometimes in the way that modern, like Western society in particular, but the way that therapy speak has been weaponized and healing has become very individualized, there can sometimes be boundaries, people using the word boundaries, when they've actually got a like it's a wall, it's a brick frickin' wall, and it's actually a shield, and it's like sometimes necessary, you know, to put up firmer boundaries initially when you need that space, but then sometimes those boundaries are actually not from a place of integrity, they're from a place of not like oh, yeah, I need to explain this in a full episode, really, because this can definitely be misunderstood. But boundaries are an important part of healing, but most boundaries are not meant to be like a brick, like freaking, you know, a huge wall that's never questioned or taken down. Like there can be some permeability and some flexibility to boundaries. Like boundaries are meant to be, they're not, they're not meant to be put up, forgotten about, left there forever. They're meant to be reflected on and adjusted if needed. And you're meant to reflect on boundaries, consciously or unconsciously, and start to and to move with them. As long as, you know, the person, if we're talking about another person, as long as sometimes these boundaries can be with yourself, and that's discipline. But, you know, if it's with another person, like yes, that other person has a responsibility to step up and be worthy, you know, show them, show you that they are able to be part of your life in whatever capacity and they have to prove themselves. Like people don't just get access to you just for the sake of existing, but they are meant to be reflected on and adjusted if needed. And the reason I put this in the healing part is like when you are regulated, resourced, you trust yourself, you have that capacity to recognize safety and a la therefore a lack of safety in relationships. And you're able to assert those limits without guilt, without overexplaining, without, and then on the other side of that, without being too restrictive and just putting, like, you know, cutting everybody out. Like, how much have you seen that on socials where people like social media especially in like the coaching therapy industry, where it's like, okay, I'm setting a boundary with you, but it's actually like that person is they're the ones lacking the emotional maturity to hold complexity and nuance, and so they're like cutting everyone out rather than looking at their own shadows. So, yes, it's there's nuance, there's nuance, but that is a sign of healing when boundaries feel natural but not restrictive, and number six is your nervous system is flexible and responsive. This is a bit similar to what I was saying about being reactive or sorry, being responsive, not reactive, but this is more like you are able to basically shift your state depending on where your state needs to be. So you when you need to relax, when it's time to switch off, when it's time to wind down, you can actually shift into that parasympathetic rest and digest state. You can actually allow yourself to relax. You can feel your heart rate slowing, you can feel your breathing rate slowing, you can feel your body going into that repair, and you can go to sleep, you can do those things. But when you are meant to be switched on, when you're meant to be focused, when you're meant to be motivated, when you're getting up and you're going, you feel alert, you feel focused, you have energy. So your nervous system is this is basically a sign of a resourced, regulated nervous system. It's responding appropriately to the task at hand. This means the opposite. So the dysregulation, sign of dysregulation is you're tired but wired when you're meant to be winding down, you get sick every time you go on holiday, you can't switch off. Likewise, when you're meant to be alert, focused, you feel groggy, you feel unmotivated, you can't get going, you're stuck, those are signs of dysregulation. So when you are responding appropriately, your nervous system is responding with the appropriate amount of alertness or relaxation, that is when you know that you're healing. And the last one, the seventh one, remember you got a bonus eight at the very start, but your last one is you reclaim agency. So life feels intentional, and it's guided by your values, like you know your values and curiosity rather than fear, rather than guilt, rather than your inner critic. You're connected to your intuition. And you feel this, like it's the paradox is there's a sense of surrender with it because you don't know what's happening. Like you don't know what the next step is. It's like the very um thing we were talking about at the start of like having this, you know, you don't want to just skip right to the end and know what's happened in the movie without actually becoming the person you're going to become. It's really like that is what fly that's what finding flow state is about. It's that beautiful time where you feel like like flow state is where you are fully present, you're connected, it feels like you're doing this dance with life, like opportunities come, you meet those challenges, you trust yourself, even when things like you know, it's not linear. It is not linear, it doesn't mean there's not going to be struggles, but you trust yourself to hold yourself through this, you trust yourself to get through it, you feel more intentional, and you feel like you're it's interesting, you feel like you're curating this intentional life, yet you don't know what's gonna happen, and that's okay. Like you trust and you feel that surrender, and that is yeah, it's the it's finding play state, it's what it is. So to recap those, the first one, you're noticing your body, you're more aware of your body. Two, you can pause and respond rather than react. Three, your inner critic softens, your relationship to your inner critic softens. Four, you can tolerate emotional complexity. There's empathy without investment. Five, you start to integrate past experiences. Six boundaries feel natural and not restrictive. Seven, I think I've got lost somewhere, but seven, your nervous system feels flexible and responsive. And seven slash eight, we got extra ones in there. It's okay. You are really finding that flow state. You've reclaimed agency, you feel a sense of autonomy and trust. Life feels intentional. So, yes, those are the signs that you are actually healing. And if you listen to this and it's highlighted, you know, some ways where you could be stepping more into this and you could be feeling more embodied, you could be feeling more of that self-trust. You know that your inner critic is a little bit noisy, your nervous system is not as regulated as it could be, and you are self-aware, but you're really ready to actually step into deeper layers of healing, deeper layers of embodiment. You're ready to work on somatic shadow work. So actually looking at those parts of you that you have shied away from, the parts of you that do make you feel uncomfortable, and you want to integrate your trauma whilst being supported by a skilled practitioner, myself, and also a small group of like-minded, self-aware, beautiful humans, then please do yourself a favor and get on the priority list for inner critic tamer. I have run this program before. This time it's different. I ran it actually, gosh, two years ago, at least two years ago. Two years ago. And wowie have I got a lot more to put into it this time because this is for someone who's self-aware, but your inner critic is still running the show, and you feel like your nervous system is like bracing for impact. This is a full-body repatterning because your inner critic is not just a mindset problem. So this is a body-based approach to that negative voice in your head. And the doors are going to open to the priority list first, and only the priority list will get early bird pricing. So this is going to be a massive 50% off of the full cost. And there's the opportunity for a VIP option if you do want to upgrade to have one-on-one somatic subconscious breakthrough sessions with myself. So this is honestly, I've been saying I'm going to do this again for a while, and I've been putting it off because I've been like honestly, I've been trying to perfect it. I have, like, I'll be honest, um, because I really have a lot of, you know, I have a deep desire for this to be truly, truly transformational for the courageous people who decide to take this step. Like I have wanted to wait until I'm really, really happy with it and know that I have the capacity for this as well. Because this is not just like, this is not just gonna be a load of pre-recorded videos where we talk about healing. This is like actually doing the somatic healing together. Like, there is gonna be nowhere to hide in this. This is a place to actually break those shame spirals to take up space and actually finally break free from the overthinking, the perfectionism, the self-doubt, and build real embodied self-trust. And there's absolutely no toxic positivity, there's no spiritual bypassing. This is a nervous system repatterning, and I'm freaking excited. So, you know where the link's gonna be. It's gonna be in the show notes. You've got nothing to lose by jumping on the list. Like if you've listened all the way here, then you absolutely need to be on the list. So jump on that list. Um, the doors are gonna open in six days, so very soon, and like I said, the only way to get that 50% is on that priority list. So thank you so much for listening. This was a bit longer. This is gonna be a quick one, but it was not a quick one, like that's never happened before. Anyway, my loves, uh, thank you so much for listening. As always, your feedback, your questions, so welcome. If you don't already subscribe, please subscribe. Drop a five stars. You know how much that helps us all in the back end. So have a beautiful day wherever you are in the world. I love you so much. I appreciate you. Bye. Finding Flow State, the podcast, respectfully acknowledges the traditional custodians of the land on which this podcast is recorded, the Warangeri people of the Kulin Nation. 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