Is the abuse of pets and destruction of property considered domestic violence? I would argue that it is.  In this episode I discuss the characteristics of abuse that include using kids, pets, and property to control or manipulate a situati...

Spiritual abuse is a complicated topic because everyone's religious beliefs are different, everyone typically thinks that their beliefs are the correct ones, and many, many abuse survivors have had religion used against them at some po...

Do you know someone who's so difficult to disagree with that it's just a waste of time? Do you find yourself agreeing just so that you don't have to argue, even if you know you're in the right? Or, do they have a reputation of 'always being rig...

Social Abuse is easy to see in public when one partner is berating or humiliating the other in front of their friends, co-workers or family.  But what about at home? Behind closed doors? What does it look like to weaponize social relations...

After a relapse that included complete stalling and avoidance due to perfectionism, I am back to share the markers of Emotional Abuse.  Remember, abuse is not one red flag or one harmful event.  It is a pattern over time that aims to ...

Psychological abuse. It's a beast.  It's confusing.  It's a mind fuck.  Here are some indicators and what they sound like: -does things, denies it later (GASLIGHTING)           ("What do you ...

What does physical abuse look like when you have no bruises to show as proof? I've really had to grow my thought patterns around the topic of physical abuse.  First I denied it. Then I excused it.  Then I recognized it.  ...

In this episode I share what verbal abuse is, what that looked like for me, and how different things are now compared to what I experienced. One of these times I’ll get the timing right so it doesn’t cut off. Still learning here. Here’s...

I don’t even know how to process a healthy holiday. I  just hosted a Thanksgiving without ANY of the residual feelings revolving around trauma or the abuse tactics of holidays past. I’m not sure how to process that. Maybe next yea...

A question I often get asked is “Didn’t you see any red flags?” My short answer is a simple no. Listen in for the long answer. The one that makes sense. Resources:Books:

November 10, 2022 marks 5 years since the girls and I escaped our abuser. We are free. Independence Days come with a cost. My body keeps the score. It’s a process for sure. Stay tuned for more hopefully.