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Well, hello, beautiful ladies, and welcome to another episode of Women Like Me, Stories and Business. I am your host, Julie Fairhurst, and today I'm really excited about our guest. I've been doing a lot of research on her, a lot of reading, and she has so many valuable things to tell us and to share with us. So let me tell you a little bit about her. So her name is Brandy Hudson and she's a performance coach. She's a speaker and founder of the BASE Framework, helping ambitious folks live a life that feels as good as it looks. After climbing the ranks in Fortune 500 sales, she traded hustle burnout for emotional clarity, self-trust and aligned leadership, and today Brandy guides women to reclaim their personal power with grace and purpose. So, Brandy, thank you so much for being here.
Speaker 2:Oh, thank you so much for having me. I'm really excited for our conversation. Oh, me too, so much for having me.
Speaker 1:I'm really excited for our conversation. Oh, me too. Me too. Okay, I have. I have a background of in sales and marketing for 34 years and then I went into doing what I'm doing. I retired about a year ago now from that business, so I am so curious about how you went, cause you said 20, were you 20 years?
Speaker 2:Yeah, I ran sales teams for large medical device companies and then a couple startups there at the end for, yeah, ever since I graduated from undergrad. Wow, wow.
Speaker 1:So how did you go from that to what you're doing now?
Speaker 2:Yeah, I feel like in many ways they're very similar, right Like when I think about the best parts of it, right. So for me, when I led large teams of hundreds of people, the part that I loved most was like helping people think about how to navigate their careers, how to shift lives. I think you know, if you led people during your 34 years, you know that a lot of the time we are like helping people navigate their lives in total, not just their work life but their overarching lives, because people bring their whole selves to work. And so when you're a people leader, you're always partnering with people. And so for me, I realized that that was the part that I liked the best.
Speaker 2:I kind of took a break. You know, a few years ago I retired and I took actually a lot of time for myself, right. So I was doing a lot of introspection, some self-reflection about how I had achieved so much but still felt like something was missing. And then that's when I made the shift to kind of help other people really, as you said, build lives that feel as good as they look.
Speaker 1:Wonderful. Oh well, so many, I find so many women are so fearful to make that, that move. Even for myself, I, I mean, I believe that that things happen when they're meant to happen, but of course, in your head I'm like, oh my goodness, I believe that that things happen when they're meant to happen. But of course in your head I'm like, oh my goodness, I should have done that five years ago, I should have done that 10 years ago. And how do you think that? Like, did you deal with that kind of fear? Did you have any fear in, in, in sort of going from where you were to what you're doing now?
Speaker 2:Well, as I mentioned, I took a break, so I didn't leave corporate America thinking that I was going to shift into coaching. I actually just left to find myself.
Speaker 2:And I think in many ways I actually credit my husband because I never actually thought that I could stop working. I grew up with parents who were really working very hard to give us the life that we had and I never had a vision of someone who just like decided not to work. And one day I was a little bit complaining about work and my husband just looked at me and he was like you know, you don't have to do that. And I was like wait what? And it was like really revolutionary to think about and I think so often we're not willing to give ourselves what we've earned. So I really had worked really hard to earn the right to like take a pause right.
Speaker 2:To reflect, and that pause really helped me to step into what I know is my purpose.
Speaker 1:Perfect. Yes, Well, that's and it's interesting just him saying it, that's like that. Was that like aha moment for you, Like, oh, yeah, you're right, I don't have, I can do something. I don't need to continue what I'm doing. I love that. Can you tell us about base? You have a base framework. Can you tell us a bit about that?
Speaker 2:Yeah, so I think any goal that you have or problem that you're navigating. I've developed a framework that when you filter the problem or the goal through this framework, I am confident that you can find an improved solution. So I'll walk you through each step. So the B is really about like. What beliefs do you have? So let's say you're navigating, like you want to make more money, so what are the beliefs that you have around money? Do you think that, like women can make the amount of money that you want to make? Do you think that it's tougher if you're a person of color? Do you think that you know people that are from the background or went to the college that you have? There's all these beliefs that we have in our head that oftentimes aren't even conscious, right, and those beliefs, as we know, can be limiting in nature. But the first thing is to really surface them, to understand where they came from and then to look to rewire those beliefs into beliefs that are more supportive of your goals.
Speaker 2:The A is alignment. Alignment is so important because, right, like no matter where you're trying to get to, if you really peel back the layers of the onion, julie, like we are all trying to get somewhere that we believe fundamentally will make us happier, right? So you want more money. And if I asked you why you're like, oh, you know I want freedom. Why do you want freedom? Oh, I think I'll be happier if I were more free, right?
Speaker 2:So it all boils down to kind of the emotion that you're seeking and I tell people it's really hard to get to a goal that you think is going to make you happy, but you're in a place of worry, anxiety, fear, right, anger even, and so we want to in advance of the goal.
Speaker 2:We want to feel that emotion, we want to be in alignment of where we want to be, right? So if you can be in that place, the energy of the place that you're going in advance, you really are able to close that chasm, you're able to get there much, much more quickly. So alignment is actually one of the most important steps. And then the S is self-awareness, like how do you actually know what are your beliefs? How do you actually know that you're out of alignment? And how do you not have to hire someone like me to constantly remind you? Oh, oh, oh, I heard a limiting belief. Oh, oh, oh, I see that you're out of alignment. You want to be able to catch yourself, because then you're going to evolve much more quickly. And then the E is about emotional resilience right.
Speaker 2:So we all have had stressful times in our lives perhaps a car accident or, you know, friction at work or maybe even something much more traumatic than that. And those events impact who we are and oftentimes we are actually still living in the past, holding on to some anger, perhaps some regret of those events that have happened to us. And the work to build emotional resilience is to really let go of the dense emotion that you're feeling about the event and hold on to the wisdom of it, because everything that happens in our lives is in service to our greater good. But we have to realize that and we have to take the wisdom. And if you can do those four things for all that you're seeking in your life, you're going to start to feel life is going to get much more easy for you. Things are going to be more magnetic. You'll start to see more synchronic seeking in your life.
Speaker 2:You're going to start to feel life is going to get much more easy for you, things are going to be more magnetic. You'll start to see more synchronicity in your life. And so I created that framework. As I looked back over my life, at where I'd had a lot of success and I was like, oh, these are the things that I was intuitively doing, and so I built a framework from it.
Speaker 1:Oh, I love that I do and I agree with everything that you, that you said, and even I. The beliefs are so big. The beliefs are big. They're just so big. And where did you get them and why do you have them? And it's just a lot of times people don't even think about those, but, but, but. I love that they're running their lives in the background. Right.
Speaker 2:But I do say that the beliefs have to go with the alignment, because the alignment is your emotional connection to the belief. Because I tell people there's eight billion people probably in the world, maybe minus a few, to have more money. So it's not as simple as just believing oh yeah, I want to. I have this. Yes, few who want to have more money. So it's not as simple as just believing oh yeah, I want to.
Speaker 2:I have this I want to have more money. You have to have emotional connection, and the reason that people oftentimes get the very thing that they don't want is because they're actually more emotionally connected to the outcome that they're not looking to have to the outcome that they're not looking to have right.
Speaker 2:They more so believe and have a dense emotion connected to the fact that, like women, don't get promoted, or that you know they like someone isn't going to like them, or that you know someone likes Joe better at the job right. And so when you have that greater belief and emotional connection to the thing that you don't want, then that keeps showing up in your life and then you believe that's how the world works. But it's actually how you work.
Speaker 1:Oh, my goodness, I think that was one of the best explanations I've heard. Brandy, thank you for that. You've just hit the nail on the head, absolutely, and I think I you know, I know a lot of people and I think that most of us go around connecting more with those negative beliefs than we do our positives.
Speaker 2:And if we could just switch those, imagine how we'd all just bloom sit here for the next 45 minutes and I'll say lots and lots of things that are very simple, but they're not always that easy, so they do take work. You've taken a lifetime to be the version of you that you are today, so you want to have a lot of grace with yourself, right? Because otherwise you're just adding another dense emotion to the already other dense emotions that are there.
Speaker 2:And then know, like, when I have grace with myself, when I know that I'm evolving, I'm changing, I'm always doing the best that I can you actually more rapidly get to that next point? But yeah, it's really easy for me to sit here and say like all you have to do is just like your beliefs and like everything will change.
Speaker 1:Yeah, we have to be kind to ourselves. So what? So also here you say you don't have to burn out to win. Yes, so what do you mean by that?
Speaker 2:I think that the United States is a country that teaches us like we all have these cultural norms. So a cultural norm that I have found in the United States is like we think that hard work, hard work, You'll hear everyone say you have to work hard, you have to work hard. Actually, I even heard myself say it in the United States is like we think that hard work, hard work, you'll hear everyone say you have to work hard, you have to work hard Actually.
Speaker 2:I even heard myself say it in the opening I worked so hard and then I got to like, take a break, and so we do believe that, like it is through hard work that we earned the right to whatever it is at the end of that sentence right and so but what?
Speaker 2:what we know is, it's not true. Lots of people work hard and they actually don't end up having these great, big, beautiful lives, and so we really like subject ourselves to this, like life that feels relentless, like that we are just going, going, going and we're on this treadmill because that's a belief. I believe that if I work hard, then I get to have this outcome, but you actually don't. You don't have to burn yourself out. You can really like change your perspective on life. Right, like oftentimes, you're working that hard so that you believe that you deserve the outcome.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 2:And it's just another belief that we really need to shift.
Speaker 1:For sure, for sure. I 100 percent agree. I think that we've been taught that from our past generation and we've heard that from our parents. We've got to work hard in this world. You want to. You know, if you want to own a house, get a house. And you want to do this. You want to do that. You got to. You got to work hard to get up that corporate ladder and and sometimes it's just working a little smarter.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and I think it's. It's working as smartly as you can and it's also realizing that, like that, like what work you're doing to make yourself feel good about what you're getting back right. And and are you like, like, if you're a people leader, like, are you a micromanager? Right, like that work actually doesn't add any more value to the outcome, but what it does do is it burns you out because you're like inspecting everyone, right, and so, instead of like being a micromanager, you need to evaluate, like why don't I trust the people that I hire to do the work? Like what it is, what is it that I actually am fearful of? Right? And so all of these things that we do that ultimately burn us out. It's because there's like something there that needs to be healed, something there that we need to have a greater awareness about, and when we shift those things, we realize like, oh, I don't actually need to be doing all these things.
Speaker 1:And I think, Brandy, that's not just in our business life, but our personal lives as well.
Speaker 2:Yeah, when I had my son, someone came to my house and they were like, oh, you have like a lot of people helping you. And I was like, yes, I feel as though I want to delegate everything in my life. That doesn't provide me a tremendous amount of value, right, so, like, I want to spend time with my son. That is, like critically important to me. Those, those are hours and minutes and days and years and months that he will never forget, and I want to play games with him. But, like, do I need to be the one to like fold all the clothes and make his bed? It like no, and so, to the extent, right, like that we can outsource these things right and use our time in a much more valuable way. And now I know like, oh, the time that I am with him is quality time, because I'm not like doing 20 things and feeling like I can't be here in this present moment. Right, and that's so. You're right, it applies in every aspect of our lives.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, you call our emotions secret sauce.
Speaker 2:Yeah, why is that? Yeah, because our I mean our heart is like 5,000 times more powerful than our brain. So the energy that we can create from our heart really is the secret sauce. Like I think about it, right, like, the more I can be in this place of pure love, that's where all my power is, julie, right? So when we think about like, we oftentimes think that we have to like fight our way to the top or claw our way, like.
Speaker 2:There's all these like terms and words about like how we get to be successful. But any time that you're forcing, any time that you're pushing, there has to be an opposite reaction. The only time that there isn't an opposite is when you're in this place of love. Right, when we're in those high vibration emotions of happiness, joy, peace, tranquility, even contentment is fine, right, there is no opposite to that. No one's going to push back, right, if I'm like oh, julie, this was so great, I love you so much, you're not gonna like, you're not gonna like be on guard. Right, and that's how the totality of the world is. So, the more that we can be in those place of peace, assume positive intent, like, be in a place of just like ease, the more life is actually going to flow to us. So so that emotional resilience is one of the trickiest parts. I grew up actually with a lot of anger in my life and, and getting to a place where, like I, was no longer triggered or no longer upset, I realized, like that's where all the power is right.
Speaker 2:Because then no one can puppeteer you right like no one and and, and you know, it's like that old saying right that you kill more or attack track more bees with honey. Sorry, I'm not good. Yes, yeah, right. And so when you're for sure that place of peace, you'll start to see that both people and things really work out for you. And when you're in that place where you're, where you're feeling that anger, anxiety, that's where you start to see like, oh, all of this friction is showing up in my life, even if you're getting the outcome you want, you're going to start to see like, well, it was hard, there was lots of friction, I felt unsupported, right. But when you can be in that other energy, then life just flows to you. It is all about energy, it's 100%.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah. So what is a common belief? That you help your clients rewrite, and how might that help them to shift in their midlife transitions?
Speaker 2:Yeah, you know I help people through a couple things. Like I think the most common thing we already talked about is just like how hard life has to be right. And I also then help, you know, because I'm working with women and I also work with men PS. But like I, when I work, then help you know, because I'm working with women and I also work with men PS. But like I, when I work with them and I think oftentimes women like have this idea of you know, the glass ceiling, right, and I'm not trying to say that there are no bad actors in the world, but I think that when you focus on that, then you're more likely to be in a position where you actually are attracting it to you, right. And you're also more likely to be in a position where where you're so worried that you actually don't have the energy you need to show up as your best self, right.
Speaker 2:So my thing is like, hey, there will always be bad actors. That's the only way that we know good in the world. There has to be this contrast and I'm not going to say that I'll never cross paths with them, but what I will say is that I'm not going to like further support them by giving them my energy. So I just don't focus on that, right and so and I'm not saying they've never crossed my path, they crossed my path and then I decide how I'm going to pivot. But I could worry my whole life about them and still they'll cross my path. But now I've, like, given them my energy I, which means energy can't be created or destroyed. So the more I'm focused on what I don't want, I actually can't actually build the life that I do want, right, yes? And so I always say, like bad actors, like they're able to kind of get more of what they want because you're using your headspace.
Speaker 1:Yes.
Speaker 2:Right On them.
Speaker 1:Yeah, you know, as you were talking I was thinking you remember being pregnant, yes, and all of a sudden you're pregnant and you look around and everybody around you is pregnant. Like all of a sudden you notice it same with you, know, you go out and you get a new car exactly, and everyone has a Honda Accord and everyone has a.
Speaker 1:Yeah, so it's so. Those are just little examples of how what we focus on, we start to see around us. So so we might as well focus on the positive, the best we can, as much as we can, as much as can, so that that starts to come to us. I agree, yeah.
Speaker 2:I agree. Yeah, I love that example. I've never heard it that way.
Speaker 1:Yeah, well, I was, you were talking, I was thinking, yeah, like all of a sudden, everybody else, you see all the other people that have them, but before that you never saw them. You never saw it.
Speaker 2:Yeah. Just strange have them, but before that you never saw them. You never saw it. Yeah, just strange. Yeah, and you're not going to get rid of the bad actors by thinking about them all the time. So, just like, live your life. And when it shows up, then you navigate it and then you keep on. Yes, you already have. You just take out the part where you're like constantly focused or looking or worried.
Speaker 1:Yes, yes, yeah, for sure. So I know you talked a little bit about joy a few moments ago, but our culture is so obsessed with productivity. Yes, and so how do you get, how do we bring, how do we give ourselves permission to have joy?
Speaker 2:Yeah, well, first, I don't want to think about them as mutually exclusive, right, you know. So I want to think about, you know, Like, how do I spend my time and energy doing the things that I love?
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 2:And so I was talking to a client today and the client said well, I'm unclear on what my purpose is, and I think, like that's where you should really be spending your energy. Like, what am I meant to do in this lifetime? What is the thing that I can do that no one else can do as well as me? You know, like, what did my soul come here for? And then you will be able to both be productive and in this place of joy. Right? But I heard someone I won't say her name, but she's like extremely famous, she's a CEO, she runs these like multiple businesses, and she said the other day she said that you know, you don't always get to do what you love. Sometimes you have to do what you're good at, and I just wholly disagree with that right, I think that we were put on this planet to be in a place of constant love.
Speaker 2:That's what we're here, that's what our soul is here to fulfill, and I think that you absolutely should be doing the work that you love and that when you do the work that you love, if you're a person who is concerned about the amount of money that you make and not everyone is surprise but if you are you will absolutely make all that you want and even more when you're in that place of purpose and you'll be as productive as possible.
Speaker 1:Yeah, so true. For years I loved my career, loved it, then burned myself out and then couldn't stand it and knew that I needed to make a change. So so I think I would be very careful in that, in that statement that that woman said about you know, sometimes we have to do what we don't love because that's going to take down you know, if you're, it could take down a lot of your joy and good things as well.
Speaker 2:Absolutely. You know and I think I think back to our family loves to vacation in Hawaii, and I used to be in Hawaii with our family like work, taking calls, you know, like if there was a medical device recall. I remember sitting like at the hotel trying to solve a recall with my boss. I'm like, well, someone else could have solved that, but I'm trying to resolve it with my boss and my team while I was on vacation, not because I love the job so much, but because I feared that like, well, what if we don't resolve this? Like what if this doesn't get fixed right?
Speaker 2:Versus earlier this year, I had just taken on a new client and they were like eager, I go into businesses and I help businesses a lot. And they were eager to get started. And I'm in Hawaii and I just woke up in the mornings and I did, I did calls with them and they were like, oh, you're working on vacation. I'm like, but this doesn't feel like work. This is like this is what I was meant to do in this lifetime. So it is fine for me to wake up and to do these handful of calls before I set out on the rest of my day.
Speaker 1:And it really is is when you're doing what you feel you're called to do. Yeah, there's a big difference there. It's a huge difference, yeah, yeah, huge. And when you were talking, I thought I was in Jamaica once and I had a catastrophe happening and I remember standing on the beach with my cell phone to my ear trying to solve the problem and really I shouldn't have even answered my phone, I know. I should have just left it alone.
Speaker 2:Yeah right, no, I just left it alone. Yeah Right. But it is that obligation, that like feeling of, like fear, like oh, what if it doesn't get?
Speaker 1:resolved and feeling responsible. That well, you know, I should try to fix it Exactly. Yeah, yeah, yeah, oh, my goodness. So you talk about mind body synergy. So how do you integrate wellness rituals, like a morning routine or movement, into your work?
Speaker 2:Yes, so, I I have a morning routine. Every morning I do a handful of things I do legs up on the wall because, like all of this work is like really to ease our nervous systems, right, like we want to be in this state of like ease right, so I wear my aura ring and I want to be like in restore, relaxed, sometimes engaged, and very rarely I want to be in that stress category, right, and so I pay close attention to that.
Speaker 2:So I do my legs up on the wall, I do my meditation. I the wall, I do my meditation, I have a prayer that I say and that that's generally how I start the day, and then I have, you know, some water and some vitamins etc. Supplements that I take, and then, other than that, I do some body work once a week that, like, also helps to ease my nervous system. I try to get movement every day Right, because I just think that we want to have this present moment and we do want to release all of the stress that that has been pent up in our body over, over, over a lifetime. And when we can do those two things very consistently, we're going to inevitably start to see that our life improves.
Speaker 1:Yes, yeah, it's, it's that you know, we have all these different things that we need to focus on, not just one. We, you know, like you say, the mind and the body and the spirit and all of that other together, which is really what? What oh that I wrote down here Soulful, pivoting, Pivoting, Soulful, pivoting.
Speaker 2:I love it.
Speaker 1:Yes, yeah. So for women contemplating a major career or life change, what do you think their first courageous step would be?
Speaker 2:Oh, I love that question. First of all, I think the major step is that, like what I talked about earlier, is like, really, that introspection on, like, on asking themselves I'm I'm in the process of writing a book and my, my developmental editor, she hates this. She's like Brandy you always tell people they have all the answers, but they do. And so I think, like our first step is really to ask ourselves, like what is our very first step? And to and to trust ourselves, like the work in this lifetime is to trust that we really do have all the answers, and to ask ourselves, um, like what, what am I meant to do?
Speaker 2:Every day I wake up and you know if you believe in God or not. I do. I believe in something bigger than me. I just say, like you know, dear God, where would you have me go, what would you have me do and what would you have me say and to whom? And so you can check in, either with yourself, with a higher power, with the universe, with whatever you want. But when I ask that, those questions, I get a response, and then I don't feel like what you said earlier, like I have all these things to do. I'm like these are the things that I write them down, and those are the things. If I get nothing else done that day, but those things that came to me during my prayer and meditation, then I'm like that's it, that's what I was meant to do, and so we want to be so connected to something bigger than ourselves that we know that we're always on the right track. So the work when we're doing that soulful pivot is to trust ourselves, to have faith that we have the answers.
Speaker 1:Yes, yeah, for sure, and I think so many, I think that's part of the problem that the the, the struggle in so many people's minds and heart is that they don't trust yeah.
Speaker 2:Cause they're disconnected.
Speaker 1:Right, yeah, yeah, that's, and that's a frustrating place to live in. Yeah, you know definitely, like what, where? What am I supposed to do?
Speaker 2:And and yeah, yeah, it's just but I will say this and I'm I'm known to be pretty direct and sometimes hard on my clients. I think sometimes that's a cop out right, like this idea of like what, where, what am I supposed to do? Where am I supposed to go? Like oh, I would move, but I just don't know what to do. It's like it's a little bit of a cop out right, like it's like no, sit, sit still and know that you have the answer, like be with yourself, like what, what are you running from? And I think you know sometimes we have this fear of failure. So, instead of of actually taking the action and failing, we fail by inaction. The action and failing, we fail by inaction. Well, I'll just, I just won't do anything. And so I still fail because I never tried Right. And that feels some oftentimes better for people, because they don't always look at it that way until someone reframes it for them. I'm like still getting the same outcome if you never take the action.
Speaker 1:Right, oh, you know, I have never heard it framed that way, so I appreciate that that. Yeah, you're afraid of fear, of fear, and you're afraid of failing, but you're going to fail anyway because you're not going to even try. Exactly right, so you've already failed.
Speaker 2:You've already failed. You got the same outcome as if you never did it Right, and so it's like put yourself out there, take the action, get the learning, grow, expand.
Speaker 1:Love it. I love your. Wait a minute. This is the way it is.
Speaker 2:Well, not quite that firm Well, not quite that firm, but I've never been accused of not having opinion. I used to. I have a leadership philosophy that I've had for since the first time I led a team, and it says, like you can do it your way, but if you, but if you, if it doesn't work, then we're going to do it my way. And the other thing it says is like, feel free to come me, ask me any questions, cause I always have an opinion.
Speaker 1:Well, and we, and you know what, sometimes we need that. Sometimes we need to be told hey, wait a minute, that's a bit of a cop-out, yeah, yeah, yeah, because it shakes them up. We need to be sort of shaken out of our complacency. Yeah, yes, yeah, wow. So overcoming internal pressures. So how do you coach women who feel they have the, that they have pressure, to have it all? Yeah.
Speaker 2:Well, first of all, I I actually am a person who believes you can have it all right.
Speaker 2:I believe that, like, all the desires of your heart are actually really meant for you, and so the work is sorting. It is like, how do I really get, get it all? And so I think, one, the first step to letting go of the pressure is like just to know, like, oh, I have all these. Go of the pressure is like just to know, like, oh, I have all these, I have all these goals and these wishes because I'm supposed to have them. So, if I'm supposed to have them, the work is just to like, get them right Versus the pressure of like will this work out? Will this work out Right?
Speaker 2:So I, at a young age, I was an athlete and I tried out for the Olympics. So I was pretty good and I had, and I think that taught me really at an early age that my success was inevitable, right. And so when I thought, and so when you have this belief that, like it does always work out for me, it will work out for me, my success is inevitable, then the work is really just about making it happen. And then you release all that pressure and energy about will it happen? And if it will, then how will it happen, right? And so it's, it's again that reframe that like oh, these things are meant for me.
Speaker 1:I wrote that down. My success is inevitable.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and I tell people, people like, remind yourself that every single day, like, yes, I don't, I know for sure. I know for sure that we were all put on this planet to achieve our goals.
Speaker 1:Yes, yes, wow. So looking ahead, okay, what's what's next for you? So obviously you've got a book that's coming out.
Speaker 2:Well, I don't have a publisher yet but I love that, Julie, what Julie said.
Speaker 1:Yes, my success is inevitable and I have a book that's coming up.
Speaker 2:I'm working on completing my proposal and I'm super excited, so in the future, I do have a book that's coming out. And then, yeah, I do this work right, like, and I just continue to build this platform because I think there are many coaches, but the way in which I deliver this information is unique and that there are people who resonate with it. And so I continue to have this conversation because I think, especially at this time in our history, people really, really need it. They really need to know that they have everything they need inside of them, that their success is inevitable, that their life doesn't have to just look good, it gets to feel good, and that there are really actionable steps that they can take to build that feels as good as it looks.
Speaker 1:Oh, I just love that brand. Yeah, I just I love it. Well, let me ask you one last question. If you could whisper one empowering truth into the ear of every woman who's listening right now, what would you say?
Speaker 2:Yeah, I would say you have every single thing you need and you got this, oh love that. Yeah.
Speaker 1:Well, thank you, oh, that was spectacular. I love that. Yeah, well, thank you. Oh, that was spectacular. I love that. I learned so much. I was right with you, right with you and I'm there with all of the things that you said. I think that they're all so important and I think this was just a fabulous conversation and I know that it's going to help the women that are going to be watching it or listening to it for sure. So, is there any last words? Oh, before we say that, I would just like to let everyone know that if they would like to reach out to Brandy, all of her details will be in the detail section of the of the video and of the podcast. So we'll have links there that you so that you can find her. And, yeah, and I hope that you really reach out to her if you, if you're feeling it, because I can tell you right now, just from our conversation we've had, she's going to be able to help. Oh well, thank you.
Speaker 2:Yeah, the only thing I would say is, like, when you see the links, the couple things that I I do for free because it's so important to me on Thursday, I have a sub stack that comes out and it has an article every week or excuse me, I misspoke. The subset comes out on Tuesday and it goes deep onto these ideas that I've been sharing today, and then on every other Thursday, I do a question and answer podcast. So if people ever have a question they want to ask me, they can email us or find me in my DMS on on any social media, and we answer those questions every other Thursday. So those are two free resources that I provide that I'd love for your, your followers, to connect with me around.
Speaker 1:I love that. I love that If you, if somebody just has a general question, they can just put it out to your podcast and you will answer it for them, I do. Oh well, ladies, take advantage of that. Absolutely Well, Brandy, thank you so much for being here. It was. It was very energizing for me, so I appreciate that very much and hopefully our paths will cross again.
Speaker 2:I hope so too. Thank you so much for having me. I really deeply enjoyed our conversation. Oh, thank you.