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Alignment Over Comfort: When Your Gut Knows Better Than Logic
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In this episode, we open to a random passage from The Reset Button and dive into the power of following what feels aligned—even when logic, money, or outside opinions tell you otherwise. Sometimes the hardest choices are the ones that make the least sense on paper, but the most sense in your soul.
We touch on:
• Choosing alignment over “playing it safe”
• The “Three R’s”: Reflect, Reset, Reinvent
• Sobriety as the clarity catalyst
• Why honest communication changes everything
• Spotting ego vs. true alignment
• When the craziest choice is the right one
• How one aligned decision shifts your whole life
If you’re having trouble trusting yourself or feeling torn between what makes sense and what feels right, this episode will help you feel seen and confident in taking the next step forward.
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Hello and welcome to the Cameo Show. I'm your host, cameo, and we are joined by my husband and co-host, mr Greg Braun.
Speaker 2:So glad to be here. I'm super pumped up. This is going to be a fun episode. Let's get into it.
Speaker 1:Who's on your shirt there, Greg?
Speaker 2:One of my favorite musical artists of all time is James Brown.
Speaker 1:Can you give us a little James Brown? Oh Go again.
Speaker 2:You just made me freeze up here.
Speaker 1:It's good, oh Baby baby, baby baby baby, listen, if you're not watching the video, you need to stop what you're doing right now and go to youtube, because, greg, you just went somewhere. You went somewhere dude.
Speaker 2:I I literally in my whole life I whenever I would see like a performance of james john, like this, this I mean that dude is inside of that song. I mean you know've heard heard like studio outtakes and stuff in the studio. Just it's insane, Like he felt the music you know.
Speaker 1:And that was, I felt that, very good, very well done. And, yes, gotta love James Brown, I've been really into funky stuff lately. I mean, I feel like there's this funky person that lives inside my body, that my soul is rising out of my body and you're super bad.
Speaker 2:That's a James Brown song.
Speaker 1:What's the James Brown song? That was Dustin Poirier's walkout song.
Speaker 2:Oh, I paid the cost to be the boss. Yeah, no, I paid the price to be the boss. Is it the cost or I don't know. I don't know, it's not my favorite song of his.
Speaker 1:Yeah, but the cost or I don't know but I don't know it's not my favorite song of his, but yeah, but it's such a great walkout song. It is like in the spirit of walkout songs. There's been a conversation lately in my life and I feel like I should have picked that one, but it's already dustin poirier's, but he retired and if you're not a ufc fan you don't know what I'm talking about.
Speaker 2:We're gonna get right into to greg yes, oh yes one more thing about that that James Brown song as a walkout. It was done in the 70s. Production of music was different. It's a quieter mix of a song. So it's like you know, a lot of these people come out to these songs that are more current and they're like you know, and it's like here comes Dustin Poirier and his song and it's like you know it's a little quiet and they usually turn it up a little bit, but it always kind of cracks me up, something only a weirdo music nerd like myself would pay attention to. Thank you, you're welcome.
Speaker 1:Thank you for gracing us with the music nerdness.
Speaker 2:Yes, I'm clearly on one here today.
Speaker 1:Do you know why?
Speaker 2:you shouldn't write with a dull pencil, no.
Speaker 1:Because it's pointless.
Speaker 2:Oh, you know okay.
Speaker 1:Here's the thing with the dad jokes they're not funny. That's why they're jokes, but sometimes they're funny Also. Other times I have to really think about it. Yeah, is that the point?
Speaker 2:I guess not with a dull pencil.
Speaker 1:It's not.
Speaker 2:That's what they're telling me.
Speaker 1:Okay, sorry for exposing all of our listeners to all of this mindless banter. What are we doing today, greg?
Speaker 2:So today I would like you to take your book.
Speaker 1:Oh, you mean this one, that there that I conveniently have in my hand.
Speaker 2:Oh, that old thing and I want you to leaf through it. I want you to just go to a random page, in fact, so we know this is legit, the book up oh, that's dangerous hold the book up. I love this.
Speaker 1:We did this with Judy when she was on the show with her new book, judy Judy Hollow. Oh yeah, okay, she like picks a random page out of her new book, and or any book for that matter. She shared with us that, like, her favorite books surround her and she'll just sometimes, when she's feeling like uninspired or directionless, she'll go grab a book and pull a random page and it's like the universe speaking to her about what she might need in that moment for inspiration. And when she was on our show she used her new book and I thought that was really cool. So now that's what we're doing.
Speaker 2:Yes.
Speaker 1:Okay. And this is scary to like. Just pick a page legit it's already out.
Speaker 2:Anyone can read anything about this book. So, okay, okay, so here we go this is awkward weird let me just gonna do it like this, can you? Yeah, I'll tell you when to stop, okay ready.
Speaker 1:Start from the back and stop okay okay, it was the summer of 2015 and we were just shy of the one year anniversary of our move to Florida. Things were better. I was making more money and getting to reach new professional heights. Greg was excited about starting his new mortgage business. We were both proud that he hadn't had a drink for nearly 10 months, and I was one full month into my own sobriety. On the outside, all signs pointed to maintaining the status quo. Why mess with what was so clearly working? Instead, I decided to resign from my position at Discovery. Crazy right On the outside, it seemed nonsensical to quit my lucrative job. The opportunity had basically fallen into my lap at just the right time. It was helping our family crawl out of our financial hole. It helped relieve Greg of financial pressure so he could focus on building the relationships required to get his business off the ground, and he and I were both in a calmer place since we stopped drinking. Yet it was contending with a louder voice in my gut telling me that my job was the opposite of what I needed.
Speaker 1:Page 163, chapter 11, resetting how you deal with your shit. So this section. I'm going to close the book and we're just going to dice this out a little bit. This section is really all about how we deal with our toxic coping strategies. For us it was drinking and other things. For some it might be shopping or gossiping or deflection. I mean, we have these strategies that we feel like keep us in control and keep us safe and a lot of times they're really hard to be honest about in control and keep us safe and a lot of times they're really hard to be honest about.
Speaker 1:So I kind of lay all of that out there in this section and in talking about how we were like reestablishing ourselves at that time in this new way of life, I rocked the boat again. Let me take you back to this moment. So I had landed this job that I mentioned was helping us crawl out of a financial hole and giving us some space to rebuild our life. And when I told Greg, hey, I can't do this job, like I don't want to work in this position anymore I was traveling a lot, I was gone a lot, we had just moved to Florida, we had just started this new way of life. It was interfering with my ability. Like I said in the writing, he kind of looked at me like are you out of your fucking mind. What do you mean? You're quitting this job. That's going to literally. Can you just stick it out for like a year, like, can you just help us get more on our feet here?
Speaker 2:You just take one for the team and just stick it out, please, please. It's just to be completely open with the whoever whoever's listening right now. I mean we would just move to florida and, you know, not knowing anyone here and not having income. When you're a mortgage loan officer, you know people and they refer clients to you and when you just basically open up your own business, you have no customers and you have expenses, but you also have your bills of your life. And we were just on life support, financially, literally on life support and it was like what do you mean? You're going to leave this job that pays you so much more money than we have ever made, ever. And that was the salary, and you also had bonus on top of that potential. And it was like what do you mean? You're going to stop doing that right now? You need to do that because we need this money to survive.
Speaker 2:And if you talked to a thousand people and you said, here is the math and what was going on in that moment, 1000 of them would be like well, yeah, I mean, if you didn't know any of the details, but you just saw the high level math on, okay, here's this family. They just moved to Florida. Here's their expenses every month. Here's their income, which was virtually nothing. Here's their credit card debt. Here's all that they've been through personally, and wife gets this job.
Speaker 2:That's just a gift from God, you know, and it's like, well, that's going to help them get through this. Really, there's your sign from the universe that your move to Florida was the right thing. Because you moved here, you put yourself out there and then something just came to you and then you literally were like this is not in alignment with what I want for my life. They were like this is not in alignment with what I want for my life, so I have to not do this thing, even though it's very comfortable for me to do this thing. And you're like I'm going to help you, let's work together and build our mortgage company. It did come into my ears as like what in the fuck do you mean? That's crazy.
Speaker 1:So it might've even actually been what you said to me.
Speaker 1:I know we were driving home from Sunfest, which is on the other side of the state and I remember saying it after thinking about it, I had a rough week leading up to Sunfest. Yeah, a lot of travel. I remember being in a meeting with my manager's manager at a school district, because that was what my role was with the Discovery Channel, discovery Education, and we were sitting in the cafeteria and he was asking me how I was feeling about the role, how I was settling in, and I literally just started crying. I don't even know if you know that and he probably was like, oh Jesus, what's?
Speaker 2:happening.
Speaker 1:But let me back up a second, so I saw it from a different angle, in a couple of different ways, and then we'll get into. I want this podcast to be sharing this, but I also want to kind of like wrap it up with a nice pretty bow lesson, because there is a huge lesson here, or a few of them. But let me just back up and say that to you. It was what the fuck do you mean? Because we were swimming in debt bills and had no income other than mine. For me it was I finally have an opportunity to do something in my career that's different than I ever have before. That's really fun and exciting that may lead to bigger opportunities. Fun and exciting that may lead to bigger opportunities.
Speaker 1:And so, from a personal standpoint, I was really excited about what I was doing and it would have fit cameo, it would have fit me in a different scenario in our life from that standpoint, because my 20 year old self would have been screaming oh my God, this is my dream job. And at the time, my 31 ish, 32 ish I don't know how old I was I was still screaming like, oh my God, this is such an amazing opportunity. Like, oh my God, this is such an amazing opportunity. Like, how did I even get this role? Wow. But then there was another piece of me that was busy working on sobriety, honesty, rebuilding my marriage, spending more time with my kids, dumping out the jar, so to speak, which I talk about in the book, and refilling it with big rocks, the most meaningful things in my life. First and I knew that that career was was a big, important rock, but it did not fit with the other big important rocks.
Speaker 1:It just didn't.
Speaker 1:It would have compromised our marriage because I would have been traveling a lot.
Speaker 1:It would have compromised my relationship with my kids, which was really important to me when they were young and we had just moved here and we were on our own, it was important to me to be present for them, and it would have compromised that I had just I hadn't even stopped drinking yet you had stopped drinking, I hadn't stopped drinking, but I was kind of not drinking at the time and in fact it was kind of leading me back into drinking more often in a way that I didn't like.
Speaker 1:So I was at this like this is kind of like behind the scenes, cause I feel like it doesn't read like this in the book. So thank you for being here, um, but I feel like I was at this point of like having a scale and weighing the pros and cons of what, what choice, and trying to see into the future. This choice might look like this in the future and this choice might look like that, and then this one might look like this in the future and this choice might look like that, and then this one might look like that and really determine what was the best move in that moment holistically, and it was very difficult. Then add the financial part, then add that I have to come to you and tell you that and what that might bubble up.
Speaker 1:Right, and what it did bubble up. You know we didn't fight, you didn't like freak out, but there was definitely this moment of contention of like okay.
Speaker 2:Shock, yeah and stress like what the hell you know?
Speaker 1:I yeah, I actually just said shock that the top of this next page says. After his initial shock, greg listened closely to my reasoning and soon agreed with the idea.
Speaker 2:But because the reasoning was in alignment with what our goals were like, what our vision was that we had worked through and talked through and connected about, because I had stopped drinking, because we were really focused on working on us and our family unit and just getting the big rocks in place and while by all society's standards and by survival standards, you know that provided something income, but it just wasn't. It wasn't. It was exactly opposite of what we needed. For you to be gone in environments where there's alcohol and you're entertaining superintendents and all these people it's like that's not part of being a family.
Speaker 1:I say on the same page that it would have been easy for us to draw battle lines, that I wanted to quit my job for my family and you wanted me to stick it out for our family. The ingredients for arguments resentment and miscommunication were all there and in the old days we would have screamed about it, drawn metaphorical blood and partied and drank ourselves into a state of not giving a shit anymore, which is true. We would have just fought about it. But we weren't that couple any longer and we didn't have the cushion of getting plastered after a balls to the wall. Fight made the argument somewhat less desirable. Thankfully, pairing our sobriety with the work we did on our partnership allowed us to not only be more comfortable with uncomfortable feelings, it also meant we tried to both respect each other's position.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah. I mean, if I don't try to see it through what you're looking at it and you don't try to see it through mine, I mean there's no way to, like have some understanding for the other. You know, a lot of times it's like this is what I want.
Speaker 1:So hear me, you know, what I mean, Instead of like well, yeah, I know what you mean, because that's what you do.
Speaker 2:No, I'm just kidding.
Speaker 1:Yes, I know very well what you mean.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that was a very trying moment for a very fragile couple. You know, and I'm proud of us for how we we got through that because, yeah, that that was. I don't know, I'm not, I'm just making up this metaphor, but like it was like the poison apple that could have wrecked the ship, you know for sure, if not handled properly. You know cause that could have been. Like I'm done, that's, that's so selfish of you. It wasn't that way at all. You know it was. It was all hands on deck.
Speaker 1:It definitely could have gone a lot of different directions, but here's that pretty bow of lessons. I say plural lessons because there's a few that I want to bring up, because I feel like this is what helps those of you listening right now. If you're at a point in your marriage or in some type of relationship where there's conflict in your marriage or in some type of relationship where there's conflict, where, especially when you're making change, if you're trying to decide on things that are in alignment in this new way that you're living, it can get messy when they're specifically well within yourself when you're making these decisions, but specifically when there are other people involved and it might be the opposite of what they're used to or what they think. So lesson number one is it's in the deal with your shit section, as we're talking about being fresh on the alcohol free train for a reason. Without the clarity of making that decision and making sure that that was important to me, this decision would have never been made. That's my first as I, as I go into my own book and say that that that's my first takeaway is that, uh, I, I didn't do AA. I never completed a program, but I know that one of the things that they talk about in those meetings and in those rooms is that you have to be selfish in your sobriety, in your choice to not drink alcohol. And I had to be selfish in that moment and whether I was willing and able to admit it in that moment I knew, I knew in my gut, I could feel it. I just knew it was going to be a threat. So that's number one.
Speaker 1:Lesson Number two is we communicated very well about what the priorities were and we were open to hearing each other in a way that we hadn't been before alcohol involved or not. Just, we didn't communicate like that in our previous marriage, in the earlier years of our marriage together, because we were very driven by this is what I want, this is what I think, this is what you want, I don't give a shit, I'm doing this, and not in a way of like, fuck you, I'll do whatever I want, but just more of like. It never really ended in a decision together for our marriage. It ended in a decision for one or the other of us where maybe one of us relented a little bit and still held on to a little bit of resentment about it, because I didn't get my way, stop my feet Right. Yeah, you too, you know. When you didn't get your way, we were both kind of bratty. And the third thing for yourself.
Speaker 2:No, I'm just kidding, sorry.
Speaker 1:And the third thing. The third lesson here is that sometimes you don't always know how it's going to turn out. But if you make the choice, that's in alignment with what's going on and what's important to you and your partner. If it's in a relationship situation and you lean into the fact that it might be painful or uncomfortable, what comes out of the other side can and will be, or can and likely will be, better than you could have ever imagined. It will be the catalyst for changes that you didn't know needed to be made. It will present opportunities that you may not have otherwise seen.
Speaker 1:So what I mean by that is when I came to you with that concern and decision, and after the dust settled a little bit, I started working with you on building relationships in our own backyard where I didn't have to travel. It was essentially the same thing I was doing in that role. That role gave me confidence that I didn't know I had. It gave me ideas that I wouldn't have come up with myself. That role was really important and pivotal in my development as a professional, even for a very short period of time that I worked there, Bossier, that I had. That benefited what is now our own business 10 years later. But if you had asked me then, will it look like this in 10 years? I wouldn't have had any freaking clue.
Speaker 2:Right.
Speaker 1:And if I had stayed, it's not likely that this, that our mortgage company or that even this podcast or any of this stuff that we do, would be happening at all.
Speaker 2:Right.
Speaker 1:It sounds so woo woo. It sounds so woo woo. But in staying aligned with what you really want and need for yourself and staying attached to what you see it look like at the end even if you aren't sure what that is, but there's an idea and leaning into the fear and into the change, the outcome is positive. If it's in alignment, it's for you.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I don't think you've said it in a way that emphasizes how important this is. I mean, you said it, but to the listener I don't think this is so profound to me, because I've seen it work this way a few times in our life, where, in these decisions that are made of like this is where we're going as a unit, and then here comes this distraction, and then you're like you can easily look at it and go, nope, you are not in alignment with the vision. Excuse me, there have been. You know, should we, should we hire this person? Or should we, you know, do this or that? And it's like it's either no or hell yes, and like when you have some sort of vision of what you want, it's easy to see that stuff.
Speaker 2:And I think that, like here we had what we wanted and we were a happy little unit, and then that job came and landed and it was like, whoa, okay, well, this is amazing because it's money and we're in this society where you need money, but it was everything else that was not in alignment.
Speaker 2:So that quickly. But how many people out there make decisions about it because of money and they focus on the things because of money? It because of money and they focus on the things because of money and sometimes, like in our situation, it was fuck the money with a big middle finger, because it was at a time when we needed it the most. It was like, I mean, it was dire, right, I mean bleeding red on paper. It was a real test of like, how bad do you want to be to have your whatever it is that you know? So I mean it's just. I know it sounds hokey, like you said, and all this, but and then, when you do focus on it, the business we've built in the lives that we've, you know, impacted in the, in the, in the just everything else has been exponentially more than I would have ever dreamed of in that moment.
Speaker 1:If I would have said no, no, you have to keep that job, and tried to convince you to stay and like, no, no, you have to keep that job and tried to convince you to stay and like, yeah, I mean, there's a version that ends up being really great, yeah, but there's a version that ends up being a complete catastrophe.
Speaker 1:And at that time in our life we were so fragile across the board we were just getting our feet back underneath of us that all I could see was that it was absolutely going to be a complete catastrophe in all ways, and I trusted that that wasn't just me, um, you know, catastrophizing the situation that it was legitimately I can't even describe it.
Speaker 2:It felt wrong.
Speaker 1:It's such a weird thing because I know everyone listening and I know you, greg, like I know, you know what I mean and you can't put it into words. But it's just this moment, this feeling, where you're like uh this isn't right.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:And if we listen to it, it's hard. Especially when it's hard, it leads you directly to where you need to be or keeps you from going somewhere you shouldn't, where you never were meant to be in the first place.
Speaker 2:So listen to your gut kids.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and you know that's what the reset button is all about, really. It's about tuning into those alarm bells that go off when something doesn't feel right Because, like what I just said, a lot of times you dismiss it because you're like I ain't got time for that. That isn't a possibility, I can't do that right now. All the things, all the reasons why. Also, I don't want to. Ooh, that's scary. What if I can't? All the things. But it's about taking a moment to say, like I'm going to hit the reset button. And the reset button is simple, on purpose it's three R's. I know y'all can remember that three R's. What does three R's sound like, greg? The first R is reflect. Never forget, oh God.
Speaker 1:Coming on glue Listen the first star is reflect, and that's exactly what I'm talking about. It's reflecting on that moment when you're normally when you might dismiss it otherwise and saying, well, we hang on a second. I feel this way for a reason. It's valid. I need to at least be curious about it. I've got to like dig into why I feel this way and understand it, because if I don't understand it and I make a decision, that decision might will likely not be correct because I didn't take the time to like really develop what needs to be heard here.
Speaker 1:The second R is reset, and that's when you've taken that time to be curious and then you give yourself permission to say I can do it differently, or I don't have to do that because I always have, or that might seem like it's the right path or the necessary thing right now, but it's not an alignment and going against the grain Like that. That reset are the second one, and the one in the middle is the one where you give yourself the ability to choose differently. And then the third R is reinvent, and that's the part that kind of happens as a result, like this, reinvention of our life was on purpose. We may not have always known how we were reinventing ourselves, but it was as a result of taking the time to be curious, giving ourselves permission to make change and do it our way, and that has rippled. Call it the reset ripple effect in the book. For a reason that has rippled into every area of our life because the decisions start with the ours in the jars that are in alignment with what we've determined as most meaningful and important in our life.
Speaker 1:You can do one without the other. It ain't gonna work. I'm telling you right now. You gotta do all three.
Speaker 2:There's no.
Speaker 1:The way you just did. It was really like delicate.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it's true, and I'm not preaching about it because I got it all figured out, but I am preaching about it a little bit because it changed the trajectory of our life and that's why I wrote a book to help people see things from a different perspective. And it continues to change the trajectory of our lives because we apply this in everything that we do. Still, because I wake up every day and have a new challenge or a thing that needs changed, or we have an argument, or you know, someone does something stupid and we got to figure out how to navigate this with the customer or whatever life. And you go okay, well, hang on a second, something feels off. I got to dig into that, I got to explore that, and the cycle starts all over. So I'm not telling you how to do it or like what to do specifically, or weighing in on your choices or judging or inviting you to judge mine, but I am saying here's a framework.
Speaker 2:It really is something that you can just I got a word formula Formula, the three R formula.
Speaker 1:Process idea, or you can just call it.
Speaker 2:Just never forget.
Speaker 1:It really will help you make meaningful change in your life, as long as you do it all together and you can do it anytime you need to, over and over and over again. This is an example from the book of a time that we did it when you weren't expecting it, Greg. We didn't even know we were doing it yet. The book wasn't written yet. It was about deep trust in ourselves, evidence that we could do it, and courage.
Speaker 2:And that's an example of a big decision, like a big, intense, life-altering wow decision. This also applies to do I want to eat organic lean chicken, or you know what I mean. Like this can be any decision that you make that you're just kind of on autopilot about in your life.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, absolutely. And and it doesn't have to be this like big drawn out parsing through the three R's, it's just a quick moment. In those situations Like you're laying in bed the night before and you're like, should I get up at 5 am tomorrow so I can steal back some time in my day because there's some things I want to tackle and I don't want to be late, it always rushes me out the door and then I feel stressed the rest of the day. Well, you just kind of work through those hours real quick and the answer will become really clear If you want to have more time for yourself, steal some time back, more ownership, less stress, and that's in alignment With what you're looking for. The answer becomes A resounding Clear yes, a hell yes, for that matter. No, I don't know. You work through it Till you figure out. Is it a hell yes or a no? There ain't no in between. You know what I'm saying? Did you already say that?
Speaker 2:No Well.
Speaker 1:I mean we've said it.
Speaker 2:A million times. You're a regular. Yeah, I know micro decisions that are you just kind of on autopilot about throughout your day and be like, yeah, that that that can go or stay or that that needs to be fixed. You know it's just a different way of seeing the world around you and and how you can make changes, big and small, you know confidence with confidence you can clarity I think that's the thing.
Speaker 2:And when you talk to people, when you learn about people's life stuff, it's like I think people don't realize that they have a choice. I didn't, I did not. I remember when our therapist, our marriage counselor, early on when we lived in Ohio, she was like well, why don't you just get another job? Because I was stressed out, work was just, and I was like I remember looking at her like what do you? What do you mean? Like this is the only place I can do, you know. And it's like I look back at that now and I'm like but I didn't, you know, my, my perspective was yeah, same thing about not drinking.
Speaker 1:She said that to us back then yeah, like, why do you guys not? Drink and we were like, yeah right, are you out of your mind, lady? We're paying you for this.
Speaker 2:That's terrible advice but, but it's, you know, if you're not thinking and you're just kind of doing, and just doing as you've always done, you just kind of do, then you keep getting the same results you've always had, or worse. Yeah, and we were in a state of our marriage and our lives at that point when that job situation happened. We were evaluating everything. We didn't socialize at all with anybody, sorry, I picked up my drumsticks. I was like you're getting into it.
Speaker 1:Now you're giving us the whole deal but you know what I mean.
Speaker 2:Like it was like stop the, stop the tape, you know, let's, let's get this shit together here, yeah, and thank you for having an openness, and I think that's also I.
Speaker 1:I touched on that being a part of like one of the lessons. But if you're at a spot in a relationship or a friendship or a job or whatever partnership you're looking at, you got to remember there's like another side that's not yours. That is equally valid to consider. If you consider everything equal from the start, we go in with our own biases bias, bias, size but what's the plural of bias?
Speaker 2:I don't know.
Speaker 1:Like a spare guy, but we go in with our own biases and then we can't actually evaluate the true nature of what we're looking at. We're too guarded, Our ego's too right. I've always done it this way. I ain't changing. But thank you for being open and if you're listening and you're stuck, start there. Start there. That's part of your reflection. Is where's my ego jumping in here to chime in and save me and keep me right and keep me safe and keep me protected? Sometimes your ego needs to be set to the side in a timeout so you can actually really see what's happening in front of you and make a real decision that's based on evidence and education, versus your emotional state.
Speaker 1:Emotions? Yeah, because emotions are great and I'm not saying like, oh, dismiss your emotions, they don't matter, they're valid. But they aren't always telling you the truth, they aren't always leading you to what you really want at the end of the day. They're leading you to what you want right now, what feels good right now, what feels safe, what feels comfortable. Ego and emotion. Ooh, double E, e's. They're like the e bandits got the three r's and the e bandits it's wild stuff, you know it is it's real and you know what.
Speaker 1:What else is real is that I feel like everyone goes through some of this shit in their life and nobody wants to talk about it because it's embarrassing or shameful, or I'm going to look like I don't have it all together, or it's going to impact my business negatively. To be an actual human who's messed up in my life, I had so much trepidation about putting this book out in the first place for that reason. But here's the thing the feedback and the responses that I've gotten from this book and this isn't for my ego, this is just to share like it's exactly what I hope for People feel set free. They're like, oh my God, I don't have to keep living like that and putting myself through the ringer of the shit I messed up a long time ago or the decisions that I made. I'm not stuck after all. Thank you, and it means so much to me. I like literally almost cry Sometimes. I do cry when I see people's texts or their reviews. It's like, can we all just be a little more real, Like we're all going through it.
Speaker 2:Yeah Well, thank you for leading the charge there on the. Can we all just be more real, because you were just real in a huge way? It's, it's an amazing book and I I am just so proud of you for for being brave and putting it out, because every time that I read through it I feel this huge hit of hope, you know, and it's I. I forget that I'm reading about my life, you know, and all the, but it's like I just go through it and I feel like there's no matter what people were going through. I think it will give a lot of hope to them.
Speaker 1:Thank you, it's not my book anymore, it's for everyone else. It's being spread around like that and that's the biggest compliment I could ever receive. It's not really about how many books I sell. It's about whether or not it actually impacts people. Really. I have a business and a career and a life. This was just a project that means something to me, and the fact that it means something to other people is really important. So thank you for suggesting that we talk about it. Thanks for the gamble of picking a page Pick a page.
Speaker 2:Everyone's favorite game show? Pick a page.
Speaker 1:Oh God, let us know if you want this to be a series, a pick, a page series.
Speaker 2:It's kind of frightening, honestly.
Speaker 1:But yes, you can grab the reset button on Amazon. You can go to my website to grab a copy. It's a Barnes and Noble, a couple other boutique bookstores depending on the area of the world you live in, and we have new episodes of the Cameo Show every Wednesday. If this landed with you, thanks, I'm glad. Please share it with somebody else so we don't all feel so alone all the damn time, wondering if something's wrong with us, if we're broken. We're not you're human yeah, welcome to being human yeah there's this song called my name is human.
Speaker 1:I'm gonna sing it. I'm not gonna sing it. My name is human. Greg's gonna sing, I'm not going to sing it.
Speaker 2:My name is human. Greg's going to sing it. I'm not even a singer.
Speaker 1:Oh boy, thanks for putting up with us guys. We hope you'll join us again soon. Until next time.
