101| The Only Question To Ask When You’re Wondering “Am I Good Enough?”

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Welcome to today’s episode! I’m excited to share my personal journey of getting stuck in the question, “Am I enough?” and how I found a new way to shift my thinking. I’ll be offering a fresh perspective that helped me reframe my thoughts and renew my mind by focusing on a deeper question: Is God enough? This shift is key to finding lasting, God-centered confidence and joy. Together, we’ll dive into Philippians 4:4-9 and explore how we can anchor ourselves in the truth of who God is. I’m so glad you’re here—let’s get started!

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Are you feeling stuck in your mom life? Wondering if you're good enough. Tired of wondering when you're going to have a breakthrough, so you can finally have God-centered confidence. If you said yes. Then this episode is for you. You're going to absolutely love it because it's going to help you reframe your thoughts and renew your mind. It is going to give you a fresh take on what to do when you start to ask. Am I good enough? It's time that you stop getting stuck in that mindset cycle. All of that and more on today's episode. Hey mama. You're in the right place. If you're ready to get God-centered confidence and let go of self-doubt. It's time for you to shine through all the seasons that mom life brings. And it brings a lot. Having unshakable confidence comes from an unshakeable. God, so let's get to know him together. My name is Caroline Thao your host for the restored mind. I'm also a Christian life and mindset coach. So grab your Bible, breakout that journal and get something to write with because you are about to thrive. Ready, let's go. You and I have a connection, but it could be so much more personal, especially when you join my insider's list. You'll get a weekly newsletter that can help you get to know me more so we can stop being strangers and start building a friendship. You'll also get practical tips on how you can build godly confidence as well as be the first to know about any offers that are released. So when you joined the insiders, list it's like you've signed up to be VIP of the restored mind. I know you're hesitant to sign up because you think I'm going to spam you with a million emails, but it's not like that. I don't like spam either. And I definitely won't be doing that to you. I simply want to help you navigate this mom life. As you're building godly confidence. I want you to show up with full joy as you serve your family and the places that you go, you can sign up at. bit.ly forward slash restore mind. That's B I T dot L Y forward slash restored mind. I've linked it in the show notes for you as a mom with kids. I completely understand the fact that you just can't get to certain things right away. This very instant. No worries, mama. I've got you. Do I have permission to be vulnerable with you? I'm going to share something with you that I believe is going to be so relatable to you as a mom. this is part of motherhood that I don't believe many mamas talk about. At least not that I have heard any way. But as a stay home mom. Well, let me just stop here. You don't have to be a stay at home mom to be able to relate to what I'm about to talk about. But I am a stay home mom. So in recent years, I've wondered what I can bring to the table because I didn't feel like I was doing a good job. As a mom and a wife. My kids were getting older and our season and our pace of life was changing way faster than I was honestly. Ready to let go. in that season I found myself questioning on multiple occasions. If I'm good enough. and that thought brings me back to when I was pregnant with all three of my babies. I remember praying and asking God to grant me the discipline. To disciple my kids to help guide me because I had no idea how to raise them up to be godly children. I honestly had no idea what that even meant or what it will look like. All I knew was that I wanted my children to grow up to know God. So fast forward to them moving from infants to toddlers, to little kids, and now being big kids. I have realized how much time had flown by. Right before my eyes. And I literally have no idea how to slow things down. It's just moving faster. The older that they get, it seems. So in the season, I questioned God. If that was all I was meant to do. It's to be a mom and nurture them and then get left behind because essentially that's how I felt. I realized that their need for me had changed. They weren't clinging onto me the way that they used to. And they are not as needy as they used to be. They're very, very independent and very much developing their own likes and dislikes. I knew that I couldn't rewind time or really do anything because all of this was out of my control. But through this season of grief and being stuck of not really knowing what to do. I stumbled across something that made a huge difference in my life and how I showed up as a mom. And also in my faith. So I want to share it with you today because I believe it is also going to be hopefully life changing to you, but also serve as a way to reframe your thoughts to help you get unstuck as well. If you're in this particular season of mom life, So the question of am I good enough? It's a question that gets you thinking internally about your worth and the skills that you have and what you bring to the table. That happens when you start to believe, maybe you're not doing something perfect. At least you think it isn't perfect. Or when self-doubt has rooted itself in your mind, or when you begin to navigate into new territory, that you're not fully confident in. That could be maybe a new season in your mom life one, similar to what I just shared with my current season of mom life, or maybe you're going from being only pregnant to finally holding your baby and you're wondering if you've done a good job. There's a lot that happens in this new territory. There's nothing that we can do to stop it because life moves on and sometimes a little too fast. Right. I know I look at my kids and I still can't believe that. I have a 10. Eight and an almost six year old, because I stop and think, where does the time go? Where did it fly off to? Because I remember. Holding them, like they were little footballs. I mean even a month goes by incredibly fast. So as these changes happen, I know that you've at some point also have wonder if you have done enough or if you're enough and as moms, sometimes we can feel forgotten about as well. And that can spark the question of, am I enough? There are a lot of times where you've probably asked this question and it spiraled out of control, making you feel bad, or maybe it's done the opposite and it's pushed you to work harder so that you can somehow make up for where you think you fall in short. So, what are you going to do that is going to help you refocus when all of this is happening. Essentially, you're going to take a moment. You're going to pause. And instead of asking if you're good enough, You're going to ask is God enough? This question is going to help you be move the thought of being self-sustaining. To be focusing your eyes and thoughts on God. The reason, this question is going to be so incredibly life-changing for you is because now you removed the pressure of trying to quote, get a right or fill in the gap where you think you've fallen short. Not only are you going to ask the question is God enough, but you're going to answer the question every single time. I want you to answer this question every single time you ask is God enough. As you're looking out on your children, the schedule, the life that you have, and you're feeling overwhelmed. With the question that you often ask yourself, am I enough in the season? You're going to replace that. And you're going to answer with is God enough. Because it is going to bring you to a place of gratitude. First and foremost, you're going to be thinking about all the blessings that God has shared and given you as a gift. In your life. You'll be reminded of who he is and you're going to see the gift that is right here in front of you. As moms. I think it's safe to say that we will forever be worried about the future when it comes to our children, because we want them to be okay. We want them to be safe or we just simply wish for more time with them. I'm also sure that for many of you who are listening right now, you're thinking that you're doing both. Which is completely understandable because I also find myself in that place from time to time. And I want to share with you a Bible verse that is going to renew your mind today. As you start to implement this question of is God enough, We're going to be in Philippians chapter four today, and I'm going to be reading verses four through eight. So if you're able to grab your Bible and open up to philippians chapter four. Get your journal as well. And something to write with, because this is going to be such an awesome opportunity for you to dig deeper and take down notes that come to your mind. I also love the idea that this is going to also be helpful as you jot down questions that comes to mind as you're listening or reading through scripture as well. And the idea of just going back to revisit the question you have so that you can dig deeper into the word of God just brings me so much joy. I hope that that's what you're doing because. That is going to move the needle of you being in the word more and building a more intimate relationship with God. As you get to know him. All right. My friends. So here we are, Philippians chapter four, verse four through eight. It reads. Rejoice in the Lord. Always again, I will say rejoice, let your reasonableness, or it has the footnotes say here and the English standard version. Gentleness be known to everyone. The Lord is at hand, do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with Thanksgiving. Let your request be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding will guard your hearts. And your minds in Christ. Jesus. Finally brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely. Whatever is commendable. If there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things. What you have learned? and the footnotes here say, or these things. Which things you have also learned. And that was a tongue twister. So I'm going to reread that. What you have learned or which things you have also learned and received and heard and seen in me. Practice these things and the God of peace will be with you. So that was a lot, right? It sounds like it was a lot it's four verses, but there were so many good things in there. before we move on and go ahead and write down what stuck out to you in your journal. As we read through verse four to eight, you can write down the words that stuck out to you or a copy of the verses and highlight what's sticking out to you right now. As you're doing that, feel free to pause me. If you have to mama. I hope you were able to write down words that stuck out to you. Maybe jot down questions that you might've had. For today's conversation. I really want to focus on the word rejoice because it was a two type of the same sentence. So for me, that's just something that sticks out that makes me want to focus my attention on this word, because in my mind, it's like Jesus saying truly, truly I say to you as an, this is something that you must get, it must be digested in your mind and practiced daily. But since rejoice is said two times, it makes me think, what is the significance? What does Paul mean by rejoicing? Well, it is a verb that means to be cheerful, to be happily calm or to be well. So as a believer, we are to be cheerful in the Lord. Paul was telling us to be rejoice and the Lord. always that word also sticks out to me. Why. Because always means forever and ever, and ever. And it is constant. It doesn't change because that is going to be. Infinitely the result that you get time and time again. So as you are working on reframing your mind and replacing the question of, am I good enough to is God enough, you are setting your mind and your thoughts on him. So essentially you're going back to the steadfast love of God, the constant same God that was here in the beginning, and we'll be here forever and ever. He is the alpha and the omega, the beginning and the end. So when you feel like you aren't enough, when you begin to spiral out of your thoughts and go into this rabbit hole of places where you think you're falling short, God has filled that gap for you with his love. Through Jesus and the gift of the holy spirit. It is such an incredible way for you to shift your thought that is going to bring you so much peace and confidence as you continue to journey on in motherhood, because guess what? Time is not going to stop. Hard lesson for me to learn. And you can't undo the past also a hard lesson to learn. But you are going to have hard days regardless and yes, there's going to be joyous days as well. But don't reserve celebration for only those joyous days. Celebrate today, even through the hard times and rejoice in the Lord, always as Paul reminds us. I know that as you work on reframing this question of am I enough to, is God enough, it is going to bring you so much peace and knowing that God is going to sustain you. And by doing that, you're not ignoring the question of am I enough? but it is essentially paving. a way for you to find the source of who you are so that you can be reminded that in God you are enough, because when we end up sustaining ourselves or trying to sustain ourselves, we get burned out. And what happens when we get burned out? Where do we draw from? Where do we go to rest? Oftentimes when we were rely on ourselves. So we become harder on ourselves because we begin to feel like we are not feeling the gaps where we think we're falling short. And so. That's why I truly believe that if you reframed the question of, am I enough? And you start asking is God enough, it is going to slow you down so that you can begin to celebrate and have this joy for the Lord, right? Rejoicing and have to be happy to be well in the Lord. And I really like how verse eight brings goosebumps to my arms as I was reflecting on this,'because verse eight says whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely. Whatever is commendable. If there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think of these things. And I just realized. That I threw in a bonus verse earlier, and I read you verse nine. So there you go. It's actually verse four through nine, but going back to verse eight, I'm sorry, I got sidetracked there, but going back to verse eight, I really like how Paul brings this out, because if you think about it, God is true. He is honorable. He is just, he is pure. God is lovely. He is commendable. God is excellent and worthy of praise so all of these things in what Paul is asking you to do is a direct reflection of who God is. in your situation, when you are feeling bombarded with thoughts, that you're not enough, go back to these things because. When you think about these things, you cannot help but be cheerful. Or as paul says to rejoice, right? When you answer the question is got enough, it begins to fill you with gratitude and peace. Because now your heart and mind are set on who God is. And that is a huge component of how we are able to build a godly confidence. So as we wrap up today's conversation, you are going to work on replacing the question of am I enough with, is God enough, it is going to help you to renew your mind and look to God instead of yourself so that you can remove the idea of being self-sustaining and building gratitude for who God is. This is where you want to thrive from Because it becomes unshakeable, no matter what season of mom life you find yourself in. We talked about rejoicing in the Lord because he is constant. We read Philippians chapter four, verse four through nine, and I encourage you to continue to write in your journal. As thoughts continued to come to your mind, don't be afraid to write down questions that you might have. It is a great opportunity for you to explore these questions as well, to dive deeper into scripture. And make connections as you grow your faith even more. No matter how long you've been on your faith journey, whether you grew up in the church, you just recently converted. There's always room for growth. I know it can be so incredibly hard as you navigate these thoughts and reframing the mind from asking am I enough to, is God enough, but my friend. You can do hard things. Hi everybody if you liked this episode, leave my mommy. five star reveal on apple podcasts Thank you so much. have a nice day. All right. My friend, you heard her. Thank you so much for taking the time to leave that review on apple podcasts. It brings me so much joy hearing from you, sadly. This is where we part ways, but I can't wait to be back on Wednesday to have another wonderful conversation with you. My friend go in peace.