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Hi, my name is Caroline—mom, wife, and Jesus follower. I’ve struggled for much of my life to show up confidently in the many roles I play. I got stuck in the comparison mindset, lost sleep because of stress, and felt guilty for wanting to do more than just “be a mom.” Ultimately, I wondered why I wasn’t growing in my faith.
I realized that, in order to have the confidence I wanted, I needed to stop relying on the world for assurance.
I began reading the Bible and making intentional time for God. Focusing on my faith gave me clarity in my purpose, renewed my mind, and restored my confidence in who I am. This was a game changer because this freedom allowed me to nurture my children and help cultivate their faith as well.
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105 | 4 Practical Steps To Get Confidence That Last
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"I can do all things through Him who strengthens me"- Philippians 4:13
In today's episode, we are going to talk about how to finally get confidence that last. You're going to love it because it's going to help you focus on what's important, giving you the perfect opportunity to be intentional with what you're doing. I'm giving you practical ways to help you build biblical confidence. All of that and more on today's episode. Hey mama, you're in the right place if you're ready to get God centered confidence. It's time for you to shine through all the season that mom life brings. Having unshakable confidence comes from an unshakable God. So let's get to know him together, my friend. My name is Caroline Tao, I'm your host for The Restored Mind, and I'm also a Biblical Confidence Coach where I teach you how to get confidence through scripture. Let's start building that framework for you so that you can begin to thrive. Are you ready? Grab your Bible, break out that journal, and get something to write with. Let's go! Let's go! Come hang out with me beyond the podcast inside my free community where other mamas just like you are thriving while building God centered confidence. Inside that group you get to connect with other mamas. We also have fun challenges in there and it's just so fun. I can't wait to meet you inside that free community at Building Confidence Through Scripture for Christian Moms. I'll go ahead and leave that link in the show notes for you mama. So in college, I used to shop a lot. It was to the point where it got really, really ridiculous. My best friend and roommate at the time would ask why I would go shopping so much, and I would respond with, it fills the empty inside of me. Now that was a harmless joke, and it became an inside joke, which eventually led me to truly reflect on that statement. Trust me, there were many years between the time of me making that joke and reflecting on that statement, but what was once a funny joke wasn't so funny anymore. especially When I lost my way shortly after having my son, I mean, my confidence just took a turn. It was shaken and I realized that it wasn't in my parenting skills. I mean, sometimes I didn't know what I was doing, but I'd always figure that out, and I was fairly confident in that. But it was more so the confidence that I lacked in was in who I am and in what I could do. So maybe you're like me, struggling to find confidence in yourself, and you feel exhausted. You're confused, and you're even more stuck the more that you try to do things to get that confidence to stick. Because you aren't sure why you feel great one day, and then the next you're down. Confidence is tricky, and as a mom, there are so many things we go through. Hormones skyrocket when you're pregnant, and they don't quite normalize until weeks or months later. I mean, your body's changing over the years from not only having kids, but from getting older as well. And then your interests change. Transcripts change, you thought that you loved doing something, but you realize you don't really have an interest anymore, and it can start to feel lonely, especially when you're trying to figure out who you are, what your interests are, and why you're uncomfortable in your own skin. I know, it is a lot. So what are some practical things that you can do that will restructure how you get biblical confidence? I believe it is to learn to be content as Paul did He says that he has learned in whatever situation to be content. That comes from Philippians chapter 4 verse 11. When you are content. It means that you are satisfied, you are okay with what you have, and you don't have this deep desire to quote, fill the empty inside of you, as I once did, right? You're not trying to fill this emptiness with things that you think might bring you confidence. Learning to be content, my friend, is not the same mentality as not wanting to improve or to grow. It's about learning to use what you have and building trust that what you have is enough for the work until you get to the next step. When you're content, it makes it so much easier for you to not compare yourself to others, which we'll talk on in just a little bit,, a great way to be content is to soak into the words of Paul. Like I just said, I love how he writes that he has to learn to be content. And I know it probably sounds like I'm repeating myself, but I want to drive this home because when he says he had to learn to be content. It means that it wasn't something he was born with. Naturally, it goes against his flesh and his way of thinking. Same thing for you and I. To be content in something, it takes discipline and practice. It's not something that comes naturally to us. Because again, we see other people doing things that might be working for them. And we think that we need it. Or because we see other people, we feel like there's a lacking in something. So, through that contentment. He realizes that he can do all things through God who strengthens him. and that comes from Philippians 4 13 that reads, I can do all things through him who strengthens me. That verse probably sounds really familiar to you because it is such a popular Bible verse, but the message gets lost from time to time when we only look at that last portion, I can do all things through him as our motivation. But we should go back up and read that Paul had to learn to be content so that he can be fulfilled and satisfied and be able to do all things through Christ who strengthens them. Because sometimes we might feel like we just simply don't have enough. And so Paul talking about how he had to learn to be content, it's just a factor of what we need to do in order to gain biblical confidence. So you have to be mindful of what you're wanting to be content in. Everyone, including you and I, are capable of learning new things. It just takes time to become better at it. And the best way to learn is to be willing. to reflect on yourself, to do some research, and to make changes accordingly. It's just like learning something new that doesn't come natural, right? The first time that you pick something up, you might not be so great at it. You might not even be great at it the third, fourth, or even tenth time, but the more that you continue to show up and practice these things, the better that you're going to get. And personally, I always think that it's such a great thing for you to keep learning and growing because that's how progress is made throughout life so in order to build a biblical confidence, you have to learn to be content. And that means that it's going to get uncomfortable sometimes. the next practical way for you to build Biblical confidence is to stop comparing yourself to others, Mama. Comparison is the thief of joy. It makes you think that you're lacking in something or that you need more of something, which just goes into a circle of the lack mentality where you think you're lacking something. when it comes to confidence, that's often associated with how much of something that you have, especially when you place your confidence in that something. So say maybe you pride yourself in your body, right? Maybe your confidence comes from how good you're looking, or maybe it comes from how much you're able to buy of something. So maybe it's your money. Maybe it's the confidence you have because of how much friends you have, whatever it looks like for you. I think the number one question you ought to keep in mind is, how would it make you feel one day if you didn't have the thing that makes you confident anymore? These things are wavering. That's why I'm such a huge advocate for biblical confidence, because at the end of the day, God is so constant. He doesn't waver, even though our situations may look different from day to day. We might not have the thing that keeps us confident tomorrow, but we will always have God I think it's safe to say that the things that we have, the people we surround ourselves with, and even the reliance on our own self, which by the way, put a pin on that thought because we're going to come right back to it. It is the foundation of confidence that many of us have. Let me just also say, before I move on, that there is absolutely nothing wrong in you working towards a healthier version of you or a better version of you, whatever that looks like, or having friends, right? There's nothing wrong with any of that. The focus here is to break out of the mindset and habit of making it a foundation from which you draw your confidence. If it's none of these things I mentioned then replace it with whatever it is that you're rooting your confidence in. Now, I know it's really easy to tell someone to stop comparing themselves to someone else because it's just words. It's easier said than done. To actually do it is pretty hard, even for me, because it doesn't matter what season of life you're in. There will be days where it's just more of a struggle. And sometimes, peeping over at what someone else is doing tricks you into thinking that maybe you're not doing something right. Or that you should be doing what the other person is doing because well, it's working for them So surely it would work for you, too, right? I want to remind you to focus on what's in front of you and who you're serving and from where you want to draw your confidence. Now, don't get me wrong. I get it. If you need guidance, if you need a coach to help you in a certain area, that's okay. Go ahead and reach out to them. As a matter of fact, kudos to you, my friend for having the courage to Reach out and say, Hey, I want to improve on this part of my life Because I know that as a lot of moms, at least the ones I've spoken to, they are so good at nurturing their kids, at loving their spouse, and creating such a cozy home for their family that oftentimes there's this unspoken pressure to keep it all together. And sometimes we just need that little bit of help. So if that's you, I do offer one on one coaching sessions. I would love to help you build a biblical confidence. So if you need someone to help you along the way, I'm that person for you, my friend. we can work together and we can begin your confidence journey. The link to the call is going to be in the show notes. And then the last point that I want to make today is to stop relying on your own strength. Remember, I brought that up earlier. Stop relying on your own strength. I know that we do this a lot as moms. and what I mean by that is that you rely on your inner emotional and spiritual strength because yes, it is obvious that you need physical strength to get you through the day, But when you rely on your inner emotional and spiritual strength, it's hard because eventually you get drained out, right? You and I, we are full of emotions. That's just the way that it is. It goes up and down and in all sorts of ways. So if you lead by your emotions, you're going to have a hard time building that lasting confidence because it's hard work. It requires. Self control requires so much more. When you rely on your inner strength, when it comes to your emotions and your spiritual strength, you have to find a place where you can draw from when you get drained or burnt out from all of the things that you're going through as a mom. Now. That doesn't mean that you should bury or hide or ignore your feelings. That's not what I'm saying. What I'm getting at is to not make a rash decision when you're high off your emotions. Typically, what happens is that your mind, it starts to race, and then you find yourself in a comparison mindset, which we just talked about, and everything just starts to spiral and your walls start to feel like they're just getting Tighter and tighter and everything's just caving down. It's a lot of pressure and it causes a lot of stress. When you are building God centered confidence, you have to practice going to God first because He is going to be the one where you draw your strength and confidence from You can do this by going to him in prayer, reading his word, applying what you learned so that as you gain more wisdom, you could continue to put it into practice. Remember, Paul says that he had to learn to be content Meaning it took practice, sacrifice, and to be honest, it was probably very uncomfortable at times. It wasn't easy. Jesus reminds us that we have to dig deep. Now, I won't get into all of that because I talked about digging deep in last week's episode. No worries, my friend. If you miss it, I'll link it in the show notes for you. That way you can listen to it right after this episode. Building a relationship with God is the fourth and last practical way. I'm sharing with you today that can help you build Biblical confidence it encompasses everything that we've talked about But most importantly, when you work on building a relationship with God, you have to learn about who He is. That builds trust. When you get to know God, it builds trust, just like you would get to know someone, and over time you get to know who they are, you become comfortable with them, and there's a little bit of rapport there, and trust is being built at the same time. Knowing that you can rely on God is going to help you tremendously. It helps you build that lasting confidence, because my friend, he does not waver., it might feel like it isn't enough at times. You might find yourself stuck and unsure how to move forward, but building that relationship and trust in God is going to help you move forward. Yes, it will be hard and confusing. It'll even get uncomfortable. Building God centered confidence is not an overnight fix, but the more you keep building, digging, and laying down a foundation, you are going to begin to see your mind and world change. I know we talked about a lot today so I want to recap this conversation that way as you are working on building lasting confidence There are some points that you can keep in mind. The first one is to learn to be content It just means that you are truly satisfied with what you have it makes it So much easier for you not to compare yourself to others. Remember that Paul writes, he had to learn to be content And you and I are very capable of learning and applying what we learn into our life. The second point we talked about is to stop comparing yourself to others because it is the thief of joy. It makes you think that you're lacking in something or that you need more of something, which just goes back to the lack of mentality. You don't place your confidence in the things that you have, okay? You place it in who God is. And the third thing that we talked about is to stop relying on your own strength, Your inner emotional and spiritual strength is where I highlight it here today. Your emotions, they go up and down. You get exhausted and burnt out from life. So how are you able to rely on your own self if you get burnt out? Go to the one who does not. Go to God first because He is going to be the one where you draw your strength and confidence from. You can do this by going to Him in prayer. reading his word, applying what you learn so that as you gain more wisdom, you can continue to put it into practice. And then the last point I made is that it is important for you to build a relationship with God. This is where you draw your strength and confidence from. You can do this by implementing everything that we've talked about today on this podcast on top of getting to know who he is, not just what he does, but truly who he is. I know it can be incredibly hard and tempting to continue and stay in the worldview of confidence as you're working on building God centered confidence because again, it's not an overnight fix. But it is going to be one that sustains and lasts you. I know it can be hard, my friend, but you can do hard things. Thank you so much for hanging out with me today. I had such a wonderful time. I cannot wait to meet you again next Wednesday. Right here on this podcast. Mamma. I hope that as you are inspired and uplifted, that you would show up at all the spaces and places ready to serve with a joyful heart. And yes, with confidence. Please take a moment to leave a review on apple podcasts. It would bring me so much joy hearing from you on top of that. If you want to connect even more, join the insider's list. I would love to continue helping you as you journey on in getting God centered confidence. The link to join the insider's list is going to be posted in the show notes.. All right, my friend, this is where we part ways. I hope you have a wonderful day. Go in peace.