109 | How Imposter Syndrome Is Killing Your Confidence And What To Do

Hey Mama!

Are you struggling with imposter syndrome, questioning your abilities, or feeling like you’re not enough in your journey as a Christian mom? In this episode, we dive deep into how imposter syndrome can quietly undermine your confidence, especially when you're trying to balance faith, motherhood, and purpose. This episode offers practical advice on how to confront self-doubt and embrace the confidence that comes from trusting in God's plan.

As a mom called to serve in your unique space, whether in your family, work, or community, it’s easy to fall into the trap of feeling unqualified or not good enough. Let’s break free from the lies of imposter syndrome and walk boldly in the authority God has given you!

Key Takeaways:

• Understand what imposter syndrome is and how it affects your confidence.
• Learn how to trust God with childlike faith, even in moments of doubt.
• Recognize the signs of imposter syndrome before it hinders your growth.
• Practical tips to stop comparing yourself to others and trust God’s plan for your life.
• Embrace holiness in your work and everyday life as you represent God’s kingdom.

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What is imposter syndrome and how is it killing your confidence? I'm deep diving into this topic because it stops so many of us mamas from reaching our goals. Let's get into it. Hey, mama. Are you tired of battling your own mind with self-doubt, and with imposter syndrome? Have you ever wondered if you are enough if you ever said yes to any of these, let's uproot all of that and start rebuilding the framework for you to get God-centered confidence. My name is Caroline Tau. I'm host for the Restore Mind, and I'm also a biblical confidence coach, where I teach you how to get confidence through scripture. Are you ready? Grab your Bible, break out that journal and get something to write with. Let's go. Hey, I have some exciting news for you, mama. This is the perfect opportunity for us to connect outside the podcast. I'm hosting a live workshop where you get to experience what it's like to work with me as your biblical confidence coach. We'll be hanging out on Zoom for a power packed hour on Monday, April 14th at 10:00 AM Pacific Standard time, I am going to walk you through the process of how you can hear from God clearly and build unshakeable confidence in who you are. It's going to be fun, faith filled, and full of powerful takeaways. And guess what? Everyone who joins the live will receive an exclusive 20% off your first coaching call service. If you book by April 18th and I'm giving away a Daily Grace company gift card to one lucky mama during the workshop, spots are limited. So grab yours now. Just head to the show notes and click the link to save your seat. I can't wait to see you there. As some of you might know, these last six months I've been back at school, not the traditional kind, But I have been furthering my education because I want to deliver you the best service that I can. And while I was going through this course, I found myself second guessing a lot of things, which is actually normal. I'm learning new things and trying to connect what I'm learning to the reality of my small business. And it's not easy, especially when you're trying to figure out something for the first time. It makes sense that there might be some confusion, some uncertainty, and even frustration. But where I found myself starting to panic was when imposter syndrome started creeping in. I admit it almost took me out because I wanted to quit. I was thinking about all the reasons I was not ready to lead as a voice in the space of faith and coaching. It brought me back to all the memories of the times when I felt like I simply wasn't enough to be in the space where I wanted to serve in, which just goes to show when you're doing something for the Kingdom of God, the enemy will attack you in ways you probably wouldn't have thought of. And yes, some of it has to do with your mind and how you're internalizing the information that. You're seeing, but I am not going to discount the fact that the enemy will leave you little seedlings that sprouts death if you let it. So I'm using this experience as a way to talk about imposter syndrome and how a can be a confidence killer if you don't take action. First of all, what is imposter syndrome? Simply put, it is a thought pattern that makes you doubt yourself, and there's this fear that you might be viewed as someone who doesn't have enough credentials behind your name to be in that space that you want to serve in. Essentially, it makes you doubt yourself. It makes you feel like you're not enough, and it can stem from working out at the perfectionist mindset, which I've. Recently talked about here on this podcast, so I'll link those in the show notes for you in case you've missed it. But imposter syndrome stems from a lot of places. It's from the fear that you'll fail in what you're doing or the thinking that you might let someone down or the experience of going through something new, which I just shared about with you and also the comparison mindset. And these are just a few of the reasons why you might be experiencing imposter syndrome. There's so much more out there. But it's important that you recognize it when you're going through it because it will stop your growth. And when you recognize it, you're actually faced with two decisions. One, do you let it win? Or two, are you going to fight back? Fighting back is going to give you the greater chance at growth. Typically, when you're second guessing your abilities to be able to do something A lot comes up that's related to who you are, the titles that you might have or the accomplishments you've had in the past, or maybe the lack of accomplishments you've had. It's your own abilities that are tied into all of these things. And as you go through this cycle and continue to fight back with the power of God with you, you're going to actually increase your confidence. You realize that it is the battle of the mind. When you are making the choice to push back these negative thoughts of imposter syndrome, and by the way, when I say push back, I don't mean to hide or ignore them. What I mean is you're confronting them and you're replacing the lies that you're telling yourself with a truth that's backed by scripture. Going through imposter syndrome is going to humble you. Looking at Proverbs three, Solomon leaves words of wisdom to his son. And you actually might recognize Proverbs three, verse five and six, which says, trust in the Lord with all your heart and do not lean on your own understanding in all your ways acknowledge him and he will make straight your paths. We're gonna take a moment to talk about this verse, because once you make that connection, it's going to help you root yourself in God even more, which is just going to help you on your confidence journey. So how does one trust, well, when it comes to trust, there's this assumed thinking that you have to trust perfectly. The question of why can't I just fully trust God? Why do I have that little bit of doubt or unbelief that's always lingering around? This thought has probably come to your mind, and it makes you think that maybe there's something wrong with you, that maybe you don't have enough faith, or that your faith is not strong enough, and that thought has probably at some point put a lot of pressure on you as well. Now allow me to offer this mindset shift with you that will hopefully bring a new light into how you move in your faith journey and the way that you look at trust when you think about trusting God, remove the idea that you have to trust perfectly, which is an unrealistic expectation that you are setting for yourself. Look at trust as childlike faith. The trust that Solomon talks about here is to think about whether or not you are purposefully rejecting God with unbelief. That doesn't mean you won't question, but in the moment of your unbelief, the question to think about is what are you doing? Are you scrambling to come up with a solution relying on yourself, or did you release it to God by surrendering your worries over to him again, it can. Be tricky to navigate this, and you won't be perfect at this. Sometimes the trust that you put in God might become shaken, but I encourage you to remind yourself of who he is when you do this, you put God in front of your fears, your worries, and your lack of trust. And what follows in these verses and proverbs is a means for you to put away your own understanding. That's why Solomon says not to lean onto your own understanding, right? in all ways acknowledge him. So acknowledge him. When you have the unbelief, don't run and hide it, mama, or don't try to fill the gap for yourself or try to push it under the rug and pretend that it's not there. Bring it to God and let him know, Lord, this is what I want and I trust you with this, but there is still this unbelief that is in my heart Teach me to release it to you. And it's not always something that is going to be easy to admit or even to go through, but it is going to be so powerful in the way that you move, especially when imposter syndrome is holding you down. So acknowledge him when you have unbelief. Mama. Don't run and hide or try to fill the gap for yourself. Imposter syndrome can kill your confidence because it makes you believe that you are not qualified to be the voice of authority in where you are serving. It could be in your career as a small business owner, even as a mom. A wife and honestly, really anything, anything that you really want to excel in and and want to grow in and serve for the Kingdom of God. Imposter syndrome will make itself known to you and the reality is that you have been equipped by God to take on the task that he's given you. It's time for you to step into that with courage, with boldness that comes only from God. The enemy will attack you when you're doing something for the Kingdom of God, but you have to be willing to put on the armor of God and fight back So it can definitely harm your confidence in making you think that you're just not qualified enough, or it'll make you look at all the things that you're lacking, and it'll also make you look at all the things you should have done leading up to the situation that you're in now. And none of that speaks true to who God is. God does not put you in the past and keep you there. As a matter of fact, I truly believe that he will bring you into the wilderness So that you can grow and he's gonna prune you according to his will. So the one practical thing that you can do is actually two things, right? So this is gonna be a two for one deal because it's a two part step. And so the first part is you want to stop focusing on whatever is causing you to think that you have not been equipped for the work that you are working towards. That could be focusing on your stats. If you are a small business owner and you find yourself looking at your stats and comparing it to someone else that's in a similar niche than you, it could also be maybe you are comparing your kids to someone else's kids, and that's just not fair to your child because your child is uniquely created to be who they are. And it could also be you comparing your parenting style to someone else's, your personality, the way that you were raised. Everything speaks so much into your parenting style. It's also the boundaries that you've set with your husband and within your own family. So when you compare your parenting style to someone else's, it is going to shift your focus on trying to be like that person versus you uniquely being the parent that God has equipped you to be for the child that you have. So whatever it is, mama, stop focusing on that. And then the second part is to trust in God's plan. Again, he's equipped you to serve, so serve in a way that is. Honoring and pleasing to God. Remember, it is not the physical work that is pleasing to him, but in how you're honoring him, and you could do that by living a holy life as one Peters chapter one verse 15 and 16 says. But as he who called you is holy, you also be holy in all your conduct since it is written, you shall be holy. For I am holy. Honoring God involves striving for holiness in your thoughts, your words, and actions. It's reflecting on his purity and righteousness keep in mind that you want to imitate him in all of his attributes, but it does not make you equal to him. it also does not mean that you need to be perfect because the only person that's ever been perfect is Jesus. The reality is we cannot be perfect because we are not perfect. So when you're pursuing holiness, know that. Perfection is not the goal. The goal is to represent him well. Now, I know that we've talked about a lot today when it comes to imposter syndrome, and I hope that this episode has given you the tools to move forward and kick imposter syndrome to the curb because mama, it is a lot and it's really heavy to deal with. We talked about what imposter syndrome is, which is a thought pattern that makes you doubt yourself, and it also makes you feel like you're not enough. It stems from a lot of places. It's from fear that you'll fail in what you're doing, thinking that you might let someone down. And then we also talked about the importance of recognizing the signs of it because it will hinder your growth, typically this happens when you're second guessing your abilities. We talked about trusting God, removing the idea that you have to trust him perfectly. Instead, look at trust as childlike faith. And then finally, we talked about how it's killing your confidence, right? Because imposter syndrome makes you believe that you are not qualified to be the voice of authority in where you are serving. But the reality is that you've been well equipped by God to take on this task that he's given you. And then of course, I shared one practical thing that you can do, which help as a bonus when you're dealing with imposter syndrome. It's first to stop focusing on whatever is causing you to think that you have not been equipped for what you're working towards, and then to trust God's plan, pursuing holiness in your work. It's not about obtaining perfect holiness, but representing him well. I know. And even you know that you've been equipped. So don't let imposter syndrome, self-doubt, or whatever else, stop you from growing in the place where God's called you to serve. Don't let the distraction shake your confidence. Mama. Show up with authority. And yes, it can be hard, but you can do hard things. Thank you so much for hanging out with me today. I had such a wonderful time. I cannot wait to meet you again next Wednesday. Right here on this podcast. Mamma. I hope that as you are inspired and uplifted, that you would show up at all the spaces and places ready to serve with a joyful heart. And yes, with confidence. Please take a moment to leave a review on apple podcasts. It would bring me so much joy hearing from you on top of that. If you want to connect even more, join the insider's list. I would love to continue helping you as you journey on in getting God centered confidence. The link to join the insider's list is going to be posted in the show notes.. All right, my friend, this is where we part ways. I hope you have a wonderful day. Go in peace.