114 | Mom Guilt Is Lying To You: Replacing Fear With God's Truth

Hey Mama!

Have you ever felt like your dreams, identity, and aspirations were supposed to disappear the moment you became a mom? You’re not alone. In today’s episode, we're having a heart-to-heart about how mom guilt plants seeds of fear, doubt, and pressure — and how God's truth invites you into freedom, not fear.

We're going to unpack why not all fear is the same, how to recognize the difference between fear that pulls you away from God versus fear of the Lord that transforms you, and how you can start breaking free from the lies that weigh you down.

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Key Takeaways:

• Learn the difference between unhealthy fear and holy, transformative fear.
•  Discover how mom guilt keeps you stuck — and how Scripture sets you free.
•  Simple, actionable challenges to replace lies with God's truth and deepen your confidence in His Word.

Bible Verses Mentioned:

Proverbs 3:11-12

Hebrews 12:11 

2 Timothy 1:7 

Matthew 11:29 

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Transcript

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You know, the kind of fear that keeps you stuck, the kind that whispers you are not good enough, and it makes you question your decisions, especially as a mom. It makes you wonder if you're doing the right thing and you find yourself going in circles. What if I told you that those thoughts are not from God? It's actually fear fueled by mom. Guilt. In today's conversation, I'm breaking down how to push through fear and self-doubt with bold confidence that comes from trusting God even when it's hard, let's dive in. Hey mama. Are you tired of the constant mom guilt and wondering if you're really enough? You know God has called you for more, but peace feels like it's just out of reach. I'm Caroline Thao, host of the Restore Mind, and I'm so glad you're here. This is your safe space to trade, overwhelmed for confidence, guilt for grace, and step into the freedom God has for you. Ready? Let's do this. Okay, picture this. You finally have a group of ladies that understand your problems as a mom who struggles with mom guilt, and then they rally around you and help you along the way as you partner with God through it all. Doesn't that sound amazing? If you didn't already know, I have a free community where that's exactly what's happening. We're all in different seasons as a mom, but there's one thing we have in common. Well, let me stop there. There's actually two things we have in common. The first one is that we are all working through mom guilt, and the second one is our love for God. And every single one of them are taking it one baby step at a time to challenge the lies that Mom guilts can tell you, come and join us. My friend there is. Biblical encouragement there for you as well as fun challenges and you get to make new friends along the way. It's incredibly fun and those ladies are just absolutely amazing. The link to join is in the show notes. I can't wait to see you there so that we can begin this journey together. When I found out I was gonna be a mama, my life flashed before my eyes. Yeah, really it did. One of the many things I was worried about was what would my life look like as a mom? I was so used to being on the go without having to worry about anything else. And I had an idea of what I wanted to accomplish by certain. Milestones, and I hadn't done any of that. So I was on the panic bus and it felt like my life was ending. And you know what? In a way it was, but I struggled to let it go at the time so that I could embrace that new season of my life. I thought that now that I'm a mom, if I shared that I have aspirations or did something to pursue my dreams, I would be neglecting my role as a stay at home mom. And you know what? I don't even know what created that narrative in my mind.. I also didn't know it then, but that was also mon guilt as a tiny little seed, which grew into bigger things. But out of that tiny little unwelcome seed, I remember doubt and fear slowly starting to take over admittedly, it took a long time for me to finally figure out this one truth, and that is fear is not from God. Now let's be clear about something. The kind of fear that keeps you from drawing close to God or stepping into the work that he's called you to. That's not the kind of fear that God wants you to live in. That's a fear that's rooted in lies. And it often stems from mom guilt. It tells you that you're not enough, that you'll fail, and maybe you should stay where it feels comfortable and safe. it'll even make you think that you don't have it all figured out when leading your children. So the pressure builds up to hurry up and get it all correct, but there is a healthy kind of fear. And that is the fear of the Lord. this isn't about being scared of God. It's about standing in awe of him. It's the kind of fear that leads you to surrender, to obedience, and to be in deep reverence for him. It moves you to want to live righteously and by making changes in your life when conviction comes or when you're realizing. Hey, this isn't something that's okay and I need to do something about it now, I'll be honest with you. It does get pretty uncomfortable and sometimes it feels like you're being disciplined Even though sometimes you're unsure why? But see, this isn't something for you to fear and stay away from. I truly believe it's actually something for you to lean into and take as an invitation. I'm reminded of Proverbs three where Solomon tells his son not to turn away or be afraid of God's. Discipline. He says, my son do not despise the Lord's discipline or be weary of reproof for the Lord. Reproves, those whom he loves, as a father. The son in whom he delights. This verse actually serves as a reminder that you and I will grow. the more that we pursue a relationship with God. And that will lead to many challenges for us. The closer you get to him, the more the Holy Spirit will lovingly lead you to change. And that's part of transformation. It's not always easy, and yes, it can feel like you're being pruned. It does get painful and it is uncomfortable, but I encourage you to welcome that because that is how you will grow. Now, I know you're probably thinking, Hey, pruning and disciplining, it sounds like scary stuff. It sounds like there's so much time and energy being put into that. I don't know if I want that, but see, there is comfort in the discipline. Which I know you're probably giving me the side eye thinking that I'm crazy and saying what comfort is there in being disciplined. I totally get it'cause it doesn't sound good at all, But may I remind you that God's discipline or his pruning, it's not meant to crush you. It's not meant to take you down. It is actually meant to train you up. See Hebrews 1211 says, for the moment. All discipline seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it. Now for me, that sounds incredibly comforting and I hope that it does for you. Imagine going through this pruning season. That yields peace in the end of it. Peaceful fruit of righteousness And it is probably hard to say yes to or to sift through and endure, or to even challenge mom guilt lies. We want peace as moms and as someone who loves the Lord and wants to follow Jesus all the days of her life. We want to live in holy righteousness right now. This to me is something that is so comforting, and I hope that you find comfort in it too. And hey, listen, will we get it right every single time? Absolutely not. We are moms. We are forgetful. We lose our cool and we mess up, but God is not expecting perfection from you or me. Jesus has already taken that burden away from us. He is the atonement for the debt that we could never repay. So, hallelujah, right? What a huge weight off of our shoulders. We don't have to carry the burden of perfection. We get to take his yoke, which he invites us to in Matthew 1129, which says, take my yoke upon you and learn from me. I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. Don't you want something that is easy and don't you want something that is going to give you rest? Now, that easy isn't always going to be handed to you in a pretty package with a nice pink bow on top or whatever color bow you're thinking about. For me, it was pink. That's one of my favorite colors. But I'm getting off topic here, so let's rewind back into this conversation. And be reminded that Jesus does give us the invitation to take his yolk and we get to walk in the freedom that he's bought for us. So fear that pulls you away from the Lord and the work that he's called you to, that's not from God, but the fear of the Lord. The kind that challenges you to grow and change. That's the healthy fear's, holy Spirit led, and that's the kind that brings transformation. God will never shape you using the kind of fear that distances you from him. Why? Because he did not give you the spirit of fear, but of power, love, and self-control. And that actually came straight from two Timothy chapter one, verse seven. and that fear that you often feel, that's the one that whispers you are not enough or you better not mess this up, or you have to stay in control of everything, or everything will fall apart. That's mom guilt talking it's the voice that keeps you restless, that keeps you overthinking and second guessing yourself. and that is what is keeping you chained to fear and doubt. It is pressuring you to be perfect and to hold it all together. So how do you begin to move past this unhealthy fear? Let me share two powerful but simple ways to start, and then I'm gonna give you two challenges and you can do one or be bold and do both. So here's the first. Replace the lie with truth that's backed by scripture. This will keep you grounded, firm on solid ground when everything feels shaky. Take your time with it. Read that truth slowly and come back to it as often as you need to. This isn't a one and done fix. It is a habit. It's going to be a new rhythm of training for your mind and your heart to run to the Lord first, especially when your thoughts start spiraling out of control. If you're not sure where to start, begin with the verses that I shared with you today, my friend. I will link them in the show notes for you. Now for the second challenge, and this one is going to take a little bit more time, but I highly recommend that you do this one with intention. If you choose to, I want you to read around the verse that you've chosen to replace the lie. Don't just grab one line, but read the chapter or read surrounding verses for context. This helps you get a fuller picture of what God is saying. it roots your understanding deeper and builds your confidence in applying his word into your life. Now, mama, as we wrap up this conversation, let's recap all that we talked about, because I want you to walk away feeling refreshed, strong, and confident. Remember that. Fear that pulls you away from God and the work that he's called you to is not from God, but the fear of the Lord. That deep awe in reverence of him, that's the kind that transform you. He's not expecting or asking for perfection. Jesus has filled that gap for you. take Jesus up on his offer and accept the invitation to take his yoke upon you. The fear that keeps you stuck and feeling overwhelmed is rooted in lies, fueled by mom, guilt. But God does not give you the spirit of fear, my friend. He gives you the spirit of power, love, and self-control, which by the way comes from him, right? It all points back to him. And then finally we talked about how you can move forward, and that is replacing the lies that you tell yourself with truth backed by scripture. Read it slow and come back to it as often as you need to. that way you build up the habits of going to God first. And then finally, if you have the extra time or want to challenge yourself even more, read around the verse that you've chosen for a deeper context. It will help you root your understanding in him and his words even more. I know it can be hard to step out with courage and be bold as you navigate through mom guilt, but my friend, you can do hard things. Thank you so much for hanging out with me today. I had such a wonderful time. I cannot wait to meet you again next Wednesday. Right here on this podcast. Mamma. I hope that as you are inspired and uplifted, that you would show up at all the spaces and places ready to serve with a joyful heart. And yes, with confidence. Please take a moment to leave a review on apple podcasts. It would bring me so much joy hearing from you on top of that. If you want to connect even more, join the insider's list. I would love to continue helping you as you journey on The link to join the insider's list is going to be posted in the show notes.. All right, my friend, this is where we part ways. I hope you have a wonderful day. Go in peace.