145 | What To Do When Your New Year Goals Start To Feel Boring

*This episode is part of the Grace Over Guilt: Reset & Refocus mini series

Hey Mama!

Does the routine you set for your New Year goals already feel… boring?

You're showing up faithfully, doing the same thing day after day—but scrolling past other moms' highlight reels makes you wonder if everyone else has it more together, more exciting, more meaningful⁠. You're caught between staying consistent and feeling like you're falling behind. 

Key Takeaways:

• Why repetition isn't boring—it's faithfulness
• How to reframe your routine with gratitude

This is faith based encouragement for the Christian mom who needs permission to stop chasing excitement and start embracing the grace found in showing up—even when it feels repetitive⁠⁠.

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Transcript

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Everyone else's motherhood looks way more exciting than yours. At least that's what you're telling yourself, and it's making you wonder if you're doing something wrong. Well, there's something I need to tell you about those ordinary behind the scenes days. So let's get into it. Welcome to the Restored Mind. Biblical wisdom, simple steps. No more mom guilt. I'm Caroline Tao. Let's do this. If you're ready to finally understand what's really behind that mom guilt you've been carrying, take the Discover Your Mom guilt quiz because once you know your specific guilt type, you can actually start addressing it at the root instead of managing the symptoms. The link is in the show notes. And mama, I cannot wait for you to break free. Hey mama. Welcome back. We are diving right back into our Grace Over Guilt mini series, which by the way, I'm so happy to have you here if you are new or returning. And basically the Grace Over Guilt mini series is where I'm walking you through how to let. Go of that mom guilt when your New Year plan doesn't go exactly as planned. There is this pressure for you to set a resolution and sometimes you can feel stuck, especially when you are like, I don't even know what my goals are. This year, this mini series is going to help you let go of that unspoken pressure. And last week we actually talked about releasing that pressure to set a goal right away. So if you haven't started and you feel that pressure, go take a listen to last week's episode. I will link it in the show notes for you Today we are going to be talking about navigating your goal when the motivation or the honeymoon stage ends, because that can happen now. When I started my fitness journey, I was so excited and motivated, and out of that I doctored up this routine to work out seven days a week. Twice a day, so I was lifting weights and doing HIIT workouts, which are just high intensity cardio workouts because this goal of mine stemmed from desperation. I was going on a girl trip that summer and I wanted to look good and feel confident in my own skin again. I was also going through internal struggles with my body image, so that also played a really big role in what I call now crazy workout schedule. So at first it actually felt really good. I had a strong start, but about three months in, I started to lose some of that steam. My routine started to feel a. Boring, and I thought maybe I needed to change things up. also, I started feeling the crash from being burned out from having no rest days, But mama, have you ever felt like that before? Have you ever started something and out of excitement and motivation, you begin working towards that goal only to find yourself burnt out and frustrated. Now, here's what I've realized after my girls trip that summer, which by the way, I didn't meet the weight goal that I had, or even the body image goal that I had because I was driving myself absolutely crazy and driving up that stress factor that my body. Didn't really want to do what I wanted it to do. It was actually fighting against me, so I guess you could say I was literally fighting with myself. Anyway, the two things that I realized that summer was that I needed to give myself time to rest. So that I wouldn't get burnt out, and I did not need an exciting routine every few weeks because repetition is key. It created a sense of normalcy for my mind and my body. And mama, the same is true for you in motherhood. So now that you've set your goals or have started working towards them, the routine that you've set for yourself is going to. Start to feel boring or even repetitive, especially when you're scrolling through social media or having conversations, and it seems like everyone else just seems to have it all together. It seems like their life is exciting and somehow you feel like you're not doing enough. So today, let's talk about what to do when the honeymoon or the motivation phase ends, and how you can find God in the ordinary moments of your motherhood. So the one thing I want you to take away from today is that God is with you in your quote unquote, behind the scenes moment, even when you can't see it or feel it. Now, what do I mean by this? Well, when you are actively showing up in any capacity to reach your goal, whether that be to let go of control or not losing your temper with your kids or whatever it may be, you are going to be faced with multiple challenges, and in that moment you have a choice. To move the needle towards the goal or away from it. And even though it might not seem like the shift made a huge difference in that moment, it is the compound choices that moves the needle towards the goal. And those compound choices are your behind the scene moments. It's in those moments that God is patiently and lovingly working in you and through. You see the big wins that you see when you look back at how far you've come. Those are the feel good moments, and when you get them, I encourage you to. Soak it all up because the effort that you've put into whatever that goal is is well worth it. Those are the feel-good moments that hopefully are pointing you to how wonderful and magnificent God is. The way that I can describe this is like when you're climbing to the top of the mountain and taking a look at the scenery around you. When you get to the top, you know you're taking all of that beauty and you're in awe of what is around you. But it took a lot of work to get there. Now, I'm not saying that these feel good moments should be short lived because you absolutely should embrace it. Spend time in that moment because you did work hard to get there. But here's the thing. Most of your motherhood journey is not going to be lived at the top of the mountain. Most of it is lived in the climb, which means in the action of getting to the top. So you're doing the same thing day in and day out, and many times it can be easy to forget that God is with us in those times as well. Now when your routine feels boring and repetitive, it's tempting to look at what other moms are doing on social media who seem to be living this exciting life, or being in conversation with mamas that are within your sphere of life, it can make you think that you need to do something different. Now, my hope is that as you are in conversation with these mamas That you would be inspired to take on some of these things, but to shock your mind to doing something different every few weeks is going to be taxing on the stress level that you have. I mean, think about it. You are a mom caring for your family. There's a lot that happens within that dynamic. And if you're serving the church, if you are a working mom, there's other stress factors there too. So if you don't have a consistent routine that is going to be for you in this. Season, It's going to drive up that stress factor. And the truth is, when you're meeting God and adding him into your life during this time, my hope is that you're doing it all the time. But when you're meeting God, it means that you're gonna take a moment to slow down. And most times, at least from my experience, it means that I have to repeat my step and continue to add faith into it to grow my faith and believe that what I am doing is serving my family well, because it also reflects the love of God. And so my hope for you is that as you are. Starting off strong, that you would remain strong, and that doesn't necessarily mean that everything's going to be exciting all the time, and that's okay. It's part of life. Now, once you slow down, it honestly gives you an opportunity to become more intentional and more thankful for the blessings that you have. And it gives you an opportunity to reflect on what these blessings mean in your life in one Thessalonians Chapter five, verse 18, it says, give thanks in all circumstances. So not just in the exciting moments or in those moments when you are reflecting back on your journey and you have. Big win moment. Okay. It's not just that. It includes the repetitive routine, the boring tasks maybe, and even the unglamorous part of you that's working towards that goal. And what I mean by unglamorous is. Really anything. All of it. The messy hair days, the times where you find yourself scrubbing Sharpies off a tub because your kids got a hold of them, that happened in real life. By the way. Those moments are going to be what moves the needle for you to become the mom you want to be. And the reason why I say this is because you have a choice. To react in a way that is going to be memorable in a positive or negative way to your kids. So what can you do when the steam seems to be slowing down and you're thinking your routine is boring? I have really two ways for you to start today even. And the first one is to just practice giving thanks. You can journal it, you can say it in a prayer before bedtime at the end of the day, before you wake up out of your bed physically in the morning. it doesn't need to be big either, It can be simple. It can be something along the lines of. Lord, thank you for the restraint that I had to not say what I wanted to say to my kids. Or maybe it's just, thank you for the rest that I received today. Because let's face it, as new moms, moms of toddlers, moms who are always on the go, there's very little times that we can find ourself truly resting. And so even when we get a little bit of rest in, sometimes it feels like it's not enough and we can overlook the fact that we were able to maybe get some peace and quiet for all of five minutes, right? But let's not take that for granted. Let's give thanks for that moments of clarity and peace or even quietness. And the second thing I want you to do is just reframe the word boring and think of it as faithful. See, repetition is not a sign that you are failing or that you have a boring life. It's a sign that you are showing up day after day. And honestly, repetition breeds consistency and that breeds transformation. Okay, so mama, I know that it's hard when everyone else's life looks like it's more exciting than yours and you're feeling like you're falling behind. But God isn't asking you to have those most impressive routines. He's really wanting you to just show up. Joyfully show up and joyfully working, and every time you choose faithfulness you are allowing him the space and the opportunity to do his best work in you. So tonight before bed, thank him for one quote unquote boring, beautiful moment today. And that is where the transformation lives. Through gratitude, giving thanks and through repetition, that is not necessarily boring. Faithful. You can absolutely be the mom that you want to be. Mama. I know that it's hard, but you can do hard things. Thanks for hanging out with me today, mama. If this episode helped you in any way, would you do me a favor and please share it with a fellow mom that could also benefit from this episode. Until then, I'll see you next Wednesday, right here on this podcast. Go in peace.