101: You Can’t Outrun Yourself: Emotional Sobriety, Shame, and the Choice to Recover

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Some people lose everything and call it “starting over.”
Others call it what it really is: a continuation. Another season. Another chance to decide what kind of person you’re going to be when the plan falls apart.

In this episode, Jeff sits down with a longtime broadcaster who’s 12 years sober from alcohol, still doing the work, and honest about the parts of recovery that don’t fit in neat, motivational soundbites: shame that lives in the body, the fear of being alone with your own thoughts, and the reality that “getting better” is a choice… but not always a simple one.

This conversation is for anyone who’s tired of pretending they’re fine. If you’re carrying pressure, managing a business, leading a family, rebuilding after a loss, or trying to stay sober—emotionally or chemically—this one will hit.

Who this episode is for
Entrepreneurs and leaders who feel like they’re “holding it together” but are privately exhausted

Anyone navigating sobriety, relapse fear, shame, or emotional volatility
People who’ve been knocked sideways by life (health, identity, job loss, family stress) and refuse to stay down

Listeners who want real tools and lived perspective—not hype

What you’ll hear in this episode
A raw, grounded conversation about recovery, responsibility, and what it looks like to stop running from yourself.
You’ll hear about:
Why addiction isn’t a “choice,” but recovery eventually asks for one
The danger of rigid labels in sobriety (and why they can keep people stuck)
Emotional sobriety: temper, regulation, and the work you can’t outsource
Shame and guilt as something stored in the body—not just the mind
The truth about “success” not fixing what’s broken inside
How sitting still (literally) can become the turning point


Why Jeff is the guide for this conversation
Jeff built All Can, No Can’t after dying on a CrossFit gym floor and being handed a diagnosis that changed everything. He doesn’t interview guests to deliver inspiration. He does it to pull out the truth: what it actually takes to keep going when your identity, health, or life plan gets rearranged without your permission.

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Let’s master resilience together.

Chapters / Timestamps:
00:00 Intro: All Can, No Can’t
03:09 Why face-to-face vulnerability can be harder than “performing”
05:23 Addiction wiring vs life experience
07:23 Recovery, harm, and the question: “Now what?”
10:14 Job loss, burnout, and the dark night of the soul
13:03 You can’t outrun yourself
21:07 Your life is the story you tell yourself
27:39 Shame, guilt, and the body
29:22 Addiction isn’t a choice; recovery eventually is
32:06 There isn’t one path to recovery
40:22 Emotional sobriety and self-regulation
52:07 When “crazy ideas” stop working
55:37 Purpose, service, and restorative housing

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