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126: Grief & Anger After Loss: Stephanie Renner Returns (Part 2)

Jeff Luther

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Grief and anger after losing a child to suicide can live in the same breath and Stephanie Renner isn't afraid to say that out loud. She's back on All Can. No Can't. for a raw, honest follow-up conversation with Jeff Luther about her son Jordan, and what it really looks like to keep living after.

This episode goes places the first conversation didn't. Jeff asks Stephanie point-blank if she ever gets angry at Jordan, and what follows is an honest look at anger as a real stage of grief, not a betrayal of love. Stephanie talks about the surreal moments when she forgets Jordan is gone, the guilt of feeling relief, and a "sign" on Mother's Day that put one of her biggest fears to rest for good.

Stephanie also opens up about something most people never talk about: falling in love again after losing a child, and the guilt that came with letting herself be happy. She and Jeff talk through what it means to model a healthy relationship for the kids still here, and why "you did everything you could" is often the wrong thing to say to a grieving parent.

Stephanie Renner is a former attorney turned grief and resilience coach, and the creator of the Regret to Resilience framework. She now helps parents and professionals move through grief, guilt, and regret without needing to "move on."

Grab Stephanie's free Regret to Resilience worksheet at stephanierenner.com/podcastoffer, and find her at stephanierenner.com or regrettoresilience.com.

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