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Everybody needs a cheerleader...somebody in their corner hyping them up to perform their best. That's me. Everybody also needs a Coach...somebody in their corner giving them tips to tap into all of their potential so that they can make the most of their life! That's also me! This podcast is where those two elements converge and I speak to you about ways to work hard, pray harder, believe better, and live life to the fullest in every single way on every single day! It's time to level up, elevate, and slay the day! Have you had your pep talk yet?
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YOU Remove the Glue: "UN-stucking" Yourself!
Ever feel like you're stuck in life's proverbial glue, struggling to find your stride? Well, today we will guide you out of that sticky situation. With a blend of warmth, wisdom, and real talk, I dive into the common pitfalls of complacency and procrastination that keep us from being the stars of our own stories. This episode is all about breaking free from the snooze button we hit on life, stepping outside our comfort zones, and lighting a fire under our ambitions.
This heart-to-heart isn't just a wake-up call; it's a roadmap to reclaiming the momentum that's rightfully yours. I'm opening up about my own battles with unfinished projects and the seductive lure of 'tomorrow' to help you understand that you're not alone in this fight. We talk about the transformative power of gaining clarity—your 'why'—with the help of coaches, programs, and therapists, and how this can lead you to your 'what', 'how', 'when', and 'where'. It's time to clear those lenses and see your potential with crystal clarity.
To cap it off, I'm sending out a rallying cry for action. February's clock is ticking, and if you haven't started 'getting it' yet, now's the moment to sprint towards those dreams. Keep the spirit of positivity, love, and light as your co-pilot, and remember that our community on IG at _JB Speaks is here to support you. So, until next week's episode, where we'll continue to fuel your greatness, stay blessed, stay with the rock, and let's make waves together.
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On this episode of the pep talk podcast, we're going to remove the glue from your life, but first I have a question for you. Have you had your dose of pep today? No, don't worry, I've got you. Now let's get into it. ["the Peps Talk Podcast"].
Speaker 1:Welcome to episode 25 of season two of the pep talk podcast. I'm your host, coach Jay, a life coach in DFW, and it is my privilege and my deepest honor to be here with you all on this marvelous, majestic Monday. That's right, we're not talking about thank God, it's Monday, whoa, whoa, whoa. No, we are celebrating Monday. It's a new week, new goals to hit, new dreams to accomplish, new people to inspire. So I say let's go, let's get it cracking right. And so welcome to the pep talk podcast Again. So glad you're here. If you are new to the pep squad, we're so glad to have you.
Speaker 1:The mission of this podcast is to cheer you on and to coach you up. We believe that everybody has greatness within them, but no matter how great we've become in life, there's always another level for us to go. So I'm going to encourage you, cheer you on, tell you how great you are, because you are great, but I'm also going to challenge you every week to go deeper and to go deeper and to do the work that is required for you to ring out every last bit of potential from your life, because I don't know about you. Over my life, I've heard so many people say oh, you have so much potential that to me it became like a four letter word, because they told me I had potential, without telling me how to achieve that potential, and so that's one of the reasons why this podcast exists. Every episode, every episode, I'm giving you tools, I'm giving you resources, I'm giving you thought experiments that are designed to help you access your potential in tangible ways, because I want you to be great, but I also want to leave crumbs, because success does leave cues and clues. I want to leave crumbs along the way that you can use, but you can also drop behind you so that as you're leveling up, as you're elevating, you are helping other people to level up and to elevate as well. So, welcome Again, so glad to have you. If you are a returning listener, know that I'm glad to have you rocking and rolling with us every week. It means so much to us and listen.
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Speaker 1:Now we want to remove the glue. And here's what I'm saying, because there are a lot of people out there in life saying yo, I just feel like I'm stuck, I feel like I don't have any options. I don't feel like I mean, I'm just stuck, I'm just, I'm stuck in my career, I'm stuck in my thought patterns, I'm stuck in my dream life. I'm just, I'm stuck, I'm stuck, I'm stuck, I'm stuck. There are a lot of people out there that are feeling like they're stuck, and so I wanted to use this episode to identify three reasons why you're stuck, or three reasons why you may feel stuck, and then provide three solutions to help you get unstuck. Thus they're removed, the glue. We want to remove the glue so that you're unstuck and you feel free to move around the cabin. We want you to be free to move around your life and to not feel stuck and shamed to any specific thing. Right, because this life is big, this world is big, and there's a lot for us to do in our lives. And there's a lot for us to do in the world, not just for us, but for other people, and so that's what we're dedicating this episode to. We're exploring three reasons why you feel stuck, and I'm going to give you three ways to help you get unstuck so that you're able to move forward in your life. So are you ready? You have your notes app up? Do you have your pen, your paper? No, oh, you can just go back and you can listen again. Let's do that. Just listen again, all right.
Speaker 1:So the first reason why you may be stuck or you may feel stuck in your life is because too often we treat our lives like an alarm clock and we keep hitting the snooze button. Now this is coming from. Wait, let me say that again, too often we treat our lives like an alarm clock and we keep hitting the snooze button. Now, coming from an unabashed snooze button hitter, I want to tell you where this thought came from.
Speaker 1:I was listening to the Mel Robbins podcast and she did this entire episode on something called sleep inertia. And sleep inertia is kind of that feeling between still being asleep and wakefulness, where you're kind of disoriented, you're confused, you kind of feel drunk, and she went on to talk about how, when we hit the snooze button, what we're doing is we are prolonging that sleep inertia so that when we finally do get out of the bed, we are disoriented, and that, because of the effect of the snooze button allowing us to try to fall back into a sleep, even though it's not the deep, restorative REM sleep, when we hit the snooze button, we're not just laying there trying to get our lives together, we're actively trying to go back and get that extra 10, 15 minutes of sleep. In some cases, some of y'all may hit it for an hour. But the long-term effects of this? I believe some research was done by a university in Tokyo that talked about how, when we hit the snooze button, we prolong the feelings of sleep inertia. Basically, the more we hit the snooze button, the longer we keep ourselves from operating at an optimal level. Think about that. So my body's trying to wake up. The alarm clock goes off I don't know about y'all, but my alarm clock is blaring and it's ugly. My wife calls it borderline abusive and you hit the snooze button and you begin to sink back into the sleep. Now, just as you're about to sink back into the sleep, that snooze button goes off again. So, finally, when you decide to get up, you're not quite all there, because your body is still longing for the sleep, your mind is still longing for the rest. But you also know, you know within you I got to get up, I got to get ready for work, I've got to get the kids ready for school, I've got to fix breakfast and fix lunches and all this stuff. But according to this whole idea of sleep inertia, the longer and the more we hit the snooze button, the longer it takes us to achieve a true state of actual wakefulness where we can function on optimal levels.
Speaker 1:Now here's why I say that we treat our lives like an alarm clock and we keep hitting the snooze button. I believe that our lives have pre-programmed moments in them that are designed to wake us up. Things happen right or somebody close to us passes away, somebody comes to us and may even say you know you're wasting your life. Or maybe we just have an awakening. Or maybe you're listening to a podcast, like the pep talk podcast, and the host is telling you it's time to wake up.
Speaker 1:But hitting that snooze button is effectively me saying I'm not ready to wake up and live my life, so I'm going to procrastinate just a little bit longer. I'm going to hit that snooze button and hope, and hope that what's next in life will just hold off for a little bit longer. I need to sleep a little bit longer. I need to train a little bit longer. I need to dream about this next step a little bit longer. I need to plan for this next step in life for a little bit longer. I need to consult with my investment planner before this next level in life comes. I need to go back to school so that I can get the certifications before this next level in life comes, and so, repeatedly, we're hitting that snooze button, trying to get that next 10 minutes in so that we can plan, so that we can feel like we're ready. And in doing so, we're actively holding ourselves back. We're keeping ourselves in a holding pattern as life continues to happen around us.
Speaker 1:Because y'all know how this works. Life doesn't slow down for anybody. You can put 20 years in with that company, but as soon as you quit or laid off or are fired, they are looking to actively hire somebody. They're not leaving your spot open, for they're not placing a plaque in the seat where you used to sit saying you know, this was Justin's seat. He served us faithfully for 20 years. No, they're trying to hire somebody else. And so the more that we try to slow life down, the quicker we're going to find out that it moves.
Speaker 1:And so what I'm telling you is that if you're feeling stuck because you keep hitting the snooze button on your life, understand this you are not slowing life down because that clock. It still keeps going. When you hit the snooze button, the clock doesn't slow down. And even though you may try to fall back into some measure of a deep and happy sleep, you may be trying to get back into that dream where you won a million dollars from the story. You may be trying to get back to the old days, the great days, the golden years, but life is still moving forward. It doesn't care how many times you hit the snooze button. The only thing that you're doing is slowing down your arrival, your waking, optimal arrival into what you're supposed to be doing.
Speaker 1:Do you realize that every time we hit the snooze button, we're still getting closer to the time that it is for us to leave for work? We're just allowing ourselves less time to get ready for it? When you hit the snooze button in your life, you are only slowing down, lessening the amount of time that you have to get prepared for this next opportunity that's about to present itself. Now you're not ready. Now you know the sleep inertia is taken over and you're moving like a drunk person, trying to get yourself together and make yourself presentable.
Speaker 1:But what if we just got up? No, like seriously in sleep and in life when the alarm clock goes off. What if we just got up and got busy? What if we got up and got the clothes ready, got the breakfast going, had some time to sit quietly and collect our thoughts before the day began? What if we just got up? No, robyns, she wrote a book about this too, but I think she called it the five second rule. I think this is correct and she says that, like when there's something that we don't want to do, we take five seconds, and if we can think of any good rational reason if we can't sorry think of any good rational reason why we shouldn't do it we get up and we do it. So if the alarm clock goes off, we give ourselves five seconds, and if we can't think of any good reason why we shouldn't get up, it's time to get up, go ahead and make the choice. What if we applied that to life, when we know that things are coming, when we know there's a job that we want to apply for, but we're afraid because we don't feel qualified for it? But what if we just took five seconds and thought about it? And if we couldn't think of a real and rational reason why we shouldn't apply for it? What if we just went and did it anyway?
Speaker 1:Here's what I'm telling you Quit hitting the snooze button on your life. It's time to live. We spend enough time dreaming. You spend enough time planning. You spend enough time being afraid. You spend enough time doing this, that and other everything that distracts you and helps you procrastinate from fully living your life. You spend all our time doing those things, but now it's time for you to live.
Speaker 1:Now it's time for you to be about the business of getting up out of the bed, of getting up out of your uh, your stuck spot. Remove the glue and begin to live your life. I need you to hear me. You need to live. It's time for you to live. You've slept long enough. You've been stuck long enough. You've watched everybody around you accomplishing their dreams long enough. It's time for you to remove the glue. And I didn't say that in the beginning, but nobody in your life can remove the glue that's keeping you stuck. But you so quit treating your life like an alarm clock and you're hitting the snooze button.
Speaker 1:Get up, that's right. Get up, wipe the crusties out of your eyes, go. Wipe your face, go, brush your teeth, go, go say some prayers, read your Bibles, do your meditation, do some yoga, get up out the bed, get up out of the stuck spot in your life, and it is time to live. Do you hear me? Somebody out there needs to give me like a high five in the comments, or, you know, give me a high five, high five the screen, high five your, your phone, whatever. Because you, you need to get up, and I know I'm talking to somebody with this one. I know I'm talking to somebody. You got to get up as an avid user of the snooze button. I'm talking to myself, jay, you got to get up. Dog, you got to get up because you are wasting valuable time that can be used to prepare you for your day, to get you in the right frame of mind, to get you in a, in a in a in a spot of peace, so that you're not waking up with chaos. Quit in the snooze button. That's all I'm saying. You do with that what you will. That's number one. Quit treating your life like an alarm clock and hitting this news button and just get up and start living. That's number one. Number two here's the second reason why you're stuck and how we're going to remove the glue.
Speaker 1:We treat life like it's a float trip. We treat life like it's a float trip. Now I'm about to edumacate you, so listen up. Here's what a float trip is. So when we lived in Missouri, we had a lot of you know streams and and Brooks and you know lakes and rivers and stuff like that. All right and so, like on holidays, fourth of July, lay, labor day, really, almost any time you can find people saying hey, I'm going on a float trip. So they would go down to these bodies of water, they would have their, their float, they would have their you know, cousy and their beers and they'd be in their swimsuits and swim trunks and everything and they would just float down the river or float in the lake. It's a float trip. So wherever they end up, it's good because they knew the area. But often they were at the mercy. They're at the mercy of where the current was taking them and it was cool and they had a great time. Did I ever do it? No, I'm not a float trip kind of guy.
Speaker 1:However, I do understand the sentiment of treating life like a float, float trip. And here's what I mean by treating life like a float trip. I mean you were simply going along with the current. You are allowing life to take you where it will. You don't have a steering wheel, you don't have a paddle, you're just leaning back and you're allowing life just to float you and it's all good for a while. Floating's fun, it's relaxing. So I've heard I can't even float in a pool. I stink like a rock, but people love it because it's the sense of freedom, of not having to do anything. The water does all of the work.
Speaker 1:But here I'm here to tell you that if you allow life to do all of the work and to just float you well at where it will, you're gonna find yourself in some spots that you wish you wouldn't have been in, because, just like life has really amazing things, life has some really crappy things too, and when we refuse to take ownership of our lives, when we refuse to insert, grab the steering wheel, then we can't complain. When we have an accomplished dream, we can't complain. When other people are launching programs or learning different skills and abilities and starting companies and moving from job to job every two months to maximize their income, or they're getting interviews, they're being on podcasts, they're doing all of these things and we sit back and we're like man, that's so cool. I wish I could do that, you could, but you left your paddles on the shoreline, you surrendered your sense of control of your life to the current of life. And listen, I'm not saying that every minute of your life you have to be in control and you have to be paddling, paddling, paddling and steering, steering, steering. There will be times in life and seasons in life where a nice float trip is just what the doctor ordered. But we should not be living life every day with our legs kicked up, just taking in the scene watching everybody do their thing, and then have the nerve to wonder why is my life the way that it is? I'll tell you why. It's because you're not an active participant in it. You've allowed life and the floating and the relaxing to become the main character in your life and you have been reduced to a side piece. You have been reduced to a supporting actor or a supporting actress in your own movie, and not a really good one. You're not winning an award for your performance. That sounds harsh. So what? We have to stop floating through life and then get so upset when good things are happening to other people and things are happening in other people's lives because they're actively, they're taking control and they're doing things.
Speaker 1:I used to have these moments where I would look at somebody who'd done something that I'd done, that they had done a whole lot better and were having a whole lot more success, and immediately I'd be like dang, how'd they get all the breaks. How'd they get all these connections? How'd they get all of these things? How'd they get this and how'd they get that? And then I would sit and I would look at myself and I'd say, hmm, while they were probably writing their book, I was on Netflix. While they were pitching their book to publishers, I was playing NBA 2K. Ah, I was on a float trip. I was being lazy. I wasn't bringing the main character energy to my life. I wasn't bringing that energy. I was being a very poor imitation of who I'm supposed to be. And because I was being a poor imitation of who I was supposed to be, I was letting myself down and letting down everybody else around me.
Speaker 1:So I've resolved that no more am I going to allow my life to be a float trip, not all the time. Now again, there are gonna be times where you are stressed. Life is chaotic, everything is going on in your life and you just need to float for a little bit. That's fine, but I don't want you to ever find yourself in a position where a one day float trip becomes one week, or a one week float trip becomes one month, or a one month float trip becomes a one year float trip, because imagine how much time you've lost in the journey and pathway that you're supposed to be on. Remember, time is not slowing down for any of us. We're getting older and so what we do with each day matters the people that we meet. It matters the skills we develop. Yo, they matter. And I'm passionate about this man cause I've wasted a lot of time and I don't want you to waste time on your journey, because there are people for you to motivate, there are people for you to uplift, people for you to unlock. Yo, yo yo, there was impact and influence for you to have. There is income for you to earn that can drastically change the course of your life and the generations that come after you, and I'm serious about that. I need you to be serious about that too.
Speaker 1:Stop floating through life 24, seven. Quit treating life like a float trip. Only you can remove the glue and, if you feel stuck, evaluate, reflect. We're good at looking busy. We're really good at looking engaged. We will sit at a job that we don't like for five, 10, 15 years because it's secure. To me that sounds like a float trip.
Speaker 1:At some point, you're going to have to trade that float in for a raft and hop out on the rapids and see if you can cut it. You've got to grab that paddle. You've got to put on your life jacket and you've got to get out there on those rapids, because life is the rapids. You've got to get out there on the rapids and you've got to paddle, paddle, paddle. You might fall out the boat. Somebody will grab you, put you back in and you start back paddling again, but we are not floating. We are not floating. We don't float, not if you want to get where you want to get, not if you want to keep having the audacity to dream big dreams, but you want to float. No, we're not floating. We're not floating. I need you to hear me. We are not floating, all right.
Speaker 1:Reason number three why we may still feel stuck in life it's simply because we're living with dirty glasses. You're like what we're doing? What? Living with dirty glasses? Coach, yeah, if you're feeling stuck, you may be living with dirty glasses. Here's what I mean. You don't have any clarity, you don't have a clear direction, you don't have a clear purpose or a clear pathway in front of you. It's like you're living life with drunk goggles on, so you are disoriented. You don't have clarity. So you can't make a plan, which means you can't decide on a direction, which means you're really just kind of like a character, an NPC, a non-player character in a video game, just kind of walking around aimlessly because that's what your programming says. But that's not really what your programming says, because you're not an NPC, you're not just a pre-programmed character in a video game. You are a living, breathing human in life. And if you are living life with dirty glasses, then it's time to take those glasses off and it's time to clean them. It's time to get some clarity. It is time to get some clarity.
Speaker 1:When you don't have a clear sense of what you want to achieve or where you're headed, then it's easy to feel lost, it's easy to feel stuck, it's easy to feel stagnant. And I know and I've been there, and some days, y'all, if I'm honest with you, I'm still there there were some days, y'all, if you knew, if you knew I was talking to my daughter about this the other day, and I don't know how many of you have a brain like me, but I know there are a lot of us out there where there's one thing that I need to do. I have an idea about this thing I started then, oh my gosh, there's another thing that sounds even better. Let me switch over to this. And there's another thing. And all of a sudden, a week has gone by and I've done nothing. But I have all of these unfinished things, and I've said this before y'all. If you all knew how many unfinished manuscripts I have saved in my Google Drive, you would look at me like I'm some kind of psycho.
Speaker 1:I wrote I've written two books, actual books in my lifetime. One I did during Nenorimo, which is a writing contest that happens in November, where you try to write I believe it's a 30,000 word novel in 30 days. I did it in 26 days. It's fiction. It's called A New Day and I put it up on Wattpad because, whatever, I didn't want to edit it and I had no intentions of publishing it. I wrote my second book that came out in 2020. And it wasn't inspired right. Really it was, but I'm really a lazy writer. But I want to write more books and I wonder why I haven't written more books. And when I see friends of mine who are writing more books, I'm like man, I should be writing more books, but every time I sit down to write another book.
Speaker 1:My brain goes off in a million different directions and sometimes I have a hard time bringing it in because I'm looking through dirty glasses. I don't have clarity and direction and some days it's going to be like that. But we can't accept that as a general way of being. We can't accept living life without direction as a general methodology for living, because it's not and we shouldn't accept it as such. In everything that we do Hear me, hear me in everything that we do, we need to seek clarity, because the clarity will inform our why and the why will inform our what, our how, our when, our where. But it all starts with being able to see clearly.
Speaker 1:I'm supposed to wear glasses. I don't wear them, I know, wag a finger at me, but when I put them on sometimes my glasses they're so dirty because I haven't cleaned them in a while, because I can still kind of see through them In the moment. I don't want to take the time to actively clean them. And that's so many of us we are squinting through dirty frames because we don't want to take the time to clear things out so that we can actually see where we're going and what we're doing, and not what we think where we think we're going and what we think we're supposed to be doing. That's not going to get it anymore. That's not going to get it because, yes, you're great, but I've got to coach you up.
Speaker 1:Right now you need clarity, and there are enough coaches out there. There are enough programs out there, there are enough courses out there. There are enough therapists out there that can help you achieve the clarity that you so desperately want and need in your life. There is no more reason for you to be stuck. It's time to remove the glue. It's simply time for you to take responsibility for why you are where you are and how you're going to get where you want to go.
Speaker 1:And I'm sorry, but doing it through dirty glasses, that ain't it. Your purpose is too important. Your pathway, the reason why you're here, is too important for you to leave your life, the steps, the heartbeats that you have left up to chance. Do you hear me Like, do you really hear me? You're too important to so many people to live life without a sense of clarity. Let me say that again You're too incredibly important to too many people for you to live your life without clarity. You gotta have it. You need it, I need it. We need it.
Speaker 1:And if we are consistently living life without clarity, purpose, clarity of thought, clarity of direction if we are doing that, we're doing life at this service and, honestly, we are really telling ourselves what we really think about ourselves. Because if we keep allowing ourselves to live life without a sense of clarity, then basically what's happening is I'm saying to myself my life is not matter enough for me to get clear on why I'm here. I don't know how to say it any more clear with any more clarity than that. I have to say when you begin to value yourself more, you will begin to value clarity more. So that's the three we treat life. There are three reasons why we're stuck. We treat life like an alarm clock when we keep it in snooze, we treat life like a float trip and we're living life through dirty glasses. Those are the three. Those are Coach J's ways of saying as great as we are, we have more levels to get.
Speaker 1:And if you are feeling stuck, if you know somebody who's feeling stuck, I need you to share this episode with them. Let them know that Coach J is getting all up in their business. Don't hate me, because I love y'all. I love all of y'all, even though we've never met, I love you. I'll dap you up, I'll hug your neck and I'll still tell you in person I love you. You're great. But there's another level that you can attain. But, especially if you're feeling stuck right now, I've given you three ways to get unstuck. But you have to remove the glue because only you can do it. Only you can do it. Ha. And that has been episode 25 of season two of the pep talk podcast. I'm so glad that y'all are still here with me. It means so much. And do me a favor, do me a favor Share this episode with your friends, share it with your family, share it with your enemies, with your friend and me, share it with people you don't know.
Speaker 1:Word of mouth is is huge for a podcaster and for the mission that I'm on, for the people that I want to meet. The purpose, the passion, the pathway that I'm on with this. I can't do it alone and I don't want to. I want us, pep squad, to do it together. You are integral to this. So let's, let's, let's, let's do it together. All right, let's do it together. Y'all.
Speaker 1:This has been a season two, episode 25 of the pep talk podcast. I am your host, coach J Yo, a life coaching DFW. Reach out on social media. Reach out via email at the pep podcast at gmailcom. Let me know what you think about this episode. Which one of those one, two or three do you struggle with the most? And if we helped you, how are we going to apply what you've learned here to your life? Let me know. I want to hear back from you. Holla back, holla back, and we will see you next Monday, but make this week the best week of 2024.
Speaker 1:It's February. It's time to get it. If you hadn't been getting it yet, if you hadn't started getting it, what are you waiting on? Let's get it, let's go. It's time to get it. All right, I think you get me. I think you get me, yo, I wonder how we end every episode, right? Yeah, you do. Keep it love, keep it light and keep it. Pippa Ha ha. Season two, episode 25 of the pep talk podcast. I love you. It's coach Jay. We'll see you next week. Y'all be blessed, stay with the rock.