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Eliminating Excuses: It's Time for Action!
Ever found yourself brimming with excuses when staring down the barrel of your own ambitions? Let's face it, we've all been there—dodging our potential with a well-crafted reason to stay in our comfort zone. Today, I've got a tale for you about an unexpected pep talk that flipped the script on a coach, and it's bound to get you fired up about ditching those pesky excuses. Plus, I take a hard look at my own battles with procrastination and share a few personal anecdotes that I hope will resonate with you.
Fear can be a real stickler, often disguised as a myriad of excuses that hold us back from who we could become. In this session, I unpack the fear that lurks behind every 'I can't' and 'maybe tomorrow.' Whether it's the discomfort of trying something new or the dread of potential failure, I'm throwing down some truth bombs that just might help you keep your integrity intact and your goals in check. Get ready to break your larger-than-life dreams into bite-sized, actionable pieces, because it's time to shift from 'I wish' to 'I will.'
As we wrap up today's chat, I'm thrilled to extend an invitation to tune in for our upcoming series, especially curated for the gentlemen listeners out there. This isn't your regular pep talk; it's an essential deep dive into growth and development that's crucial for men and all who support them. So whether you're a fellow bro looking to level up or someone keen on contributing to a man's journey, join me, Coach J, for this pivotal series—where we carry the torch of love, light, and a healthy dose of pep into all our tomorrows.
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So my wife gave the coach of pep talk and I can't wait to tell you what she said and more in this episode. But first I have a question for you have you had your dose of pep today? No, don't worry, I've got you and let's get into it. Welcome to the pep talk podcast. This is season two, episode 26, and our mission is the same as it's always been it's been to cheer you on and to coach you up. We believe that everybody needs a cheerleader to encourage them to rah, rah, rah them to sys, boom bah. Them to yell out D fit, d fit. But we also need somebody who's able to look at us objectively and say, yeah, you're great, yeah, you have a lot of things working for you, but if we work on a few more things, a few more tweaks, then you will be even greater and your impact and your influence will be even greater and the quality of your life will improve so much and your ability to reach people will improve so much. And so that's why we do this podcast every week, every Monday, I come to you and I want to talk about this, your one on one coaching session with coach J, I ama live coach and a mindset development coach in DFW and it is my privilege to be here with you. If you are a first time listener to the podcast, welcome. It's an honor that you're choosing to spend some time with us to start your week. If you have been coming to us and hanging out week after week. Thank you so much. I appreciate you. I just want you to know from me to you I appreciate you taking the time to invest in yourself, to invest in your impact, to invest in the person that you are and the person that you could be. And if you all would do me a favor, if you are deriving any value from this podcast, if you would.
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Speaker 1:Let us know how you're processing the episodes, which episodes have been most impactful to you and who are you sharing these episodes with? Because, whether you're on YouTube or wherever you're watching this, however, you're listening to this. There is a share function and I need you to go ahead and hit that share button so that more people can be exposed to the mission that we're on, just to spread pep and positivity, to motivate, to inspire and to encourage every person that we come into contact with. We want to leave situations and leave people better than we found them, if at all possible. I believe that is part of my mission from God, and so I am blessed and I'm favored to have this platformer that you have chosen to listen to me on your Monday or whenever during the week you're listening to this episode. Thank you, thank you, thank you. Now I know you're like okay, coach, I want to hear about this pep talk that your wife gave you.
Speaker 1:Okay, I'll tell you a story, and really it starts about maybe two weeks ago now. So my wife and I my wife is a chiropractor and about two weeks ago she got invited to a networking event that was hosted by one of her patients who does work with the Texas Legends, our minor league, our NBA developmental league team, in the area for the Dallas Maverick. So he invites us to come to a mixture. That tried around the corner from our house and she was invited. I wasn't going to go, you know, I was just going to let her go because she's the bright and shining star, and I just said, you know, babe, you're going to go, you're going to knock them down, they're going to love you. And then she was like I need you to come with me. I'm like what, what Now? Something about coach Jay? All right, now y'all hear the energy in my voice. Y'all can see it on the screen, right, it just jumps off at you, right?
Speaker 1:I'm really kind of an introvert, probably more so an ambivert the odor that I get. But I love being by myself and reading books and just pondering things. But I also love pouring into people. So that's where the extrovert part of me comes out. But as far as networking and getting into rooms with people that I don't know, that is an area that is an opportunity for improvement in my life. And so when she says I want you to come to this networking event, I was like, okay, sure, babe, anything for you. So we go and it's really a great time.
Speaker 1:I talked to a few people apart from her. People gave me, you know, their business cards and you know people were asking what I did. You know, I said I'm a podcast or I'm a life coach. I also work in education. They're like, they're like where's your card? Guess, who didn't have a card? Guess, who didn't even have cards made this guy, but we made it through that night.
Speaker 1:All right, it was fun, it really was fun. The food there was pretty good, the energy was great, the atmosphere was high. It was just vibes, it was vibes, and so so she came back from that. She was on like 10, really, she was on 12, and she was looking at me and every day of the week, after the mixer, she was like, babe, do you know you can do this and this and this? And you know, you're, you're wanting to make changes and you're, you're wanting to grow, and how about doing this and this and this? And in my brain I'm just like, yeah, but you just don't understand.
Speaker 1:And so then last week, toward the probably about Wednesday of last week, we are winding down for the night and, man, listen, I come to y'all with passion and y'all could tell how much I believe in you and how much I'm rooting for you, and I don't know what kind of faces you all are making when I am talking to you, but my wife, she just kind of hit me with this. So what's your plan? What's your plan, like? You know, how are we going to get these? How are we going to take what you do and package it and repurpose it and, you know, grow your podcast and get you speaking engagements and get you more coaching clients? And what are we going to do? Now?
Speaker 1:It's late and I'm tired. I just want to go to sleep and I really don't want to think about anything too deep, but she's, she's, she's on one, she is on one and she's like baby. I have so much going for you. Like people need to hear you, people need to meet you, you need to get out, you need to be riding more, you need to get that website up and going, you need to be advertising your offers. You need to be doing this and doing that. And in my brain, y'all in my head, I'm just like but you don't understand, it's a lot harder than what you're making it out to be, and I'm doing my best and him and and hawing and all this stuff inside of my head. On the outside I'm just like, yeah, babe, you're right, you're right, you're right. Um, and I didn't sleep well that night because I knew that she was right. But there was also another reason that I didn't sleep well.
Speaker 1:And I woke up the next morning and I was looking for a devotional to do on on my Bible lap and I came across this devotional that just said eliminating excuses. I was like, okay, god, here we go, here we go. Now, if you don't know anything about me, I need you to know that I'm going to be truthful to me about me and y'all. I make excuses, I make excuses, I do, I really do make excuses and while I have gotten better about that over the years, especially since I've started doing this podcast and the, the discipline and the consistency in my own life is that has come to bear and it's producing other fruit.
Speaker 1:I used to be a master excuse maker and I could probably dip into my bag and come up with this with some great excuses. I like I. I was not your basic, the dog ate my homework. Excuse maker, I could come up with something magnificent, y'all, I'm a writer, right, I can write descriptive fiction. So I can tell a story if I need to tell a story.
Speaker 1:But what I realized that morning is that there are still some excuses that I need to eliminate from my life if I'm going to optimize, if I'm going to self-actualize, if I'm going to become the best version of me that I need to be in order to accomplish the goals that I have for my life. And so, as I'm thinking about this whole thing, I'm thinking and y'all could tell me if I'm wrong I'm probably not the only good excuse maker that I know, and you're probably not the only good excuse maker that you know. So there's probably a whole population of people out there who need to hear this message about eliminating excuses. And so that's what we're talking about today. We're going to chop it up, we're going to talk about the reasons why we make excuses, and then I'm going to give you some tips, some strategies, if you will, to help you overcome this need to make excuses. So first, here we go, here we go, and when I say my wife the chiropractor gave the coach a pep talk out of this world. She sure did. She read my mail, she lit into me and I took it. I took my medicine, I took my medicine. So let's talk about the reasons why people make fear.
Speaker 1:First, let's understand that that making excuses is a natural human response. There's nothing unnatural about it, there's nothing abnormal about it. It's actually a pretty normal thing. We care what others think about us and we want to fit in. And in situations where you know we think that one of those two things may not happen, or both of those two things, we make excuses and rather than face uncomfortable discussions and feelings, we make excuses and we avoid responsibility, and that's an issue.
Speaker 1:And I also know the people who make excuses may feel happy in the moment because we and I noticed I said we are avoiding the pain in the moment. But what happens long term with that? The more we make excuses, the more we avoid the critical conversations, the more we avoid the critical decisions, those things that can shape our lives for decades and not just for days, when we avoid facing them in the moment and we make an excuse to delay the inevitable. It hurts us long term. It really does hurt us long term, and so we don't want to give ourselves decades of anxiousness, anxiety, depression, all of these things. If it's something that we can deal with in the next few days or over a few days, okay, we want to eliminate the option of making excuses. We absolutely do. We want to eliminate the option of making excuses, and I'm going to say this too, and I think this is important to be said my wife is able to speak truth to me because I allow. I allow it.
Speaker 1:A lot of us people just tell us what we want to hear. You know, they never give us any criticisms, they never challenge us, because we have not given people the permission to be trustworthy in our lives. We have not allowed people to speak to who we really are. We presented them, you know, this facade. We present to them, you know, this person that we think that they should get to know instead of the truest. But y'all, we cannot be blessed, we will never be blessed based on who we try to be. The only blessings that we can truly incur and receive in this life are based on who we are, and so if you're out there wearing a mask right now, if you're afraid to let people get to know you.
Speaker 1:Yo, you need to listen to this entire episode, because I'm going to help you now. I'm going to help you now, but I just have to say we need people in our lives who have permission to tell us the truth. And I don't know who's coming to your brain right now, but you're listening to this. But if there are people in your lives that don't have permission to tell you the truth, why are they even in your lives? And really it's a you issue, it's not them, because they probably want to tell you that they know when you're making excuses, they know when you're avoiding responsibility, they know when you're doing all this other stuff except stepping into your best self. We need people in our lives who are going to challenge us and when we make excuses, they're going to say, nope, that's an excuse, what else you got? I'm just being honest. I'm just being honest because coach J loves you and if you're listening to me, then maybe you've given me permission to speak truth to you as well, because you need people who have permission to tell you the truth Now, moving on.
Speaker 1:So why do people make excuses? It comes down to three reasons. Okay, the number one is fear, number two is uncertainty and the third one is a lack of purpose. So I want to talk about each of these three things and I want you to try to see yourself in one or more of them, because I think that if you see yourself in him, it really drives home. It really drives home what, what, what's happening with it? So the first one is fear, and I'm going to camp here at fear for a little bit, because there are five fears that really contribute to us making excuses, and I really have a feeling that you're going to to find yourself into one of them.
Speaker 1:So excuses, most excuses are rooted in fear of some type. All right, so there's the fear of the unknown. So people are cautious in taking risks that might upset their current reality. They don't want to make changes to their current daily behaviors. It doesn't matter if those behaviors are in their best interest. Right? So if you tell me that for for for breakfast, I probably shouldn't have a McGrittle, but I should probably have egg whites, that makes me uncomfortable. I don't know if I'm going to actually like egg whites. So immediately there's a fear of there. There there is a lifestyle change that I need to make that I did not make and that I'm afraid of making because it's going to disrupt the things that I like, which is really a small thing on the scope of facing my health Right.
Speaker 1:I remember when I was first diagnosed with type two diabetes, it was because I was making horrible choices with food over a large portion of my life. But when my doctor said I need you to make changes, I didn't fear the changes actually in the first, at first. I actually did at first. Actually did because I was like man, I can't have burgers, I can't have pancakes. And I remember y'all almost like passed out because right after that first, that first doctor's appointment, I did not eat a carb the entire day. I ate like a couple of pieces of sandwich meat. I had some grapes and I drank some soup out of the little soup can that you get at the store had no carbs and I was a dead man walking and I was like man. This is what I was afraid of not being able to have the stuff I normally have. But then I realized, when I went back to the doctor and the doctor fully explained the process to me, then I truly understood and I was. It wasn't. She wasn't saying that I needed to quit eating all the things that I loved. She was saying that I need to make better decisions overall, and once I was able to rationalize between having, you know, pancakes a lot or waffles a lot with lots of syrup, maybe, maybe, instead of having that, maybe just having some eggs and a piece of sausage or something like that, that's going to fuel my body in the right way, but also make sure that I'm here for the long term, y'all.
Speaker 1:A lot of times, we are afraid of the unknown and so we say it's just not the right time, and so we stay in a situation that's bad for us. We stay in a health situation that's bad for us because we are afraid of what the new normal might look like. We think it's going to be bad, and so there's a fear of the unknown. Okay, we don't like to make change, so we stay stuck in a reality that's not serving us, instead of shifting into something that's going to be better for us long term. There's also the fear of consequence, so sometimes people fear embracing what they already know to be true and they make up excuses for not facing the outcome. So let's say, if there is a deadline for work that somebody hasn't paid attention to. Then, and they know that the consequence of missing that deadline might mean that they're fired or put on a performance improvement plan, they might choose to tell their boss a lie or give some type of excuse, like the email wasn't clear or it got stuck into my spam folder and I missed it, or this or that, and instead of owning responsibility for the conflict like I didn't do it, that's on me they choose to make an excuse.
Speaker 1:I remember telling you all a couple of episodes ago about an instance that I have and I was working in HR where I didn't do something right and it affected another employee's benefits, when my boss came to me and was like I told you time after time to do this. Why didn't you do this? Why did you not do this? I had two options in that moment. I could have said I didn't understand the system, I didn't understand the process, but no, I chose to be honest. I didn't do it because I did not make the proper time, I didn't manage my time well and I didn't have it written down, so I wasn't organized Like I told you. I'm gonna be honest about me. I'm gonna be honest about me and I'm gonna be honest to me, and so I owned and accepted that consequence instead of rationalizing it away.
Speaker 1:One might dismiss exercise by saying you know I'm tired, I worked all day and I don't have the energy to work out. Instead of saying you know, instead of saying if I don't work out now, then I'll never make the changes that I need to my health. So we're afraid of the consequence, so we don't own the responsibility of the consequence. We make an excuse, and excuses are a slippery slope, like choices like that, like that to work out can lead to the consequence of weight gain or the return of old, unhealthy habits and before you know it, you're skipping the gym and having a binge session of Doritos while watching a favorite TV show like Breaking Bad. But embracing the fear of consequence means becoming exponentially honest. You've got to be a truth teller to yourself, because that helps you to cultivate self-respect, both personally and professionally. And honestly in here, you know when you're telling the truth and when you're just messing around Facts.
Speaker 1:Alright, number three fear of failure. I find this hits a lot of people, so this may hit you too. So failure is one of the biggest reasons why people don't make healthy changes. Whether it's professionally, whether it's personally, fear of not being successful at something is entwined and or twined with not being able to take risks. You cannot take risks if you fear not being successful. If you fear failure, you will always be stuck. In Stephen Covey's book Seven Habits of the Highly Effective People, he talks about how being proactive is one of the most important characteristics of successful and effective people, and he says that that one quality alone proactivity is the building block to the other six habits of successful people.
Speaker 1:I read something in the Business Insider that said successful people react differently to failure than unsuccessful people. Successful people don't like to fail, but it's not the end-all be all for them. It is a learning process, and most successful people will tell you that you cannot fail success without failure. You've got to try, and we've had episodes about this. You have to try, you have to take the risk, and here's what I want to tell you about failure.
Speaker 1:I'm not saying don't feel the fear. What I'm saying is don't let it stop you. Don't let it stop you and then, when it happens, learn from it. Jot a note down in a notebook, make yourself an audio note, because I'm willing to bet that the one thing standing between you and your big idea, the one thing standing between you and a different tax bracket. The one thing standing between you and the life of your dreams is that you feel the fear and you take the fear, you interpret the fear to mean that you shouldn't do it, when really the fear is just an acknowledgement that you're about to do something risky. And from there your cognitive process has to kick in and say okay, I've received the notification, I've seen the road signs slip, re-slope ahead.
Speaker 1:Okay, okay, I'm a little bit afraid, I'm a lot of afraid, but I'm going to do it anyway and quit making excuses. Why not? I haven't written the book because I can't get focused enough to write the book. I haven't, you know, written down the coaching plan because I'm afraid that nobody's going to, nobody's going to take it. But I don't know if Michael Jordan was the only one who said this, but it's attributed to him when he said you miss a hundred percent of the shots that you don't take. At some point you've got to take the shot. At some point you have to develop the program, you have to get the patent, you have to produce the product, you have to debut the service. At some point you have to do it and even though you feel the fear, you have to get to a point where you're going to do it anyway. As a life coach, I know because I see it in myself.
Speaker 1:The fear of failure is the primary, primary reason that people create excuses, feel the fear but do it anyway. Number four we have a fear of what others think of us. No matter how much people say they don't care, they do care. It applies to teenagers, it applies to adults and as much as we want to say I've outgrown that. Have you, have you really, have you really? One of the biggest reasons and psychological research shows this is that one of the biggest reasons that adults resist changes, because they want the support and approval of their family and friends. It's easier to make choices when we know that other people are behind us and want us to succeed.
Speaker 1:When I talk to people and they talk about changes that they are afraid to make, I ask them how many people in your life are against it and what are they saying to you about it? Oh, now we can start having conversations, because one of the greatest concerns is that one person is ready to commit but the rest of the party is not, and we often delay making big decisions and essential and integral changes in our lives because we don't have people rooting for us or the people that we expect to root for us are against us making the choice, and so, because the people that we know best are not in favor of it, maybe now is not the right time. And see, people may not want to be concerned about what others think of them, but that specific approval, that love, that respect of the people who know you best, ooh, that stops us in our tracks. I'll be honest with you. I used to not share a lot about my podcast when my book Slaying the Lion Hunt what is Hunting you came out back in 2020. Yo, I was scared to death of posting on social media because I was afraid of what people would think of me. I was afraid that people were going to get sick of seeing my posts. I was afraid that people were going to like, oh, here's Justin trying something else, he's doing something else that he's going to give up on, and all of him and in all this stuff. I was afraid of what other people were going to think. But we got to be done with that.
Speaker 1:And then, lastly, there is a fear of hard work and dedication. I'm giving you five fears that caused us to make excuses. So sometimes people are just playing lazy and I tell my wife this about myself, I'll say babe, I'm lazy. I realize that it takes a lot for me to get myself into a frame of mind where the discipline kicks in and I do what needs to be done. I recognize that, but sometimes people are just playing lazy.
Speaker 1:Like laziness is also associated with procrastination, which so Lollie Daskal, the president of lead from within, says that procrastination is the worst kind of self-fulfilling prophecy. She says it is demotivating and it leads to apathy. And also I heard this quote and I see it all the time on Instagram that procrastination is the sin of believing that we're owed more time. Think about that. Being apathetic or afraid of setting goals is one of the hardest fears to overcome. Learning something new it's a hard fear to overcome. Using energy toward achievement it's a hard fear to overcome. And if you have it, I understand, because I can be right there with you at times. But listen, for procrastination and laziness and having a fear of hard work is one of the most detrimental qualities to progression. You're wondering why you haven't leveled up. You're wondering why your business hasn't taken off. Could it be that you are? You have a fear of the hard work on the obstacles and challenges that you were going to come up against on this?
Speaker 1:I haven't written more books, honestly, because writing a book is hard work. You're getting, you're getting, personal truths from me right now. I haven't written another book is writing a book is hard work and I don't want to take the year or year and a half that it might take to write one. But I know that I need to write another book, two books, maybe even three. I already have them in my head, but I haven't done it because work. But I recognize at some point that I have to stop being paralyzed by thinking about what the work is going to look like and I just have to do the work. And that's what I'm telling you right now. Stop thinking about how hard the work is. Think about instead what's going to happen if you don't, the regret that you're going to feel at some point, because the regret will come. So what you're going to do when the room, the regret starts to hit at the end of your life and you no longer have the time to write the book. You no longer have the time to start the workout plan. You no longer have the time to do whatever it is is coming to your mind right now as you're listening to it.
Speaker 1:Y'all, we've got to overcome the fears and we have to stop creating excuses based on those five fears. But there's also so. Fear is one of the reasons we make excuses. There's also one certainty as human beings, one of the six things that drives our decisions is the need to have certainty. We want to be sure, and that's why we stand our comfort zones, because we're sure. The couch is comfy, right, the chips tastes good, the TV is great. Why move into something that I don't know about? Because when you stay in uncertainty, you stay stuck, you are overriding. You are overriding the need for you to progress and to grow. You got to stop that. And then, real quick.
Speaker 1:Lack of purpose also creates excuses in our lives, because if you don't have a goal that you were shooting for, if you haven't discovered your purpose or your pathway, then you will naturally make excuses as to why things aren't happening. And I'm not talking about people who have a lot of pathways in front of them or they're trying to decide which one to take. I'm talking about the person who has absolutely no idea what comes next. You have to get clarity. Life coaches can help you with clarity, I can help you with clarity, people can help you with clarity. You just have to get clear and you have to be truthful with yourself. Right, you've got to be truthful with yourself and stop making excuses. Okay, so we've talked about how to uh the things that keep us making excuses fear, a lack of purpose and uncertainty. Those three things are the reasons why we make excuses.
Speaker 1:Now, real quick, I'm going to talk about some ways that we can get out of making excuses, that we can just eliminate the excuses, man Cause we yo, it's 2024. It's February. It's time to stop making excuses, coach Jay, it's time to quit making excuses. I'll give you all the truth. I'll give you all the real deal. I don't, I don't sugarcoat it and I'm not going to lie to you. Okay, we all make excuses, but it's 2024. It's time for us to be on our grown man and grown woman stuff. It's time for us to own it. It's time for us to tell ourselves the truth and it's time to get on our business. Do you hear me? All right. So how do we eliminate excuses in our lives? Okay? So let's start with this one.
Speaker 1:When it comes to setting goals, because a lot of people will get paralyzed by goals, think about what your big goal is and set smaller goals as a pathway to that larger goal. I came across a website this week. A friend recommended it to me. It's called asana Asanacom. It is an amazing website where it helps you to break down the steps in your goal, where you can give yourself a time for completion for each micro part of that goal leading to the completion of the big goal.
Speaker 1:So let's say that your ultimate goal is to travel to Europe. Okay, so a small goals checklist might look like this. So determine countries to visit by Wednesday evening Okay. Pick a travel date by Friday. Research ticket and accommodation options by the following Tuesday. Book airfare by the end of July. Book accommodations by the end of August. Trip is in September. So you give yourself micro goals along the way that help you achieve the bigger goal.
Speaker 1:What is your big goal If you're writing a book? I keep coming back to books. I don't know why. How many words do you need to write per day If it's going back to school? Do you have a list of schools that you want to go to? Okay, let's start looking at each one. Jot down notes, okay.
Speaker 1:When you set smaller goals that add up to the completion of a big goal, it allows you to quit making excuses along the way, because it's easier to hold yourself accountable to small things than it is to big things, and small things don't scare us as much as big things, right, right, anything that you want in your life is determined by the practical steps that you take to get there, and you have to understand that those practical steps, those small steps, when they add up and begin to compound, they bring you closer to achieving your ultimate goal. All right. So, number two, I want to put a thought into your brain. If others have it, if others have done it, then why can't I Like? We look at people, right, who've done amazing things in the arenas and the avenues that we're interested in doing amazing things in. We know that we have it. We have the charisma, we have the work ethic, we have the idea, we have the creativity, we have the dedication, we have whatever you have.
Speaker 1:A lot of times, we find ourselves dreaming through the lives of other people and making excuses as to why somebody else is a great actor doing this. Maybe I'm not as good of an actor, or maybe you looked at an influencer's page and you saw success story upon success story about transformations and everything, and you're like I probably could do that too. I just don't have this. Starting today, ask yourself if somebody else have done this, then why can't I do it? Why can't I be the person that inspires others, that thousands of people are listening to? Why can't I be the speaker on the grand stages that people are hooping and hollering ready to have? Why can't I be the person with the Fortune 500 business? Why can't I be the person who starts a successful high school choir? Why can't I be the person who starts a dance company when nobody else would take me? Why can't I be that person?
Speaker 1:You can, and the moment you quit making the excuses as to why you cannot, the quicker you'll be on the pathway to becoming that person, because if they did it, then you can too. And you may say they had all these things going for them. So what? You have things going for you too. Maybe not all of the resources and the backing that they have. Maybe not all the fans listening to you on Instagram and TikTok? Maybe not, but if you don't start now and if you keep living your life through the lens of what somebody else has done, you'll never do it, and then the people who are going to be looking to you for their inspiration will never be able to get it. You don't have to be the person witnessing everyone else changing and experiencing the best of life. This can be you too, but it will never be if you continue making excuses. Understand all humans are capable of growth, and when you start investing in your own growth and stop living through the lives of other people, then you will be able to stop making excuses for why you haven't and you will become a doer. Did you hear me? All right, I'm going to give you one more. One more way to quit making excuses.
Speaker 1:The first one was to set small goals. The second one was to understand that if others have it, if others have done it, why can't you? And the next one stop saying I want to and start saying I'm going to why? Why would I do that? Because going is an active word. To want something that's passive is I don't know what I want. To become a best-selling author? Okay, you can want it, all you want, but unless you're in the process of writing homie is never going to happen. Instead, say I'm going to, I'm going to become, because going represents vision, it sets direction, it sets a desire for next steps and a final outcome Going. Going is the move, going is the vibe. Instead of saying I want to move to a new city. Say I'm going. Instead of saying I want to get a new job, I'm going to get a new job. Wanting is a dream, it's a concept, it's nebulous, it's not tangible. Going oh yeah. If I'm going to do something, I'm putting something into action that's going to make it happen. And when you're going to do something, something in your brain clicks and says if I'm going to do this, I can't really afford to make excuses, I've got to be accountable. See, going speaks to accountability, it speaks to responsibility, it speaks to it's me. I've got to do it. You know what I said. Let me give you another one. Let me give you another one because I just talked about this.
Speaker 1:Don't compare yourself to others. So I know you. I just told you that if others have done it, so can you. I'm not telling you to compare yourself to anybody, because our journeys are different. We're different people with different vibes, different resources, different messages. Just because someone else has achieved the goal that you admire, that you don't have, you don't have to compare yourself to them. You just have to understand that if it is to be for you, it will be in a way that is authentic to you. It's going to come through your talent, your skills, your ability. It's going to come through what you already have inside of you, not what somebody else has inside of them. They don't care what you have. They're not looking at you. So I don't want you looking at them in a way that makes you envious. I want you to look at them in a way that inspires you to take action and quit making excuses, because we've got to stop making excuses. Our excuses are keeping us stuck. You know what? I'm going to give you another one, and this is going to be the last one. This is the last one.
Speaker 1:If you want to stop making excuses, get support. You need people in your life and I say this at the top of the podcast. You need people in your life who are going to check you on your mess. You need people who can see through the excuses. You need people who can see through all the ways that you limit yourself. You need people who can speak to you and tell you the truth. So you need support. Get a mentor, join a mastermind group, connect with a live coach. Talk to me. I would be glad to help you along this process, because I won't accept your excuses either, because I don't accept mine. All right, so we are done with excuses. It is time to handle the business and it's time to leave the bull alone, alone. You heard me? Of course you did. Of course you did. All right, y'all.
Speaker 1:This has been season two, episode 26 of the Peptalk Podcast with y'all Boy Coach J, your life coach, your future life coach, your current life coach. Come on Book with the boy book with me, come on In DFW, and I'm glad that we got to spend time together to start your week, hopefully bringing you some motivation, some inspiration, some encouragement, hopefully getting you amped up for what's ahead of you, because you're great, but you can be greater. The well is still deep. There's still more to uncover. So grab that shovel and let's dig. You gotta dig, you gotta dig Again, if any of this has been helpful, so you leave a five star rating and leave a glowing review.
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Speaker 1:Before we end, men, I need you to tap in next week because I'm gonna start a short series of podcasts that are for men and for the people who love them. I did this in the first season and it went over well. Man, I'm coming for you again. I'm coming for us because it's time for us to grow, and so, if you know a man, if you are a man or if you love a man, I want you to be in the place next week, as it's time for us to do some work. All right now, y'all know how we end the podcast Keep it love, keep it light and keep it peppy. Y'all know how it is. This is the Pep Talk podcast, season two, episode 26, with your host, coach Jake. Have a blessed week. We'll see you next time, peace.