BONUS: Building Self-Worth: Embracing Hardship as a Catalyst for Growth

Ever looked in the mirror and questioned your own self-worth? On today's episode, we're powering through midweek slumps by examining Jay Shetty's wisdom about self-worth's roots in overcoming challenges. 

Coach Jay gets real with us, sharing insights into the internal struggle we face when we break promises to ourselves. It's a candid exploration of the personal trials we endure, from rejection to self-deception, and the resilience needed to keep affirming our worth despite the world often saying 'no'. With Jay Shetty's thought-provoking perspective as our guide, we navigate the journey of self-validation, emphasizing that the true measure of our value lies in our actions, particularly when facing life's most daunting tasks. So tune in, because this pep bite is not just a pick-me-up – it's a battle cry for anyone ready to prove their worth to the most important judge: themselves.

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:00

Yo, have you had your dose of pep today? No, I've got you. Yo, this is Coach Jay here with a very special episode of the pep talk podcast. I'm gonna call this a pep bite and I think I'm gonna start doing these well, as much as I can, just because I think that sometimes middle of the week we need a little bit of extra pep. And I wanna be able to provide that for you. And the last time I did this I got some really good feedback on it. So I wanna kind of keep on it and keep building from it, just to come to you with just a brief micro episode that I hope can get you over the hump in your week and just shift some things in you as you're moving from one season into the next. And here's a message for today.

Speaker 1: 0:46

I recently saw a video from Jay Shetty, the masterful podcaster, interviewer you know mindfulness guy and he said this. He said that self-worth comes from doing hard things. Self-worth comes from doing hard things. Let's think about that for a second. We're often on this kick about self-love and loving ourselves and you know all of these things. And we often say you know, you've heard the saying we can do. You can do hard things. We say that a lot, especially with growth mindset, but this whole idea that self-worth comes from hard things, I think that's next level, because there is a portion of self-worth that comes from a confidence that we have to have in ourselves, and for many of us, for many of us, we have not yet proven to ourselves that we can do the things that we believe that we can and that we should believe the things about ourselves that we can. Like if I tell myself we're gonna get in better shape, self, we're gonna get in better shape. I've done this before. So if we're gonna get in better shape, we're gonna start getting up and going to the gym three times per week. And then Monday comes, I don't get up and I'm like, okay, self, we missed this, we missed Monday, or we're still gonna go Wednesday and Friday. Okay, wednesday cups nope, didn't make it. Self, we're gonna go Friday. I didn't go. What's happened?

Speaker 1: 2:22

I have lied to myself three times and so, as a result, the next time I say, okay, self, we're gonna get in shape, my enemy has no reason to believe that we're actually going to do. But we said that we're gonna do. So there becomes this cognitive dissonance that happens on the inside of us, when we've lied to ourselves so many times, when we've made promises to ourselves so many times. And so think about this whole idea of self worth. What am I really worth to me? Am I worth enough to me to tell the truth to myself about myself? Am I worth enough to myself to go through the hard things, to go through the season of rejection where the things that I really want to happen, every door is closed, every avenue is blocked and every person that I encounter keeps telling me no? Am I worth enough to myself to fight through those hard things, to learn what I can from those hard things and just to find a way to take one step and then to take another step?

Speaker 1: 3:34

See, I know somebody's listening to this and you are in a season of life where you don't think that your dreams are ever gonna come true. Your confidence may be at an all time low because the things that you thought that you were good at, nobody else believes that you're good at. Those things, the people that you've been desperately trying to convince that you can do, the very things that they keep telling you know about, you've allowed that to impact yourself first. But see, your self-worth is not about them. Your self-worth is about you answering the question what am I worth to me? And see the way that self-worth is developed in doing hard things. It's in doing the hard things that ultimately reveals what we really think about ourselves. So, no matter how many people have told you know about this thing that you believe that you're good at, are you worth enough to yourself to find a different way? Are you worth enough to yourself to continue believing even though everybody outside of you has told you know? Are you worth enough to yourself to tell yourself yes? Because see, if self-worth is proven in hard times and in hard seasons, too many of us have given up at the exact moment where our worth to ourselves should have told us.

Speaker 1: 5:01

Just to take one more step, just to have one more affirmation, just to do one more hard thing, just to get up one more morning and go to the gym, even though I haven't seen any results yet, just to go on one more audition, even though nine auditions prior I've just been told, though. Just to pitch to one more customer, even though 30 customers prior have told me no, am I worth enough to myself? Is my belief worth enough to myself to go through the hard time, to go through the hard season and refuse to allow my value to myself. Come on somebody to refuse to allow my worth to myself to be impacted by people who don't believe in me like I believe in me. I dare you to be worth enough to yourself to believe in you when nobody else believes in you, and don't just believe in you as a theological discourse or a philosophical exercise. I dare you to believe enough in yourself to have enough worth to yourself in those hard times to continue to take the kind of action that's going to get you where you want to go, put a seat. In the end of things, the only fuel that you need to get you over this obstacle and over this hump is just to believe that you can and that you are worth enough to yourself to keep going. Because Jay Shetty is right. He's proven in the hard times, and if I know anything about you is that you were made for hard times like this. All right, so that's your pet bite to get you through the rest of this week.

Speaker 1: 6:59

I'm your host coach, jay, and this has been a bonus episode of the pep talk podcast for this week. If you need something, let me know. Reach out at thepeppodcastcom or at underscore JB speaks on Instagram. Share this episode with somebody who needs it. Somebody needs a bit of pep, somebody needs some encouragement, and you're here, by deputized, as a member of the pep squad, to do just that. So share this episode. Let somebody know that you need them to hear this, that that's what they need to get over their hump, to get through their hard season, and I'll see you next time on the pep talk podcast. Y'all be blessed, peace.