Deciding Your Destiny, with Kyle Spyrides

In today’s episode of The Health Collective Podcast for Women in Business, Rita is joined by author and business owner, Kyle Spyrides.

Kyle Spyrides runs Soul Gazing Photography which is a Visual Storytelling and Content Marketing business that serves business owners looking to grow and make an authentic and lasting impact online and in the mind, hearts, and souls of those to who they wish to send their message. Kyle is also the Author of Amazon Bestseller, Decide Your Destiny; from a 33% Chance of Surviving to live out my dream life in every heartbeat and Custodian of the Decide Your Destiny Movement which extracts the full potential in the individual by providing the spiritual strength and manifesting ability to get what they want out of their remaining heartbeat’s on this spinning rock keeping their dream alive. 

Join Kyle and Rita as they discuss how you can decide your own destiny and the importance of keeping your dreams alive. 

Rita is a health and fitness coach who specialises in helping women over 40 to be healthy and wealthy, through weight loss and/or business coaching. Find out more here 👉 https://thehealthandfitnesscoach.com

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in today's episode of the Health Collective podcast we're talking with Kyle Spreedy's who runs soul gazing photography official storytelling and content marketing business and the author of Amazon bestseller Decide Your Destiny Kyle talks to us about how we can actually decide our destiny rather than having our destiny dedicated to us now if you need any help with changing your own destiny in your health whether it's your mental emotional or physical help head to our website the health and Fitness coach.com learn about how our coaching can help you change whatever path you're on in your health and create a body that you love that you desire and that you're inspired to be in every single day in the meantime enjoy Kyle enjoy the episode and I look forward to seeing you on the next one file run Soul Gazing Photography which is a visual storytelling and content marketing business the works with business owners looking to grow and make authentic lasting impact in the minds hearts and souls of those who they wish to send their message to Carl's also the author of an Amazon bestseller Decide Your Destiny looking at essentially living out a dream life and really creating a destiny that you choose you create rather than just one that is one of reaction that never feels completely in your control and that's kind of what we're gonna be talking about today and he really looks at extracting the full potential in the individual by providing the spiritual strength and manifesting the ability to get what people want out of their remaining heartbeats on this spinning rock that we call earth so first of all massive welcome to Kyle all the way from Australia thank you so much for being with us today thank you and I'm tuning from the bottom left of Australia so town called Albany love it so we all need to descend upon Albany for our next summer holiday love it so yes well what I'd like to do first is just to understand a bit of your background that got you into what you do today so soul gazing photography which is this one side this sort of content marketing and then we've also got deciding or destiny which is this author slightly different kind of root of business that you got going so what was it that inspired you to write this book to start the photography company what was it in you or what moment in your life really inspired these two visions that you have great question great I think that probably those people that inspired me in my life it was my step grandparents my step father my cousin in South Africa who I looked up to like an older brother and as people mixed with difficult times that really really really really inspired me to to do to do something more than than average I guess than then you just wash washing along in the currents of you know whoever's decisions they may be so I think for me my my life was quite I guess diverse and different you know born in Johannesburg South Africa my mother was an international model she was on the sets likes of Charlize Theron going around the world and then I was being raised in the back of a pub in my my granny's pub and you know and kinda just sleeping on the back couch there and socializing interacting with the adults and just kinda have my own little community base and you know I do remember some of those years and I I very social as a young kid I seem to be able to socialise with adults very freely and very easily which which is great and that was good until I came to Australia where I you know my my run around the world men an Australian man and brought me to Australia and he wanted me to be in Australia because it was safer for me then been in South Africa and so you know he uh yeah come to Australia my being social and everything changed because I wasn't around my known environment I was in a very unknown unusual a strange environment strange because I I couldn't connect to it and so for me I found that yeah quite difficult at first and then but but lucky enough I had two brilliant step grandparents if anybody watching the video you can see them behind me and my step grandmother had this I was walking up the stairs and she could see me clutching this this Teddy walked upstairs and she said she had this feeling that shot through her body and the sensation this message from God saying that she was gonna be important in my life and then like 12 years later she was very important in my life and both my grandparents were very important in my life when I was basically at the age of 14 out on the streets and I had nowhere to go skipped a couple trains and I found myself down at my grandparents house in the middle of the night knocking on their door and they welcome in they welcome into their home they welcome into their past they welcome into their you know we always welcome in their family but they really welcome me in and they raised me as as one of their own kids you know that they they they said we look at you like a son of a house and and I they were my stable parents and so I'll I'll go after every so often and and and my the person I looked up to is like an older brother of mine Elaine was murdered and then he uh in a in um robbery uh and and so he fill the room fill the room he'd fill the joy of everybody and and he just had this given abundant energy and it reminded me of my my my step Mcclavy as well you know that they just the their beans on feel full you know full with joy and happiness and laughter and they walk in and everyone would just suddenly lift everyone get two inches taller it was just yeah incredible and so you know him like passing away like I remember it just being an a message to and now I've not now I've not only gotta live with live for me I gotta live for the the legacy and I gotta I gotta take his message and I carry the baton you know and so I guess I found that sort of obligation you know if he can show up and shine and do that then I've got to show up and shine and be in that way which which I wasn't in my teenage year inward down because of you know years of abuse mental physical emotional abuse and and just the only way I knew how to handle it was to go inward so I went inward I believe I festered a disease in my body I created a disease and I found myself um at 18 in an induced a coma with a major bug eating a major hole into into my heart um and in terms of what inspired both photography and and destiny Clivy my step grandfather two months before I was in that hole I was still in school and I'll just sit on the couch my grandfather's lounge room and he he created he's an architect so credit that lounge and credit that space and the light was you know flooding through the the lounge room kiss in the side of his face and he turned to me at it's big boy screen and he said decide your destiny and I said what club what are you saying and he said decide your destiny I said but what are you talking about mate he said make sure that whatever you do in your life that you decide your destiny and obviously 18 year old kid that went in one year one out the other and only came back to me seven years uh you know through through deep through going over to Sydney spending time with him holding his hand as he passed away and then coming back you know it's basically going from the east coast of of the country all the way over to the west coast of the um yeah back and sitting on the edge of my bed and just saying deep in prayer just saying God ether Jesus yeah energy source I just wanna get on path I just wanna do the good work that you sent me here to do um and then that that book came out of like my my visual peripheral and it had on the title it's decide destiny and then I had the photo of when I first came to Australia and and um my EI heard uh share your story and so that's what influenced me to then go okay what is the side destiny what was my grandfather talking about what does he mean by this what you know like what have I learnt over you know at that point I had seven year managing major health and every you know going into procedures going into reception rooms always looking at longevity how can I stretch my life out what can I do you know patient rooms with everyone over 80 and you're this you know 20 year old kid and so you know I had to kinda go okay what is destiny what what what society my destiny mean and then I had to kind of backwards engineer um where I had done that in my life who helped me along the line those lines um and then that's where the book came from I love it so it sounds like for you there was a huge amount of turmoil through your adolescence through your childhood which had a really key impact on who you are today and one of the things that I would sort of wanna guide your destiny is a great phrase great title for a book but what do you classify destiny to actually be cause there'll be a lot of people listening to this who are highly logical goal people who know that cause an effect and we move through life we make a choice as an effect that comes out of it but destiny has an almost energetic or spiritual sense about it and a lot of people won't necessarily relate with that word so what would you describe destiny to me destination so yeah exactly you've got your left and your right and and I just I I would first the words you know destiny your asylum and when I speak on it I I usually you're right when I in the book and I was going and sitting down with people and some of them were clients of my in my marketing like photography and video marketing business and talk about the book I'm writing and I'd get some you know all that how should I say shuffling and uh what is destiny how who you to know about destiny you're young fuck you know what do you what do you think you're talking about and so um I got a you know reverberate um and so what I was it to be is a destination that you're lining yourself up with so for me you know I had 14 years of kind of being shown the wrong way to raise or be raised the wrong way to live out your life the way to live as a victim on this planet um the way to be at an effect on this planet and spread you know nothing of goodness on this planet and then I got 14 years 30 now so I got you know 14 years uh also from my grandparent really kind of teach me other ways teaching me hey you're not a victim um hey you've got an obligation uh with your time on this planet um you know it's a lot more joyful if you you're social you know cause I would ask my my grandparents questions I'd say what's the biggest difference between my generation and your generation you know well we're a lot more social you know we'd go and we'd babysit you know neighbour's kids and we'd out of this event we go to that event we'd help out they were always interacting with our neighbours people were always over at each other's houses um you know that they were social contact between between between and so that's what I talk about destiny's what's that destination you know it's basically like for analytical it's throwing a fishing line into the ocean or into a pond that you want to be in and then pulling yourself forward to that future rather than pulling a fish out of that pond pulling yourself forward to that future and and that yeah of of a of a string is because we can have times where you know something in the media hits us or we get some bad news in our personal life or you know someone might go on a Bender you know three different friend might come over and all this sort of stuff you can you can weighing off target um but as long as you keep coming back to that target and you know what that target is it's essential because if you don't live by principles and morals and ethics then anything goes and you know and I've had friends like that in your own oh what happened oh you know go figure they they doing drugs they start doing this they start doing that they start hanging out with this crowd they are one of them you know and these are people from my school in the same year as me one of them was in was in prison for a little while and you know like we would always try and as a group as a cohort try and help those people or we could see Lucy see where their destiny was taken and like this kid he keeps behaving like this if he keeps hanging around yeah these sorts of gang thuggy sort of people is gonna end up like in in this in this situation and that's where it's really important that you do have principles and morals ethics and and and foundational things and you know you don't have to you know because something bad is said at you know like so for instance um at at my my grandparent touch that bitch um they had a new preach preacher um say like you know bad things about you know people that were gay and so they kind of decided alright we're gonna step away from our church for a little while um cause I really agree with this and they stepped away and then when he like eventually left they went back to the church so the today at church and they got what they got from their church but they true they thousand and ethics and so you don't throw the I think we live in a world where everyone throws the baby out of the bath or we hear one quote from one person and then we just denote them and I think the important thing about having that destination having your destiny is that you have your your to left and right but you'll keep coming back to that that that that direction that you wanted to to go toward absolutely and I think what you said um you know going off on a Bender or whatever it might be but as long as you come back you know it's the analogy I would always use as if you're going from I don't know Scotland to Hawaii there is someone driving that plane piloting that plane who's constantly course correcting it isn't a straight line it's a constant being buffeted by the wind the turbulence and course correcting every step and knowing that that's where you need to get to regardless of what happens along the way so I I and you've spoken a lot about your youth as well as other people surround you and almost seeing their destination at such a young tender age so what do you see in the generations now the youth of today what do you see is maybe most challenging for them obviously I know that we're in different countries but there's probably a lot of similarities and what do you do or can you suggest that other people listening to you to help you know those kids those teenagers create destinations that serve them moving forward yeah uh great question I I think is you know protecting your mind and having that sanctuary as you of your mind and um when my my passed away you know my my there would be my my auntie had a kind of shrine or or or or remember him you know that would be the location where there be photos and everything like that and so um you know and and and I think that's how like you gotta treat our minds because you know when I was I'm only 30 but it shows you how fast the world's changed but when I was you know growing up a lot of the impurities that people that affected my life you know some definitely would have come from TV and it was sort of things but a lot of it was drugs and alcohol and physical things that you know like people people take them all up but for now looking at the youth it's like there's so many impurities online there's so many impurities you know and and much very hard to see a clear path you know in my grandparents age they could try they could trust societal structures to serve them or they they they at least felt a lot more confident and it's no surprise or it's no it's not new news that people have lost lot of faith in institutions and and and and societal structures that are meant to guide us so I think it's very very important we start to become the authority over our own lives and figure out right how do I you know I go to this person and he tells me this I go to that person he tells me this I go to this person he tells me this like I'll be going in five different locations like like I don't even know where to go and so I think it's very important that we um be very aware of how easy we can get sucked into beads of of of and and and and and kind of binding powers that pull you in and become and and I'd become a mental slave and be very aware of those shackles and break them off as soon as you can and then also find great people around you I think one of the greatest things about writing the book was that one of the things during during the um you know coaching and training and learning and was oh you know get on podcasts and a lot of those podcasts I've met people that have become friends and you know like a different you know political uh religion uh yeah different beliefs across the spectrum but you know we come back to hey personal growth how can I be my higher self if I'm at my higher self then I can serve my community how can I you know like that in um you know kind of principles that that are that are important and I think it's a it's a ball order to think that you're gonna find friends and family connections that are gonna think and believe and and have like the same views as you especially if always told don't talk about religion don't talk about sex don't talk about money don't talk about this don't talk about that you know like it's gonna be hard to find those people that are on the exact same page but if you can find people that have similar values and principles and hey you know as long as you know as long as you're not harming people as long as you're not trying to force you know your way on people as long as you're you know respectful like like you know like we can get along I think that's what the youth need to find is they need to find those not not not door hoods but like yeah all like um band but you know you need to find people that you can collaborate with I think that's the thing we're in a collaborative economy where hey it's not just I don't have just these three channels of getting my message out I've got all these channels and if I collaborate with people help raise them up then I can raise up and then that's how we can get towards our goal everything that you just said about the collaboration sort of really rings true especially as we were talking about sort of youth whatever that word means you know generations um to come because there does tend to be this and I think it's shifting globally but there has been for quite a while a this is and I need to push myself and kind of screw everybody else that gets in the way and I think what we're seeing and correct me if I'm wrong in Australia but at least in the UK and the US there's now almost what generation Z now or whatever this next one is yeah yeah I'm not sure yeah which letter we're on it seems to be very much a collaboration of global unity so there tends it it like it's sort of starting to share so as someone you know sort of to shout that was a very quick 20 minutes today that went really really fast what I'd really you to do is give us just from someone who came from a very challenging background and has done almost flip that around what if if listening to this who feels that their destiny is decided that I've come from no money I've come from socio socio economic instead of poverty and my destiny will be you know a terrible one what would you say is a good first step for someone who is maybe of that generation feeling like that to start to decide their own destiny I'd say and it might be a cold hard you know head hitting the floor sort of embrace but I'd say always steer yourself towards truth we can steer ourselves towards feelings and comfort and for me yeah there's times my life um I was a victim and yeah I could be a victim tomorrow like it's easy to go into those things yeah you can go back into the into those circles and you go there because we get some sort of feeling you know if you fall someone put this really brilliant for me like if so if um you just drive straight past them but they fall off all measure of people will come over God like let me help you out let me help them so he they're a victim over and in that victim that a victim of that that moment they are getting love and they are getting attention and so you can understand why the victim mentality is so treasured or align ourselves with it and I'd say that comes from a feeling and that comes from maybe not knowing other ways to get love and other ways to to get attention um or to to mention so I'd say always go for truth because truth might hurt more it might sting more it might hit you in the face more um but it's gonna guide you in the right direction and for me I mean I basically I had to go at make a call and go you know this person is my parent my like I'm supposed to live with them I supposed to be around them but like this the truth is this is not how parent treats a kid and as much manipulation and your mental trickery and and witchcraft I had to go what's the truth yeah the truth is I cannot blossom and grow and I can't even live any longer in this so I need to I need to remove myself from this lot these lies and I found it easy to do that I know a lot of people that don't find that is easy or they go I know this person at 14 they would never have had that but you don't know you know if you've got that pressure um you might and I think sometimes you have to apply that pressure on yourself uh and if you turn up and people told you like ah you know scarce um abundance doesn't exist right do you need to like go and take a drive in a wealthy abundant neighbourhood and go when it was the truth here there is abundance there are people there's people living greater than me there's people living not as good as me but the truth is there but I've been brought up with this little boxed in lie and I think that's what I'd say always go towards truth what a fantastic night to you and I'll always go towards truth no matter how uncomfortable or painful it might feel so look Kyle thank you so much for join um all the way from uh Aussie it's been absolute pleasure talking to you and as always if you need any um about Kyle or what he does then all of that will be in the description of today's episode so feel free to go and check him out whether it's his book or marketing uh company but also let me just say big thank you to all of you for listening it's been an absolute pleasure and I look forward seeing you all on the next episode