Faith After Abandonment: How to Heal and Trust God Through the Pain

Have you ever felt abandoned, betrayed, or deeply hurt by someone you trusted? In this powerful episode, Faith After Abandonment: How to Heal and Trust God Through the Pain, we explore how to rebuild your faith when people walk away — but God never does.

Discover biblical truths and practical steps to:

• Heal from emotional and spiritual wounds
• Overcome the fear of trusting again
• Embrace God's unwavering love and presence
• Learn what Scripture says about abandonment and betrayal

Whether you're recovering from a broken friendship, a toxic relationship, or family rejection, this episode offers encouragement, healing, and hope. God sees your pain, and He hasn’t left your side. Let this be your first step toward restoration and renewed faith.

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Hello and welcome back to the Courage Within podcast with your host Lubiere. This is the beginning of season five, episode one. I am so excited to be back with you. This summer was one of the hardest summers of my life. I cannot wait to show you what God taught me and I hope that this podcast inspires and encourages your life. I am writing a screenplay of my life right now. I am going to write it and see where it goes, where God takes it I don't know what is going to happen with the screenplay but me writing my story has had me in so much emotional pain you guys I have been I can't I've had just so many days of just crying on repeat just tears flowing down my face I've just been on my knees praying that God would heal me that he would comfort me and low-key I've been kind of not not wanting to go and write the screenplay because I'm scared of being in that emotional pain. So I knew that I wanted to do this episode podcast on how do we overcome the pain of this world? How do we overcome the really, really painful moments of our lives? And all I have to say is we overcome by the blood of the lamb and the word of our testimony, right? is really dark this life can be really challenging this life is so crushing and difficult but i also believe that in the crushing god is doing something that his spirit is helping us and equipping us and giving us strength and capacity for that pain because ultimately the pain leads us to relieving the wound and relieving the the shame of the past i know for me as i have been bad with such emotional pain this summer as I've been really diving into my story of the things that maybe I wasn't looking at with the lens of, hey, how does this thing that happened to me in the past leverage and impact how I live my life today? And how does it impact my relationships? How does it impact how I treat myself and others? How does it impact how I move in this world, right? I think many of us have been through a lot of challenges or difficulty in the past and we are not taught in school how to even manage our emotions like emotions are not even a thing that people talk about and and here's the thing we are human beings that are made in the image of God and God gave us emotions not to not to run our life but to give us direction give us emotions as a gauge to know how to live this life and for me I've had so much emotional trauma and pain in my past that sometimes it's hard to be like, okay, I'm going to sit down and just suffer. You know, I'm going to sit down and just hurt. In fact, most of the time, I want to distract myself from my pain. I have had addictive tendencies. And in the past, I have used cigarettes, I've used alcohol, I've used pornography, I have used shopping, I've used busyness and work and, and just being glorifying the grind mentality so that I don't have to sit with myself and own the things that have happened to me. But in this moment of rest that I had this summer, I knew, I knew that I knew that I was being given an opportunity, an opportunity to sit at Jesus's feet and truly know myself deeper. And in that process, know him deeper. Because when I, when I was little, Okay, let me let me start with with what kind of was the catalyst to all of the emotional pain. So I have an episode called the courage to heal. And that's one of my favorite episodes. I send that to everyone that is going through a hard time because it's like, it's basically all of my testimony, the things that I have been through that have been so so hard, and how God has helped me to not allow those things to define my identity, but allow those things to refine my character to be a better person. and to glorify God through my suffering. So I will leave that linked below if you're curious to listen and or watch that. And that episode, I think it's so cool because I get to, I got to just rehash everything that I've been through in the past. But when you, when you're little and you go through these things and, and you go through these traumatic moments, you never just like sit and just like ponder the weight of what that felt like or looked like. Like, you know, most of us, like if we have been to therapy or if we've been to a friend and talked about some of the things that are hard and difficult in our lives, maybe we talked a little bit about the situation. Maybe, you know, you talk to a friend or a therapist about like, hey, when I had this situation happen, you know, it made me feel powerless or it made me feel sad. It made me feel rejected. I know for me, a lot of the things in my past made me feel like I didn't matter or that I was unlovable. And that was the story Satan wanted me to continue to live in. Right. But then Jesus came. Jesus came and his word came to my life. I opened the word of God and started hearing from Jesus rather than from Satan in my thoughts. Right. And I started understanding God has something for me that that the enemy doesn't want me to discover. God allowed something in my life, maybe even something really painful that I I have been doubting, like, why did you, if you're a loving God, allow me to go through and walk through that? Those have been my questions to the Lord, especially some of the really, really deep suffering that I have encountered. I have doubted God. I have wondered, like, why did you allow that to happen to me? Because ultimately, it had to go through your hands in order to come to me. The Lord has revealed to me, like, everything that I have experienced, He is experiencing with me and he experienced with me and he died for on a cross for. So no matter what, he gives me the strength. He gives me the, the, the freedom. He gives me the, the, the capacity to withstand those things. And as I was delving deep into my story this summer, because when I was writing the screenplay, it wasn't just like, Oh, going to therapy. And I You know, my dad left when I was seven, when we were in Mexico. And that was a pivotal point in my life that changed everything about who I was and how I lived my life and, and how I trusted or didn't trust people. Um, more didn't trust anybody or myself or God. When you talk to your friends or therapists about these things, it's not often that we're sitting there giving all the detail, right? Because people don't really want to know. want all the detail most of the time. Most of the time it's kind of hard to sit through someone's like really, really hard stuff. I knew for me, I, when I was healing, I needed to share that with the Lord, but that's different, right? Like sharing that with God is different than sharing that with somebody else because he can bear all of that weight. As I'm writing my story, I had to be really descriptive about the, the, the hard moment in my life, especially the moment my dad abandoning our family. I knew that my dad had left I knew in my head my dad left us right but I had never sat down to think what were the implications of that and what did that actually look like and how is that now directing my life today that maybe I'm I'm being hindered by that wound not being healed and exposed to Jesus so as I was writing this scene out I could not tell you how painful it was to think of it as a mom now because I have two girls and like to think my husband would leave our girls and I the way my dad left my mom and I and my siblings it just like it brings it breaks my heart it brings me to tears when my dad left I was seven and I at that time I don't think I grasped what had happened because I was so little and now that I'm older I can understand from two perspectives I can understand from a little girl perspective and I can understand from a mother and an elder person's perspective. And it is quite different, right? Writing my story has allowed me to slow down and to allow Jesus to penetrate the very, very infected wounds that I didn't even know were there. I knew my dad had left. I knew that that had had an impact, but I didn't know to what degree or level. And I didn't know that the enemy was using that to hinder my walk still with the Lord because he Here's the deal. I was being self-reliant still, even though I love Jesus. There was a part of me that was like, no, this part I'm keeping to myself. And I hadn't even understood that until God, until I was able to make margin for my pain and just sit in the pain with Jesus. He was able to be like, oh yeah, you see that? You see that right there? I don't want you to have to live with that anymore. You already have gone through so much pain and this This is painful to keep on being self-reliant. You can trust me. And the Lord, oh my gosh, he's so good. He gave me a verse. He gave me a verse out of Jeremiah 32 verses 37 through 41. I'm going to read it to you because it is one of the most beautiful scriptures I have ever read in my life. It is so good for anybody, but especially those of you who have felt abandoned, who have felt rejected who have been betrayed by, by family members or people that you love. And this, this, I just hope that it ministers to you as deeply as it ministered to me and is ministering to me because I am committing it to memory and I'm memorizing it and I'm wanting it to be instead of just the revelation of my mind to become the revelation of my heart. And every day I'm asking the Holy Spirit. I say, I am saying, Holy Spirit, I pray that this scripture would go from of my head knowledge to the knowledge of my personal self, that it would become my heart's revelation that I live out on a daily basis. Because I don't want to keep operating out of my own self-reliance. I am a daughter of a king and you are a son or a daughter of a king. So you don't have to just rely on yourself. You don't have to just white knuckle it. You don't have to, you can be a little kid, even if you're 50, even Even if you're 60, even if you're 70, even if you're 25, no matter what age you are, you could be a little kid to the Lord. You could be like a little kid and just say, Lord, I am five years old right now and I need your help. I am needing your love and I'm needing your affection. And out of that love, like you'll see yourself become even more of what God has called you to be. Okay. I'm going to read you the scripture. It says, I will bring them back to this place and Do you hear that? God is never, ever, ever going to turn away from you. from doing good to you. Let that sink in. God is never, never going to turn away from doing good to you. No matter who has left you, no matter who has rejected you, no matter who is telling, you know, Jesus is saying he will never, ever turn away from doing good to you. Okay. Let's keep reading. And I will put the fear of me in their hearts that they may not turn from me. I listen to this. Okay. Listen to this. This is what got me to cry. I will reject. Rejoice in doing them good, and I will plant them in this land in faithfulness with all of my heart and all of my soul. God is saying He rejoices in doing good to you. He's going to plant you. He will plant you in this land in His faithfulness, in His faithfulness. Listen to this. God, there is no darkness in Him. Even the dark is light to the Lord. There is no darkness in Him. Whatever is true of Jesus, if you have accepted Him into your heart as your Lord and Savior, it is true of you. His mind is your mind. His peace is your peace. His richness is your richness. His holiness is your holiness. His glory is your glory. Everything that is true of Christ, if you've accepted him into your heart, is true of you, friend. Okay? So what the enemy tries to do is he distorts our scope of how we see ourselves because he does not want you to see yourself the way God sees you. Because the minute you do, you will behave differently. You behave differently when you know how loved you are okay let's keep reading it says i will rejoice in doing them good and plant them in the land in faithfulness with all of my heart and all my soul can you imagine all of god's heart and all of his soul friend you cannot gain god's love and you cannot lose god's love there's nothing you can do to make yourself better for the lord isn't that freeing there's nothing you can you to lose his love, even if you did the worst thing in the world today, if you came back to Jesus and you in, in, in all honesty, humbled yourself before him and said, I'm so sorry, God, he is going to forgive you. He is a God who forgives. And he gave, listen to this. He gave his one and only son for you already. That was already the exchange for your life that I cannot imagine a more loving father. I could not. imagine as a mother giving up my children for people that i don't like or love and even sometimes with people that i love i don't know that i would give up their life for theirs you were bought with a price jesus gave up his life for you and whatever it is that you are hurting from he has the antidote he and his word his word is a healing balm to everything that hurts and And trust me, it's hard. It's hard as buckets, okay? It's hard as buckets because it's not this like, oh, I just accept Jesus and then I'm just this Christian that everything's good. Life is hard as heck. I understand that. I have been through so much and I don't wanna downplay what you've been through. I know there's severities of different traumas and difficulties that we face and go through, but I do know the things that I have faced The Lord has given me so much healing, so much healing. There is so much healing available in Jesus. There's so much healing available through Christ. There is so much redemption that can happen when you give your life to the Lord and you ask that he would infiltrate every part of your being, that you would say things like, Lord, I give up and submit and surrender all of the ways that I try to make myself pleasing or, or or good, or I just give up all of my idols. That's one thing that I've been praying right now. It's just, Lord, show me my idols. Show me the things that I worship before you, because I know that I'm, I'm a sinner. I know I wake up every day with my own agenda. I want what I want. I'm egotistical. I have pride. I have ego issues. I have control issues. I asked my husband, I'm like, do you, can you tell me what you think my idols are? He's like, matcha. I was like, dang it. Yes. He's like, you like things to be too clean and organized. And I was like, dang it, yes. What else did he say? He's like, you want to be in control of stuff to feel safe. And I was like, yes, that's true. What else did he say? Oh, my phone. Like, I'm on my phone and on YouTube and all of that. And all those things are true. There are idols in our lives. And this is the thing that the Lord asked me a question. And, you know, when I talk about the Lord speaking to me, to me, I don't hear God as like this audible voice. I don't hear God speaking to me like, let me hear blah, blah, blah. I hear him in the spirit, in the whisper of my heart. I hear him like an idea that doesn't seem like a bad idea that's from the enemy. It seems like an angelic idea that isn't my own. That's what I feel like the Lord does in my heart when he speaks to me. It's hard to explain it, but once you have God's Holy Spirit inside of you he he becomes your counselor he becomes your guiding post and he gives you insight and wisdom and James says if you don't have wisdom ask of the Lord so we we have this amazing invitation to have the Holy Spirit of God inside of us when we accept Jesus as our Lord and Savior and I I asked him I said Lord like what am I holding up what am I holding up you know and I as I was going through all the things that i do in my life of like the things that i go to to make me feel safe or the things that i go to to make me feel important or help me to you know i used to go to chips all the time to to feel emotionally like okay and you know if i got anxious or whatever and i realized that it was because when i was a kid my dad would send me to go get him cigarettes and then i would buy chips at the store you know and i equated a relationship with my dad with junk food because that was what brought us together. This is going to sound so weird. I asked the Lord, I'm like, do you want me to lay down chips? And I was like, no, please. They're so good. They're crunchy. The flaming hot is so good. And they have, you know, Doritos with cool ranch. It's so yummy. And I was like, God, don't make me give something up that tastes so good to me. And that like, that feels good to me. You know, I was like, chips aren't bad. And the Lord's like, yeah, I know they're not bad. And you know, it's not like it's evil to eat chips. But what do you go for comfort? And when you go to that comfort, do the things that you treasure, treasure you back? And friend, there are things that I go to to feel safe, to feel important, to feel not anxious, right? There are addictions that I've run to to make me feel better. But those things have a dead end. Those things have a way of having not a good outcome for me. You know, when I used to be an alcoholic, I used to be like, oh, I'm just going to drink a little wine and be okay. You the grace of God because he shows me those things are cheap substitutes to the realness of his love and what he wants to give me and my gosh I'm so grateful to the Lord for not doing this changes like all of the sudden or like all at once like he takes his time he's such a gentleman but he knows when it's time for us to move when it's time to be sanctified to a new level and I am just so grateful for for a king that is holy God is so holy he is so holy if you if you take anything from this podcast just know god is so holy and he is so yours he wants to be think of it in this way god is the most magnificent holy powerful mighty being that there is but he's also the most intimate relational graceful merciful father there is truth a hundred percent absolute truth in him and there's a hundred percent glorious grace and they too they go together and we can't fathom that at times because we have this finite mind right we want things to be either all truth or all grace and we can't put them together because we're not God and we're not meant for this world we're meant for heaven when we're going to be able to sit at his feet and feel the weight of his glory and that's why this world is so hard our hearts and souls and minds are being prepared for heaven we have to be prepared to be in the in the glory in the presence of God we can't just we can't it's like he's he's training us I just want to encourage you with this I've been going to the gym and doing weights it's been three years that I've been weight training like very like excitedly seriously about it like I'm not very good you know I'm learning how to weight train um but the thing thing is like you go with this mindset of I'm going to destroy my muscles and I'm about to get a little sore the next day I wake up and I'm like oh girl it was leg day that hurt or like I can't go like this I can't move my arms because it's arm day but I go with the intention of I am going to be a little uncomfortable here right I don't just go to the gym and think oh nothing's going to happen like if that were the case then I just wouldn't go to the gym but I'm going with the intent like there is going to be discomfort there will be pain. But after that pain, girl, girl, boy, we are going to have some stronger bones, right? Stronger bones to hold my grandchildren, stronger bones to sit up and down, stronger bones to be able to walk on my own. God willing, that is the same as our spiritual health. God wants to strengthen the inner part of you through the challenges that you're facing. These challenges aren't to wipe you out. They are to strengthen you and to empower you and to equip you for the capacity that God wants to give you. God wants to do mighty things through your life. Believe Him at that. He created you on purpose with a purpose. There's something you have to do for us. We're the body of Christ and like the eye is not the same as the nose. It's not the same as the armpit, right? We're all different. There's value in all of us. There's value in you. There's value in a president. There's value in a janitor. There's value in a field worker. There's value in a stay-at-home mom. There's value in a baseball player. There's value in all of us. Our identity isn't our job. Our identity is in Christ. Our jobs don't make us successful or not. This world has lied to you and told you that you have to become something to be of worth and value. The only thing that makes us worth anything is Jesus Christ. Jesus Christ alone died so that you and I could be enough. That is the very very clear about this in John it says Jesus is the way the truth and the life Jesus is the only way the only truth and the life and in him you are enough so don't live your life with this like economy of oh if I do great I am great if I do bad I am bad live live your life in freedom knowing Jesus paid it all for you so be abundant be obedient to just sit in your pain and I Ask the Lord to give you strength to be able to press forward and learn what you need to learn from the lessons that you are facing right now. All of the hardship that you're facing is not in vain. Your pain is not in vain. God has something beautiful for you in the struggle. I hope that this podcast episode blessed your heart. If it did, please share it with a friend who needs encouragement. I love you to buckets. You have no idea how much I love you. I missed you and I cannot wait for this season. I pray that that Jesus would just change and transform your life in the way that only he can. Thank you so much for listening. I just want to do a little announcement for the podcast. This season, we're going to be doing bi-weekly episodes. Dear Heavenly Father, I just thank you so much for my friends. I thank you for the way that you created us, Lord. I thank you that you are holy. I thank you that you are holy and there is none beside you, Lord. You are holy. You are holy. You are holy. You are the Lord all Almighty, you have you have a plan for my friend. God, I pray, Jesus, that you would be praying an intercession for our friends, God, that you would be with their hearts, that you would restore their hope, that you would help them, God, to know that you are never going to leave them and that you're going to rejoice in doing good for them, that you're going to plant them in your faithfulness, God, and that you are going to renew their hope. Lord, I thank you so much for being who you are and thank you that there is no darkness within you. In Jesus' mighty name, I pray. Amen. Adios.