Ep893 How To Outlast the Hate

The moment you decide to do something different, build something meaningful, or level up your life, the noise starts. The critics, the doubters, and the outright haters step up to the plate. But here is the secret they don’t want you to know: hate has a shelf life. Commitment doesn’t.

In this episode, we are breaking down the psychological blueprint of endurance. We’re not talking about "proving them wrong" or wasting your precious energy in shouting matches. Instead, we’re focusing on the quiet, ruthless art of outlasting the noise.

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Yo, it's Shangman, Rahim, R CL man. Every person you ever tried to do some, every person who ever tried to do something, something big, something different, somebody who tried to just be they self, they encounter some critics, some trolls, some doubters, you feel me? But here's the secret, man, that you don't know. Hate has an inspiration date. You understand me? But your potential doesn't. Like haters gonna hate, but they gon' stop eventually. It's hard to hate all day. It's a full-time job to hate all day drunk, right? So today, man, we gonna talk about like how to fight the hate, block the hate, cry it out. You understand me? Get it out the system, you feel me? Like we're talking about how to outlast it. Like, like how to outlast that hate, man. How to just say, man, I ain't look here. The hate gonna pass, the hate gonna go over, right? So let's get straight into it, man. We're gonna talk about why fighting what fighting does. You feel me? And this is what it do, man. Fighting gives you, fighting gives you the energy. You feel me? Fighting gives it the energy. If you fighting it, you giving it the energy. You feel me? Blocking it, you acknowledging its power. You feel me? But crying over it, you're letting it win. Let's go back over there now. Fighting, it gives it your energy. Like fighting, you gonna fight the hate. Now you what your attention span is on them. Fuck that. I ain't finna do that. I'm finna what? Block your ass. I ain't finna, I ain't finna go back and forth with you. I'm not finna take nothing to you no more. I'm not finna give you not an ounce of energy. Fuck all that. I'm not finna watch you on nothing. I don't want to see you. Hell no. You feel me? So blocking it, it acknowledges its power. Like blocking, oh you uh yeah, bitch. Get the f you feel me? You can't even, you can't even what do nothing because you're blocked, bitch. You know what I'm saying? So then the next thing is, man, when you crying over it, crying over it, lets it win. Like, suppose bing, that shit go. You feel me? When you try to fight back against negativity, you are playing on a feel the critics choose. They want your ass out here to look stupid, come back and forth with your dumb ass. Like, man, people want that stuff. People want the stuff, the thing that you bring, you feel me? If you enter to if you enter their frame, you spend all your time blocking and deleting and building defense walls, playing a game of emotional whacking mode, and it's exhausting. Waiting on somebody to come up so you can bring them down. Waiting on a motherfucker to come up so you can knock them on top of the head. Man, who the fuck? Who the hell gonna who the who doing it? You feel me? If you want to all last the hate, don't pay it no motherfucking mind. But we finna get into it deeper though, deeper than that. Like that's just the simple version of me. Like, I know I like going deeper, you understand me? And it's the autonomy of negativity versus endurance, right? Hate is loud. You won't, you gonna feel that shit. That shit's so loud. Understand me? But it is inherently short-sighted. Like a motherfucker who hate ain't thinking that all the way through. Ain't no way you don't like me. Ain't no way. What the fuck? I ain't even I don't even know you. You don't even be around me to not like me. But you done did something that you don't even know you done did, so you can't eat you can't even what? Control what the fuck another motherfucker feels about you anyway. It's driven by a burst of temporary emotion, jealousy, boredom, projection, your own insecurities. You feel me? Because it relies on external triggers. It burns hot fast like a like a candle. You feel me? Like that shit, it hey, man, it ain't gonna last long. That shit gonna burn and they gonna man, I was just bored as a motherfucker. I ain't no job. Man, I was just jealous as a bitch. I ain't I ain't ain't no old lady. Man, I was just jealous as a motherfucker. I thought that nigga was rich. Man, I was just jealous. Man, it's it's so much shit that you would put on your mind just to think and feel about a person for no fucking reason, man. You feel me? You understand me? Like you will look at a person just rejected by some shit and just be upset. I look at a nigga, I say, we got that nigga having his way. The hell he can do it. I'll be ready to get close to him. I can ask. You understand me? Like that's the mindset a nigga gotta have. If he ain't got the type of mindset he hating, if he ain't got the, oh, we got damn, because he knows you see some shit and catch your eye, bro. That that that nigga doing, like he ain't gotta be doing it, but you need to ask him. He at least he acting like it. Let him act like it. Let him do it. Let him be in that deck, let him be on whatever he on it look good. Tell him. You feel me? Like for real, like man, when you give it that energy, you feel way better. You look better, you breathe better. Your skin ain't, you feel me? You ain't as fat. You ain't holding a lot of shit in. Niggas fat holding a lot of shit in, man. Them niggas be eating so much, be eating that hate, eating, shaking, can't just trying his best to working, working his ass off on that tree of meal, trying to keep up with another man. It's exhausting just thinking about that shit. I I couldn't. You feel me? Like the approach, right? The hater. The full source, right? He he insecure. He jealous. You feel me? He don't like shit. You feel me? His long-living short-term burst. He out, look, it's short term. Everything he does is short term. He he never just always happy. He's always fucked up by some shit. You feel me? And the ultimate outcome, he burnt out. You feel me? Burns out when you stop reaching. You feel me? He burns out when you stop reacting. When you stop goddamn it saying some shit, he he out of there. You feel me? But the one who's gonna outlast that motherfucker, man, that nigga got purpose. You gotta have purpose. You gotta have an internal vision. And you gotta be disciplined. Like it's a lot of shit today. Like them just three words is a purpose, a vision, and the discipline. Man, that shit the hardest shit to have. Like them the one the most expensive, man. That shit is dispensing. Like that's the Louis of the goddamn goddamn uh invisible world. You feel me? That's the Louis of the inner world. Like you, you got some discipline. Your ass got some goddamn purpose. You got a vision. Oh, that nigga not unstoppable. For real, because he ain't got no, he ain't got no time for bullshit. He ain't got no time to be playing with your dumb ass. He ain't got no time to be tasting and doing shit that's not of good nature. He ain't got no time for that. He used his time to really correlate and do what's what's right. He don't play. Like that man really used his time. You feel me? Like he don't he don't do the little short-term game. He and then he do it every day. Nigga write it again. Damn, he writing it again. He reading another book. Shit, I ain't with all that cool. Niggas not like that. Niggas is not with that. That's not cool to them. This is cool, trolling. This is cool smoking. This is cool drinking. You feel me? That's I hate that's what's cool to us though. I hate that this is what's what qualifies us to be cool. What the fuck? I gotta drink niggas smoke to be cool. I gotta be broke and sit on the damn carport to be cool all day. Like what kind of sense this shit make, does y'all? But this is what we make makes sense. We wonder why we so pissed off. Because we're not thinking. You drinking and thinking. No, it's not working. You cutting goddamn your oxygen applied to your brain. You need your brain to think your brain ain't got no motherfucking oxygen because you over there feeding that motherfucking poison all day. You feel me? So the ultimate outcome, man, of this shit, bro. Your ass is burnt out. But the person who's doing the purpose work, man, that nigga, he's gonna be a momentum for life. You feel me? Long-term endurance forever. You feel me? He builds a permanent foundation. He he straight. He ain't worried about being going to the hospital with your ass. And he might send it, he's gonna send something to your ass. Just because he liked it. He don't really care about the money. He just he gonna send you, he might send your ass whatever the fuck you need to get out that motherfucking situation you in. Let you see what it feels like. Like, because he understands that you was the what short-term game. And he was playing a long-term game. You feel me? You want to go play with Run with the Crowd on a Sunday. You wanna go play with, you wanna go do that. No, God said you can run with me. You can run by yourself. I'm right here in you. I'm right here with you. How many people you want around with you? Okay, go catch them. You feel me? Like I don't got, I see people in my mind and I run with them. Oh, you run a seven pace? You run an eight pace? You run a 10? You run a 14? I ain't running no 14, but I run a 12 with a 10. You feel me? Like I split down with you. You feel me? I got all this shit in my mind. Like it's really not nothing for me to see it and envision this shit. You feel me? So I know what's gonna take me long. I know what's gonna take a minute, you feel me? And let's get right into it, man. Like how to really actually outlast the noise, man. I know I've been rambling about just the intro of that, but it's just it's just the the the feeling I get from talking about this shit. Like, man, you really gotta outlast this shit, man. Like the golden rule is like negativity thrives on your reaction. You feel me? It doesn't feed your attention. It scrapes it, you feel me? It don't feed your attention, it stars it. It makes it sure your attention is. Oh, you need me now. Come on, watch me. Come on, watch me do nothing. Come on, get that laugh. Come on, get that damn that that that little short burst of dopha, man. Come on, get it. That's all they want. You feel me? So let's number one shift from intent versus habit. People who hate usually do so out of temporary negativity. You feel me? Your defense shouldn't be to be intent to ignore them, but it it should be a rock solid habit of showing up regardless of what they say. When your daily routine is frictionless and disciplined, the opinion of outsiders simply don't have this plot on your schedule. It ain't got no don't say you can't even pay shit attention when you got other shit going on. Motherfuckers got purpose, they ain't got what the hell are you talking about? Man, I've been so goddamn tired I forgot. I don't know. And that's how I like living. I don't want to know. I don't want I don't give a fuck. It ain't my business. Motherfuck you follow them. Why you telling me? Like I hate when a motherfucker comes tell me some shit about a motherfucker that I don't fuck with. Like, what the what the fuck you telling me for? You know that. My mama, she I had to get home. I asked my desktop. Top doing my plan, mom. That ain't funny. I don't like that. You feel me? My sister and I don't like my talk to them. I don't give a damn. You talk to my own, you don't like them no more, I don't like them. You feel me? That's how it's supposed to be. We don't talk about that. Don't even bring that name up. This name, that name get no motherfucking room or no type of energy in this household. You feel me? We can conversation that name don't even come up. We don't even play them guys no more. Like I I had to really be intentional about that. Cause that shit, I don't like that. I don't bring that shit up. This shit already on your mind. Don't bring it up. I don't want to hear that bullshit. That's what I call it. Bullshit. Understand me? So hey man, this shit just it it thrives off interaction. It thrives off your reaction. It thrives off the you feel me? The going back and forth. Like, man, you better go back and forth about some positive shit. Can't talk about that all day. Like it's hard to read all day, ain't it? Yeah, it's hard to sit down and read a chapter. Yeah, yeah, read a chapter. But it's easier to argue for 20 minutes or one. Stupid shit. Talk about some shit that don't matter for 20 minutes. Man, get the fuck out of here, bro. I hate that shit. Like, play the game the long game, right? Most critics are operating on a timeline of days and weeks. They want a quick reaction right now. When you frame your goals around, you want to be two, three, four, five years a nasty comment, or mean comment or dynamic doubt of current job becomes a incredible small. You are building an exit plan for a bigger life. They are stuck in the current room. You feel me? Like when you when you think about shit, man, look, man, this shit ain't gonna last about a couple of weeks. A couple of months. Like this last job I just had, I quick that bitch in a month. I ain't finna be here fuck my job. Oh no. No, I'm not gonna dig myself in this hole. Nah, I'm not finna play the long game. See ya. I can go get another one of these quick. They already these type of jobs, every fucking line. I'm not fucking with this shit. No. Y'all play. No, hell no. You feel me? Like, you don't gotta uh sit to sit around a bunch of people who are different from you. Or who are not going the same way as you because you're gonna end up getting on a damn boat. You're gonna end up letting what they do suck you in. Nigga, like why you here? You talk like if you're gonna talk about something, you cannot be doing it. Like, that's not fair on your mindset. You stressing yourself the fuck out. You trying to go for early deathbed. Understand me? That's how I look at that type of shit. Next one thing is, man, look at man, recognize the inspiration day. Recognize the expiration day. I'm not trying to make this that long, but every trend of negativity has a chef life. You feel me? People get bored. The algorithm moves on. You feel me? The office gossip finds a new target. And now they off your ass on somebody else's ass. Understand me? If you can keep your head down, protect your peace, and keep building through the initial storm that you knew was gonna come anyway. Halo's supposed to come. Shit supposed to happen. But you gotta all last the shit. Fuck that. If you look up six months, you realize you still standing and they vanished, they mean you won. Motherfuckers ain't you can go back and hug them and shit now. Motherfucker, you know motherfuckers, you can you done bother and beat their ass before and got the fighting with them and shit. Then nigga, you see a nigga, what's up, man? You ain't want no motherfucker more smoke with me, boy. You ass a hug, boy. You ain't want no hug, you want your ass beaten again? You understand me? Like that's how I got that's uh that's how I got them got to go about shit. You feel me? Cause I don't really hate your ass. I just didn't like your ass for that day. But what you did at that moment. That shit just didn't go right with me. It didn't feel right. You understand me? But you guys to what? I last that shit. You can't be trying to follow a nigga on social media, trying to goddamn get up on his comments and shit. Trying to, man, you're trying to beef with a nigga on so man. Hold the fuck beef on social media, nigga. Nigga, this shit is the devil from the jump anyway. They don't finna get on this bitch, nah, nigga. God wants me to see your ass, and I'll see you in. I'll see you in real life. I see you. You feel me? Like, that's how I feel about life. And that's how things go. That's how it's supposed to go in me, man. I I wish I was born back in the older days, but this is where I was supposed to be born, because God let me be born right now. You feel me? But I see, like, man, nigga, all this phone shit is fake. I don't like it. The devil from the door. So we gotta find a way to go, man. Y'all start playing with our time, y'all start playing with our life, man. If it does y'all in any kind of way, man, y'all like, comment, and subscribe, man. Y'all all last the hate. Y'all all last that bait. Don't don't bite it. You know what it's gonna do. It's the enemy. And it's trying to pick you off. You feel me? It's trying to bring you down, man. Don't let it do it, man. Let's go.