Heal + Create Safety with Love and Money

Ever feel like you’re constantly chasing the next big thing—whether it's in your business, your love life, or just trying to keep up with what you see on Instagram? You’re not alone. In this episode, I dive deep into how I got caught up in the hustle, trying to force success and validation from all the wrong places. Spoiler alert: it didn’t make me any happier. 

I share my personal journey of realizing that no amount of money or relationship will ever feel fulfilling if it’s not aligned with what you truly desire. We’ll talk about the pressures of chasing shiny goals, why forcing manifestations doesn’t work, and how to create real safety and gratitude in your life.

Join me as we break down how to shift from scarcity to abundance, get clear on what *you* truly want, and start living from a place of wholeness. If you've ever felt like you're “not enough” or stuck in the wrong patterns, this episode is for you! 

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if you're listening to this and you're like, okay, I want to attract more money. I want to attract a man. I want to attract a relationship. Create that safety within yourself first. Have so much gratitude and then get really clear on what you desire, not what you see on Instagram. Don't try on other people's lives. Welcome to You First, a journey to self podcast, where we empower women to rediscover their true, authentic selves and regain personal power. If you are ready for a major shift, you've come to the right place. I am your host, Maria Fuentes, an expert in women's emotional mastery and self discovery. With a degree in psychology and nearly two decades of experience, I am passionate about addressing the challenges women face monthly. Self love, healthy relationships, and emotional awareness. I've had the privilege of coaching so many incredible women and witnessing their transformation through the methods we'll discuss on this podcast. This show is your weekly space to shift your perspective, find inspiration within and heal in ways that feel true to you. I'm so grateful you're here. Let's dive into this week's episode. Hello, beautiful muses and welcome to this week's episode. Ooh, today's going to be a juicy one because we're going to be talking about. How to attract what you desire. Especially in surrounding the two topics of love and money, because I'll be honest with you my whole life. I never wanted to just have one or the other. A lot of little girls grew up wanting to have, you know, how some babies, when they grew up and they drummed up. Their wedding. I did not. I drunk. I was going to be a lawyer in New York city walking around in my high heels. And love with a partner. Like I always just wanted these two things. Like I desired them since I was little. I didn't really care to have kids, even when I was little, I didn't even care about the marriage part either when I was younger. And so. I don't believe that we have to sacrifice one for the other. And if you're listening to this and you're ambitious, And you really just want to hone in on what you desire and you want to start attracting that. I want to tell you that things have worked for me, that haven't worked for me and things that I'm consistently and constantly. I challenged with, because I think this is something that you have to be conscious about and your relationship with love and money, all stems from your childhood. Like everything else, right? These are all relationships. So. I think sometimes we think money is a separate thing from us, but our relationship with money and our relationship with love are so similar. Because if we didn't have a healthy. Upbringing in either of these two areas, we're going to consistently look for. Things to make it unstable and to make it. We didn't have a stable, consistent household where money. Float and money. Wasn't a stressor. And love was abundant and there was no fighting unless we have that perfect home and perfect scenario. We're going to struggle with money because we've had. Unhealthy toxic examples of money. And our nervous system is going to feel like that is normal. Right. It's going to feel that love should feel hectic and crazy and full of like these rushing emotions and highs and lows and, and money should feel like scarcity. And like, we have enough and we have too much, and then we have nothing. Or if you're like me, you grew up with nothing. Like I grew up with very little money. After, like the age of six or seven, when my mom and my biological dad. I'm divorced or separated. My dad was a drug dealer, so I grew up very nicely. Like the first five, six years of my life. We had a lot of money. I had everything I wanted and then my whole life just came crumbling down. And then my mom was a single mom and. My dad went up and down with money because he was a drug dealer. Meaning like, you know, that's not a very sustainable career. So I constantly and consistently saw money as being one. Evil in a way that it was only like the only way that it was supporting my mom and I was because he was selling drugs and like, sure. I didn't know that at six years old, I actually learned that maybe like at nine or 10, but. I learned that gosh, money, like, is there a healthy way to make money? And then. Everything was surrounded about money. My mom wouldn't let my dad see me unless he was going to give us money. My mom was constantly in and out of jobs and struggling with money. We were constantly getting evicted from places. We were constantly having our cars repoed like money. Was so inconsistent. And that was what I saw. And then in love, like my stepdad came into the picture like a year or so after my mom and my dad broke up and their love was turbulent and in and out as well. So I saw very inconsistent things with love and money. And so as I grew up. I really felt the scarcity of like, oh my gosh. Oh my gosh. W I'm just never going to have enough. But I did promise myself when I was like 18, 19. I was like, I am not feeling like this about money ever again. Like I want to create safety and that's not what I said at the time. Like, I didn't have this language, her verbiage back then, but I knew that I did not want to be. Scrambling for money. Like my mom and I did. So when I left on my own in 19, I kind of just dealt with my own stuff and I always had just enough and looking back. I bartended after like I was 21 and I had a lot of influxes in like injections of money, you know, because bartender, you can have like really good week. And I would just blow it. I would blow money because I. Again, didn't see a consistent, healthy relationship with money, even in my mom and I did have money or my stepdad was doing better and well, like in my teenage years. Like the first thing that would go to it was just go spend the money. It wasn't like, let me invest and let me save money. Like that wasn't even a thing. So it was like racking up credit card debt, and I was blowing money. And you know, at the time, no one taught, like, I at least no one talked to me about like credit cards and being smarter and financially smart. And so my credit started just going to crap. And at the same time. And I'm giving you like perspective. So that in my story, like always, I want you guys to catch yourself, like, how has my relationship with money been? And I've talked about my romantic relationships, some diving more into the money since now, but even during that time, I was very turbulent in my relationships. I was. On and off with a five-year boyfriend from high school, they're lingered into like beginning years of college. On and off super toxic. So all of these things, and I thought that was normal because that's what I grew up with. I didn't even see it as like, oh my gosh, maybe I'm not healthy right here. And all of these areas of my life. And so as I started just seeing people's life that I was like, wow, that. I would love to have a life where it's. I'm consistently making money and maybe I should create a business. And so it was around the time I met my ex-husband, I was bartending, but he was like, you know, everyone comes into your life for a reason. And he was a big catalyst for me to start thinking about being an entrepreneur. And so. I was like, well, what type of business should I open? And so I was like, let me maybe go into insurance. And I'm not gonna dive into like my whole story, but long story short during my marriage, I. Started working at insurance. I wanted to open up my own state farm agency in Wilmington that didn't work out as planned. So I started my own online business with Amazon, that one really well, and then shit hit the fan. And, but here's, here's the backstory behind it too, is that I felt like now that I have a vision of what I want my life to be, I have to control the whole thing. All while my marriage, of course is not healthy either. Right? Like. Again, both things. Very toxic, very unhealthy. And my whole idea for making money and the attachment I had to making money and having a successful career was that. I'm going to retire my husband, like he was a tennis player and I was like, he can't be a tennis player forever. So I'm going to just make enough money to retire him. And I'm going to come and save the day. And, um, I'm going to be like the best thing in the world. My ego is so tied up into what I, and why I wanted money. And so when my Amazon business started to go downhill, I had to re re like reshift things. And then I, like, I got it back up, but it was never, again, even the business right. That I was creating was so inconsistent. Like. I had great months. And then I had like, oh, that's something happened. I had to shift and I had to do, and it just felt so unsafe for me. It felt so stressful. And at the same time, I still worked my insurance job because. It felt unsafe because of my childhood. To just give up my like steady income to just go fulfill his business idea that I had. And the reason I'm giving this whole backstory is because I really want you to analyze how your struggle has been in the past. What your struggles. That you saw growing up. What, what narratives did you have? A lot of people think the money's evil, and if you make too much, then you're not going to be a good person. Right. We never had good examples growing up, or at least I didn't have people that had a lot of money that did get things with their money. And so sometimes we create these like negative experiences and thinking that if we make my name. It's going to be negative or if. We make too much money. People are going to see us differently, or they're going to want something from us. Like there's always a subconscious reasoning to why we don't actually go and make the money or go for the relationship or go for the love. Because there's some part of us that doesn't feel worthy or they, or we think that it's not going to work out. And the reason I'm making this more focused on, on money in a way is because they both correlate. But. Being in the 21st century and be on Instagram and seeing all these women, they're like, oh my gosh, I'm in digital marketing. I'm in. Network marketing I'm in this. And people are making so much money, right? Coaches in my industry are making hundred thousand dollar months. Like I get caught up in like, oh my gosh, what am I doing wrong? Why am I not making enough? Why am I not doing enough? Why am I. And I want to get clear here too, is that none of these things matter. Unless there truly what you desire. I think they're flashy lights and they can seem really exciting. And you can maybe start going for the things and do it for the wrong reasons. And sometimes we can force the manifestations and force these things to actually work out for us, even if it's not aligned for us. But then when we get the things. They don't feel good. Like when my Amazon business was doing well, I wasn't any more happy. Then when it wasn't going well, because the reason I was creating it, the reason I was doing the thing wasn't because I desired it from a place of wholeness and groundness, it was more like when I get a successful business, I get to retire. My husband, I get to be the. The breadwinner. I get to have all the control. He gets to tell me how amazing I am. I get the validation that I wanted my whole life. I get the love. I get the admiration. I get the attention. And it wasn't aligned. So. I mean, that was a whole thing, but. We, we will mimic the same relationship sometimes that we have with love with money as well. And so as I've analyzed this a lot, especially after my divorce, I got into another relationship a, with a man that. That had a lot of potential, but he wasn't there monetarily and I helped him start his business. I had. Felt so. So failed because of my Amazon business, I was like, well, I'm going to give up on my dreams and just help somebody else create theirs. And what that taught me. One is that. I don't want to build the man workshop. And if you're listening to this and you've done this with men, You're probably doing it because you. Somehow feel like if you can help them and you see the potential in them and you can save them. One. You can avoid doing it for yourself. And two they'll finally recognize you and give you that love and validation. And that's what I was doing, so, because the first thing I tried didn't work with my past relationship. Then with this one, I was like, okay, well, I'm going to do this. And then I'll be everything he's ever wanted. And I did get that validation from him, but it still didn't matter. Like it didn't matter when we broke up, he wrote me the most beautiful letter. And he was like, you saved me from myself. I wouldn't be here without you. All of the things that I wanted to hear my whole life. And I was like, But I'm fucking unhappy. Like I'm so unhappy still right now. Like why doesn't this feel fulfilling? I thought that when I finally had all the love and validation, even if we're, we are breaking up, like I just wanted to hear these words and I'm like, why doesn't this feel good? Still? And so. Fast forward. I moved out with my nieces and I remember feeling so much scarcity around money, so much tightness, right. And at the same time, I'm like really analyzing, like, where's my relationship with myself and why do I keep getting into these relationships with people, needing them instead of just desiring them? Like, I need them to validate me. I need them to do something in my life. But it's not because I want to be with them. And so with money, I was like, man, I really feel the same way with money. I need money. Like I need money, like, oh my gosh. I'm not doing enough. I'm not making enough now I'm on my own. Like, I just felt this scarcity around every area of my life. When I moved in with my nieces. And I had to take a step back and say to myself, how can I start leaning into gratitude for what I have. Because we can't build more on lack. If you are saying to yourself, I don't have enough. I don't have enough. Enough is never going to come. I'll give you another metaphor. Think of like, when you're around somebody that you're like, wow, why do they want so much attention? Like they won't shut up. They're super loud. They're super obnoxious. And they just want all this attention and they're in a group setting and you're like, man, I, I even maybe want to like the person, but they're so annoying. Like, gosh, they're so needy for attention. That is the energy you're giving out to the universe when you need something to work for you and you need something to happen versus being aligned to your desires and. Wanting from that place. And I'm going to get even more clear about it. And the reason I gave you that whole backstory of myself is because it's all gonna make sense now. Onto why I needed to go through the struggles to really analyze what my relationships with both of these two areas were. And so as I sat with myself, I was like, okay. How can I start desiring? And these were concepts that didn't make a lot of sense to me. So if you're listening to this and you're like, okay, well, I don't know how I could start applying it. Like if you take just one thing from this episode, come back to it. Three, four months. Again. And re listen to it again. And then yoga take two, two or three other things. When we learn new concepts, they don't all stick at first because there are too many things. I knew in our, in our brains to try to analyze, but it stays in your subconscious and that's why Personal development is so powerful because. Thanks. We'll stick in our subconscious and we'll start acting in ways. And if something resonates with you, you'll start looking for evidence of it. And so that's what I started doing. I started listening and reading and diving into like, okay, well, let's get into my feminine flow and desire without attachment and all these things that you see on Instagram. And. I was doing this out of like S like pure scarcity. Okay. Like I literally, at the time, I'll give you guys like variable, like real numbers here. I was just working at state farm. Ahead. Of course, like, again, my business, my money and my relationships always correlate. And so right before my breakup. I had made this huge investment in my Amazon business where I was like, okay, this product, I took money away from my other products that we're doing decently. And I put it all into this new product. And I thought it was really going to hit and it flopped and I had so much inventory and so much crap. And I was moving out by myself and I had lost like$10,000 in investment. Just with that product. And now I have no Amazon business and I only, and I had to go back to my state farm job. That I did not love. I loved my boss, but I did not love my state farm job. And I'm living in Orlando, which I never thought I would move to Florida. And I was like, oh my God, like, everything just felt so tight. And so like, oh, like annoying. So numbers wise, I think I was making like, At the best, like sales months wise, I was maybe making$4,000 a month. That's like. 35 to$4,000 a month, which is not a lot. And even though I was living with my nieces and we were splitting bills, like still, I was so tight. With money, especially because I was already accustomed to a certain lifestyle for myself. Like I, you know, I love making money too, because I love taking care of myself. And so I like put my car on Turo, like, because I worked from home, I was like, well, I'm not driving. I have this car payment. Let me just like rent out my car. And so I started doing that. I started looking for ways to make more money and give myself that ease. And. I also started realizing that I felt so unsafe. When I received the money and with money that I had, I had a pretty decent savings account I still do. And I've never felt like that gave me a sense of safetiness of anything I've ever had to tap into it, which I did like the two years almost, or a year and a half that I lived with my nieces. I had to tap into it. I did not. I did not like the feeling and that's the whole reason for us to have that. Right. So then I was like, wait a minute. I don't feel safe with money, even if I have, uh, I could have lived off my savings guys for a long time, like a very long time. Over a year for sure. And I never felt safe. Like that just didn't feel safe to me. I was like, I'm not making enough. I'm not making enough, this doesn't feel safe. And I also didn't feel safe in even jumping into a relationship. I meet TJ. And I'm like, Nope, I don't feel safe being in a relationship. And I had to put it on hold even because I felt so much unsafety. And so that's what. That's what I realized about both of my relationships with money. Of my relationships with both money and love is that. I never really felt safe with either. So I was like, okay, let me do some learning around this subject. How do I start feeling safe and really cultivating that groundwork for feeling safe when I do fall in love and I'm in a relationship and it doesn't come and take away from me, it actually just gives to me, it gives more to me, but I'm giving to myself and how can I do that with money as well? And so. I started practicing every, every day I started journaling and I started really visualizing, and this was hard at the beginning. So this is hard for you. Like I totally get it. It's a practice. But what I've also learned is that. Visualization is. It's a movie that we're playing out. But we think that that's hard sometimes, but we're already doing that day to day. We're visualizing worst case scenarios. We're visualizing. Anxious anxiety about the future of visualizing like worst dune day scenarios already. So you're already delusional, really thinking the worst that has not happened. So if we're able to flip that and really just be delusional the other way. And start tapping into what you really desire and envisioning that. People use. You know, like, um, collages and all those things to, if you're a visual person, I think that really helps for me. What helps is writing out and what I would want my data look like, like what's your ideal day? What does that look like? How does that feel? Like, and then when I started tapping into the feelings, I was like, whoa, this is so different. Like. You're saying I'm not going to just write a goal that like means like I'm not writing. I want a man that's six, three that is like financially stable. That is emotionally smart. And. I want to make 20 K months. And so I'm not writing those types of goals. Why it's like, that was such a different concept for me because. In the past. I was so much in my masculine that I was like, all right. My goals are like my vision boards before. We're like, okay. 10 K months going to this location. Like it was all very much that. And when I started really even creating my vision boards of feelings that I wanted to feel. The freeness, right. The ambition is still there, but it's, I'm attaching myself to something more than just the ambition and the dollar amount or the specific person. So I literally started scripting. Natasha Graziano. If you look her up on Instagram, she's always talking about scripting and the way she speaks and the way she talks, like it really is. You have to just visualize what you want and whatever way that, that feels good to you and start writing it down. This looks like this, the person I'm with treats me like this. I feel like this. I love myself. My body looks like this. My hair looks like this. My makeup looks like this, the clothes I wear, feel like this. The money that abundantly comes to me helps me do this. It helps me do that. Attach yourself to why you even want the money. What does that emotion that you want that money to give you? For me, I know it's safety and freedom. Hands down. I know that I like money because it creates safety that I never had growing up. And I know it gives me the freedom to do and be the things that I want to do. I hate being restricted. I hate being constricted. The only reason I can actually work in my commercial insurance job now, which I'll get into that story here in a second is because I have a lot of time freedom with them. And so I, as I create my coaching career and my podcast career and everything else, I know that's going to create more freedom, but I'm already attaching to that emotion now. And so a couple of episodes ago, I talked about connecting to the emotion. Of what you want right now. And a lot of how I practice that is. Because my commercial insurance job gives me that freedom. When I get to go on a walk in the middle of the day, or I get to go get my nails done in the morning. Or whatever, freedom time. Freedom I have. I'm like, wow. I tap into them. This is how it's going to feel like when I get to just do what I want with my business and help people in a way that feels good to me and set my own hours and set my own time. This is how it's going to feel. This feels really great. And sure this is easy now to do, but I did it with my state farm job. I sort of really being thankful for this or being like, really thankful that I get to have that time with my nieces, that I would have never otherwise had. You have to tap into so much gratitude for what you have and then more starts to come. And then, because you're, you're tapping into that energy of like, thank you. Thank you. Thank you. I'm so grateful. I'm already experiencing the joy that I want. Opportunities are going to be like. Blatantly in your face. And that's what happened with my commercial insurance job. I was like, okay. I started my relationship with TJ. So I took a big leap there and I was like, all right, let's stretch myself out here again. And I've created some safetiness in my life. And of course it has been like, Uh, slow progressions. It wasn't just like a year that it took me to create that safety. I've been working on myself for the last almost seven years. So when I met TJ, there was a lot of like fear, but I was like, okay. I'm willing and ready to go into it. But then I did it at the same time that I took a big leap, leaving state farm, leaving the compass of like my boss. I could do whatever I want. I had a day off. I only worked four days a week. I literally worked like 20 hours in that job, but I made no money. So I was like, okay, I'm going to go into this commercial insurance job with a startup company. And it can go to hell. Like the company can go to shit. It's a startup. But the potential and make a lot more money is there. So I'm just going to take the leap. And so I did. So when you connect the vision, the desire, the gratitude. For what you already have and you start really feeling it. Like my mentor, always says one foot in gratitude and one foot in desire It's a constant. Uh, gosh, I really love where I'm at. Thank you so much, God. And I. I can't wait until I have that. That desire, right? It's one foot here, one foot there. And as you lead your life that way, I was like, okay. Am I safe? Yes. I have to create safety. How do I start creating safety? It's breath work it's leaning into your body is when you feel the tension to give it attention. Like I always tell my clients like the tension in your body. Give it attention. I go lay on my back. I have, um, one of my girlfriends. That I met at the retreat that I did two years ago. She was like, you carry a lot of tension on your shoulders when you feel, and this is part of like you even analyzing what works for you and where do you feel your tension? She's like lay down on your, back on the floor. And have your knees like bent, right? So she's like, all the support is going to be on your neck and your shoulders and your back. And you're going to feel supported from the floor. And she's like, you need that support and that connection to like the groundness and. Whenever I feel tension. I go do that. And I sort of tapping because a lot of fears came up, right? Not only am I jumping into this relationship, it's beautiful. But, uh, like I don't have any evidence that I'm good at this love thing. And then. Oh. And at the same time I started my podcast too. So like, I really just like to push myself in all ways. Started my podcast started coaching. Got into a relationship and I'm making this big jump into commercial insurance. And so. If you can think, like all the fear started coming up and actually around this time is when I gained a bunch of weight too. My hormones, my stress, my cortisol, like everything. My body was just Like overload. And so all those challenges, even though stretching myself in all good ways, I had to tap even more. And that's where like tapping became really important in my life as well. And just being really grounded and understanding that I was safe and creating the safety within myself and part of how I create the safety. And I talked about it a couple of episodes ago is showing up for myself, consistently. I didn't have, like I said, money consistently, my parents being consistent, lover affection consistently. So the only way that I can feel safe in my body to create or do or take big leaps or do any of these things is to create that consistency for myself. If I can trust myself. And that's literally what confidence is, is confidence that your someone's going to show up for you. And so once I started doing that for myself at the same time, I'm like, okay, I've got this, I've got this, I've got this. Do I have any evidence that I can be really good at any of these things? No. But do I have evidence that I can get through bad things? Yes. So I was like, okay. So also look for that. Like when, because when you start desiring and gratitude and the opportunity to start showing up the fear, start showing up. Remind yourself of everything that you've been able to do before. Instead of thinking of all the failures that you have, again, the delusion, right. You're creating an illusion already. So be delusional the other way, the opposite way. Your life is created through your mind. And I think that's hard for us to imagine sometimes because it's like, no, well, there's actual facts. There's things that happen outside of my mind and yes, they happen. But it's the attachment that we make. To them in our minds. It's the stories we tell ourselves that keep us stuck. And so. Think when you want. So if you're listening to this and you're like, okay, I want to attract more money. I want to attract a man. I want to attract a relationship. Create that safety within yourself first. Have so much gratitude and then get really clear on what you desire, not what you see on Instagram. Don't try on other people's lives. Thinking like that life might look good. That life might be good. Sure try different things, but get really clear on what you want and what works for you. Now I honestly don't have a number amount that I feel like it's going to make me happy. And before I end the episode, I do want to say this, I'm recording this in August. And the reason I wanted to record this episode is because if you've been listening to me, I had something really tragic happened now in August. And with my cat passing away and I had the best sales month. At my job and my commercial insurance job. And as I was working out this morning, I was like, why was that? And it's because sometimes I do get so caught up on my sales and my numbers. That I, I need it to happen, right? I'm like, I need to hit my goal and do this, and then it doesn't happen. But when I let it go like that wasn't even a. Uh, thought this each month because I had so much going on. I was like, whatever happens this month happens this month. Like I just need to take care of myself, my emotions, my body. And then I'm literally recording this August 30th and I've doubled my sales that I've ever done before in the whole time that I've worked here. Now, at this point, I've been in commercial insurance for over a year. And I was like, why was that? And it's because I, I didn't have an attachment to it. I did the work I showed up. Right. That's another part of it. So gratitude, desire. Do the things, you know, you need to do to move the needle, don't attach your worth your sense of self to the results. And then lean back and let it all happen. Like those are, that's literally the formula that is be a match. Like claim it be a match to it. Don't get attached to it and then celebrate it. That was that's another part I'll. Okay. I have so much to say about this subject. This might have to be, I might have to do another episode on this, but I've also realized that when I celebrate. The successes. Even if I've already done it. So. Let's say this month I had my biggest month. If I do this again next month or two months from now or three months from now, I'm going to celebrate it just as hard. And I'm also going to celebrate when I just had a smaller month, I'm going to celebrate all the things because in joyous moments, like that's where you build momentum, that's where you build happiness. At your peak. So that's where, like I always tell my clients, I'm like, listen, when you're sad, when you're low, when you're in those moments, that's not, when you go build momentum, that's not where you take these massive leaps. You do that when things feel good. You leap forward and you go for more. So I'll leave it at that because I could literally talk about this all day long. I love this subject. And S muses we deserve it all. First of all, we deserve it all. But being your own source of inspiration and being your own muse, Means that you have mastery. Over all these areas of your life. And it comes with a deep knowing of yourself first. Because when you know yourself, no one can tell you who you are when you get clear on your desires. Do you know exactly what you're looking for? And you're a match to that. So I hope you guys enjoy this episode and I hope you enjoyed my stories and you could seek and find parts of yourself in my stories and really sit back and analyze after this episode. Like, what is your relationship with love? What is your relationship with money? How has it been get really real and raw with yourself? Journal? Maybe ask yourself a couple of questions like that. Like what has been my relationship and how can I shift that perspective? How can I change that? And how can I start creating safety? By showing up for myself. What did I need as a child? And I can give to myself right now. And all right. That's all I've got for you guys. I hope you guys have an amazing week and I'll talk to you guys next week.