Mastering Feminine and Masculine Dynamics with Christina Acker – Part 2

In this episode of *You First: A Journey to Self*, Christina Acker and I continue our exploration of feminine energy. We dive into how embracing pleasure and understanding our sexual energy can lead to profound self-discovery and healing.

Christina shares insights on how societal expectations and early messages shape our relationship with sensuality. We discuss the impact of holding onto or releasing sexual energy and its effects on our well-being. Plus, we cover how to recognize when we're in our feminine energy and practical ways to tap into it.

We also tackle the art of setting boundaries and standards, balancing kindness with assertiveness. Christina explains how to confidently establish and maintain both masculine and feminine boundaries.

Join us as we reconnect with the powerful essence within us, let go of what's holding us back, and discover the magic in embracing our feminine energy.


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A lot of women will say, I got to become feminine. No, this is a, this is a huge marketing ploy and it drives me insane. You already are feminine. You already are feminine, but you're wearing so many different coats of other people's bullshit, other people's energy, people pleasing, you know, the job, the finances that you're wearing all, all the traumas, your parents, what they think of you and other people thinking you're wearing all these different energies and your feminine doesn't even know, you don't even know where it's at anymore. Welcome to you first a journey to self podcast, where we empower women to rediscover their true authentic selves and regain personal power. If you are ready for a major shift, you've come to the right place. I am your host, Maria Fuentes, an expert in women's emotional mastery and self discovery. With a degree in psychology and nearly two decades of experience, I am passionate about addressing the challenges women face most. Self love, healthy relationships, and emotional awareness. I've had the privilege of coaching so many incredible women and witnessing their transformation through the methods we'll discuss on this podcast. This show is your weekly space to shift your perspective, find inspiration within, and heal in ways that feel true to you. I am so grateful you're here. Let's dive into this week's episode. Hello my beautiful muses and welcome back to this week's episode. We are doing part two of Feminine Energy with Christina Aguirre. I had her on here last week. If you've missed part one, go back and listen to that one. We really define what femininity is, what feminine energy is, and masculine energy. How to become aware of these energies, how they plan to relationships. And then today on this week's episode, we're, we're going to talk about how to balance these energies, how to tap more into your feminine energy, how to really embody that feminine energy that we all have and. What happens when we start getting away from it? So if you enjoyed last week's episode, you're going to enjoy this one even more and let's dive right in. Hey, Christina, welcome back to part two. So let's let's dive in into like, how do we balance these energies? If you haven't heard part one, we dived into talking about feminine and masculine energies and how that comes up for us women and What that means in relationships as well. We really got into like how it comes up in relationships, how to heal parts of ourselves, how to have more awareness. And Christina, you made a good point of somatic healing and expansion and, you know, different stages of our lives require different things. And I love that you mentioned all this. Actually, I do want to talk to you offline because I am in a very expansion part of my business. And I think that. These energies for me are like hard for me to figure out right now because it's, it's new, right? And so all these things are so important for us to have mentorship and understand. And I hope this podcast helps a lot of women. So I'll let you start off with like, how do we know when we're in our feminine energy? Let's start off with that. Your nervous system will feel very calm, very calm. You won't feel like you have to do anything. So I'll often ask women that are not used to inviting their feminine energy in sustainably. Cause the one thing I do want to debunk is that everyone gets, every woman will get her feminine energy. We are 90%, well, everyone's on a spectrum, but I say 75 to 90 percent of us are all core feminine energy. Um, And so you'll get into it, right? Like when you're dancing and you're feeling beautiful and, you know, you, maybe, you know, you just want a great date. He made you feel juicy, right? Maybe your, your sexual energy or sacral energy is really like, we all have those moments where we feel feminine, but then something, something will happen in our brain will immediately snap back into unsafety. I have to do, I have to prove, I have to, you know. And so, I would say sustainably to be in your feminine, you have to just sit there and see how you feel. So, this is a very, it's so funny, it seems very simple, but a lot of women are like they can't fucking do it. And I will ask them to do this for 30 minutes, okay, 30 minutes, and I know it seems like a long time, so maybe you can start with 10 minutes, right? Even like five minutes, some women have this, but I feel like the goal is to get to 30 minutes. But even if it's like five minutes, just sit on the couch, have a candle, have like, you know, some tea, just relax, be in your comfies, right? And just sit there. You don't have to meditate. Just sit, right? Maybe have a view, um, not watching TV, not on your phone. Just sit and just be. And do you know how many things will come up when you just be? Yeah. Like so many things will come up, right? You'll start overthinking. You'll, you'll get in your, you'll get in your head. Usually women will get in their head. They'll start overthinking of this and this and this and oh, then all of a sudden stressors will come up, right? This is how I know a woman cannot be a neurofeminine sustainably because a healthy feminine woman can just sit there and just be. And yeah, there'll be thoughts that come in, but now that we're really getting her attention or her, her overdriving focus, um, And because this is, again, when a woman is getting her worth from who she is as a woman, she can be with herself and it can be beautiful and it can be healthy and in her sacred. So actually, when a woman is inter feminine and she's just sitting there being, you know, for 20 minutes, I'm just sitting there and you're listening to some soft music without lyrics because the second lyrics come in, we'll focus on the lyrics, the lyrics will make us think things, right? And so you just sit there. Um, and then a lot of the time what will happen is. Your sacral energy will start to invigorate and it'll start to activate. And all of a sudden you get these amazing ideas and like, Oh, this would be really cool. You're just feeling really good. You'll notice some tension in your body. You're connected to your body. You're connected to your breath, right? That will happen naturally when a woman is in her feminine energy. But what happens is we get pulled into our masculine, our masculine, or even our wounded feminine. Right. And that's when the overthinking will happen. The, they're like, Oh, I want to do this or go on board or, or a lot of women will actually feel guilty. Just be. So that's a really great practice to do is can't, how long can you just sit there with yourself and just be right. And that tells you a lot. So another, a lot of ways to be in your feminine energies. Well, first, the first thing I want to say is like a lot of women will say, I got to become feminine. No, no, no. This is a, this is a huge marketing ploy and it drives me insane. You already are feminine. You already are feminine, but you're wearing so many different coats of other people's bullshit, other people's energy, people pleasing, you know, the job, the finances that you're wearing all, all the traumas, your parents, what they think of you and other people thinking you're wearing all these different energies and your feminine doesn't even know, you don't even know where it's at anymore, right? And so what happens a lot of the time when I work in my world, I want to become more feminine. Okay, so the first place that we do is to realize that you already are feminine. So what are the, what is the first coat we're going to take off? Right? What is the thing that is stopping you from connecting? That's why it's feminine reconnection. Not, you know, not getting feminine energy. You already have it within you. Um, so that's the first thing I would say is, you know, find the areas where you connect to your body. That is a huge tangible thing you can do. Um, I try to stay away from tangibilities when it comes to feminine, because immediately your brain will go to what are you doing? They'll write down lists and they're, you know, all of a sudden you get your masculine, but you're trying to get your, you know, you're trying to connect your feminine, but you know, the thing is just any way that you can connect with your body. So take those bubble baths, you know, uh, it sounds really ridiculous, but like, you know, um, I have a beautiful candle here and if I find myself like need to relax, I'll just go and I was smelling my candle. Right. Cause I, it really not just. And we'll just smell and I'll just sit there and I'll just take in the aromas and I'll connect with my breath and I'll just be right. And the second that you're connecting to every bit to, to yourself and not everything outside of you, you're in your feminine. I love that. So simple. He's very simple. I don't know. I think I was telling you the last episode that, um, you know, we don't like do. We don't do, do, yo, we're so caught up on like do, do, do, do, do, but really it's, it's in the being that we are interfeminine, yo. I love that. And you're right. I, when I want to tap into my feminine energy, which was really hard for me at the beginning too, like just staying still that the thought of it, like you're so right. I had so much resistance and I felt like, well, I'm not doing enough and the guilt and the shame would just, those emotions would come in and I had to just be okay because I, the opposite of me not doing that was I was overwhelmed. I was stressed. I was anxious. And so just for me, like you said, laying down and like being in your body, like I lay down and I feel supported by the ground underneath me, or I indulge in like, like you said, in the senses or like I'll indulge in a Red Bull or chocolate or just pleasure, like I feel guilty with feeling pleasure as women and sexual pleasure, we'll get into that, I'm sure, but I mean, it's been, it's been society, like society has pushed us away from that because I, I truly believe that if, If women were in their feminine energy and can tap into that, and I love that you're doing this work, we're so powerful. It's scary to people. So I think they've shunned it from us for so long. Feminist movement, which like you said is toxic, that's not real femininity. And so let's talk about that. How do women tap into more of that as well, sexual pleasure, and why has that been so taken from us, do you think? I think it all starts with our mother. It all starts with our mother and how our mother exuded her sexual energy, right? And you know, I'll give you an example, my mother, my mom, if you're listening, um, and you know, we've talked, we've talked about this before where, you know, my mom consistently told me this one sentence growing up, I'll never forget it. We joke about it now, but before it really affected me, it was Christina, be a lady. Be a lady was constantly told to me throughout my life, right? I would cuss. I would say something. I would maybe dress, you know, with short skirt, whatever. Be a lady, be a lady, right? Um, and I think from a young age, that sentence held so much weight, right? Now that was my sentence, but every woman has her version of that where she was told to repress, wanted to come out, right? Now, the mothers of our time or the, the feminine energy that we, you know, all of our view of the feminine energy that when we grew up, we took that on, um, as women, I think a lot of the time what happens is we, the whole thing is they don't want us to be too much. Don't be too much. Don't be too much. And the second that hits our head, we're constantly overthinking about, wait, can I do that? Not too much. I want to do that, but is it too much? So there's this push pull between your sacral and your sacral energy is your sexual energy. So there's this push pull between your sacral, what happens is eventually it shuts down. Your sacral will actually become so slow. So one of the very first things I'll do in somatic work is, well, I want to find out exactly how fast your sacral energy is moving. Because if it's really, really fast, what'll happen is, um, like women that are overly sexual, that's because they're getting validation from the sex because they never learned how to express it in a healthy way that made them feel good. A lot of women will say, well, I don't need that. I don't need sacral healing because, um, I'm really sexual, right? I'm like, alright, well, let's talk about that, right? Maybe you are, maybe absolutely. But maybe your sexual energy has nothing to do with you and it's all about getting validation and attention from men, right? And that happens a lot. Like, where is your energy? Like, again, the feminine is not nothing about external world. The feminine is everything about inside, internal world. So, our sexual energy, me dancing, me showing a woman how to let her wild woman out, that's all about her. It's not about attention. It's not about, you know, what other people are going to be thinking about you. You know? Now, that's awesome. People are like, you know, get inspired from it, right? Like a lot of the time in my, um, in my workshops, especially the sexual ones, like they're very inspired about the way that I'm moving. They're very inspired about how I move in my, in my sexual body. I'm not doing it for them, right? I'm doing it for me even when I'm teaching about it, right? And so this is the power of a woman's sacral and sexual energy. So back to like more of our society, again, we're just told to be too much. Um, I think, you know, I think that the way that we view woman's sexuality is all about sex. It's become all about sex and it has very little to do with sex, like very little to do with actual sex. And very little to do with attracting sex or attracting mates, nothing to do with that. It's all about our power, our creativity, right? What we, what we bring to this world, right? Which could be considered masculine, but that's actually a lot of the warrior feminine because we, you know, a lot of women will confuse her masculine with the warrior feminine because you know, the warrior is kind of doing, but it's all still coming from a place of like not needing to prove herself, not needing to make something, no attachment to the outcome. So, um, Yeah. But going back to the sexual energy, um, I go on tangents. I apologize. I love the subject. So I'm like, Um, and so when a woman is, you know, but normally I would say it's more common for women to repress your sexuality than to be overly sexual, right? But either way, it's the same amount of healing. You need to get your say girl to a, a. A slow, sexy movement where it feels really, really good and there's no, there's no attachment to the outcome of you having your sexual energy, meaning you're not worried about what other people are going to think about you. Again, this is not like showing up naked on Instagram. This is about. This is about being in your body and feeling good in your skin, right? It's about being able to touch yourself and go, Oh, I love my body. Oh, I feel good. Now it doesn't mean you don't feel bloated and you don't feel like shit. Sometimes it just means that most of the time you fucking love yourself. Yes. Oh gosh, I have so much to say about this because I, I got chills when you talked about the somatic parts and like the sacral and all that. I, last year I went to a retreat, right? And what came up before I even sat with plant medicine or anything like that was you're here to heal your womb. And for me, it was a lot of that sacral energy and, and womb energy, because growing up, I had the same, I had, don't wear that. That's too sexual. Guys are going to look at you. Don't show your legs. Don't do this. And my mom would tell me like, if you have sex, you're going to get pregnant. If you have sex, like sex became so taboo. I didn't lose my virginity until I was 19. And I didn't have a healthy sexual relationship with myself until honestly, like about a year and a half ago. And I had to, I had to like really just dive into those parts of myself. Like you said, that you maybe don't even recognize that you don't love, you know, sex was just an act for me in the past. It wasn't for sensuality or sexuality. I, I only linked those two sex. So just feeling sexy for myself. And like you said, it doesn't have to be on Instagram. And then I, I did go the opposite way. I started posting like sexy stuff on Instagram. I'm like, no, it has nothing to do with it. Yeah. I think we all have like that moment where we feel like there's like an awakening. But it is just like feeling so comfortable within yourself. And I started dancing and I, I felt, I love being honest and like still transparent with my, my listeners, but I felt so uncomfortable dancing to music that like, was more like shopper opening and more like just, you know, primal, yeah, you almost feel a little weird. You're like, like I'm judging myself as I'm doing it, you know, so good at the same time, you know, no, they're judging. No one's there telling you that it's wrong. And. And that's such a powerful, thank you for saying that, because that is such a powerful way to start. I actually, oh, that's what I was going to say too, I lost my period. Right after that retreat, it was like all this sexual, sensual, sacral stuff was like, like you said, it was like repressed for so long that my body, my physical body was just like, We're going to shut down a lot of things because we're not healthy here and it's taking a lot of like healing that part and I don't even, I don't, I wouldn't say that I'm completely healed there still like I think that because of all those years and plus sexual partners that you're with and all these things like feminine energy now I see it's so sacred. Like, women should be very cautious about that, right? Like, what are your thoughts on that, on sexuality and the partners you choose and the energy transfers there? Yeah. So, obviously, you know, if you just think back to actually what sex is, right? It's him penetrating us, right? I mean, if you're straight, of course. And when there is penetration happening, there's an energy exchange happening where this is why sex affects women more than it does men because it releases way more hormones in us than it does them. And it's because we are actually taking in their energy. We are taking in all of their traumas, all their bullshit. Now, we can clear it. Yes, but we've also never been taught to do that because people tend to not believe that. They think it's woo woo. This is actually, you know the crazy thing I love about energy work is that it's actually backed in science. Like, this is an actual quantum business, this is actually real, right? And one of the beautiful, most beautiful things that, I mean, are you familiar with Dr. Joe Dispenza? Yeah. Love him, right? And so he, one of, not his findings, but his team's finding was that, like, you know, we have these auras. Auras are a real thing. They've been proven, right? And we have an overwhelmingly positive thought. Our aura actually changes and by law of attraction, we will attract things. Our aura, uh, is, is protruding. So sex is very similar. We can take in a man's aura, right? We can take in his ions, his energy, right? And then what happens is if we don't expel that, we'll hold on to it in our womb. And then this is when hormonal problems will happen. Our periods will shut down, whether they're really heavy periods or PCOS or, you know, miscarriages or this, there, I mean, this really affects women on a very deep level because your womb space does not just affect your space. It affects your sacral, it also affects your root chakra. It's both those. And so if you are not, you know, it just doesn't affect your sexuality, it'll actually affect your level of being safe and how safe you feel in this world, right? And if your period goes missing, it's because it doesn't feel safe coming. And if your period shuts down, it means you can't, what, have a baby because your body's literally telling you it's not safe to have a baby. And so this goes into a lot of deep energy work that is so fascinating. Um, you know, but just to kind of like go back to the whole, you know, sexual partner thing is that, you know, a lot of women that go, Oh, I want it. I can be like a man. I can go, I can go fuck anything I want. Okay. I hear that. But also. understand what you're doing. I do believe in choice, right? If you, if you understand what's happening and you still make that choice, more power to you, right? But you also have to learn to clear it, right? You need to learn to clear it. And sometimes if a man's energy is so toxic, that energy is really hard to clear, right? It can be done. I've helped many women do it, literally hundreds of women do it. That can be hard to clear, right? And You know, but sometimes it's really easy. It just, it just depends on your level of also letting go because everything about the feminine is surrendering and letting go doesn't mean that you, you don't have, uh, you know, boundaries. It doesn't mean that you're not in charge of your life and what you allow in your life, but it means you surrender and go. I'm no longer allowing this energy in my life and therefore I'm also not allowing them to penetrate me that don't have my highest good in mind and have my highest energy in mind, right? And so there's just a lot, I mean, this, this conversation is so beautiful, I could literally go hours about it because it's so fascinating to me, um, but you know, just to kind of bring it up just a bit. Women need to be very careful about who they allow into their bodies. They really, really do. And even the act of penetrating with your mouth, right? With a, with a, I'm not sure how much you want to get with your, how to, Oh, the little one. Yeah, so yeah, I get very, I have like no shame. Uh, but like even putting a man's penis in your mouth, that's still an exchange of energy. You know what I mean? It's, you got to be really, really careful. Um, you know, and a lot of women too, like they'll come in my world. I actually just, I'm, I just, Uh, relaunched my sexual awakening, and one of the women I'm working on, she doesn't like giving blowjobs. Cause, you know, and the first thing I said is, I said, let's stop her here. You know, and she's, she's equating it to like, why don't I don't like, I don't like doing it. It's gross. It's bad. It's whatever. She's like, come taste gross. Okay. Hold on. I want to know where you're resenting your husband. Yeah. Because if you don't like taking him in any form, you are not fully happy in that relationship. And she's like, no, I love him. Like she claims everything is good. This and that. Well, after some somatic work and some, some hypnotherapy turned out that something happened years ago. I won't say here, but something happened years ago and she was holding a lot of resentment. She thought it would let she go. She didn't. We somatically healed it. Oh, now, now she'll take him anyway. I mean, this stuff is very, very deep. And we think it's just like these physical things, like, oh, we don't like this, oh, we don't like this, but no, it's all energetic. Because when you are a woman who surrenders to her man, and again, surrendering does not mean you do what he wants and you don't have choices. Not its exact opposite. It means you're allowing him to care for you. You're allowing him to care for your feminine, right? And when we surrender to that, you want to take him in any way you can, because it's the most beautiful thing you can give him because connect men connect during sex. We connect her in every other way. So yeah. I love that you brought up standards and boundaries because that's something I definitely wanted to chat about on here because it's something I work with my girls on because standards and boundaries, I mean, whether it's sexual partners or friendships or your business and how you treat yourself, I think people think, and you actually posted something about this recently, you said, Maybe today, I think you said, I saw it on your story that you're like, standards and boundaries isn't a bitchy thing to do. Yes. Yes. I'm big on boundaries. Yeah. Boundary mastery is one of the number one topics I teach about. Yeah. And I love that. And I want you to explain to people what type of energy brings on standards and boundaries and how to hold those. Because when I talk to my girls, I feel a lot of resistance. I'm sure you do with your clients too. They're like, what? Yeah. Yeah. How do I say that in a nice way? What if I come off like this? And there's always this resistance because we're taught as little girls, we have to be nice. And then we are, we learn as adults, we're not nice, or we set a boundary, then we're being bitches, right? Where, like, how do we balance these energies when we set those standards and boundaries with people? Yeah. So first off, you know, standards and boundaries kind of gets talked about interchangeably, but they're not the same. So you can have standards and not have, or you can, you can try to implement boundaries, but if you don't have standards, you can't, it's impossible. Standards are the clarity, right? And then think of standards as the clarity, boundaries as the execution. So, the reason I like to say that boundaries is actually very kind is because if someone is drawing it, and I think I've said this in my stories, if somebody is drawing it in an unhealthy way, they're, they're, they're being triggered, they're, they're coming from a mood of energy, right, and the people are going to think two things, they're either fucking psycho or they're, they're afraid of them, right? I don't want anyone to ever be afraid of me, ever, right? But also, I don't ever really have to draw boundaries because people just kind of feel my energy, right? Because I'm kind about it, right? And I also, self love is a huge thing here. I love myself so much that I will never allow myself to self abandon, which is what people pleasing and lack of boundaries is. So I would like to say this. If a woman is struggling, if you're listening right now and you're struggling with boundaries, I want you to think of boundaries. as the highest worth of the form of self love because boundaries create safety within your body, right? Because if you know that you have your own back, that is going to create massive safety. Without the safety of boundaries, you cannot, you cannot be in your feminine sustainably. It's impossible because you'll always be wondering where you don't have that safety. I'm always feeling safe. Now, obviously there's a situation I'm physically unsafe. That's different, but you know, my protection mechanisms will come up, but 90 percent of my life, I'm 90, 90 percent of my life. I'm completely safe because I have the, the ability to draw those lines in a really beautiful way that doesn't make people think I'm crazy or a bitch. In fact, they love me more for it. I can't lie, literally, with my coach, literally with my mentor the other day, I drew a boundary because I didn't like something she said. I said, hey, actually, you know, I'm actually thinking that this is going to be a better rap for me than this, but I really appreciate your input, but I think it's going to be a no for me. And she goes, I fucking love you. She goes, thank you. I love being, women actually love being told no. That's why it's really sexy. Like a lot of women will actually fantasize that when a man says no to them, like, oh, that's hot. He told me no, right? Because there's actually, it creates a safety, whether you're feminine, where you can turn your brain off. However, Back to drawing it in a healthy way, in a kind way. So I always will say this, draw your boundaries like you're ordering a coffee. That is the tonality that you need to be drawing your boundaries in, right? So if somebody, it's never like a, uh, it's never quiet, but it's like, Hey, can I get a mocha, mocha, mocha, mocha, mocha, coffee with a, with some whipped cream. Thank you. I really appreciate you. Thank you. Right. That's the tonality you're gonna be drawing your boundary because it has this like, I Are you nervous ordering a coffee? Right? Are you aggressive ordering coffee? No, you're just f ing chill. You're chill. You're confident. You know what you want. You've been to Starbucks a thousand times. You know what you want, right? And you're not going to settle for, you know, whatever, right? So, that is the tonality. That is the energy, right? There's so, there's literally an energetics to drawing boundaries, um, but it really all starts with the basis of your standards. You have to know your boundaries. I cannot tell you, Maria, there are so many women that don't even know their boundaries. They don't even know them. They're like, people will cross them, or people will tell me what your boundaries are. They don't know. Yeah. I have the same thing. I agree. They don't know. And so you have to get clarity. Clarity is the key here, right? You have, that's your standards. Write down your boundaries. Literally write them down. They could change, right? And they could change also depending on the person, right? But if it, if it, there's feminine boundary, there's feminine boundaries and masculine boundaries. Feminine boundaries are the ones that make you feel like, Oh, I don't like that. Right. And feminine boundaries could be interchangeable. Being like, here's a really great example. So let's say that somebody, uh, like a friend is really, really on time all the time. Right. But like the past couple of times they've been late and that's like one of your things like, ah, you don't, you don't like it, right. You get that like twinge in your stomach, but then your friend is like going through a really hard time. Maybe they just lost their dog. Maybe something happened. Right. Well, That might be a boundary of you, of yours, to not let, allow people to be late on you all the time, but that might change because maybe you don't get that twinge because you're like, well, they've been going through a really hard time, so I'm going to give them that nurturing space, right? It doesn't feel the same in your body because you want to love on them, right? That's a feminine boundary. A masculine boundary is like, this is a hard line for me, okay? You call me a bitch, I'm out, okay? You cheat on me, I'm out. You yell at me, I'm out. That is a hard, I don't need to check in with my body. I know this is a boundary, right? Okay. Okay. So I think women need to understand that like, you want to get better in your boundaries to create that safety for femininity. First of all, you have to know what they are. You have to check in with yourself very often and you have to stay calm, cool and collected because that's when people actually look at you and go, Oh, that's a confident bitch. That, uh, that's, she, she drew that boundary way too, like, she didn't give a, she didn't give a shit about the outcome. That's what I said in the story, right? It's like, the, the way you know if you're not, if you're having a really struggling with boundaries is you're being hyper attached to the outcome of setting the boundary. I am not hyper attached to the outcome of setting my boundary. I will set the boundary and if you have a problem with that, I'm so sorry. Like, I'm so sorry you have a problem with that, but then again, like, what, sorry, not sorry, right? Like, and not in like a bitchy way, but like, we can talk about it if you want, but that's still my boundary. Right? Okay. And maybe I, with the distance myself, maybe we get closer because of it. Who knows? But either way, I'm not attached to you having a problem with my piece. Right. No, that's when you know yourself, you love yourself, you respect yourself. That is the standard. And so everyone else will just either treat you that way and then the boundaries help. You know, like you said, setting those hard boundaries. And I love that you said the masculine boundary is like the Absolutely not. Hard line. And the feminine is like, okay, maybe I can, I can be okay with things kind of being a little bit depending on where we're at. Yeah. Then to be able to execute feminine boundaries, though, you have to really trust yourself, right? Because a lot of times women will be like, oh, that was a feminine boundary. I have a boundaries master course. And a lot of girls would be like, oh, that was, that was a feminine boundary. I I'm like, okay, hold on. Was it a feminine boundary or did you just get really worried and you just let it go? Right. You didn't actually feel gross and icky in your body and you shouldn't say anything. Or did you actually feel good, right? Was it actually like a, I'm good with this, right? Like they're, you know, whatever that situation is. So I love that. And before we end that episode, I do want to say that we're all still worthy of feeling respected and feeling validated and feeling loved. And whether you're in your masculine, a lot of your feminine, or you're really reaching and when you're really thriving to be more in your soft, feminine energy. We all deserve all of those things. And I think it does start and you tell me what you think of this, but I, I tell my girls, it starts with you. You first, the whole podcast is you first, because it all starts and ends with you. And I really love that we have this conversation and I hope it gives women clarity onto we don't have to become feminine. That's already a part of us. How do we tap into that more? How do we generate more of that in our lives? Because it's really, it's really where the magic happens. At least in my life, it's where the magic has happened. It's when I've, I've released, I let go, I do, I do the actions, I go for it, but then I go back and I just let things be. I don't attach myself to anything. And yeah, you do such beautiful work, Christina. Thank you so much for joining us. How can my audience find you? How can my audience stay in touch with you? And how can they work with you? Absolutely. Um, this has been amazing. This has been such an awesome. I love conversations like these. I love like popping off on the different things. I absolutely love to talk about and this was just been absolutely like you've just been the best. Thank you so much for having me. Um, yes, you can just find me. Uh, my Instagram is at the effortlessly feminine. Um, so I have multiple ways to work with me. So I have a healer. I have a her method. Essentially, this method allows any woman to come into my world no matter where they are in their healing journey. It's the healing, which is a brand new program I'm coming out with, uh, next month, actually paying when you're listening to this. Uh, and that's gonna be feminine foundations to mastery. And that's everything where you're starting in your feminine journey, where you're starting. It's like the is like found literally foundations to mastery. Um, and then once you've really healed the root of everything, you can go to expansion method, which is going to be a program I'm coming out with later this year, which is everything. expansion. What do you want? Do you want more money? Do you want to find the love of your life? Do you want a bigger house? What do you want for your life? What kind of woman do you want to step into after you've done the healing work? And of course the refinement work is like group coaching and my inner circle and things like that. So there's a lot of different ways to work with me. Um, pop on the Instagram and I can literally help you no matter where you are in your journey. I love that so much. And thank you and go check her out. She's definitely her alone. It's worth more. You know, so much good free information. So thank you again for being on here. You've been a pleasure to talk to, and I will talk to you guys soon. As we come to the close of this episode, I want to express my heartfelt gratitude and admiration for you taking the time to show up for yourself as an act of self love. And if this episode resonated with you, please share it with someone who might benefit. And also, if you love this episode, please rate and review us. When you do screenshot your review and email it to us for a special gift, our rediscover yourself worksheet. 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