The Message You Need to Navigate Your Intuition, Healing & Emotions.

Hey there, beautiful muses! Welcome back to another episode. This week's show is short and sweet, but it's packed with love and purpose, just for you. I’m sharing something that’s been heavy on my heart, inspired by my own journey.

Life can get overwhelming, especially when we start to understand ourselves on a deeper level and expect things to be perfect. But healing isn't a straight line. This episode is a reminder to trust your intuition—even when it feels like you've ignored it—and to give yourself grace. We’re all navigating the same struggles, and it’s okay to stumble along the way.

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We want to control things. We only see things two-sided either be good or bad, or we have extreme behaviors. We go from one end, to the other end of the pendulum. We don't see that in between. And healing is also knowing that two things can exist at once. Welcome to You First, a journey to self podcast, where we empower women to rediscover their true, authentic selves and regain personal power. If you are ready for a major shift, you've come to the right place. I am your host, Maria Fuentes, an expert in women's emotional mastery and self discovery. With a degree in psychology and nearly two decades of experience, I am passionate about addressing the challenges women face monthly. Self love, healthy relationships, and emotional awareness. I've had the privilege of coaching so many incredible women and witnessing their transformation through the methods we'll discuss on this podcast. This show is your weekly space to shift your perspective, find inspiration within and heal in ways that feel true to you. I'm so grateful you're here. Let's dive into this week's episode. Hello, my beautiful muses. And welcome back to another week's episode. As you can see this one's short and sweet and you know that when I record short and sweet episodes, it is purposeful and it's for you to come back and listen to. And this has been sitting, having on my heart for my, in my own journey. And I usually talk about things that I'm growing through with you guys. And life is a journey, right? The reason I named this podcast, you first eight journey to self it's because it's all a beautiful journey. And sometimes we get stuck on perfection and thinking things have to be a certain way, or if. We start learning things about ourselves or in our healing journeys, we start to know so much about ourselves and understand things. To a deeper level that we sometimes think things have to be linear and one way. And so I was really called to record this episode so that you can come back to it. That is a point when I make sure it wants is for you to come back to, because I do believe that. At any given time, we're going to forget these concepts. And it's really an episode for you just to give yourself grace and for you to give yourself. A time to just breathe in and feel like you're heard and listened to invalidate it in your feelings, because we all grow and go through the same things. And so I'll start with your intuition. I think. I think when we start our healing journey, um, Uh, personal development and really like understanding ourselves. We sometimes lose our intuition a little bit, or we lose sense of our intuition because we. We. We stopped trusting ourselves. Right? Because we started thinking. Well, I've gone all this time without knowing these things about myself and kind of living and operating out of my subconscious. And now that I'm a little more clear on what my subconscious behaviors are and where they're coming from and my traumas and my triggers. Can I even trust myself, can I trust my intuition? And we'll have evidence we'll look back and be like, oh, I should've. I remember when I felt like I shouldn't do something and I did. And so we lose confidence in trusting our intuition. But I want to tell you that. No matter what your intuition is always right. Even when you go against it. Because that is also intuition. There's been so many times in my life. And if you're listening to this, there's probably been a lot of times in your life where you have this like pit stomach feeling of like, oh, I don't know, this doesn't feel right. That person doesn't feel right. Maybe I shouldn't go to that job. Interview, or maybe I shouldn't start that job or maybe I shouldn't become friends with that person, or maybe I shouldn't really be in a relationship with this person, or maybe I shouldn't give somebody a second chance and we do it anyways. When we do it anyways, that is also our intuition. It's guiding us to do it. And how I started seeing my intuition is like, there's no wrong way. Whether I would have listened to my first instinct intuition and maybe not done something, i. I would have still gone through another path and I would have had lessons to learn in that journey. And when I don't listen to my first, let's say, and we'll call it like your first instincts or whatever. And you go against your quote unquote intuition, even though I do believe that's still intuition and you do the thing that maybe doesn't feel right. There's so much growth that happens. There is so much for you to learn. So have you had not done that? Where do you have the lessons that you have now? Would you have gone through the things that you know now? No. And so when you start looking at life, like, I really want you to sit here for a second, look at your life. As like, instead of linear, like it's not, we're not just walking one straight line waiting for the finished liner, which is a waiting for things to just work out and. And some of us want to race to that finish line because we're like, I just want to feel good. I just want to be healed. I just want to be a hundred percent fine if you just start seeing it as like a long, like picture yourself in the woods. And it's a long maze, like. Trail or like switched back trail or like you're going left. You're going right. Maybe you're taking. Hard loves me. We were taking heart rights. And there's no finish line and you're just on this journey. You're just walking through the woods. You're just walking through a field of lavender, whatever, like picture yourself, wherever you want to picture yourself. But there is no finish line. So to think. I should have known better. Right? Sometimes we get stuck in that. Like I should've known better. I should have done better. Why didn't I listen to my intuition? I'm so stupid. I should've done this. I should've done that. When you understand that, even when you quote unquote, didn't listen to your intuition, you still intuitively did the opposite of what maybe felt like you should do. That was still your intuition and it was there to guide you to something beautiful. And there's a lesson to learn there. There's a reason that happened. And. Part of the healing journey is it's not to think things have to be black and white actually, before we started healing journey, we see things a lot in black and white, right. We want to control things. We only see things two-sided either be good or bad, or we have extreme behaviors. We go from one end, to the other end of the pendulum. We don't see that in between. And healing is also knowing that two things can exist at once. You could be changing your life for the better working out every day and still mess up and not work out a couple of days. You can be eating healthy and then have pizza. Like you can. Detox from alcohol for 30 days, and then want a glass of wine after the 31st day. You can set your hard boundaries and have softer boundaries and let some people kind of get away with some of your boundaries, right. And be a little softer with them. Like they all can co-exist. Without having to feel shame or guilt or feel like you have to be so rugged. And in that rigorousness, This is where we start feeling shame and guilt is, oh, I should've done this. And when I didn't do this, and the reason the shame and guilt comes is because we feel emotional about what happens. Our emotions take over. And so then we're hard on ourselves, right? And so think of, I'll take you through the journey of intuition. You don't listen to your intuition. You get hurt, right? You're in the relationship with the person you said you wouldn't be, or you shouldn't, or you felt like you shouldn't be. You started the job that maybe didn't feel right, but you still did maybe start at the business that didn't feel that aligned. Then you get hurt because you've quote-unquote fail or something happened to you. And I have these emotions. And because you're in your healing journey, you think that you messed up and you did something really, really wrong. And then now you'll, you know, better. And now you kind of create this invisible shield and wall towards something else. And so purpose of this episode two is two. Help you recognize when those little walls start trying to creep in, right? Because when we get hurt, And we feel that shame and guilt. Our initial reaction is going to be protect myself, protect myself, protect myself. I don't like feeling like this. So let me just protect myself. So those little walls start creeping in and I will never, and that will never happen again. And I don't do this anymore and I don't do that anymore. The big, like. Black and white mentalities and to come in and creep in. And you're going to slowly close yourself off. But in doing that you might feel control over. Okay. Well, if I do this, I won't get hurt now. But it doesn't leave you open for magic. It doesn't leave you open for your, all your desires. It doesn't leave you open for true love. Like not even in a romantic relationship only, but just love like experiencing true love within yourself with other people, with friends, with the people you encounter on the street. With like, not that you're in love with them, but just like feeling that magnetic love. Right. It's going to close you up because when those walls come up, you start closing up your energetic vibrations too. You start saying I'm not even going to go there. I'm not going to try anymore. Next time, I will do things the opposite way. But sit with. What happened? Because of what happened, right. But sit with the emotion, sit with the emotion and see what lesson you're supposed to learn from the emotion, because emotions are all beautiful. And so instead of feeling that shame and guilt, so when it comes up, recognize it and be like, okay, I feel shame that maybe I. I ate that pizza. When I said I was going to eat really healthy this week, or I feel shame or guilty that I let somebody walk all over me, even though I said I was going to start setting really hard boundaries, and then I still did the opposite, or I feel really guilty that I said I was gonna work out and go to the gym and start my business this week. Whatever it is, you start feeling guilty and shame. It's first of all, it's natural and recognize when those emotions come up and then interrupt them and ask yourself. If my friend, if a family member that I love came to me and said, God, I feel so guilty. And so shameful about doing X, Y, and Z. What do you not tell them like, Hey, have compassion for yourself. Like you see them for the bad-ass that they are. Right. You see them that, that they're working hard, that they're trying to change your life. They're on their healing journey that they're doing the uncomfortable things or. Looking at their shadows. They're looking at the past traumas or they're actually looking and actually wanting to heal. They're listening to podcasts. They're, they're trying to grow and be better. And you're seeing them be so hard on themselves over. A minuscule moment in time, a small quote, unquote mistake of misstep. Oh the time that they didn't listen to their intuition, but you can see the bigger picture. Usually when it's not our own life, you could see the bigger picture, even when your friend gets heartbroken. You're like, I knew that wasn't the guy for you. Gosh, you're going to become such a bad-ass now, like you've learned from that pain, you're going to, you're going to grow and just evolve and blossom like you could see is for the most part, like all these great things they're going to happen to somebody else. But it's hard for us to see it within ourself. So when shame and guilt comes in, I want you to interrupt it and just shift that narrative. Instead of saying I will never, and I cannot believe, and I'm so mad at myself. Say I'm so happy that it happened to me the way it did, because now I get to learn X, Y, and Z lesson. I can't tell you how many times in life I've resisted. And this is like from personal experience. Okay. I am the worst at being hard on myself. I get really hard on myself, especially in my healing journey. I think I've been better at it. I've tried really hard to be better at it within the last like year and a half. But when I started my healing journey, gosh, I wanted to do it in like, Lightening speed. Okay. The amount of like different therapists I've gone to hypnotherapist, worked with energy workers, worked like so much in just. A few amount of years, like. It was enough to like wreck my nervous system. And so now that I'm able to just recognize that no matter how much and how many people I worked with. I was still being so hard and shameful and feeling guilty. Because I thought things had to be a certain way. So I was like, well, I'm still being unhappy and that's not the point of healing. That's not the point of trying to be a better person. That's not the point of this journey of life. So how can I find happiness? How can I find a balance? That feels good. So I realized that doing that by interrupting the shame and the guilt and shifting that narrative into I'm so grateful that I did that. And I'm so glad. And. And learning the lesson quicker. That's where I found happiness. That's where I found the most fulfillment and it's not it's it really is the journey. Right. And the reason again that I named this, you first, the journey to self it's. The journey is what makes us happy. How many times have you gotten what you wanted? Let's say that you had a financial goal for the month, or you finally got the relationship you wanted, or I don't know. You lost the 10 pounds, right? It feels really great, but for how long. How long do you really sit there and be like, gosh, I'm so happy that I did what I wanted to. No, but like the journey there, th the heartbreak they felt before you found the partner that you love. The, the amount of stressful days that you felt like not even losing a pound, but I'm still eating damn chicken and broccoli. Like that journey, that resilience. That wisdom that you're gaining through that healing journey, through that personal development through really just making you better that journey. Is healing. That journey. It's a journey to you. That journey is. To the best version of you, that journey is to, is the route to all your desires. That journey is what's going to get you momentum in life. That journey is going to be what brings you joy and happiness. But we have to find it. Then we have to find it while it's happening. And so navigating these things, it's knowing again, I'll recap. What we just talked about is knowing that your intuition is never wrong. Even when you go against it, that is still intuition. And you did it for a reason, finding that lesson. Like why did I do that? And what did I learn from it? Learn that lesson. Give yourself grace, because healing is going to is not linear. Again, it's not a straight line. It's, it's a beautiful bunch of switchbacks. Some off-roading. Healing is a lot of, off-roading not so offering a lot of, for off-roading where you're like, this feels uncomfortable. I don't like. And you're like shaking. You're like, whoa. Hi, am I even doing this? I'd rather just not even care. And then giving yourself. The space. And the time to feel your emotions and interrupt those two heavy emotions, which are shame and guilt, that will keep you stuck the shame and the guilt will keep you very unhappy in your healing journey. It's the shame and the guilt will keep you. Not confident in trusting your intuition. But if you say whether I trust my initial, like instinct, gut intuition, or the second intuition or the third tuition, but it's never wrong, I can never go wrong. Nothing in life is ever happening for against me. It's happening for me. Magic happens. Magic happens because you start becoming the director of your life. Not the main character, you know, like main characters in life and movies are like, everything happens to them. You know, they, the love of their life just happens to pop in and then like pop out of their life and then come back in. And the best friend does this main characters in the movies don't have any control. So I don't ever want to tell people be the main character of your life is like, be the director of your life. Start directing and orchestrating. Uh, things that happen in your life and understanding that everything's just a journey. It's the longest movie and you get to create and write each chapter. You get to create and write a story in the way that you want it to be. And I'll leave you with that again. I wanted to keep it really short and I hope this helps. And please come back to it. Please share it with other people. I think this is something that I wish I would have heard a few years ago. Like even two years ago, I wish somebody would have been like, Hey, it's okay. Like. It's okay to mess up. It's okay. To not do things perfectly. It's okay. When you know better, but you still don't do better sometimes. Like it's all. Okay. It's okay. When you don't listen to your intuition. So, okay. When shame and guilt comes in. But it's not okay to make and blame those things and get stuck in them. And not feel joy and not feel happiness. So, thank you so much for being here this week. And I will talk to you guys next week.