The Power of Feeling: Emotional Mastery in a Hustle Culture with Karenna Soto

In this episode, Karenna Soto and I dive even deeper into the complexities of balancing hustle culture with emotional mastery. We explore how the rise of "boss babe" culture led to burnout, and how to find harmony between ambition and well-being. Karina shares her experiences with somatic work, nervous system regulation, and how building a bigger "window of tolerance" can help us thrive without sacrificing our emotional health. We discuss the importance of allowing yourself to feel your emotions, the power of slowing down, and practical tips for processing big feelings even in the midst of a busy life. This episode is a heartfelt reminder that it’s possible to be successful, grounded, and emotionally fulfilled all at once. 

Join us as we give ourselves and you permission to want it all—and to hold it all with grace.

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I have found by allowing myself to feel the heart, I feel the joys so much higher. it's, it's like creating capacity. You really are just creating more depth to who you are as a human being and how much you have to offer. Welcome to You First, a journey to self podcast, where we empower women to rediscover their true, authentic selves and regain personal power. If you are ready for a major shift, you've come to the right place. I am your host, Maria Fuentes, an expert in women's emotional mastery and self discovery. With a degree in psychology and nearly two decades of experience, I am passionate about addressing the challenges women face monthly. Self love, healthy relationships, and emotional awareness. I've had the privilege of coaching so many incredible women and witnessing their transformation through the methods we'll discuss on this podcast. This show is your weekly space to shift your perspective, find inspiration within and heal in ways that feel true to you. I'm so grateful you're here. Let's dive into this week's episode. Hey guys. And welcome to another week's episode. This week is going to be a very powerful one. I am joined by a special guest Corrina Soto, and we're going to dive deep into our emotions, how to process our emotions and really give our emotions that space love and attention that they deserve. Corina is a trauma informed somatic practitioner. She's a burnout coach and a podcast host. And I am so grateful and honored to have her on here today and have such a powerful conversation. Let's jump in. Karina, thank you so much for being on here today. I connected with you at the powerhouse women event. And even though we just briefly spoke, I just loved your energy. And as I, I was just telling you, I really just went into your Instagram and started stalking you. I love the content that you put out there and just speak about such powerful things, emotions, Maddox, burnout, really feeling and holding space for your emotions. So I am so excited to have this conversation with you. Thank you so much for being on here today. Thank you so much for having me, Maria. I mean, I love everything that you're doing with like your muse channel and talking about emotions and really speaking to women. So I'm so excited to jump in here with you. Yeah. It's such a, it's, it's one of those things that you would, you would assume that we've, we should have some more information on, right? Like growing up, we're such emotional creatures and no one really teaches us. It's not our parents, not society, not teachers. It's kind of something we have to go towards the opposite side of, you know, like not feel it, numb it, repress it. We were just talking about that offline. I know that was a little bit of my story and my listeners know that I repress my emotions for so long and that's what got me into this work. What got you into this work? Was it a little bit of that too? Hmm. A little bit of that, but it was more, I mean, for me, it was more on the place of like not feeling so disconnected from myself. You know, I felt lost and I was like, I don't understand why I feel so disconnected. Why I feel so insecure. Why am I lacking so much confidence in myself or why do I second guess myself? And then it led me to like, Oh, a lot of this is I got to start learning how to feel. And how to feel emotions. And that's where it just kind of came up. I didn't know that's what I was looking for at the time necessarily. I just felt very disconnected, again, insecure, lacking confidence in myself. I mean, second guessing myself and dating at work, wherever you, wherever you named it, I just felt very insecure, which was not necessarily my, how you would probably perceive me if you saw me on the outside, because externally I, Kicked ass at work. I was so social. I went on dates with guys, you know So it was very interesting that my own inner conversations were very different And I finally got to a place of like I can't live like this And I don't know if the women are listening to this. I'm also someone that is always craving growth And so I think I found personal development because when I was insecure But you I was very intrigued to like well, how can I become a better human? Which Was my narrative at the time. And then through that, I was like, Oh, I'm not expressing myself. I'm not fully feeling who I am. I'm, I'm being, I'm not being authentic. And that's how I found this work. And I really found a lot of answers and learning how to feel my emotions, create the capacity to feel my emotions and also understand them without looking them as bad or wrong, or, you know, good or bad, right. Just as is and. Having those, that knowledge and, and that experience has truly been life changing because it takes away so much shame and guilt, um, and frustration and resentment and lack of trust in myself that I was feeling a lot or feeling, which is funny for feeling. No, and you, you brought up such a good, powerful point is that. We have this facade, right? And for so long, if we're kind of working or doing things based on exterior motives, what society expects of us, what the people expect of us, we do lose so much touch to who we truly are to the point where we're unrecognizable. I remember even looking at a picture of myself a few years ago and being like, I don't even know who she is. I was so disconnected from myself. So thank you for sharing that. That's such a vulnerable thing to say. And I hope a lot of women resonate with that because. When you feel that disconnection, that is a lack of awareness, emotional awareness. And like you said, that brings shame and guilt. And then we stay in this perpetual like cycle of feeling shame and guilt because we're so we're living so far off our authentic selves. So I, and you also brought up emotions and just giving yourself that space to feel without the shame and guilt. How was how was that first step? Like for you to be like, wait a minute, I haven't really been feeling my emotions. What was that aha moment for you that you were like, I need to actually sit with this. Yeah, I mean, I knew that the answers were in that because it was so, to be frank, fucking uncomfortable. It was, you know, there was a lot, like, I get emotional thinking about it because I can just feel how much I did not want to feel. So for anyone that's listening, like, I know what it feels like to not want to feel and also just like how scary and how intimidating it is to go there because there's like a huge sense of trust and surrender that you have to build within your nervous system, within your capacity, within the different parts of yourself because It's scary. You know, it is scary to finally say the things that you're not saying out loud. It is really scary to admit that you're feeling certain things and, you know, it makes them quote unquote more real. I feel like there's this facade that we create internally. That's like, Oh, well, if I keep it inside, then it's not real. But the truth is, is like, that is real because you're thinking it because you're feeling it because your thoughts are there. And so getting, I mean, I knew I had to do it because it was so uncomfortable. That was like my North star. I was like, because it's uncomfortable, I have to lean in here. Cause I know there's a lot of growth. There's a lot of edge. There's a lot of things that I get to experience that I don't know yet. And it was really scary. That's like the hardest thing to do. Right. And we were talking about, we're both engaged now this year, we got engaged. And I'm sure you see that in your relationship as well. Like it's so uncomfortable to do it at the beginning, especially if you've never had a healthy. relationship, those uncomfortable conversations, really sitting with your emotions instead of being explosive and reactive and being vulnerable and using, I feel statements like that doesn't feel good. Right. It's so much easier almost to be reactive and to like be explosive or not saying anything. Right. That's like the, the easier route. And so you really sit with that uncomfortable is, is where you grow. So I'm proud of you. Thank you for being vulnerable. You almost made me cry. I'm super emotional. I'm on my period. That doesn't help. I'm like super emotional today and I know for me, and I can relate with that because it was, I think there was a moment and it was through talk therapy that somebody asked me something and I was like, whoa, and it was something about how do you feel about this? And I was like, no one's ever asked me that. How do you feel about something? And it was something about my, like my, childhood. And I was like, no one's ever asked me that. I'm like, how did I feel about that? And then that opened up indoors box because I was like, well, that felt really crappy actually. And I felt really, I know it was like, I think we were trying to pinpoint like where my first feelings of abandonment came from. And it was like, my dad's not showing up for me one time. And I just started bawling. So like, think of the emotion that I felt as a child that I probably didn't even. Respond to, like, I probably didn't have that moment to cry or to feel my emotions. And here I am at 32. I think I was at that time or 31 sitting at a therapist's office. It was actually, it was a hypnotherapist office and, and crying through the emotions I didn't feel back then. Right. And because you're right, because they're, they're there, they're not going anywhere. They get stuck in our emotional bodies and, and I know you do a lot of somatic stuff, so. I think you brought up a great point. Like you feel it, you go into, you lean into the uncomfortableness. And then how do you start, like, what's your process to feel your emotions after you have that awareness? Like, how do you move through that? Yeah. I mean, now I feel like I've stepped into this space that if I feel any emotion, I mean, the way that I think about feeling emotions, I think the easiest thing is I think most of us are living in our heads. So when I think of us living in our heads and being disconnected from our bodies, Traditionally, we use language like, I'm anxious, I'm spiraling, I'm feeling this negative self talk. We're living in our heads and if you've, let's say you've started this work for a lot of the times you might be falling into the self awareness spiral where you're trying to analyze why you're thinking these things and you're like, Just thinking and thinking and thinking and thinking. And so if I have two cues, one is like, is my mind going like that? And then that's like, okay, well, I'm not feeling, so I got to actually drop into my body and feel. And the second cue is like when an emotion is much stronger than my brain, for example, or my mind. Then I'm going to feel the anxiety in my chest. I'm going to feel my throat tightening up. I'm going to feel my belly tightening up. I'm going to feel my hands sweating, or I'm going to start sweating, or, you know, there's going to be a change of activation in the body that I tune into. So I usually look for those two things. One is my mind spiraling and my quote unquote, anxious. Cause we use anxiety a lot of times as a way to describe us feeling a lot of emotion. Um, And then the second one is, is my body freaking out, you know, and then that's when I know it's an opportunity to get really curious and dive in and get compassionately curious, not get judgmental curious. I think sometimes we can be like, well, why am I feeling this way? Or you shouldn't be feeling this way. It's not okay to be feeling this way. And so just getting lovingly interested in my experience. And that's how I dive into, okay, this is an opportunity for me to feel what's going on. What's coming up for me, what's really present. I love that. Like if a friend were to call you, right, that's what I tell my, my clients. I'm like, if a friend called you, you would hold space for her. You wouldn't judge her. You wouldn't attack her. And we do that with our emotions. We feel something. We're like, Whoa, why are you here? How annoying? Um, I practiced some EFT. Do you do any EFT as well? Some a little bit. I don't use it as often, but I think it's a great tool, especially when you're feeling a lot of emotions. Yeah. To process it through. Yeah. I was going to ask you, did you start, how did you start using it? Yeah, I started using it. How did I get, I don't remember how it came into my world. I think it might've been a girlfriend of mine that brought it into my intention. And I said, I found YouTube videos of the tapping, but I love the concept of like just saying what the emotion is and not being like, why do I feel, or I feel like this? Because. Like it doesn't matter. The feeling and emotions are just there, right? And like that's beautiful to just hold space for that too. So I love that you do that. I love that you tap into your body. How do you, so once you feel it in your body and you're like, okay, wait, there's tension there. Maybe it's your chest. Maybe it's a headache. Sometimes like we'll start getting physical ailments, right? If we ignore it long enough, how do you, how do you bring it back? Like what's some somatic practices that you've, you've loved or that you really lean into? Yeah, so I think the beautiful thing about semantics is to your point is not having to make sense of it, which is I think is the most difficult part. Right? When I talk about semantics, I think about it as like this beautiful intelligence that our body has. It's a new language that you're trying to learn. It's also the language that we all have access to. Um, right. So it's until One, if you're very new to this is just getting compassionately curious as to what am I feeling and just becoming super aware of the feeling. Does it feel like tension? Does it feel, you know, as a, if I was facilitating a session, I would get curious as to what color is it? Does it feel like it? Like, does it feel like, how would you describe the shape, what's the shape of where you're feeling? Is it across my entire chest? Is it only in one area? And just starting there is the very first thing. I do think some, what I love about, what I learned about, semantics. And when I started doing this practice myself, it's such a very slow, mindful practice. And so you may not get answers right away. You may not know. All you know, is that you're feeling something and that you might want to start crying, right? Especially if it's like related to like sadness or more like more of a sad emotion. Um, when you start to experience more like anger, frustration, and rage, that can feel much more energy outwards versus energy inwards. So getting really, really curious as to, Is this going out? Like, do I want to like go at someone or am I going internally at myself? Like there's so much to the process other than I would just invite someone to get very compassionately curious, be gentle with yourself and just the connection to your body. And then giving your body permission to move and express however it wants to. And so if you're starting this practice, do it a couple of times and you'll get more confident and comfortable in being in that experience for most of us that haven't been in our bodies. That's a lot in itself. Yeah, totally. Just the, the slow down, right? For me, I've. I'd numbed my emotions for a while with alcohol, and then once I didn't do that, then I was just like ignoring them for a while. I was like, I'm still not ready to see you or look at you, and so I was in my masculine energy a lot, so I was doing, I was doing, and so that when, you're right, when I felt emotions at the beginning, when I didn't recognize them, there was a lot of anger, there was resentment, there was like hostility, you know, and I would get to these breaking points in my relationships where I'm like, I've had enough, and it wasn't that I had enough, I had enough of my own emotions. That I didn't give him space for and have that compassion or an overwhelm. Overwhelm was such a powerful thing for me to just be like, why do I keep feeling like this? I'm not going to keep feeling like this. I got sick of my own shit. Really is what happened. Yeah. I think the interesting part of that to experience like overwhelm, like there's this, um, my partner. Is a holistic practitioner. And he says, if you start feeling a symptom, you've been depleted a long time ago, and that really landed in this area too, of like, if you're feeling overwhelmed, you've been feeling that feeling a long time ago. It's at bursting at explosion at. At like, I can't have enough and I want to throw everything, you know, just shut the door is run away. If you want to run away, like, get the fuck out or, um, anytime that you that kind of energy, that means you've been feeling this for a long time. And so, you know, especially as someone that talks about burnout, you know, the, the invitation here is like, how can we start feeling this? Before you get to explosive and before you get to a point of overwhelm to before you get to a place where you're just like bubbling over. Right. It's, it's creating this safety in this relationship with the emotion from the beginning when it, it could feel like a baby emotion, if you will, or like a very small thing, but starting there and getting compassionately curious there, it's going to prevent us from. This mountain or this wave of emotion that just takes over. Yeah, that's so powerful. You're right. Because it does feel like a huge crashing wave once you let it build up way too, too long and to your point there too, is like, I love the boss babe culture, right? But then we went to the extreme of let's be boss babes and not care about emotions and not care about our feelings. And then we went into burnout. And now I still don't believe in the term burnout completely. Not that it doesn't exist. Of course it does. But in the fact that we can still be boss babes and not burn out, right? Like there's, there's a beautiful balance we can find. We don't have to go from one extreme to the other. And I did for a long time. Once I found out that there was things I could work on, I would go to the other extreme on things. And, and those don't feel good either because we're constantly just toggling back and forth and our bodies don't feel safe like that either. Right? Like, did you feel like you went kind of extreme to once you started your healing journey or? Oh, for sure. I mean, I, so there's this, so what I also love with somatics is like parts work and there's parts work. If anyone doesn't know what that is, it's being able to understand how these different parts relate to one another, how they're here to protect you, how to manage your experience, your internal experience. I have this part of me. That's like, well, if I'm committed to healing, I'm going to go all out in healing and go forward. I've always had that like high achiever, fully committed, go hard. Um, part of me, which is also a trauma response. And it's also trying me trying to create safety in some ways, right? Like me trying to protect myself from, well, if I don't go fast enough, then what would happen if I don't do this thing, then I could be worse. Right. So there's There's some ego in that. Um, but to your point on hustle culture, yeah, I, you know, I, so I'll tell you a little bit something before I quote unquote defined myself as a burnout speaker. I was very against it. Cause I was like, I don't want to play into this burnout world because burnout is something that the American culture has really created. We've created this term to normalize exhaustion and overwhelm and. That you're just meant to operate this way and I, I hated that concept because I'm like, we were never born in this world to hustle and be exhausted, you know, from God or universe, whatever you believe in source, like, our, Dharma is not in hustling. It's in being who you are. You're with authentic self. And we've just created this norm around high productivity, checking off the boxes, go, go, go. And so I love Maria that you believe in the fact that there is hustle and balance. There's hustle and peace and not even just hustle, but just like you can be successful and be grounded and fulfilled and not feel exhausted and not be tired, but it does require us to create space in our nervous system to feel all those things. So I'm going to bring it to the nervous system real quick. Um, So when it comes to our nervous system, right, we want to create an adaptable nervous system. We have different parts of our nervous system. And the way that I learned about this and my course was like, we all have a window of tolerance for different things in our life, whether that is for a very heavy emotion for specific heart conversations. And so With semantics is us learning how to build a bigger window of tolerance, which means the ability to manage and be with big things. When you are in this high achiever, go, go, go. You're kind of like. Doing yourself a disservice because you're pushing through, you're not giving your body the opportunity to create space, to be with, um, the highly activated, the go, go, go energy. And so your nervous system doesn't have the capacity to be with that. And eventually it's like a rubber band. It's just going to like, you're going to be exhausted. It doesn't have enough. And so I believe one, we have to learn how to be with our emotions first, be able to recognize when we are go, go, go, Oh, how's our body being like, you know, like a. A temperature check. Oh, how am I? How's my body feeling? Let my body feel and then go to the next level, right? It's more of this slow process that as hustlers or as high achievers, we're like, I went on a marathon today and I'm going to make it all the way through. And your body is like, wait, what? Sorry, where I'm back here and you're making me go over there. Of course, it's going to burn out. Of course, it's in the gap between the inner conflict between like, you want me over there, but I'm over here. And so it's, how do we bring our body on board with the success without burning out, without burning out, right? Right. That's so beautiful. And I'm like chewing on everything you said, because it's true. We don't have to give up these parts of ourselves and make us happy. And that's what I started realizing when I started my healing journey. I was like, I really want to be a hippie. There's just like cold sitting by the beach all day. Like I, I envy those people, but it's just not me, you know? So I was like, how can I live a little bit in that world? And a little bit, just In the high achiever parts of me that are, that do make me happy. Right. And of course the shadow work and just really unveiling why does that make me happy and connecting to a bigger purpose with the hustle culture. Like I truly believe that if you're not connected to something higher, you're going to experience burnout more. Yeah, I'm with you. I almost feel like we need to come up with another term for this culture. Um, because it's like an in between term, right? It's like, I'm with you. I also am multi dimensional, multi purposeful. I love connecting with women. I love serving women. I love building a business. And I also love to be a potato on the beach and be by the ocean for hours on day and give and read a book and cry and be in my emotions and being my feminine, like, you know, so it's, it's really. Creating this new space for a balanced world for the women that I believe want more in their life. And we can't get there unless we start feeling our emotions, to be frank, like it will either crumble down. You'll want to run away. You'll want to just put it all to bed. And then also, then I'll be like, I'm never going to do that again. And, and so I love this conversation. Cause it's like, we need to get on board with our emotions. Yeah. And feel and slow down to be able to create that kind of a world. And that's where true power lies, I believe, because we're able to, like you said, if our nervous system, if we allow ourselves to feel, if we expand our nervous system slowly, then we can hold it all. We see a lot of successful women that don't have happy relationships or a relationship at all, or don't have kids and they wanted kids or. Right. Because they're so stuck on one thing, whatever all means to you, in order to hold it all, you have to be able to start, like you said, increasing that. Yeah. Right. And figuring out what all means to you too. Like you said, some people might not want to be on the beach. Like you're right. I want to be on the beach and I want to grow a successful business. Maybe I want to be on the beach on my laptop, you know, and that's okay. This is, this is our permission from us to you. If you're listening to this, to want it all and be okay, having it all. And. As opposite as they feel, right? I remember I used to feel so guilty just sitting down doing nothing. And now I'm like, now I want to go curl up with my fiance and be like, just like a little girl. Just like, I want to do nothing and just feel okay now. Like it feels good now. That's like the best feeling now, right? Yeah. It's what I, what I love and what you just said, it's like the, the freedom or the breath and giving yourself permission. Yeah, I think we put too much judgment on ourselves. We make things wrong or right before we even experience them. And what I've learned through feeling my emotions, I think is like, there is no wrong or right. If that feels good, that is perfect as it is. And that's, that's what matters. Like if that's valid and that You want that and that feels good to you, get it, you know, go, go do all of it. And if you feel heavy emotions, there's also nothing wrong with that. Like that's okay. We're human beings. There's a reason why you're feeling this way. And it's just a matter of creating that safety with those parts of you that are feeling those things. Yeah, and I've noticed that when I feel those heavier emotions when I share them, of course with people that I trust, sometimes I do go online and I share it because I'm in this work and I want people to see my rawness and my realness, but when you share it, you, it's like you turn on the lights for a little kid that's scared of the dark. You're like, it's not that scary. Oh. I'm feeling, I'm feeling fear of failure. Hey guys, I'm feeling fear of failure. It's like, Oh, well now that I said it out loud, it's not that scary, you know, or the person that you're talking to could be like, what, you're scared of failure, like, that's crazy. Like look out of everything you've accomplished. Like when we let out our emotions, they don't feel that scary for me. Journaling has been very therapeutic because I write it down and I see it and I'm like, Oh, and I also love. Like in my then tell me if you're this way in my sadness, like now that I'm allowing myself to feel sad when I feel sad, I'm the most creative, like in the depths of my soul is where I can create the most, right? Oh, yeah. I mean, there's so we haven't even I mean, that that core right there when we allow ourselves to feel who we there's so much power. Like it's it's like the once you feel the light in the dark, you feel When you feel the darkness, for example, you feel so much more light. Like I think I, to kind of bounce off that with you, like I have found by allowing myself to feel the heart, I feel the joys so much higher. it's, it's like creating capacity. You really are just creating more depth to who you are as a human being and how much you have to offer. Like they're not. These emotions are not going to keep you or they're not barriers to more of you. They're actually just more access to more of you. Yeah, I love that. That's, that's beautiful. It really is. It's true. It's sometimes we're scared of that depth because we're like, what are we going to find down there? It's a little dark. I don't know. But once we do it again, you turn on the light. It's not that scary. And then you get to experience things more joyfully, you know, for a while, I'm 34 now, and I was married before for seven years. And him and I traveled to beautiful places. I experienced a lot of amazing things that I didn't have growing up. That wasn't like my lifestyle. So doing all those things and going to all these beautiful countries, looking back, I had not even 10 percent of the joy that I have today. So I wasn't able to really fully be present and be there, you know, sometimes we just let life pass us by. And if you're in that cruise control mode where you're just like, why I'm in these beautiful places, or I have all these things, but it doesn't feel joyous, those are, those are moments like Karina was saying, like to really just. Why, why let's tap into our emotions. What am I ignoring about myself and allowing yourself to feel like, and that is like, so amazing and how, what other ways, like, what are some tangibles? Cause I also want to let women know, like, we're giving them a lot of information and it's probably, they're probably like, well, how do I do this with all the overwhelm I'm feeling? Like I have kids, I have school or I have work, I have a husband. I have, for me, it's not, okay. I'm going to stop everything because I'm feeling emotions and I'm going to go cry. If I need that, if it's to that point, I will, but, but it's more like just recognizing it and when you have that space, whether it's a night or whatever, I, whenever I have the time, I go over journal it and I give it attention. It doesn't mean that I have to stop what I'm doing to give it attention, but I give it attention when I can. And then I process it. Like you said, sometimes it's not even the same day that I fully process what I was feeling. Sometimes it's a week later. Sometimes it's a month later. I have those moments. What are some ways that you process to give like our audience a little bit of some tangibles, like on a day to day basis? Yeah. So tactically, I mean, the very first thing is like, you got to create space for it. You know what I mean? I feel like we're all busy, right? I don't, I personally don't have kids for example, but if you are someone that has kids and you're a working mama and you have a lot going on and all these things, like Yes, all of that's important, but I think making this a priority has to be number one. It has to be intentional. It cannot be like, Oh, when I get to it, I get to it because that's where you end up being in that explosive state that we've been talking about or talking to where it's just too much. So, I mean, the very first thing is just making space. And what I tell people is like, Five, 10 minutes. We're not talking about an hour. You don't have to give yourself an hour. Like if you can start with five to 10 minutes, amazing. Start there. That would be my very tactical things. If what I have also found as someone who is. High achieving, very busy, wants to do all the things. My calendar is booked, for example, which I'm sure people can relate to. I found structure and containers are so important and so helpful. So, um, like investing in a coaching container, or I would sign up, I don't know if anyone's heard about like network spinal care, like, Really finding practices or spaces that give me permission to just show up and be and not have to think about it, right? Like that is also something else that I would just give as a tactical thing. Like maybe it's in this space here. It's like, okay, I'm signing up for 30 minutes, 45 minutes of this women's circle. You know, whatever you have nearby or virtually. Find a container where you feel like you can just show up and be not that you have to do anything. Does it feel like, Oh, I have to think about how I'm going to get there. It's just, it makes it so much easier from like having the masculine structure to show up and then just being your feminine. Those are the two tactical things that I would say. Um, and then we can always build off that, but that would be the very first thing that I would say, just to be able to set up some kind of practice or intention around feeling this. I love that. That was magical. And I agree tactical things and they're simple and yet so powerful. If we start doing five, 10 minutes every day, five, it becomes 20 minutes, 30 minutes. And then imagine in a week, how you'll feel it, how you'll feel in a month. And then in a whole year, right? That's life changing. You'll completely change your life. And Karina, I want to thank you so much for being on here today and talking with me about this, where can my audience find you and how can they work with you yeah, no, thank you. So if you want to find me, the best way to find me is on Instagram. Um, it's I am Karenna Soto and I don't hold space for one on one containers anymore. However, um, I am working on a podcast course that you can listen to, to help you work through that, if that's a really good fit for you. Um, if not, I do try and drop a lot on Instagram and the podcast that I have. And then traditionally I'll go and speak or do workshops for people, but. That is where you can find me and connect. And if you have questions, I mean, I am an open book. I am here to give us much free resources. If you're going through it, um, please don't feel, please feel free to DM me. Oh, I love that. And you definitely have to check out her Instagram. Like I said, all her content is amazing. And this is such a powerful conversation. I would love to have you back at some point. And I'd love to know more about your podcast too, so that I'll put it on the show notes so that my audience can find your podcast too. And thank you so much Karina for being on here and holding the space for me with me today. Yeah. Thank you so much, Maria. This is so important. 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