When Our Adult Children Walk Away
My story. Reflecting my experiences, observations and perspective - in my words.
In the early spring of 2019, under the influence of her gatekeeper-partner, in the heart of the global pandemic. After several years of trying to sort through our differences, my (young) adult daughter made the heartbreaking choice to cut all communication with our family.
My name is Dr. Janet Steinkamp, and the reason for this podcast is simple. During the long, dark hours of my isolation and desperation, I decided to use my formal training and professional experience to help people struggling to understand how to strengthen their communication styles and interpersonal behavior to rebuild a fracturing relationship. I pivoted from decades of work in medical education and communication to work with families.
I now coach people, both parents and adult children, through the dark days, isolation, and pain of estrangement from their parent or adult child. We work to find hope and look toward the future, to grow despite and because of their estrangement, and find strategies that help them prepare to strengthen and rebuild their fractured relationship.
When you are ready to walk through the hot coals of self-reflection toward self-discovery - to prepare for repair - I'm here to walk alongside you.
I can't promise reconnection, I can and will help you find clarity, purpose and strength as you prepare for opportunities to establish respectful, trusting communication.
When Our Adult Children Walk Away
6 Mistakes Estranged Parents Make That Delay Re-Establishing Communication
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Estrangement is often painful, disorienting and frustrating. Even the most well-intended parents can unknowingly make things worse.
In this episode, I explore the six common mistakes I see parents make when struggling to reconnect.
The ways we communicate, such as blaming, shaming, guilt-tripping, and insulting, push our adult children further away. It's easy to fall into rounds of tit-for-tat communication or send a heartfelt apology letter that lands flat or is ignored.
This episode offers insights that can help you consider and reflect on whether you might be, with or without intention, contributing to your estrangement circumstances.
Join me to learn, adjust and prepare yourself to respond with empathy, patience, and wisdom, paving the way for authentic and lasting connections.
Past episodes referenced in this conversation:
- Grief Series Overview - 6 Stages of Estrangement Grief Episode 1 of 7
- 3 Lies and a Truth - The Amends Letter
- The Three A’s: Apology, Accountability & Amends - What's the Difference and Why It Matters
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The stories, examples, reflections, and perspectives shared in this podcast are based on my professional work as an estrangement coach and my personal estrangement journey. Any examples, characters, or stories referenced are either drawn from my own lived experience or represent a composite of multiple real-life situations shared with me over time. The intention of this podcast is not to accuse, label, or defame any individual but to provide insight, validation, and support for those navigating the complexities of family estrangement. All opinions expressed are my own and are shared with you, the listener, from a place of healing and learning.