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When Our Adult Children Walk Away
My story. Reflecting my experiences, observations and perspective - in my words.
In the early spring of 2019, under the influence of her gatekeeper-partner, in the heart of the global pandemic. After several years of trying to sort through our differences, my (young) adult daughter made the heartbreaking choice to cut all communication with our family.
My name is Dr. Janet Steinkamp, and the reason for this podcast is simple. During the long, dark hours of my isolation and desperation, I decided to use my formal training and professional experience to help people struggling to understand how to strengthen their communication styles and interpersonal behavior to rebuild a fracturing relationship. I pivoted from decades of work in medical education and communication to work with families.
I now coach people, both parents and adult children, through the dark days, isolation, and pain of estrangement from their parent or adult child. We work to find hope and look toward the future, to grow despite and because of their estrangement, and find strategies that help them prepare to strengthen and rebuild their fractured relationship.
When you are ready to walk through the hot coals of self-reflection toward self-discovery - to prepare for repair - I'm here to walk alongside you.
I can't promise reconnection, I can and will help you find clarity, purpose and strength as you prepare for opportunities to establish respectful, trusting communication.
When Our Adult Children Walk Away
Peeling the Onion One Layer At a Time (Layer 3): Gatekeepers & Coercive Control
This episode is only available to subscribers.
Learn about navigating “Gatekeepers” without triggering coercive abuse and further estrangement.
In this deeper dive on coercive control, you’ll learn how to keep the light on for your adult child when a partner is acting as a gatekeeper. Dr. Janet shows you how to stay calm under pressure, send short and safe messages that won’t be weaponized, choose lower-risk communication channels, and avoid feeding the power dynamic.
You’ll get word-for-word response ideas (“respond, don’t react”), ways to validate without inserting yourself, and a realistic plan for the long game—staying warm, neutral, and available over months, not days. You’ll also hear when therapy (not coaching) is the right next step, how to use allies wisely (without creating “flying monkeys”), and how to care for your own mental health while you support your child.
If gatekeeping has you feeling shut out, this episode gives you grounded, compassionate steps you can take today.
Related Episodes:
- Wait! What? You're leaving?! Does this mean we're estranged?
- 5 Signs Your Relationship with Your Adult Child is Unraveling: The yin and yang of estrangement.
- What is the Difference: Independence or Estrangement
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The stories, examples, reflections, and perspectives shared in this podcast are based on my professional work as an estrangement coach and my personal estrangement journey. Any examples, characters, or stories referenced are either drawn from my own lived experience or represent a composite of multiple real-life situations shared with me over time. The intention of this podcast is not to accuse, label, or defame any individual but to provide insight, validation, and support for those navigating the complexities of family estrangement. All opinions expressed are my own and are shared with you, the listener, from a place of healing and learning.