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BOOK REVIEW "The Mountain Is You" by Brianna Wiest: Overcoming Comparison and Finding Empowerment

Nicole Heller & Tracy Elizabeth Season 2 Episode 11

Have you ever felt stuck comparing yourself to others, only to realize it’s holding you back? Join us as we explore this profound struggle in our latest episode of Fuel for Thought. I'm Tracy Elizabeth, joined by Nicole Heller, and today we dissect the powerful book "The Mountain Is You" by Brianna Wiest. We unpack a thought-provoking quote and reflect on the dual nature of comparative reality, weighing its potential to both inspire and paralyze. Listen as we share our own journeys with self-worth, delve into the fear of success, and emphasize the importance of recognizing and nurturing our own value.

Throughout this episode, we discuss the significance of self-love and how learning from others can propel us forward. We dive into the delicate balance of being both a student and a teacher, highlighting how humility and confidence play pivotal roles in personal growth. Together, let's embrace the discomfort and reframe our perspectives to see our strengths and weaknesses as gateways to empowerment and deeper connections. We hope to inspire you to shed insecurities, embrace your journey, and uplift those around you.

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Speaker 1:

Welcome to Fuel for Thought, empowering Women to Live Healthier Lifestyles. I'm Tracy Elizabeth, I'm Nicole Heller and we are back Back With a book review again.

Speaker 2:

Yes, I love a book review. That was a lot of fun last time. So we are here today with the Mountain Is you? By Brianna Weist, and our quote is I'm going to read it it is in order to find greater happiness, you need to see yourself as an equal to those around you. When you view yourself in a position to constantly learn from all those you know, you are no longer compensating for fearing you are beneath them. So that brings me to that comparative reality place. Give me your thoughts.

Speaker 1:

I think it can be a scary place, or it can be a beautiful place.

Speaker 2:

Yes, why is that so? How do you feel about that statement? Comparative reality is the thief of all joy.

Speaker 1:

Is what the thief of all joy, I think, if people are not in tune to the acceptance of learning about themselves, at the same time being able to view and celebrate other people's successes and their actions, of what they're doing and how it can benefit them, it can inspire them and encourage them. If they don't have that in their mindset, then it can really destroy them 100.

Speaker 2:

So I think that a lot of times we compare ourselves to a place where we allow it to make us feel insecure, because sometimes we're a little bit more comfortable when we're insecure, because that's our comfortable place. Yeah, you know, because we have a fear of success. So we compare ourselves to the person in the room that is doing better than us, because that's cozy, you know, because we don't want to be successful. But what we fail to see? That there are people behind us that we are doing better than, and we don't want to see that because that makes us uncomfortable, uncomfortable. So if we could stop and just pause and say let me take this comparison all the way and see that there are people that I'm not as good at.

Speaker 1:

Yes, that's true.

Speaker 2:

That's okay. But there are also people that I am better than and that's awesome. But we refuse to see that sometimes because that's uncomfortable, because we refuse to be successful sometimes.

Speaker 1:

But if we can truly see that, then we can be open and willing to learn from the people that are doing better and also be willing to now reach our hand back and teach the people that aren't doing as good, like people are looking at somebody instead of then thinking what they're doing is a good thing and this offers value and quality, that instead they judge that person or they criticize that person because of their own insecurities, because they want to stay comfortable and complacent. They're also afraid of failing. So if they see somebody succeeding, they don't put that sense of motivation within themselves to want to do that right, or too scared to do that or not, feeling that they're worthy enough that's who self-love.

Speaker 1:

Yes, boils down to the same thing. Same thing all the time.

Speaker 2:

If you don't feel you're worthy enough, you'll never feel like you're better than that person behind you. But then, if you don't ever feel you're like you're enough, how are you ever going to help bring that person up? But at the same time, yes, you are beneath that other person, but that's okay. When are we going to be okay with wanting to do more?

Speaker 1:

wanting to be better, yeah.

Speaker 2:

Look at that Look at that Jigs by me. But when are we going to be okay with checking the ego at the door and being beneath but also being above, wanting to learn and wanting to teach?

Speaker 1:

Yeah.

Speaker 2:

I think that's what that quote means for me.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, I think I think that was a hard part for me and my journey as well, I think the fear of success, of seeing that my life changing if I succeeded, like people around me not that it would leave them behind, but they were kind of just gradually kind of fade away because they were not standing tall next to me. But I think that over time, when I gained my self-worth and discipline and commitment to wanting more and doing more, it allowed myself to seek those people and say I want to run with them, like they're running faster than me, but I always wanted to catch up. Yeah.

Speaker 2:

I think that a lot of that helped me in this area as far as like learning about mentoring, like learning how to mentor and be the mentee, like knowing that I needed to be mentored in order to mentor better Sure, like that was a big part of it for me. Like, in order to be a coach, I needed to learn how to be coachable better.

Speaker 1:

Yes.

Speaker 2:

And that was such an awakening piece for me because I'd never lived my life that way. No, ever Like, like ever.

Speaker 1:

So either one of us.

Speaker 2:

Right, so like, and I enjoyed that process so much Like in order for me to teach and coach and mentor, like I actually enjoyed the process of being mentored and being coached and being taught.

Speaker 1:

And I love that, like being the surround yourself with the smartest people and being the dumbest person in the room concept Like if you are the smartest person in the room, you're definitely in the wrong room.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, I think that's awesome.

Speaker 1:

I love this quote.

Speaker 2:

So she'll close it out with the quote one more time. Sure, in order to find greater happiness, you need to see yourself as an equal to those around you. When you view yourself in a position to constantly learn from all those you know, you are no longer compensating for fearing you are beneath them. So you got to see yourself as that equal. But you want to learn from those above and you want to teach those below. I love that. Be coachable, I love it. All. Right, well, thank you guys for hanging out with us for our short little five minute quote from the mountain is you by Brianna Weist, weist, weist. Did I say it right? Weist, you know, okay, thank you guys. So, guys,

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