The Velvet Hammer Podcast

“Starved for Intimacy: Is Outsourcing Sex Cheating or Self-Care?”

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When your partner stops giving intimacy—whether out of choice, control, or pure neglect—are you wrong for seeking pleasure somewhere else? In this raw and unfiltered Velvet Hammer episode, we unpack the truth behind sex deprivation, weaponized intimacy, emotional manipulation, and whether outsourcing sex is cheating… or a form of survival and self-care.

We dive into why intimacy disappears, how withholding becomes control, and what happens when one partner is starving while the other refuses to feed the relationship. This one is messy, honest, and guaranteed to start arguments.

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Hosted by Vee, a former dominatrix with 10+ years of experience, this is where intimacy, BDSM, kinks, and taboo desires collide. We go deep into threesomes, anal play, escorts, submission, dominance, and the unspoken truths about sex and power.

💋 Expect raw interviews, shock-value confessions, and real tools to spice your love life and master your fantasies. Come curious, leave hammer’d.

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