E58- Ideal Support for Husband and Wife Navigating Betrayal Trauma w/ Casey Allison

Steve O’Connor hosts special guest Casey Allison, founder of Come Awake Coaching and Consulting.  

Casey is a Master Certified Coach through ICF, an APSATS-certified Partner Coach, a Certified Disclosure Guide through Kintsugi Recovery Partners, a PSAP through IITAP, and a Brainspotting practitioner. She also has training in the perinatal period with betrayed women, and additional training to support partners of sex addicts who have criminally sexually offended, whether they’ve been charged or not. She holds many other trainings and certifications as well.

Casey shares how discovering her husband’s secret sexual life led her, after years of ineffective help and multiple practitioners, to find betrayal-trauma-informed support and eventually serve women navigating betrayal, pregnancy/new motherhood, and cases involving sexual offending. They discuss how uninformed resources can harm partners by blaming them, and share indicators of good support: prioritizing safety and stabilization, validating grief and anger, and aiming for post-traumatic growth rather than “going back.” 

They emphasize the importance of truth and a collaborative Full Disclosure, including the Partner Impact Statement and Emotional Restitution letter, to restore mutuality, reduce shame, and foster empathy. 

Casey shares about her Catholic women’s Facebook group and her coaching groups, and offers hope that healing is possible. Tune in and share!

Time Stamps:
Show Intro
01:13 Saint of the Day Reflection - St. John Baptist de LaSalle as a model of radical surrender
03:25 Meet Casey Allison
04:56 Casey's Story and Calling
08:13 Finding Trauma Informed Help
11:51 Safety, Stabilization, Grief, Anger and Growth
14:24 Why Full Disclosure Matters
17:21 Team Based Disclosure Support
22:04 Power, Control and Mutuality
25:06 Impact and Restitution Letters
29:47 Catholic Women Facebook Community
33:41 Casey Groups and Programs
38:29 Closing Hope and Next Steps

Links for Casey:

Free initial consultation: https://www.comeawakecoach.org/p/packages_4.html

Support groups: https://www.comeawakecoach.org/p/community.html

Workshops and Events: https://www.comeawakecoach.org/p/promotions.html

Digital Resources: https://comeawakeresources.company.site/

Released to Heal Group (starting April 15th): https://www.comeawakecoach.org/p/released-to-heal-support-group.html

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