Widow 180 The Podcast with Jen Zwinck

270. Why You Don't Recognize Yourself Anymore: Identity Lag In Widowhood

Jen Zwinck Episode 270

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Have you ever found yourself wondering, “Who am I now?”?

 Today we dive deep into the concept of "identity lag"—the uncomfortable, confusing gap between who you were before losing your partner and who you are becoming. 

Join us for these relatable stories and practical tips about why simple questions like “What do you want?” suddenly feel impossible to answer!

 Unpack how grief isn’t just about missing your spouse—it’s also about missing a part of yourself.

You’ll learn:

  • What "identity lag" is and why it happens after loss
  • How intertwined relationships shape our sense of self
  • Real-life examples of how identity lag shows up in everyday decisions
  • Three actionable steps to begin closing the gap and rediscovering yourself

If you’re feeling lost, you’re not alone—and you’re not broken!

 Tune in for encouragement, empathy, and tools for moving forward in your healing journey.

Don’t forget to check out the newest workbook in the Widow 180 Workbook Series, the guided workbook, The “Who Am I Now?” Workbook. It's designed for widows and widowers navigating identity after loss.

Go to https://www.widow180.com/whoaminow

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