Motherhood & The Brain
Are you tired of feeling like you’re always at your wit's end, especially when it comes to yelling at your kids?
You’re not alone.
Motherhood can be overwhelming, especially when your preteen seems to push every button and you just can’t seem to get through to them without losing your temper.
This podcast is for moms who are juggling work, family, and everything in between, and are ready to stop yelling and start connecting with their kids in a more peaceful way.
We’ll take you on a journey through the ups and downs of raising a preteen, offering brain-based strategies and practical tips on how to handle everything from discipline to managing your own emotions.
We’ll dive into topics like how to better understand your child’s behavior, how to stop yelling and start listening, and how to build a stronger, more trusting relationship with your preteen.
You’ll learn about positive parenting, emotional control, and simple, science-backed methods for managing mom anger and helping your preteen thrive.
If you’re looking for real, actionable advice on how to deal with the challenges of raising a preteen, this is the place for you.
Let’s make this motherhood journey a little smoother, together.
Motherhood & The Brain
From 200 Applications to Breakthrough: What Motherhood Can Learn from Persistence
In this special 51st episode, you’ll hear a story that might make you see things in a whole new way—especially if you’ve ever felt stuck, even though you’ve been trying hard to be calmer with your kids.
You’ll follow the journey of someone who chased a big dream and almost gave up right before it came true. After months of trying, and hearing “no” again and again, she kept going. And then… something amazing happened. But here’s the question that really matters: what if she had quit one step before the breakthrough?
Her story feels a lot like what so many moms go through. You try deep breaths. You try to stay calm. You try to stop yelling. But somehow, you still snap. You feel like you're failing, and you wonder if maybe you’re just not the kind of mom who can stay patient.
But what if that’s not true?
What if your next pause… your next moment of stopping before you react… is the one that helps you turn the corner? Not because your kids suddenly stop arguing or acting wild—but because you stay steady, even in the middle of it all.
Are you ready to stop spinning in guilt? Are you ready to take a brave step toward being the calm, steady mom you want to be?
👉 The 60-second Yell Less Reset quiz is your first step toward change.
“I never wanted to be the mom who yells…”
But here you are, raising your voice, snapping over small things, saying things you wish you could take back.
You love your kids more than anything.
And you know they don’t deserve a mom who yells.
You just don’t know how to stop; especially when they won’t listen, talk back, or push every single boundary.
👉 The 60-second Yell Less Reset quiz is your first step toward change.
Already taken by many moms who wanted to break the yelling cycle.
Based on the science of how your brain responds to stress, this quiz goes beyond surface-level tips.
It helps you pause, uncover what’s really fueling those outbursts, and start shifting the pattern before it spirals again.
You’ll discover:
✅ Your personal Reset; so you can get your kids to listen without needing to yell, threaten, or give in
✅ It’s not just their behavior; it’s the moment you feel like nothing you say matters
✅A clear next step to help you stay calm and in charge; even when your kids are testing every boundary
Welcome to Motherhood from the Brain, a podcast guiding moms of preteen girls on how to navigate emotional challenges that are not addressed in school. We share real stories, expert advice and brain-based methods for handling tough moments. Discover insights to create a deeper connection with your preteen and improve your motherhood journey. Let's tackle the uncharted territory of parenting together, hosted by professional, certified coach, esther Babazi.
Speaker 2:Before we begin, I want to share a brief disclaimer. I am not a psychiatrist, psychologist or any other licensed mental health professional. On this podcast, motherhood and the Brain, I share what has personally helped me improve my mental and emotional well-being. My hope is that by sharing my experiences, I might help even one mother out there who is struggling. Hello there, mom. Welcome to Motherhood and the Brain Podcast, episode number 51. I can't believe it. We are 50 episodes in. Thank you so much for listening. Thank you for taking me with you, or us with you, in your ear as you walk around the neighborhood, as you are on your run, as you do the dishes, as you clean your home, as you are winding down or driving in your car. Thank you so much. Thank you so much. I wouldn't be able to record this podcast if you are not providing audience to it, if you are not finding what I share useful, let's begin.
Speaker 2:If you ever felt like you're doing all the things to stay calm with your kids, you have read the books, you have tried different tips, strategies and hacks, you are doing deep breathing and yet you still find yourself snapping. This episode is for you. Today, I want to tell you a story. It's not about motherhood per se. It's about a young woman with one dream and how her story is surprisingly similar to what so many of us go through as mothers, trying to break the cycle of snapping and yelling and feeling guilty and then starting all over. This girl, this young woman, had one dream to work in Norway. It is all she ever wanted and now that her internship is about to start, which is a major bucket list for her, a dream come true. But the journey to get there is where things get interesting. This young woman studied abroad, studied outside of Norway, and always wanted to work here. Like I said, she stayed focused, she did the work, but what really struck me was but what really struck me was, obviously, we all know that becoming a physician is no joke. It's not a walk in the park, it's really. It takes really hard work. But what really struck me was what this young woman had to do beyond med school to make this dream of working and doing her internship in Norway happen. So, out of curiosity, I asked her what the process was like of her getting to Norway, and she told me that she sent out 200 applications. Yes, you heard that right 200 in a space of around five months. She wrote 200 applications. The majority of them were met with silence, some flat out rejections, rejection after rejection, after rejection, and this young woman did not give up. So, out of the 200 applications, she was interviewed three times and that's it. And these interviews were not all at once, they were spread out over time. But on the third interview, or after the third interview, that is when things changed for her. I could not help but think what if she had stopped at 199?
Speaker 2:Maybe you have felt that way too. You have been trying to stay calm with your kids, but nothing sticks. Nothing is working. You have tried different things. You have raised your voice more times than you want to admit. At least that was me.
Speaker 2:You have taken deep breath. You have scrolled parenting posts. You have tried gender parenting. You have tried deep breath. You have scrolled parenting posts. You have tried gender parenting. You have tried tough love and you still snap.
Speaker 2:And then you yell, and then you feel guilty, and then you feel ashamed and the cycle starts all over again. You feel that pit in your stomach afterwards, but deep down you want peace. You want your kids to listen without the yelling. You want to stop feeling like your home is a battlefield, but inside something starts to creep in, a little voice starts to whisper. Maybe I don't have it in me, maybe this is just how I am. Perhaps I'm not a patient mom. My parents were yellers. I grew up in a yearning home, so this is just my fate.
Speaker 2:And after so many failed attempts it's tempting to start believing these stories that your brain is making up. But then think back to the medical student. She could have stopped at 199. She could have said I have done enough. It's not just happening, it's not for me. But she didn't. She kept going, and because of that she's now about to start her internship and eventually get to work where she's always dreamed of working.
Speaker 2:So let me ask you something, my friend. What if you are on number 199 right now? 199 right now. What if the next time you pause, the next time you notice the tension rise in your body, the next time you don't react? What if that's the moment that changes everything? It's not because your kids suddenly became, or become, perfectly well-behaved, but because you become the steady, calm mom you've always wanted to be, even in the middle of the chaos.
Speaker 2:And that's where coaching comes in. That's what coaching is about. It's not about another trick to try another hack, another strategy. It's a shift, a whole new way for you to show up, not just for your kids but for you, because you're worth it, because your peace matters, because you don't have to stop at 199. You get to keep going, you get to keep growing and your breakthrough might just be around the corner. So if you are sitting there thinking I've tried everything, nothing is working, just know you haven't tried everything until you have tried coaching.
Speaker 2:Coaching isn't about fixing you because you're not broken. It's about helping you see the power in the moment. It's about helping you stay grounded when everything around you and anything about you is around you isn't. So if you're ready to stop spinning in guilt and start showing up as the mother that you know you want to be, I would love to work with you. You don't have to do this alone. You just have to decide that you are not stopping at 199. You just want to decide that you want to figure this out until so that you become the mom that you want to be.
Speaker 2:The snapping, the yelling is just in the way of that. So when we remove the snapping and the yelling, you will become the mother that many of us know the mothers we want to be. We really know that. So coaching helps you get there. Over there it's like over there is the mother that you want to be and you are here. So coaching helps you cross that bridge to get you to the mother that you want to be, the one that stays calm even when things are not calm.
Speaker 2:Thank you for listening today. Talk to you again next week. Keep going, you're doing better than you think. And bye for now. What if you could feel in control of your reactions, even when your preteen is pushing all your buttons? I know it's tough, but I would love to help. That's why I created the Yearless Formula. If you want to stop, or at least reduce, yearling and really build that connection that you want with your child, I would be honored to work with you. Just head over to wwwmasteryourownwellbeingcom forward slash coaching to grab a spot for a complimentary call to get a feel of what coaching is and how coaching works. Coaching will help you manage your reactions. Wwwmasteryourownwellbeingcom. Forward slash coaching. See you there, thank you.
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