The Exclusive Club That Dads Don't Wanna Belong To
On the 19th October 2022 my world changed forever, my beautiful Son and heir Jordan died in his sleep aged 41…
One of the hardest things to take is that me and my son wasn’t speaking…people say it’s normal to feel guilty about that as Dads and Sons fall out all the time but I shouldn’t be riddled with guilt as I couldn’t predict his death plus guilt is just one facet of grieving !
Over the years I’ve had the sadness watching 6 mates I know bury their Sons and Daughters now I’m a member of that exclusive group but don’t wanna be part of the “CLUB!”.. Each funeral I went to of the lads who’d lost their children I’d be on the outside looking in - despite doing my best to offer support I didn’t really “know”what to say or do - not experiencing the “other pain”- what I mean by other pain is that .. we lose grandparents / parents other relatives and we somehow accept for want of a better word that’s how it’s supposed to be chronologically and we feel pain in them passing ..but when YOUR CHILD is taken the “other pain” hits you and it’s an unimaginable feeling ..a primal guttural pain constantly wreaking your brain. An invisible force torturing your body making it fold
I call it my Tsunami wave cos it hits you out of the blue ..you know everyday it’s coming but don’t know exactly when…And when it hits You…sometimes I’ve been doubled over on my knees and screaming
So if we can get men together to talk about their experience of grief and “educate” for want of a better word ..”new members” to this club to the feelings they should expect from losing a Son or daughter ..they’ll see the common-denominators between us all..
Trevor..
Episodes
13 episodes
3 Years On..
3 years on from Trev's son Jordan transitioning.. Trevor has always insisted that no topic is off limits and we have to create that Chance to Talk about anything, even the things that so many people, especially men, don't talk about.. In places...
Forgiveness..
A grieving Dad goes beyond the "norm" to cope with the loss of his son..TW// Bereavement/ Grief/ Emotional
Unfair..
Ben Curly bravely about his son George and the trauma of stillbirth..TW// Bereavement/ Grief/ Emotional
2 Years On..
Podcast Producer Paul chats with Host Trevor Dwyer-Lynch two years on from Jordans transitioning..TW// Bereavement/ Grief/ Emotional
Beth
To help cope with the death of his daughter.. This Dad tells how his involvement in the now UK recognised movement drives him to make a difference in her name..TW// Bereavement/ Grief/ Emotional
Cici, Danielle and Me..
Dean Holden has an impressive CV as a Professional Footballer and Manager.. here he talks about his biggest loss.TW// Bereavement/ Grief/ EmotionalThe MancSpirit Charity are proud...
16 months on..
We begin Season 2 catching-up with Host Trevor Dwyer-Lynch.TW// Bereavement/ Grief/ EmotionalThe MancSpirit Charity are proud to support "The Exclusive Club That Dads Don't Wanna Belo...
My World Champion
A Dad talks about how he copes with the transition of his son, a talented young boxing prospect.TW// Bereavement/ Grief/ EmotionalThe MancSpirit Charity are proud to support "The Excl...
My son lives on in my music
A legend of the Manchester club scene in the 80's and 90's talks about how his beautiful son lives on through his creativity.TW// Bereavement/ Grief/ EmotionalThe MancSpirit Charity a...
Football isn't just a game..
In this episode Trevor and Paul talk to two members of an unusual but integral football team, Angels United FC, which helps Dads cope with the loss of their children..TW// Berea...
Jordan
Trevor talks about his son Jordan who gained his wings on the 19th October 2022, aged just 41.Trevor is brutally honest about his struggle with grief, how his life has been completely turned upside down, how family, friends and society ...