The Wounds That Do Not Heal
In "The Wounds That Do Not Heal," host Tressa Brady opens up about her personal experience with domestic violence in military families, shedding light on an often-hidden issue. Through her raw and vulnerable storytelling, she shares the struggles, pain, and resilience she has witnessed and endured while seeking to provide help and support to those who desperately need it.
Tressa also interviews experts in the field of domestic violence, including psychologists, counselors, social workers, and survivors, who uncover the harsh realities and systemic challenges faced by military families. Together, they explore the unique dynamics and complexities surrounding domestic violence within this community, breaking down stigmas and fostering a crucial conversation that goes beyond the surface.
"The Wounds That Do Not Heal" aims to create a safe space for listeners to reflect, learn, and gain a deeper understanding of the impact domestic violence has on military families. This podcast strives to make a positive change and inspire action by offering valuable resources, guidance, and empowerment.
Join Tressa on this emotional journey as she advocates for change and supports those in need.
The Wounds That Do Not Heal
Episode 29: Possession, Not Partnership: The Killing of Tashianna Blake
What happens when the very institutions sworn to protect us become the breeding ground for unchecked violence? In this searing episode, we step outside Hawaii—to confront the brutal murder of Tashianna Blake, a mother of two, whose life was stolen by her military husband in a calculated act of cruelty. Her story, set against the backdrop of Fort Carson’s bloody legacy, exposes a chilling pattern: men with no combat history, no PTSD, but a dangerous thirst for control.
From narcissistic manipulation to stolen valor, we examine how military systems fail to screen for sociopathy—and how women pay the price.
Stay tuned for updates on the sentencing of Ruby Tenorio’s killer, and the upcoming trial of Dana Alotaibi’s estranged ex-husband, who stands accused in the gruesome deaths of Dana and her unborn son.
🔍 Verified Sources for the Case of Tashianna Blake
- Dermot Blake’s conviction and sentencing:
- A former Fort Carson soldier, Dermot Blake, was found guilty of first-degree murder for shooting his wife, Tashianna Blake, in front of their two daughters. He received a mandatory life sentence without parole.
- Court documents revealed that Blake forced Tashianna to apologize before delivering the final shots, and that both daughters witnessed the murder
If you’re experiencing DV—please explore the resources below using a device that your abuser cannot monitor.
U.S. Resources
- National Domestic Violence Hotline
24/7 confidential support via phone (800-799-7233), text (“START” to 88788), and online chat. Offers safety planning, emotional support, and referrals. - DomesticShelters.org
Searchable database of over 3,000 shelters and programs across the U.S. and Canada. - National Resource Center on Domestic Violence (NRCDV)
Offers training, technical assistance, and policy advocacy. - Office on Violence Against Women (OVW)
U.S. Department of Justice site with links to state coalitions, tribal programs, and national hotlines. - State-by-State Resource Directory
From the Office on Women’s Health—clickable map of DV coalitions and services in every U.S. state and territory.
Global Resources
- NO MORE Global Directory
A comprehensive international directory of DV & sexual violence helplines and services in nearly every UN-recognized country. - Hot Peach Pages
Offers DV information & hotline listings in over 110 languages. - Global Network of Women’s Shelters
Connects shelters worldwide for advocates/survivors globally. - Pathways to Safety International
Tailored support for Americans experiencing abuse while abroad
If you’re a service member struggling with mental health:
• Call 988, t
