060 - The Power Of The Nervous System, Attachment Styles, Safety & Sexuality With Alyssa Stefanson

Connect with Alyssa here: https://www.instagram.com/thealyssastefanson/

https://wakingthewildwoman.com/

Alyssa’s podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/waking-the-wild-woman-podcast/id1610872385

1:34 - Oura ring helps Ashley slow down https://ouraring.com/ashleytaylorwellness

1:57 - Alyssa just got her Oura ring and loves it!

2:17 - Alyssa used to sleep like a baby, but when she moved a lot changed, a sleep routine & the Oura ring helped her a lot

4:19 - “The hills” & “Uplands” on the Oura ring https://ouraring.com/ashleytaylorwellness

6:15 - Why is going from go-go-go to rest not going to work?

7:39 - Dorsal, polyvagal theory & immobility response

8:20 - Shakes it off

9:50 - Functional Cranial Release

10:00 - Dura mater “tough mother”

11:15 - Most people are so in their heads and disconnected to their bodies

12:30 - So many women have supressed sexual energy

13:00 - Why Alyssa got into somatic work

17:00 - Safety & sexuality

23:00 - Pendulation

24:50 - So much medicine in gentleness, we heal our nervous system with small tolerable steps

25:00 - Boring exercises really work over time

27:50 - Yes we want to grow, but we also need safety

28:20 - Our nervous system is our attachment style, we then have more capacity for abundance and more in every area of life

32:28 - Root chakra by MitoZen (One time $10 PMA fee, ASHLEYTAYLORWELLNESS saves you $)

https://www.mitozen.club/?ref=Lx15YMHzqBnYBd

35:31 - Attachment styles

43:20 - Parts, IFS, 8 C’s

44:45 - Inner child, find a photo of your younger self

45:32 - Perfectionism meets a need

45:46 - People pleasing

46:45 - Boundaries actually bring us closer, safety statements

48:50 - “Getting The Love You Want” Book, Imago therapy

51:51 - Communication is like baseball, you can throw the ball but were they in receiving mode?

52:40 - The delivery changes the meaning of the message for a lot of people

58:20 - Ask your partner or friends “what was conflict resolution like in your family?”

1:00:00 - Therapy is great for couples because it’s a neutral place and like a translator

1:01:30 - Would you let a 5 year old cut your hair? No. 

1:04:15 - Relationship is a spiritual path

1:07:00 - Show your nervous system that it’s safe, telling it doesn’t work that way

How to work with Alyssa

Waking The Wild Woman: https://wakingthewildwoman.com/

Through Kaylor: https://awakeandwinning.lpages.co/theawlife/

Interested in 1:1 coaching? Click here: https://ashleytaylorwellness.as.me/schedule/8230ed17

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