[00:00:00] Y'all welcome. Welcome back to another episode of the Vagina Rehab Doctor Podcast. I cannot wait to get into the episode today because we're going to be talking about the best head ever. The best head ever. Before we get into the topic, y'all, I want to say thank you for being here. Thank you for showing up for yourself, for opting into education about your pleasure, your body, your wellness.
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If you have already left a review, y'all let's get into the episode today. What that mouth do the best head ever. We're going to be talking about it. You may be thinking about oral sex. When I say the best head, you may be thinking about pleasure or orgasms are. Listen, whatever comes to mind, that's just fine, but what I really want to talk to you about is how the muscles in your head impact the muscles in your vagina, the pelvic floor.
This is something that is not talked about enough, and that is the connection between the jaw. We're talking about the TMJ joint, right? The temporal mandibular joint and the pelvic floor muscles. And so essentially what's going on is there's a long fascial line that connects your jaw, the muscle, the joint, the joint that we used to eat, [00:02:00] right?
You got to open your mouth wide to eat a hamburger. You got to open your mouth wide just to brush your teeth. You got to do some things right with that mouth. You got to open that thing up to do some things, right? And so the muscles that surround that joint, our jaw joint, it is connected to our pelvic floor.
by a thick fascial line. What this means is that the muscles and the health of your jaw can be impacting your pelvic floor. And frequently when I work with my clients who have sexual pain, pelvic floor muscle tightness, vaginismus, urinary incontinence, urinary frequency, constipation, They also have jaw clenching, teeth grinding, jaw clicking, jaw pain, jaw tension.
And it's not just musculoskeletal, meaning it's not just the fibers and the muscles and that fascia that we just talked about. It's also neuromuscular. For [00:03:00] people who tend to clench their jaws, That's typically a neuromuscular behavior or habit. And because you're used to clenching your oral outlet.
You may also be developing habits that tend to clench your pelvic floor as well. And so there is this deep passionate relationship between the jaw and the pelvis. And because they are both areas of opening and areas of receiving, you have to open your jaw in order to receive food and liquid down. Your throat, you have to open your pelvis and open your vagina, In order to receive pleasure from a vaginal standpoint, right? These are both areas in which we receive. And so when there's anxiety, when there's stress, What we tend to do subconsciously is clench and close. The unfortunate reality is that if we're clenching and closing either end, the pelvic floor or the jaw, they can be impacting each other.
And this is [00:04:00] closing the body, right? We want our bodies to have flexibility, to have mobility. We don't have to be super duper flexible. You don't have to be a contortionist, right? You don't have to be bending over backwards just to be healthy. But we do need a certain amount of range of motion to support.
A healthy sex life to support sitting, walking, traveling, working without pain. All of that is so, so important. And so what I'm talking about now is how the voice and the jaw is actually driving your access to pleasure in your pelvic floor. I had a really, really, interesting experience with a patient.
who was struggling in her marriage, struggling with her desire to be sexually intimate with her husband. She did not want to that that desire was dead because she suffered from sexual pain from the very first time she started having sex. So [00:05:00] now she's in a marriage where she loves her partner, but she is not particularly excited to be sexually Intimate with her partner and she wants to though It's not that she doesn't want to it's that she feels burning and pain and stinging and tension every time she tries to be intimate and so, uh, she came and worked with me for vulvodynia and From the very first few sessions she started to get better But one thing I did note about her is that she constantly told me that she had a lot of tension in her jaw That she could feel it.
It literally feels tense When she touches her jaw, she can feel that it's tight and painful she had the clenching of the jaw, all of that, but of course we focused on the pelvis because that was the primary location of her pain and her problems. So we did exercises and we used, um, her fingers. I taught her how to actually, use her own hands to find areas of tension.
We did breathing. We did all of these things and there was one particular [00:06:00] day where she came in and her pain was very stubborn that day, meaning. The things that I usually would do to help people get their pain down was not working. And it was, it was frustrating for the both of us. Frustrating for her because she's trying so hard.
She's putting forth so much effort to just not have a burning and stinging and painful sensation at the opening of her vagina, right, vulvodynia. And it was frustrating for me because I typically see success or at least improvement when I do certain things. And I wasn't seeing it that day. I wasn't seeing an improvement in the session.
And so because she was constantly reminding me that she's holding tension and pain in her jaw, I said, okay, let's not even touch your pelvis today. Let's pay attention to the jaw. So we, instead of focusing on exercise and pelvic floor and all of that. We said let's focus on the left side of your jaw, which is the side that she had the most pain in.
We did [00:07:00] myofascial release tactics, meaning I taught her how to use her own hands, pressure, strategies, myofascial release techniques to relieve not just the muscles, But the fascia that holds the muscle fibers together. We did some range of motion things for her jaw and her neck. And we did that for about 10 to 15 minutes.
And I wanted to see what change there would be. Where if we went back to the vagina and we tested like with the Q tip just to see if she's having burning, stinging, achiness, or pain at the opening of the vagina, which is where most of her pain was like right at 6 p. m., right at the the vagina, vaginal opening.
Then I wanted to see, was the pain the same? Like, was there no change at all? I wanted to see, was there an improvement? I wanted to see if it was better. And so we went back and we checked and you will not believe her pain was at a zero. We did not touch her pelvic floor. We did not do anything for the pelvic floor.
We simply said we're going to take a break from only focusing on the [00:08:00] pelvis pacing into the jaw and so I was blown How tension in the body elsewhere from the primary place of pain could be driving your primary problem. Her pain literally went from a 4 out of 10 that was stubborn to a 0 out of 10. And it was in that moment that I was reminded of my duty.
to focus more on other things besides just the pelvis. Now does this mean that every single person has to go looking at problems in the jaw just to get better? No. There are a lot of people, even if they have jaw dysfunction, the jaw is not Always address in the pelvic floor problem. The sex problem still gets way better and they're happy So i'm not saying that the jaw constantly has to be this big part of care if someone's coming in for a pelvic problem But I am saying that the body works as a [00:09:00] system We tend to put our bodies in little boxes.
Oh, my sex life is over here in the corner. I have a sex problem. Oh, my mental health is over here in the problem. I have a mental health problem. Oh, oh, my left hip hurts. I have a left hip problem. And then, Oh, over here I have a money problem. But what if I told you that your hip, your money problem, your sex problem and your mental health problem is all impacting Each other and they all need to be spoken to, maybe not all spoken to at the same intensity.
There may be one that we focus on more, right? But we're going to get a more holistic level of healing. We're going to get a more holistic level of satisfactory results. when we start paying attention to other parts of the body. So that was one big experience that changed the clinical way in which I treat the clinical way in which I help and educate our clients at vagina rehab doctor.
this other experience that really changed things for me is when I realized there is vibration that happens in the pelvic floor [00:10:00] when we use our voice. And a lot of things that, my clients struggle with is Dilation. Dilators are these tools that look like sex toys. Honestly, they look like dildos, but they're not.
They're medical tools that do not provide pleasure, typically. It's not something that you're going to get pleasure from. There are tools that you insert into the vagina to slowly stretch the vagina, so that you can tolerate penetrative sex without pain, or at least tolerate it at all. A lot of people that we work with have vaginismus, which can prevent penetrative sex from happening altogether.
Like literally a man, anyone with a penis can be trying to get in there and no entry is happening because that is how much tightness and, restrictions are there. There's generally fear and anxiety involved as well that can also contribute to the lack of ability to be penetrated and to have, uh, intercourse.
And so when, when someone is coming to work with me and they're struggling with the dilator, meaning they are like fighting to get that thing in, it's taking them [00:11:00] five, 10 minutes. Just to insert the dilator, Imagine trying to have sex with someone you're in the moment you're making out, you know, they've been licking on your titties for a little bit.
You're aroused. You're wet. You're really into it. You want to be close to this person to the point of Essentially unifying your bodies together, and that's what intercourse is. You have a body part of someone else going inside of your body. And so you guys are unified physically in that moment. So imagine wanting that sexual unity.
Imagine wanting and craving that. Like you don't want anything else in that moment. That's all you want. You just want to have sex. You want to get laid. And imagine that nothing can, can get in, listen, that destroys the moment. What the heck are we doing? So obviously you can learn ways around it. There's other ways to feel pleasure.
There's other ways to have sex. Absolutely. But for many of the people that we work with, they want that, they want that penetrative sex, they want the full experience. They want [00:12:00] to be able to have oral sex, penetrative sex, fingered. They want to be able to use sex toys and get pelvic exams and use tampons and You know, all of that.
And so, imagine them coming to work with us, and then, they're now using dilators, these tools that are supposed to help them, and they feel stuck. So, they, they felt stuck with just being able to use their bodies as they wish, sexually. That's a barrier, and a frustration, and depressing for many people. And then come to us, and you're still struggling with dilators.
And so, I realized, okay, for a lot of people, they are, Not able to really open up the vagina. There are barriers there restrictions like it can be literally closed like a wall and so I started to realize that we have to find a way to Relax the pelvic floor But also to distract their brain from the discomfort that happens when we are Stretching their pelvic floor if your pelvic floor has been so tight for years and years and years I mean to the point that nothing can get in that's [00:13:00] a significant level of tightness Imagine stretching that muscle and putting dilators in there.
That's a significant amount of stretch and so that stretch can be uncomfortable. And so what I decided to do I'm going to use sound. I'm going to use voice. I'm going to use vocalizations with dilation to help our clients. And what I started doing with them was teaching them exactly what sound to make because all sounds are not created equal, different sounds, right?
So, so that's a set. This is a sound that I'm making now. So, My my teeth are fairly close together. There are other sounds where it's oh and then my teeth are not close together I started giving specific instructions clear instructions what type of sound I wanted them to make how long I wanted them to hold the sound What I wanted them to also do with their pelvic floor while they're making this sound With the dilator in and I started seeing crazy significant results of the dilator going in with more ease, the pain resolving and [00:14:00] leaving literally pain saying, peace out.
I got to go because you're using your voice right now. You're sounding off. You're deciding to sing your way to healing became a magical thing. And now Dr. Tina uses some of those same strategies. I realize that it's in the power of using the muscles that we typically undervalue that can really give us the satisfaction, the healing, and the wellness that we're looking for, especially when it comes.
To sex and the pelvic floor notice how when you're having sex and you're feeling good And the pleasure is high the arousal is high you make Noises you make sounds you may moan you may pants you may you know You may make some some sounds that indicate that there is something happening in your body that feels good.
And this is natural Naturally, if something feels really good, it's going to be very hard to not make a sound. [00:15:00] And so sound is so intimately connected with the pelvic floor and the pelvis. And this is why also naturally when you're giving birth, you're going to make some sounds, whether that's a scream, a moan, a grunt, a grr, there is going to be some sounds there.
And so I realized that the jaw. And the vocal cords and the diaphragm was this under tapped treasure that can help people and couples and families that are struggling with sexual pain, vaginismus, pelvic floor tightness to overcome and not just overcome, but to sing their way, to voice their way to overcoming pelvic pain, sexual pain, and vaginismus.
It's typically something that we feel a lot of shame about. And I feel so grateful that I am able to encourage people to actually use their voice as a way to overcome. Sound off. Shame and silence is no longer welcome here. And we're going to use our voices to heal our bodies. [00:16:00] And that is what I want to teach you in my upcoming masterclass on April 14th.
The name of it is the best head ever. I want you to have a healthy head. Literally, I want you to have the best head, your head houses, your jaw and houses, your vocal cords. It houses your neck. And with my clinical experience and the stories and the testimonials that I've seen, I know the power of using your voice and releasing the tension and the dysfunction that is being held in your jaw.
And so what I'm going to teach you in this upcoming masterclass on April 14th is these three major things. I'm going to teach you how to assess your jaw, how to actually check for dysfunction, specific things. We're going to be checking range of motion. We're going to be checking for pain. We're going to be checking for muscle mobility in your jaw.
Then I'm going to teach you how to actually use myofascial release strategies yourself to relieve yourself of jaw tension and jaw pain. And then this is the most exciting part. You ready? I [00:17:00] say, yeah, I'm ready. The last thing I'm going to teach you is how to actually use voice, your voice, how to use vocalization to decrease sexual pain, decrease pelvic floor muscle tightness, and to decrease difficulty with dilation.
If you're using dilators. This masterclass is going to be crazy good. It's called the best head ever. We're going to not just use vocalizations to decrease tightness and pain. I'm going to teach you how to use vocalizations to enhance your ability to feel pleasure. Where am I going to make it plain? I'm going to teach you so good that I know the testimonials are going to be rolling in.
All right, so this is not a masterclass you want to miss. If you're a clinch queen, if you're clenching your jaw all the time, clenching your pelvic floor. If you have jaw pain, jaw tension, if you have sexual pain and you struggle to be intimate, you have a fear of sex. If you struggle with dilators and they're getting stuck or you're stuck on the same dilator for several weeks to several months, this masterclass is for you.
Don't count yourself out. [00:18:00] It's called the best head ever because we need to have healthy muscles in our head to have a healthy pelvic floor and sex life. So I'm going to teach you how to do all of that. And you may be saying, Hey, I have jaw issues, but I don't have pelvic floor issues. I would ask you to reconsider whether your pelvic floor issues may just be dormant right now, meaning they have not created a noticeable problem.
There are many of us that have pelvic floor muscle tension and tightness, but it has not yet led to incontinence. It has not yet led to sexual pain. It has not yet led to constipation. We don't want to wait. We want to invest in our bodies now. Really pump up that pelvic health bank accounts so that when health problems happen, we're not pulling From an account that's already in the red We want to put our account in the green y'all so go ahead and and and run to the show notes sign up for the best head ever.
It's on april 14th, and I cannot wait to have you I can't wait to see you [00:19:00] there and I can't wait to see you again next monday. Bye y'all