Two Habits That Quietly Destroy Relationships

In this off-the-cuff episode, Katie hits pause on her original holiday plan and gets real about something bigger: the quiet habits many couples are carrying into 2026 that will quietly wreck their relationship if they don’t change.

Instead of another “fix your partner” conversation, Katie flips the script and invites you to ask a harder question: Am I being the version of myself I want to be in my ideal relationship? She walks you through getting clear on what a “level 10” relationship looks like—your communication, shared responsibilities, trust, respect, and how you dream together—and then helps you see who you would be in that kind of partnership.

You’ll also learn about “sandpaper moments”: those irritating, triggering behaviors your partner has that feel like rubbing your nervous system the wrong way. Katie shows you how to sort out what’s just an annoyance versus what’s bumping into old wounds from your past… and how to talk about it without blaming, shaming, or expecting your partner to magically read your mind.

If you’re ready to drop the finger-pointing, own your 50%, and start making 2% shifts each day toward the relationship you actually want, this episode is your holiday reset.

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